Sometimes I'm so chickenshit

[Decatur Guy]

So I can tell a cute guy on Craigslist that I intend to fuck his face for an hour -- and do it. I can tell an escort that I want him to put me in a sling and fuck the hell out of me and let others watch -- and do it. I can speak up in a room full of people and ask a boss a tough question. I can stand down aggressive people in the streets.

 

But ...

 

Today, I saw a great guy and I could NOT go up and say hello. I don't really have a type, but if I did, he was it. Dark brown hair, closely trimmed beard, muscular in a rounded way and just a tiny bit extra meat on his bones. We were at a meat-n-three place in Midtown Atlanta, so there was probably a 50% chance he was gay.

 

But I can't talk to people that way. I just don't have it in me to walk up to someone in that kind of setting and just say hello and see where it goes. I have to have some excuse or reason, and I had none. If we were in a sex club, I go right up to him. But there ... nothing. I just admired and tried not to stare too much. I'm a moderate extrovert, but my inner introvert comes out big time in a situation like that.

 

I need to tap the energy of Honey Badger. Honey Badger wouldn't have given a shit.

[bigvalboy]

Ya Know GC you are so not alone in this. Happens to all of us. Some places I am so agressive and others I just freeze up. I would talk it out with a group of friends that you trust and see what kind of suggestions that they can come up with. If nothing else they will tell you what you probably already know...Be more like HONEY BADGER....Was at a opening of sorts the other day. Black tie event. Out of nowhere this cute guy starts talking to me. I had been drinking and I am really funny and entertaining in those situations. We had a great conversation and he told me that he was from Italy, and in town for only a couple of days, he was with the company who had put on the event. When I was leaving my friend asked me where the guy went that I was talking to. I said "I don't know" he said "there he is, go talk to him and give him your number" I frooze up, came apart like a cheap watch. My friend was sooooo frustrated with me, but no matter what he said, I just couldn't make the move. In hind site, as we drove away, I realized it was silly of me, but that is the way I reacted. Happens to all of us.

[jjkrkwood]

So I can tell a cute guy on Craigslist that I intend to fuck his face for an hour -- and do it. I can tell an escort that I want him to put me in a sling and fuck the hell out of me and let others watch -- and do it. I can speak up in a room full of people and ask a boss a tough question. I can stand down aggressive people in the streets.

 

But ...

 

Today, I saw a great guy and I could NOT go up and say hello. I don't really have a type, but if I did, he was it. Dark brown hair, closely trimmed beard, muscular in a rounded way and just a tiny bit extra meat on his bones. We were at a meat-n-three place in Midtown Atlanta, so there was probably a 50% chance he was gay.

 

But I can't talk to people that way. I just don't have it in me to walk up to someone in that kind of setting and just say hello and see where it goes. I have to have some excuse or reason, and I had none. If we were in a sex club, I go right up to him. But there ... nothing. I just admired and tried not to stare too much. I'm a moderate extrovert, but my inner introvert comes out big time in a situation like that.

 

I need to tap the energy of Honey Badger. Honey Badger wouldn't have given a shit.

 

For me, my attitude and courage depends on the importance of the encounter. In a public setting with strangers who I dont know or mean nothing to me, I am a bit more foward and brazen in my approach. No loss to me if they are not receptive. However, in sexual situations, like a sex club, I started off being a bit backwards and timid, would not approach a guy even if he gave me some signal that he was interested. Then I would see guys who to me were less attractive than I see myself, and they would just go up to a hot guy and Play away with out being rebuffed... So from then on I assumed it must be about the attitude, and alot of guys must like confident, agressive guys. So from then on, at least in dimly lit places (LOL) I will go up to a guy I am attracted to with confidence, do the touchy-feely thing, and in about 90% of the times I get what I want. And for the 10% of rejections, another bus will come along....

[RockCreekRunr]

We were at a meat-n-three place in Midtown Atlanta, so there was probably a 50% chance he was gay.

 

Just curious, what is a "meat-n-three place"?

