So a few questions

[gcursor]

So I'll put this here and escorts and everybody else can answer it. I'm kind of needing help with two separate questions and I'll see what sage advice I get on here.

 

1. How do you know that an escort wants to see you again when they leave? I mean they may say anything when they're leaving just to make you feel good but how can you tell that they are being honest and open about wanting to see you again?

 

2. When you leave the escort after the first date (assumably an overnight or longer), should you write to them thankign them for the date and how long should the thank you letter be?

 

thanks,

Gcursor

[Diverdan]

If I have had a good time, (regardless of the amount of time we have spent together) I always send an email thank you afterwards. Sometimes I get some really nice responses back and if so, that is usually a sign that they are more than casually interested in getting together again. I also often get a nice email back from the person I have been with, and that gives them extra points on a scale for a possible future time together. I don't send a thank you to someone that I don't want to see again. Interestingly enough in my experience, I have always known when they leave whether or not they really mean it. That does not mean that they will turn me down if I ask in the future, but it has always been a clue to me that it is better to move on. You just need to have your antenna up on departure... and no, I don't mean that antenna... I mean the one between your ears! Good luck. I am interested to see what some of our escort colleagues may say about this situation. I'm not sure this is "sage" advice, just my experience that I am happy to share.

DD

[+ purplekow]

I figure if I want to see them again, I ask. If they dont want to see me again, they say no.

In reality I think they should write you a brief note of thanks but if you want to take that step, just a few lines to appear friendly and no so many as to be stalkerish.

[jgoo]

In reality I think they should write you a brief note of thanks but if you want to take that step, just a few lines to appear friendly and no so many as to be stalkerish.

 

I totally agree. I am amazed at how few escorts take the initiative to write a thank you note. The very few times I have received one it made me feel very good and put that escort high on my list of meeting again. I treat the escorts with alot of respect and try my best to make sure they have an equally enjoyable time as I strive to have. Although not necessary, it is a nice gesture to receive that thank you from them for the effort. Considering the relatively low cost and the good feelings a simple thank you note can generate, it seems like a no brainer. Unfortunately, it appears to me it is the rare exception rather than the rule.

[+ Axiom2001]

Recently the two escorts I've seen have intimated through their soothing and welcoming words that they'd like to see me again. They've also sent me very warm and enticing emails after our time together. Because I, too, had a swell time in meeting them and being completely involved during our 'play time,' I sometimes initiate an email afterwards.

 

I have NOT had any difficulty with escorts desiring a second or third meeting, but I've had masseurs or massage therapists who have NOT said anything once they'd rendered a massage. This has bothered me, so I've usually taken my business elsewhere!

 

Currently there are three guys who I see regularly or as much as both of our schedules allow. One of these men is a world traveler; thus his time has been limited throughout this particular year.

[jjkrkwood]

Escorting is a business, and I think you guys are putting way too much meaning into the transaction that occurs. These are not potential boyfriends, they are men you HIRE to perform a service, just like an electrician, plumber, car repair, doctor, etc. I have NEVER received a thank you note, nor EXPECTED one from any of those service professionals, and NEVER should I..... The fantasy ends after you pay your money guys, simply put, thats it !!! I know a few of you here have developed freindships of sorts with guys you have hired, and I guess it IS possible so I wont comment on that. But a Thank YOU note. That really made me laugh. I dont envision a host of hookers, male or female, sitting at their desks writing thank you notes on personalized stationary to their Johns. A nice idea, but totally ludicrous.....

I

[+ newatthis]

I have to agree, in the main, with jj and pk. I can't imagine sending a thank-you for a routine hire. If he performed an extraordinary service for me -- I'm thinking here of a friend who was accompanied to the hospital by an escort who was on the scene when my friend injured himself -- of course I would thank him.

 

Receiving a short message from an escort after an encounter certainly makes it more likely that I will consider a second hire (assuming I enjoyed the first one). While my doctor doesn't send thank you notes, I often will receive a thank you, or a follow-up asking how the service was, from someone I've used for the first time.

[wayout]

Escorting is a business, and I think you guys are putting way too much meaning into the transaction that occurs. These are not potential boyfriends, they are men you HIRE to perform a service, just like an electrician, plumber, car repair, doctor, etc. I have NEVER received a thank you note, nor EXPECTED one from any of those service professionals, and NEVER should I..... The fantasy ends after you pay your money guys, simply put, thats it !!! I know a few of you here have developed freindships of sorts with guys you have hired, and I guess it IS possible so I wont comment on that. But a Thank YOU note. That really made me laugh. I dont envision a host of hookers, male or female, sitting at their desks writing thank you notes on personalized stationary to their Johns. A nice idea, but totally ludicrous.....

