He's Hott..But Would You Take Him Home To Mom

[Godiva]

In the straight world...there are the girls.." The Pamela Andersons" that most guys lust after and want to fuck their brains out over and over again. They can also be themselves with these girls. Unfortunately these lovely ladies rarely get to meet these guys Mothers..It is always someone totally opposite...Like an "Ashley Judd" who the mom will just adore..

 

While waiting for my hunky escort to take a shower..I noticed several pics of him and a very average looking guy in loving embraces. When the escort came out I asked him who it was and he said it was his longtime boyfriend. Now you would never put the two together in a million years. I assumed that his boyfriend would be a hunk of muscle like he..Another time I had just finished with an amazing escort..all muscle...we started to talk latter and I asked him what his boyfriend looked like..He described him as a much older chunky man. He saw my somewhat shocked reaction and barked to me that looks and sex aren't everything..as if to explian his lovers looks and that he has been with this guy for 41/2 yrs. I guess we all think that those super hott escorts have super hott boyfriends and that is not always the case..That is not what they take home to meet Mother..

 

Many of us non-buffed, average looking, long in the tooth, follicley challenged boys often feel a little self conscious when meeting with these God's... but when they go back to their lives.. it is usually to someone who looks alot more like us..

 

Of course there are exceptions that the rags try to feed us..ie..Matt Rush and his Hubbie .. Blake and Colton..they are certainly not the average....

 

My Opinion....What Do You Think??

[jackhammer91406]

Godiva,

my experience is very limited , but of the few I have been with,I am only aware of the personal facts of two. One has a very hot BF (younger and very new realationship) and another has a long term relationship with an older, not in shape guy. I tend to think the latter one will be the happiest in the long run because he won't have to worry about his BF cheating on him. it makes sense to me, in my dream world, that people who are attractive would be able to fall in love with one of us regular guys. But look at Rick and Derek? So, probably the percentages run about 50/50.

[VaHawk]

To each his own, but I happen to find Ashley Judd to be more beautiful and appealing than Pamela Anderson.

 

Maybe some escorts suffer from "clientopia"? This is a very serious medical condition caused by constantly shutting the eyes for an hour or more at a time and can lead to a permanent closure of the eyelids. Things have gotten so serious, that there are rumors of a benefit concert for all those afflicted escorts starring Cher, Madonna, Bette Midler, Liza Minnelli, George Michael, Elton John and others to be named at a later date.

 

I think that a larger percentage of escorts are less hungup on looks than the general gay population, as it would take more than money for most guys to be able to perform with someone they weren't physically attracted to. It seems that escorts, more than anyone else, would realize that physical looks fade and would be more likely to seek something more substantial in a personal relationship. I would surmise that clients are more into physical beauty as they usually only hire the good looking and younger men.

 

What the heck, keep your fingers crossed and maybe one of those good looking young hunks will find himself totally enraptured with your charms and you'll be the one in all those pictures! Wouldn't that be a great present from Santa and definitely mean a Happy New Year.

 

P.S. How could you leave off Rick and Derek - two very hot men?

:)

[jackhammer91406]

hey Hawk, I absolutely agree. And I didn't leave off Rick and Derek. I would be blessed if ANYONE found me interesting, but in the fantasy world, well. you know, I am hopeful, which is alot brighter than I have been for a while. While we're at it, thanks for the kind words in my rating. You are also one of those who brings me back to this board.

[Guest Gringo]

hey jack, how can i get a ticket 2 that benefit concert?

[chrismac]

Godiva - that's a great question/topic. I've thought about that lately a lot myself. Specifically, if I'm to come out to my parents, would I want to bring home the hot, mildly tatooed, oft-leather clad personal trainer hunk I've seen on occasion or the VP-Product Development at a major corporation/tennis-playing ultra clean-cut all-American guy I've recently been dating? The former gets me so turned on I practically have a panty slash just knocking on his door. The latter treats me like a king, has a beautiful townhouse and could sit down with my dad and discuss politics as well as this season's football championship hopefuls.

 

I know already that my personal trainer hottie, who just exudes sex from every pore, would scare the bejeezus out of my parents. They'd imagine me tied up in leather restraints in some basement dungeon with all sorts of artificial sex toys shoved into every orifice in my body, writhing in pain. I could never bring him home. He's also very articulate, an artist, and holds political views that would be anathema to my folks. His chief mode of transportation is a Harley, as opposed to the Lexus driven by my other "friend".

 

I think one of the things that attracts me so much to my personal trainer friend is that he appeals to the nasty side of me, and I can let all that out with him. I feel totally spent and satisfied after being with him. With my other guy, I can fall asleep in his arms all night and feel totally comfortable and secure in the world.

 

I guess what I'd really like is someone to be both types in the same person. The "Third Way". One great thing about hiring escorts is that you can select just those traits you want at the particular time you seem to need it.

 

Anyway - kinda funny you brought up this subject as I was just thinking about this these last few days. For those of us with close ties to our parents and other family members - it does count what they think of our mates. We want them to accept each other, and ideally, to love each other to make us truly happy.

[+ Charlie]

If your parents are capable of imagining you tied up in a dungeon with all sorts of sex toys in your orifices, they must be more interesting than you give them credit for.