[instudiocity]

Just curious, what is a "meat-n-three place"?

Home-Style Southern Cooking at it's greasiest. Typically, a restaurant has a prepared menu of 2-3 entrees and 5-6 vegetables ready to serve. You choose 1 meat and 3 veggies for a fixed price meal.

 

For Example:

Meat:

Roasted Turkey

Country Fried Steak

Fried Catfish

 

Veggies:

Mashed Potatoes with Gravy

Boiled Field Peas with fatback

Fried Okra

Boiled Butter Beans with fatback

Cornbread Dressing

 

Usually there's a dinner roll or cornbread and all the Sweet Iced Tea you can drink.

 

$6.99

[Irtwo]

I was also going to ask what a "meat-n-three place" was. And the answer was not what I expected. I thought it had something to do with sex, because Decatur said the fact that the hot guy was there meant there was a 50% chance he was gay. Are those restaurants frequented by gays for some reason?

[+ azdr0710]

Are those restaurants frequented by gays for some reason?

 

I know those places are standard all over the south, so, yeah, wondering why the 50% gay chance thing.....thanks.....

[orbital sander]

I know those places are standard all over the south, so, yeah, wondering why the 50% gay chance thing.....thanks.....

 

Maybe it is the "sweet iced tea"...

[Decatur Guy]

Meat-n-three is pretty much as already described: One meat entree and two or three vegetable choices, along with cornbread and sweet tea. They are usually inexpensive and blue-collar/working-class joints, although some now go a little more upscale. This particular joint, with the very direct name of "Eats," has less variety than the standard meat-n-three but also has a station for pasta. It's more half hippie/hipster/alternative and half Southern/traditional. And it's less greasy than the typical, hard-core meat-n-three.

 

As for the 50% gay, that's because it's located in Midtown Atlanta. Midtown is to Atlanta what Castro is (or was) to San Francisco. But the place is also popular with other types of clientele -- it's a melting pot. So you never know for sure.

[orbital sander]

Meat-n-three is pretty as already described: One meat entree and two or three vegetable choices, along with cornbread and sweet tea. They are usually inexpensive and blue-collar/working-class joints, although some now go a little more upscale. This joint has less variety than the standard meat-n-three and also has a station for pasta. So it's half hippie/hipster and half traditional. And it's less greasy than the meat-n-three of yore.

 

As for the 50% gay, that's because it's located in Midtown Atlanta. Midtown is to Atlanta what Castro is (or was) to San Francisco. But the place is also popular with other types of clientele -- it's a melting pot. So you never know for sure.

 

Shit, no one mentioned blue collar guys...now I am much more interested:cool:

[+ purplekow]

I think that kind of setting was perfect for the "can you help me pick up". Walk up, seem befuddled, then ask if might give you an assist as you have not eaten at this place before does he have a recommendation. I have asked directions when I am standing in front of my own home in an attempt to strike up a conversation. Try to be sincere. Once you can fake sincerity, the rest is easy.

[jjkrkwood]

Meat-n-three is pretty much as already described: One meat entree and two or three vegetable choices, along with cornbread and sweet tea. They are usually inexpensive and blue-collar/working-class joints, although some now go a little more upscale. This particular joint, with the very direct name of "Eats," has less variety than the standard meat-n-three but also has a station for pasta. It's more half hippie/hipster/alternative and half Southern/traditional. And it's less greasy than the typical, hard-core meat-n-three.

 

As for the 50% gay, that's because it's located in Midtown Atlanta. Midtown is to Atlanta what Castro is (or was) to San Francisco. But the place is also popular with other types of clientele -- it's a melting pot. So you never know for sure.

 

the problem IS, I would want 3 MEATS..... lololol

[+ newatthis]

I think that kind of setting was perfect for the "can you help me pick up". Walk up, seem befuddled, then ask if might give you an assist as you have not eaten at this place before does he have a recommendation. I have asked directions when I am standing in front of my own home in an attempt to strike up a conversation. Try to be sincere. Once you can fake sincerity, the rest is easy.