I

 

Very narrow thinking and nothing ludicrous about expressing appreciation in the form of a thank you email to a client....that is good business. I do allow that a thank you may not be appropriate for every escort and the type of business model they are operating. If its a "hit and run" type of business, then there is not much to be gained perhaps but if an escort treats it as an ongoing business with the intent of building up/maintaining repeat clientele (as well as a solid reputation) then a thank you is more than appropriate to help them achieve that.

 

I receive thank yous for my patronage from many who provide services to me (including my plumber, car repair shop, dentist, banker, investment counselor, etc) and while not expected it is a pleasant and well received event. Other places that I shop at show appreciation in ways such as frequent shopper discounts and occassional freebies (perhaps many would like to get their thank you from an escort as a discount rather than an email). All things being roughly equal, an expression of appreciation in the past can make a difference in choosing between two alternatives. And a good businessman knows his clients always has alternatives so showing some appreciation (even with a simple thank you email) is simply good business.

[TruthBTold]

It is one of those things. While cerebrally we can say that we don't expect it from routine hires (although generally routine hires haven't had their cocks in my mouth or mine in theirs), we begin to expect it both because we have gotten it from one or we have heard that others have gotten it from a place as this. It is like getting a thank you note for an expensive gift. It shouldn't be expected, but in some ways it is.

[+ purplekow]

I suppose if you consider people hookers and laugh at the possibility of a "hooker writing thank you notes to their John" that the attitude conveyed in that statement is readily apparent to the person you have hired. I too would be surprised for a person demonstrating this condescending attitude to receive a thank you note, I would think it a middle finger more likely as the guest leaves. As for others in the service industry, i do not get thank you notes per se, but a little reminder in the mail, refrigerator magnet for example is not uncommon.

So JJ it is clear you are hiring hookers, others of us are hiring escorts. I suspect you know there is a difference.

[jjkrkwood]

So JJ it is clear you are hiring hookers, others of us are hiring escorts. I suspect you know there is a difference.

 

You can slice it and dice it anyway you want PK and call it whatever, but your rentboys are no diff than mine. They are hired for sex, they perform, get paid, Period. I dont look for, nor expect a thank you. They like my money which insures a return call if I so choose. You can giddy-yap on your high horse all you want, but theres no difference. You're a John just like I am, only that I choose NOT to be delusional about what the encounter is really about. None of these guys are giving you sex for FREE, right ??? Case closed !

[seeker630]

You can slice it and dice it anyway you want PK and call it whatever, but your rentboys are no diff than mine. They are hired for sex, they perform, get paid, Period. I dont look for, nor expect a thank you. They like my money which insures a return call if I so choose. You can giddy-yap on your high horse all you want, but theres no difference. You're a John just like I am, only that I choose NOT to be delusional about what the encounter is really about. None of these guys are giving you sex for FREE, right ??? Case closed !

 

I think the point was not that the GUYS you hire are different but that YOU are different from pk and some others here - and I'm not saying you're unique, just that not everyone here hires for the same reasons or with the same expectations as has been discussed at length previously. And probably your approach/attitude ('I'm not hiring them to TALK') is obvious to the guys you hire. If you get what you pay for, then it's a successful encounter for you. Some guys like pk are looking for an interaction that's a bit different.

[geoffk]

There is never any thing wrong with being kind, condsiderate, saying thank you, etc. Some people just don't know how to be nice. Whether you send an escort a note after the meeting or he sends you one, I'm sure each person is appreciative of the

other's kind words. While it is not required, if it makes you feel better do it. I have sent messages to escorts I have met. And some have sent a message to me. It's part of being human and enjoying experiences with people.

[+ Travis69]

So if the escort has communicated with the client thru phone and not email, should the escort call the client to express their appreciation for their business?????

[wayout]

So if the escort has communicated with the client thru phone and not email, should the escort call the client to express their appreciation for their business?????

 

If the escort feels it is important to express their appreciation and an email is not practical/possible, the next options clearly would be a text to the phone (assuming it accepts texts) or a call, whichever seems best based on circumstances.

[+ Travis69]

If the escort feels it is important to express their appreciation and an email is not practical/possible, the next options clearly would be a text to the phone (assuming it accepts texts) or a call, whichever seems best based on circumstances.

I can just visualize all the married or partnered men cringing when that "thank you for your business call" comes in. I thought discretion was an important aspect of this business.

[gcursor]

neither

 

that may be true enough but some of us are neither married, partnered, divorced or whatever else.

Gcursor

 

I can just visualize all the married or partnered men cringing when that "thank you for your business call" comes in. I thought discretion was an important aspect of this business.

[wayout]

I can just visualize all the married or partnered men cringing when that "thank you for your business call" comes in. I thought discretion was an important aspect of this business.

 

Phone calls can be handled in a discrete and professional manner by a serious escort who understands the need for this and wants to help not hurt his business. So I don't think it should be a concern for an appropriate "thank you" call, especially as the premise was that all previous contact to arrange the meeting was done over the phone.

