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[Bosguy]

Are we talking about personal information like credit card and social security number or a short description and what do you expect from the session?

 

Do you like to be fucked or you want me to fuck you? seems like a legitimate question to ask beforehand in this type of transaction.[/color]

 

I personally think that preferences of a personal/sexual nature should definitely be discussed. Further pertinent (NOT FAMILY, JOB, or FINANCES) personal matters may be discussed on future meetings, if both parties agree. If either parties want to know physique, size, etc. data prior to first meeting, I would be hesitant to move forward!

 

Boston Bill

[Toulouse]

It's a turn-off to me (and usually a deal-breaker) when a potential hire asks me for my photo and/or physical stats prior to agreeing to an appointment.

[Ngstl11]

It's funny but I have had two potential escorts ask me to tell them about myself. I always tell them I am half Caucasian and half Asian so there are no surprises. Both escorts stopped responding after they were told this. I find it strange but not surprising. Some consider me handsome but I know that some people cannot get over the race thing. I will always supply my ethnicity if asked about my stats because it is important to me that the escort be aware.

 

I do not think it is unprofessional for an escort to ask the question because attraction, even for money is a personal thing.

[jjkrkwood]

JJ - You sound like a man confident in your own skin. For those of us a little less confident about our appearance, my days with a swimmer's physique are in the rear view mirror, knowing that the escort has my stats and has booked the appointment puts me more at ease going into the session, whereas the times I've hired without sharing my stats I have found myself anxious heading into the appointment. As such, I have learned to share my stats when I make contact.

 

Sam, things are not always as they seem. On the contrary, I am the most INSECURE person, and know my flaws. However, my opinions on things are always clear, and I have said many times here that I beleive that the Holy Grail for the escort is "money" (others have a diff opinion, i respect that). So basically my comment was that if the escort is turning me down for my stats or appearance, what he is really giving up is MONEY, so that must make me REALLY BAD.. However, I do have great respect for the escort that would say "sorry, i dont think out meeting will work out", instead of just going thru with a session with someone they cant perform with, and taking their money. I still believe escorting to be "discretionary" on BOTH [arties parts.....

[jjkrkwood]

as a prospective client, i tend to make a "pre-emptive strike" and generally offer up a picture of myself before the first meeting if and when it seems to be a serious appointment. i just think it is fair to the escort to give him some idea of who i am, my body type, and so on prior to the door opening for the first time.

 

agreed?

 

AGREED. it certainly cant hurt....

[gcursor]

Be true..be honest..be fair

 

This was a great response Steve. If I were requested by somebody to give them my stats then I would probably decline. I would hope that if the escort was uncomfortable with that then they would decline to see me based on that.

 

I strive to be as honest and upfront as I can with people.I know that some escorts may have certain "tastes" which they enjoy. It doesn't matter one way or another to me. I know that escorts use screening techniques to ensure that they get the clients that they feel would work best for them. Certainly it would be bad for business if people said that he doesn't like purple people witth one eye ....you understand my point I'm sure.

 

Discrimination happens and will continue long after I am dead. Stats is another way to see if I measure up to somebody's expectations. I am not faulting anybody for having prejudices since all of us must have a little bit somewhere. It's not a pretty side of life but we should admit it. The only thing I can hope for is that people will be honest. If somebody says stats to me and I say no then if they can't deal with whatever I look like then I hope that they will move on. That's just how that escort decides to run their business. Some cater to the rich, some cater to the pretty, some cater to the ordinary Joe Schmoe off the street as well.

 

Would that the world was perfect and we all loved each other unconditionally but sadly that will never happen. The trick is finding an escort who is happy with you being you. I can tell you this. It's not an easy task...it takes quite some time and some money to weed through the people to get to the rare gems that enjoy people and truly do what they can to love who they're with (and who can enjoy you because it's hard to match up on personality as well). With some escorts, it doesn't matter if a client has one eye, one leg, and are green with purple polka dots....they know it's not going to be easy to make that person feel good but they look at it as a mission...as a purpose they have on Earth...to love the unloved and to give them some hope in their life. It's certainly not an easy job but it's quite an important job which impacts countless people's lives.

 

Be true..be honest..be fair

 

GC,

I don't ask for statistics, but I don't see anything wrong if the escort requests some info like your stats. Mind you that could save you a trip back and forth.

 

Usually we escorts, would like to have some basic info about the client e.g. likes/dislikes and what he's getting into before the first meeting. On the other hand asking for a picture/photo would be a different matter.

 

I go for the principle that you need to only share the information about yourself that you feel comfortable sharing.[/color]

[Decatur Guy]

I'm not sure I've ever been asked. It wouldn't bother me. I usually volunteer stats and a photo without being asked.

 

It seems to bother a lot of folks, though, and I can see where they are coming from.

[Decatur Guy]

as a prospective client, i tend to make a "pre-emptive strike" and generally offer up a picture of myself before the first meeting if and when it seems to be a serious appointment. i just think it is fair to the escort to give him some idea of who i am, my body type, and so on prior to the door opening for the first time.

 

agreed?

 

I've done that before. Not always. But sometimes.