I get that. But what's the followup? How do you make the transition to what you're really interested in?

[Lookin]

But what's the followup? How do you make the transition to what you're really interested in?

http://freesmileyface.net/smiley/others/leather-gay-148.gif Thanks for the help! Speaking of a large greasy piece of meat, . . .

[jjkrkwood]

http://freesmileyface.net/smiley/others/leather-gay-148.gif Thanks for the help! Speaking of a large greasy piece of meat, . . .

 

Think of the Protein value...

[RockHard]

Always be a gentleman and you can't go wrong.

 

Home-Style Southern Cooking at it's greasiest. Typically, a restaurant has a prepared menu of 2-3 entrees and 5-6 vegetables ready to serve...$6.99

 

Sounds absolutely dreadful. What kind of quality can one ever expect for $6.99? Maybe I've been living in NYC for too long.

 

They are usually inexpensive and blue-collar/working-class joints, although some now go a little more upscale.

 

Cloth napkins instead of paper?

 

But the place is also popular with other types of clientele -- it's a melting pot. So you never know for sure.

 

Then being careful is a prudent choice. Far from chickenshit. Many straight guys do not know how to deal with gay flirtation and react in an unpleasant manner when faced with a gay face that says, "I'm hot for you."

 

There is a super hot guy at my gym that I've been eyeing for months. Outrageously sexy, with a smile that makes me weak at the knees. I saw him using high-end grooming products on his face and thought that he might be gay. He always smiles at me and flashes just the right amount of cock when he exists a shower stall. His ass is amazing. But he never flaunts or gets hard or extends his glance more than a few seconds.

 

One day, to strike up conversation and find out more, I asked him if his expensive facial cream had anything to do with his great-looking skin. He said he gets the stuff for free from his sister, who works for the cosmetic company. Ever since that day, we say hello to each other and talk briefly when we run into each other. Sometimes, we run into each other while he's drying off his incredibly sexy body in the shower area. He towels his cock fairly aggressively and I'm sure he notices my eyes go there when he does. His pubes are beautifully groomed, low hanging balls hairless.

 

I've thought about complimenting the art work around his cock but I know that may cross a line. I'm still not convinced he's gay. And I suspect he's a very cool, model-type straight guy, which NYC has aplenty. I don't want to spoil the little thing we do have by appearing too lustful.

[+ Lucky]

Yes, Rock Hard, I have noticed your intentions. My sister has switched jobs- she is now working at a fried chicken place as a manager, so I may not be able to keep up that good skin.

But here's the deal: My boyfriend is 21, a Navy Seal with a body that would stop a steamship. He's gorgeous and does commercials for dentists wanting more smile patients. He might get upset

if I did more than let you have a little peek at my pecker now and then. So let's keep it the way it is, it's kind of fun, and no one gets hurt, okay?

[RockHard]

So let's keep it the way it is, it's kind of fun, and no one gets hurt, okay?

 

Sounds perfectly good to me.

 

(Sometimes the fantasy is far more exciting than the reality. Every time I see him I'm reminded what a flutter in my tummy feels like, and I'm not talking food poisoning.)

[Decatur Guy]

I think that kind of setting was perfect for the "can you help me pick up". Walk up, seem befuddled, then ask if might give you an assist as you have not eaten at this place before does he have a recommendation. I have asked directions when I am standing in front of my own home in an attempt to strike up a conversation. Try to be sincere. Once you can fake sincerity, the rest is easy.

 

I'm not sure I could pull that off! It's funny, I can pull off elaborate practical jokes and fake almost anything then, but in something like that, I just can't do it!

[Decatur Guy]

To RockHard -- You have been in NYC too long!

 

Not every meat-n-three is good, but the good ones are great! The price you pay isn't necessarily tied to the goodness of the meal.

 

I used to go to a $4.99 plus tea/tax joint in a "bad" part of town. The cook there was a large, older black woman. She was confident and a bit bossy. And made the most wonderful Southern food. She'd give me extra portions because I'd butter up to her, flatter her and do what she said to do. She said I needed more meat on my skinny white bones.