[Diverdan]

A little respect and appreciation for services rendered, and paid for, goes a long way to maintain repeat business, regardless of the business one is in, and whether you are the provider or the recipient of the service does not really make any difference. I am surprised by some of the comments of some of the posters here.

[+ Travis69]

A simple "thank you for calling me, it was nice to meet you" as the escort or massage person leaves shows enough respect and appreciation for me. Repeat business depends on what they did for the hour while their services were engaged, not the 25 seconds it takes to send an email or call.

[jgoo]

....Repeat business depends on what they did for the hour while their services were engaged, not the 25 seconds it takes to send an email or call.

 

I don't think anyone is suggesting that getting repeat business will depend on the thank you followup, just that it can be well received by some clients and may increase the chances of a repeat encounter because of the perceived thoughtfulness shown by the escort/masseur and good will generated. It is just another factor going into the client's decision process for hiring again or not, which is certainly dominated by how the initial encounter went of course. For the escort/masseur, it's about building some advantage in a highly competitive business (not to mention a nice courtesy shown to a customer).

 

Consider the following scenario: Having met two great escorts recently, you are considering a second meeting with one of them. Either one would be wonderful to be with, provides outstanding services, are hot and the fee is the same. The only difference between the two is that one sent a followup thank you after the first encounter while the other did not. All else being equal (and limited funds so you can't hire both), who do you think you would be more likely to call for a second meeting? For me, the answer is the one who showed some appreciation for my business with a followup thank you.

[+ Travis69]

I don't think anyone is suggesting that getting repeat business will depend on the thank you followup, just that it can be well received by some clients and may increase the chances of a repeat encounter because of the perceived thoughtfulness shown by the escort/masseur and good will generated. It is just another factor going into the client's decision process for hiring again or not, which is certainly dominated by how the initial encounter went of course. For the escort/masseur, it's about building some advantage in a highly competitive business (not to mention a nice courtesy shown to a customer).

 

Consider the following scenario: Having met two great escorts recently, you are considering a second meeting with one of them. Either one would be wonderful to be with, provides outstanding services, are hot and the fee is the same. The only difference between the two is that one sent a followup thank you after the first encounter while the other did not. All else being equal (and limited funds so you can't hire both), who do you think you would be more likely to call for a second meeting? For me, the answer is the one who showed some appreciation for my business with a followup thank you.

 

And I would rehire the escort who did not text, email or call as I appreciate the discretion. Guess it's a hard call for the escort to make. To answer the original question, I would certianly not take it as a sign the escort didn't want to see me again if he didn't send a thank-you in whatever form. They will certainly let you know if they don't want your business the next time you call them.

[Mark450]

So I'll put this here and escorts and everybody else can answer it. I'm kind of needing help with two separate questions and I'll see what sage advice I get on here.

 

1. How do you know that an escort wants to see you again when they leave? I mean they may say anything when they're leaving just to make you feel good but how can you tell that they are being honest and open about wanting to see you again?

 

2. When you leave the escort after the first date (assumably an overnight or longer), should you write to them thankign them for the date and how long should the thank you letter be?

 

thanks,

Gcursor

 

#1. For me that one is more "am I interested in ever seeing them again". If they don't want my business again, for whatever reason, they can just ignore future inquiries from me.

#2. I like sending a note of appreciation. Nothing wrong with that at all. You can also use the note to express a desire for some activity that you did not get around to during the past meeting.

[jjkrkwood]

I think the point was not that the GUYS you hire are different but that YOU are different from pk and some others here - and I'm not saying you're unique, just that not everyone here hires for the same reasons or with the same expectations as has been discussed at length previously. And probably your approach/attitude ('I'm not hiring them to TALK') is obvious to the guys you hire. If you get what you pay for, then it's a successful encounter for you. Some guys like pk are looking for an interaction that's a bit different.

 

Thats a good try seeker, and commendable of you to try to defend PK's downgrading of my hiring practices. His comment was clearly a diss where he equates the guys I hire to hookers simply because I dont want the delusional fluff that he needs in his sessions. Bottom line is whether its my "hooker" or his "escort", the guy is in the business for the MONEY. PK is paying for the escort to stroke his ego, while i am paying for the hooker to stroke my cock. And for him to "educate" me of the differences is laughable because he is only fooling "himself". But you are a good guy and peace-maker Seeker, so no hard feeling from me re: your comment.

[wayout]

And I would rehire the escort who did not text, email or call as I appreciate the discretion. Guess it's a hard call for the escort to make.

 

Considering the texts, emails and/or calls that typically take place in preparation for and confirming a meeting, it seems that a single, brief and carefully worded thank you message in the same mode of communication shortly after the appointment would not be indiscreet at all.