So a few questions

[Phil_musc]

Yes, this is a business transaction pure and simple. But on the times when I feel a real connection, the boundaries of what is a simple business transaction and something a bit more complicated enters into the equation. There have been guys who have been incredibly generous with their time and we spent a considerable amount of time talking and learning about each other's lives. This has happened after the "deed was done" - it seemed like the escort appreciated the connection also (and I can be a good conversationalist!) This always elevates the simple business transaction and it's hard to place that kind of experience in the same realm as a simple hire. A follow-up note seems warranted, although I'm one of those guys who really appreciates discretion. At any rate, I would hope that a guy wouldn't read anything into whether I sent an email or not. If either party should be sending a thank you, IMO, anyway, it should be the escort. He is the financial beneficiary here, the one providing the service, the one who probably is looking for repeat business. I don't send my auto mechanic a thank you - I receive a courtesy call from him because he appreciates my business and is hoping for repeat business. By and large if any email writing or calling should be done, it should be coming from the escort (but here again, remember the need for discretion). As the consumer, I might (and have) written brief thank yous to guys. To be honest, though, I'm usually disappointed when they write back. Something just seems missing in the response, whether it's the genuine warmth I felt at the time of the encounter or the lack of presence in the note.

[jjkrkwood]

Yes, this is a business transaction pure and simple. But on the times when I feel a real connection, the boundaries of what is a simple business transaction and something a bit more complicated enters into the equation. There have been guys who have been incredibly generous with their time and we spent a considerable amount of time talking and learning about each other's lives. This has happened after the "deed was done" - it seemed like the escort appreciated the connection also (and I can be a good conversationalist!) This always elevates the simple business transaction and it's hard to place that kind of experience in the same realm as a simple hire. A follow-up note seems warranted, although I'm one of those guys who really appreciates discretion. At any rate, I would hope that a guy wouldn't read anything into whether I sent an email or not. If either party should be sending a thank you, IMO, anyway, it should be the escort. He is the financial beneficiary here, the one providing the service, the one who probably is looking for repeat business. I don't send my auto mechanic a thank you - I receive a courtesy call from him because he appreciates my business and is hoping for repeat business. By and large if any email writing or calling should be done, it should be coming from the escort (but here again, remember the need for discretion). As the consumer, I might (and have) written brief thank yous to guys. To be honest, though, I'm usually disappointed when they write back. Something just seems missing in the response, whether it's the genuine warmth I felt at the time of the encounter or the lack of presence in the note.

 

I'd much rather prefer a muffin basket to a thank you note.....

[Phil_musc]

Well, jj, we all know that you're always ready to put something in you're mouth - sometimes a muffin is just the thing! ;-)

[Guest Connoisseur]

In my opinion, if the guy texts, calls or emails after they have left (whether soon thereafter or even within a few days) its a reliable indication they would want to meet up again. If I didn't hear from the guy I would probably be less inclined to contact him for a repeat but doesn't mean I wouldn't. Those I have met up with each sent a text or email within a day saying thanks, they had a good time and would like to meet up again or stay in touch. I'm not saying all guys should do that, but I think (emphasis on what "I think" which doesn't mean I think everyone does or needs to think similarly) it shows better manners. I say "better" because I don't want readers to think I'm saying escorts who don't send notes afterwards have "bad" manners. I think if a guy doesn't want to meet up with a client again they can skip the follow up note and if contacted can be busy or maybe not reply. If a guy didn't want to meet up with me again, I'd actually prefer they tell me that and why (but that's just me). When I get the text, email, whatever I am gracious, say thanks for the time, etc.

 

I wouldn't be the one to first send a note afterwards because in my opinion it isn't the customer/client who should take that step first. I am also one who always thanks a customer for their business (every meeting), whose salesmen take holiday baskets to customers each year (nearly unheard of today) and looks for ways to treat customers special and make sure they know their business is valued (although I also expect a fair price and for the receivables to be paid reasonably on time). I never forget a vendor who gives a holiday gift (ham or whatever) and they get a thank you note (handwritten). Even though the economy is tough (although for many its not tough) and maybe "revenue" could be higher (better service/product margins, etc) I appreciate the business from customers and don't want that to be doubted. All revenue in a tough economy is important to me! Too many companies send holiday notes that business is tough so no gift or basket, they'll just give to charity. Why not do both? Don't whine to a customer. Just my opinion, others can think and do as they want. Shoot, even when I go to the dentist she gives a bag of free floss, toothpaste, toothbrush, etc. As for my investment advisor, he better send something at Christmas as he gets paid regardless of how crappy the stock market is. Its easier to do business with someone you like and harder to change away from a supplier/service provider you like and whose good manners and courtesies are apparent to you.

 

Lastly, two of the guys I have been with actually offered to buy a meal. The first time it happened I was so surprised I just said something nice and wouldn't let him. The second time he said "you've been really good to me, I'd like to buy lunch". I let him and will probably never forget it. Seems when people are nice unexpectedly it means the most.