 

Seriously, though, you raise the eternal dilemma: how to combine the forbidden lover with the approved one. I'm not sure it's possible, unless you and your lover are great at role-playing and can get past the fact that it is just role-playing. Even when we sincerely love the "good" boy, we are attracted to the "bad" boy who, we know all too well, will cause us nothing but trouble with those--family, friends, co-workers--whose approval we crave. I suppose this is why we read reviews here from couples who hire an escort of a very different image from theirs, with whom they do things that they wouldn't do alone with one another. I sometimes wonder how many of the viewers/reviewers here are happily domesticated, like myself, but hire escorts basically for the thrill of something exotic.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Look Ma, No Hands

 

Hot. Sexy. Handsome. These are all relative terms.

 

I have dated an adult film "star," a body builder/escort, a college professor, a therapist, a major executive for an entertainment industry concern, a waiter, a personal trainer and a travel agent in the last five years. The one thing all these men had in common was the ability to hold a conversation with me, they were all, to a man, very nice, kind and affectionate, and each one of them expressed genuine concern for me and my feelings.

 

Some of them were, obviously, very well built and what passes for "hot" among gay male culture. Others were the kind most parents would approve but who would not necessarily make the cover of Men's Fitness or Honcho. Some were both - hot and "acceptable to one's parents."

 

I personally do not require either the approbation of my parents or my friends approbation in order to date seriously. But as this question discussed whether hot men only dated other hot men, I believe the answer is safely "it depends."

 

I also would agree that escorts - at least the very good ones - far more than say adult film actors, or most gay men our ages, have a more defined and expansive idea of what is attractive, sexy, or appealing, not to mention hot.

 

No less an expert than Mr. Munroe has often stated he finds a very masculine man in less than flawlessly perfect shape, who otherwise exudes confidence and control to simply reek of sexuality. Or maybe Rick just has highly attuned pheromone senses?

[Guest Bitchboy]

I sometimes wonder

>how many of the viewers/reviewers here are happily

>domesticated, like myself, but hire escorts basically for the

>thrill of something exotic.

 

OK, I'll bite on this one. I'm happily domesticated for three years now. I have hired escorts before meeting my partner, but none since. I'll admit I've never even cheated on him in a non-paying venue either. (I'll probably regret this post, because some a-hole like newahlens will throw it in my face later on - he's good at that!) But I'm sorely tempted lately. Does that mean the relationship is "over?" I read posts by some of the guys here and they're starting to get to me. Help me put all this in context.

[+ Charlie]

It doesn't mean the relationship is over, only that it is morphing into something different--as all relationships do over time, whether we want to recognize it or not. And different doesn't mean less satisfying, but perhaps satisfying in a different way. I have been in a stable domestic partnership for a third of a century, and I can look back on a history of different stages and adaptations in the relationship, but I love him as much now as I did in the pre-Stonewall days. So don't despair, but question and grow.

[Guest Bitchboy]

Thanks, Charlie. That was a kind comment. I feel better. In fact, I felt better just putting the thoughts on "paper." I've got a lot of catching up to do to come anywhere near your record. Merry Christmas.

[Guest]

Two possiblities come to mind: (1) As an escort, he's learned to see something sex in anyone (or just based on personality), or (2) there may be a financial aspect to the relationship.

[Godiva]

Hey Bitchboy..Happy Holidays to you...no I don't think it is over..everyone is tempted at different times in their lives..Some relationships are strong enough to resist them and others give in but they learn and the relationship benifits from the added knowledge.

 

I believe that you will know when it is time to throw in the towel.

I have always known..but whether I acted upon it ..well

 

Good Luck

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Look Ma, No Hands

 

>No less an expert than Mr. Munroe has often stated he finds a

>very masculine man in less than flawlessly perfect shape, who

>otherwise exudes confidence and control to simply reek of

>sexuality. Or maybe Rick just has highly attuned pheromone

>senses?

 

Well, you're right about that last part, Franco, but yes, I find guys who are comfortable in their own skin to be very sexy...whether they're muscular & gorgeous or not. Confidence turns me on.

 

By the way, thanks, jackhammer & VaHawk, for the compliments about Derek & me. It was definitely a physical attraction when we met but if we hadn't fallen in love with each other's minds & kept each other laughing everyday, we wouldn't have lasted all this time.

 

I'm having trouble concentrating on what I'm typing because Derek is in the bedroom fucking someone...and it's LOUD! I wish there were a film crew here right now because I love the imagery: the snow-covered tree swaying outside my window with a big noisy piece of plastic trying desperately to escape its branches, me at the computer typing away to the sounds of Connie Francis belting on the stereo and Derek power-pounding with his trademark grunts. So much for silent night.

[VaHawk]

RE: Look Ma, No Hands

 

Working on Christmas day? That's what I call really spreading the holiday cheer, "God bless us, every one!". An actual white Christmas - this is only the second one I can remember in my entire life - somehow it seems so appropriate for this year. Anyone who likes Connie Francis is alright in my book - I guess we know "Where the Boys Are" tonight. Happy New Year to both you and Derek!

:-) :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(

[VaHawk]

RE: Look Ma, No Hands

 

Hey my smiley faces aren't working right. All those frowns were supposed to be smiles.

[Godiva]

RE: Look Ma, No Hands

 

Hey Ricky...if I am not mistaken..your were also in the other room while I was spending some time with your Derrick.

 

hmmmmm but I don't recall any Connie Francis playing;-)