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[gcursor]

I am kind of curious. what do people here think about if somebody asks for your statistics before seeing you?

gc

[seeker630]

I am kind of curious. what do people here think about if somebody asks for your statistics before seeing you?

gc

 

For me, it rasies a flag that the person asking may not be able or willing to perform with persons outside their 'acceptable' range. However, if they do ask, I respond truthfully and then see if they are interested in proceeding. It might be that they simple prefer to have some idea of the client they will be seeing before they actually meet.

A good escort can work with almost any body type/age/race. But if an escort can't, I'd prefer to know that up-front.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

For me, it rasies a flag that the person asking may not be able or willing to perform with persons outside their 'acceptable' range. However, if they do ask, I respond truthfully and then see if they are interested in proceeding. It might be that they simple prefer to have some idea of the client they will be seeing before they actually meet.

A good escort can work with almost any body type/age/race. But if an escort can't, I'd prefer to know that up-front.

 

I agree with you seeker. Especially if after providing my stats, he schedules the appointment. If he is meeting you in a neutral site, such as a bar, it might be helpful for him to pick you out in crowd.

[bigvalboy]

For me, it rasies a flag that the person asking may not be able or willing to perform with persons outside their 'acceptable' range. However, if they do ask, I respond truthfully and then see if they are interested in proceeding. It might be that they simple prefer to have some idea of the client they will be seeing before they actually meet.

A good escort can work with almost any body type/age/race. But if an escort can't, I'd prefer to know that up-front.

 

I agree with you 100% seeker, but I would be less than honest if I said that it did not bother me a little.

[jjkrkwood]

If the person contacts YOU, and starts asking questions about you before introducing themselves and telling you something about themselves, to me its just them fishing to see if you "qualify" to have them speak with you.

 

Its tacky and tasteless, and 100% gets NO repsonse from me.... That is not the person I care to get to know.

[nate_sf]

A good escort can work with almost any body type/age/race.

 

I agree with this. I think an escort asking for stats beforehand is unprofessional. You should move on to someone else.

[Michael Wayne]

I never ask for my clients' stats. never. If they offer though I do accept. I try not to act disinterested. I am interested but I want my clients to feel unpressured and un -judged. In other words I am going to be able to perform for them just like I would with a 6 foot, 180 # stud with 8 inches. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[JT Brooklyn]

Who is Paying Who? Move On!

 

Unless there are 1 or 2 things you think the "Working Guy" should be aware of before the Session it's very UnProfessional and MOST will not ask.

 

IF your Stats were Great the odds are you would not need to contact HIM in the first place.

 

Of course if he's a "Cheap Discount Hustler" with questions that's a different story!

[Steven_Draker]

I am kind of curious. what do people here think about if somebody asks for your statistics before seeing you?

 

GC,

I don't ask for statistics, but I don't see anything wrong if the escort requests some info like your stats. Mind you that could save you a trip back and forth.

 

Usually we escorts, would like to have some basic info about the client e.g. likes/dislikes and what he's getting into before the first meeting. On the other hand asking for a picture/photo would be a different matter.

 

I go for the principle that you need to only share the information about yourself that you feel comfortable sharing.

[Scorpio]

I volunteer my stats upon initial contact with an escort, just in case in matters, usually it doesn't.

 

However, if I see an ad that asks for the client to send stats and/or a picture, I just move on. So if on the chance I hadn't volunteered my stats and was asked for them, I would just move on in that instance as well.

[SteveEscort]

Any escort asking for stats on a client simply isn't worth bothering with.

 

I don't care what colour, size or age my client is as long as he's over 18 and respectful then that's all that matters to me.

[RexAll]

Any escort asking for stats on a client simply isn't worth bothering with.

 

I don't care what colour, size or age my client is as long as he's over 18 and respectful then that's all that matters to me.

 

Yes and no. I can see both sides of the situation. Let's take it out of the escorting realm for a second. I am ok at my job. But I am not a natural at it due to certain personality quirks/innate talent etc. I have to struggle to perform it. I usually manage to do it ok- but again it's a struggle. I probably should have chosen a different career path. But at this point in time- I'm stuck. There is not- at the moment at least- an easy way for me to change.

 

Now let's look at escorting. It's such a personal area. I mean we say it's just a 'profession'. But sex is such a powerful force- let me ask the escorts- say you are not really that fond of the client- or are neutral about him. If he successfully manages to bring you off. Do the good feelings that usually accompany sex- not make you see the client in a kinder light afterwards? Considering how powerful the emotions behind sex can be-I could see how an escort- especially a top-might not be able to perform depending on the client's characteristics. As has been frequently said here, escorts are not machines. But of course if the escorts standards for what he can accept are too narrow, then I think he ought to be looking for another line of work.