 

Truly, this joint was heaven.

 

And tomorrow, I'm driving 15 miles each way to go to a Southern-style cafeteria for lunch. The menu for Wednesday:

 

Country fried steak

Bar-B-Q chicken

Chicken Pot Pie

Stuffed Peppers

Brunswick Stew

Baked Fish

Fried chicken (although I think that might be for dinner only)

 

VEGGIES:

 

Rice

Mashed potatoes

Green beans

Turnip greens

Broccoli

Sliced new potatoes

Corn on the cob

Sliced carrots

Beans or peas (they make the decision on which variety that day)

 

 

And then they have a wide assortment of pies and such. And salad.

 

Don't get me wrong. I realize what a great city NYC is for dining. But seriously, places like this can't be beat!

[bigvalboy]

DG Isn't this meat-n-three sorta like the ol "Blue Plate Special" that you used to get alot when traveling through the South years ago...alot of these small towns used to have them. Just tons of great food for just a few dollars?

[KMEM]

All that stuff sounds very good but I cannot believe that it is good for you. A lot of folks, and here in the South especially, cook even veggies with too much fat, salt and even sometimes sugar. OK once in a while but not for a steady diet.

 

That does not excuse other "cuisines", to include NYC and others, that use too much butter, etc. when preparing their "wonderful" meals.

 

Good food is where you find it but good for you food requires knowledge and perserverance.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[jjkrkwood]

All that stuff sounds very good but I cannot believe that it is good for you. A lot of folks, and here in the South especially, cook even veggies with too much fat, salt and even sometimes sugar. OK once in a while but not for a steady diet.

 

That does not excuse other "cuisines", to include NYC and others, that use too much butter, etc. when preparing their "wonderful" meals.

 

Good food is where you find it but good for you food requires knowledge and perserverance.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

Dont let Paula Deen hear you

[jjkrkwood]

Not every meat-n-three is good, but the good ones are great! The price you pay isn't necessarily tied to the goodness of the meal.

 

I used to go to a $4.99 plus tea/tax joint in a "bad" part of town. The cook there was a large, older black woman. She was confident and a bit bossy. And made the most wonderful Southern food. She'd give me extra portions because I'd butter up to her, flatter her and do what she said to do. She said I needed more meat on my skinny white bones.

 

Truly, this joint was heaven.

 

And tomorrow, I'm driving 15 miles each way to go to a Southern-style cafeteria for lunch. The menu for Wednesday:

 

Country fried steak

Bar-B-Q chicken

Chicken Pot Pie

Stuffed Peppers

Brunswick Stew

Baked Fish

Fried chicken (although I think that might be for dinner only)

 

VEGGIES:

 

Rice

Mashed potatoes

Green beans

Turnip greens

Broccoli

Sliced new potatoes

Corn on the cob

Sliced carrots

Beans or peas (they make the decision on which variety that day)

 

 

And then they have a wide assortment of pies and such. And salad.

 

Don't get me wrong. I realize what a great city NYC is for dining. But seriously, places like this can't be beat!

 

DG, ill send you MY address and some Tupperwear. You can send me ONE of everything....

[+ purplekow]

I get that. But what's the followup? How do you make the transition to what you're really interested in?

Once he makes his suggestion, say the beef, something like maybe i will try the beef but I bet it is not as good as the beef at.....Steakhouse. Have you eaten there? If he is interested he will keep the conversation going. If not, he will make that obvious as well. If he is interested but as inept at this kind of thing as you say you are, you will need to do most of the heavy lifting, so it may be necessary you to cut to the chase fairly quickly. If he starts to engage in conversation, you might invite him to join you and your friend if he is alone. If he isnt, you probably should head for the direct, "well it was nice speaking to you, here is my number, if you are interested in having dinner together on Thursday." Important to give a definitive date as that puts some urgency to the call and allows you to stop wondering if he will call. You might also say, well I will be at "The Very Gay Bar" tonight after 8, if you would like to continue this nice conversation.