 

Rex

[Epigonos]

I agree with Scorpio. After my initial contact with an escort, I’ve never met before, I email him some general information regarding myself. I am 71 years old and I want to know prior to meeting the escort whether or not he as any age restrictions. In the nearly ten years I have been hiring only one escort terminated all contact once I had presented my age. To my way of thinking I would rather be turned down by email rather than at his or my door.

[Guest countryboywny]

same for me

[SteveEscort]

That's fair enough but I have never ever asked a client for details about himself by email, text or phone, never and will continue never to do so. If he volunteers it then fine but I would never ever pry into his personal details, it's none of my concern.

 

Yes....... we don't always fancy everyone through the door but i've said this before and I will say it again, when someone books me, I work out his best quality in the first five minutes, concentrate on it and work the whole appointment around his best qualities. That's what a true escort should do

[seeker630]

I agree with Scorpio. After my initial contact with an escort, I’ve never met before, I email him some general information regarding myself. I am 71 years old and I want to know prior to meeting the escort whether or not he as any age restrictions. In the nearly ten years I have been hiring only one escort terminated all contact once I had presented my age. To my way of thinking I would rather be turned down by email rather than at his or my door.

 

I do the same. As you say, if he isn't going to be able to perform successfully, I prefer to know that BEFORE meeting.

[jjkrkwood]

I do the same. As you say, if he isn't going to be able to perform successfully, I prefer to know that BEFORE meeting.

 

I suppose its for the best, but who would have thought there were discerning escorts in these hard economic times, especially if the perception of an escort is that they are trained to perform "no matter what". ? For me, being turned down by an escort for age or appearance would be the ultimate insult. Afterall, all the really see is a bag of money. But there are other fish in the sea so me and my purse will go elsewhere.

[Greathands]

As a bigger bearish guy ... I can understand that some people can be sensitive on this issue.

 

I've always feel total honesty is best. But I don't agree that an escort who asks about a clients stats isn't unprofessional. I once hired an escort who preferred bigger guys, because that's what he was personally attracted to. It was one of the better experiences I ever had.

[+ deej]

I suppose its for the best, but who would have thought there were discerning escorts in these hard economic times, especially if the perception of an escort is that they are trained to perform "no matter what". ?

 

Trained? Where? Miss Mona's No No School?

[seeker630]

I suppose its for the best, but who would have thought there were discerning escorts in these hard economic times, especially if the perception of an escort is that they are trained to perform "no matter what". ?

I think most of here will acknowledge that NOT all escorts are equal - and very few are 'trained'. The abilities to either give the illusion of enjoyment or to actually enjoy sex with almost anyone are like those ripped physiques or large endowments - not every escort has them.

 

For me, being turned down by an escort for age or appearance would be the ultimate insult. Afterall, all the really see is a bag of money. But there are other fish in the sea so me and my purse will go elsewhere.

I suspect you're projecting your own cynical views here, and I'm not sure you'd recognize anything different if you saw it, but in my view, the better escorts see us as people too.

[Epigonos]

SteveEscort your attitude is VERY professional and I commend you for it. However, we all know that there are individuals in every profession who are NOT professional -- escorting is no different. It's funny, if an escort were to request/demand personal information from me I would immediately terminate all contact YET I have NO difficult providing that same information on my own.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

For me, being turned down by an escort for age or appearance would be the ultimate insult.

 

JJ - You sound like a man confident in your own skin. For those of us a little less confident about our appearance, my days with a swimmer's physique are in the rear view mirror, knowing that the escort has my stats and has booked the appointment puts me more at ease going into the session, whereas the times I've hired without sharing my stats I have found myself anxious heading into the appointment. As such, I have learned to share my stats when I make contact.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I have never been asked for my stats by any of the escorts I've hired, but I always provide a brief description of myself. This is important in my case because i do suffer from a small limitation due to hip replacements. I just want to make sure they are comfortable with someone with some physical limitations. But I guess at my age, physical limitations are not uncommon either.

 

Epigonos -- if you are indeed 71, anyone who turned you down because of a number is a fool. You are an awfully young 71, if that is indeed your age. I would never guess that age.

 

Off topic for a second -- Steven, I see you have the AIDS/Lifecycle 2012 in your signature. Perhaps you could post a thread with a link to a donation page for those forum members who might be interested. This also goes for any others who are riding in the event this year. Thanks for your participation in this very worthwhile event.

[Steven_Draker]

It's funny, if an escort were to request/demand personal information from me I would immediately terminate all contact.

 

Are we talking about personal information like credit card and social security number or a short description and what do you expect from the session?

 

Do you like to be fucked or you want me to fuck you? seems like a legitimate question to ask beforehand in this type of transaction.

[nynakedtop]

as a prospective client, i tend to make a "pre-emptive strike" and generally offer up a picture of myself before the first meeting if and when it seems to be a serious appointment. i just think it is fair to the escort to give him some idea of who i am, my body type, and so on prior to the door opening for the first time.

 

agreed?