Training yourself to take a long dick

[chelseanyc]

One of the best things about hiring escorts is that many have large dicks. One of the worst things about hiring escorts is...many have large dicks.

 

I'm not sure if I'm unusual about this (it's taken a long time to get the nerve to post this question) but I have trouble taking a dick that's longer than about 7.5". Anything longer than that hits a barrier that feels pretty uncomfortable. I've tried researching this online and can't seem to find much about this barrier, although I found this great explanation about this "second" (or "third", depending on how you count) sphincter:

 

Puborectalis or pubo-rectal sling explanation

 

I would love to hire Rafael Alencar or Diesel Washington, but would have a hard time accommodating their length. Of course, I could ask a long-dicked escort to not go all the way in, but one of my favorite things about getting fucked is the sensation of the top's groin slamming into mine, so going only 1/2 a dick deep wouldn't be as satisfying.

 

So my question is: how are you able to take a long (8", 9" or longer) dick? Are there (safe) things you've been able to do to train yourself? Any particular anal toys that can help?

 

Also, since the barrier separates the rectum from the colon, is there a danger of poop entering the picture? (I eat pretty healthy with fiber, but always douche when I'm getting together with an escort).

 

Any suggestions and advice are greatly appreciated. I've tried looking up this question in these forums but haven't found anything - if I'm mistaken, please point me in the right direction!

[bcohen7719]

Wow! The information you find on this arena. Congratulations! I never knew any of this. If it helps out, I found some more details written in easier

language from the Brits, below, along with some possible tips.

 

BC

 

http://www.gmfa.org.uk/sex/bettersex/know-your-arse#puborectalsling

[Showtimems]

This indeed good information, thanks for sharing. One of the techniques the article BC provided, explains exactly how I handle my favorite escort. He has about 8" and is very thick. My favorite position to get fucked is laying on my stomach, but I can't take him like this very long. But, when I lay on my side, with him holding my leg up is perfect. The sensation is out of this world, and he can delivery the best fuck ever. Hope this helps.

 

ST

[doitb4ugo]

This indeed good information, thanks for sharing. One of the techniques the article BC provided, explains exactly how I handle my favorite escort. He has about 8" and is very thick. My favorite position to get fucked is laying on my stomach, but I can't take him like this very long. But, when I lay on my side, with him holding my leg up is perfect. The sensation is out of this world, and he can delivery the best fuck ever. Hope this helps.

 

ST

 

Thanks,,,,and welcome. A video would be very helpful. ..I do have this problem sometimes and it seems the escort can usually change the position up slightly to get beyond....I generally don't hesitate to show my discomfort so that we can change it up a bit....I have not had enough experience with all the positions to have become familiar with all the different feelings they provide...my regular local guy and a good number of the escorts I see seem to know what needs to be done......Also some pain is certainly part of the overall pleasure....

[leigh.bess.toad]

Great question chelseanyc. Thanks for the graphics BC. And I'm with Rich on the video.

 

First, I think showtimems is onto something with the position. I do think laying on your side is probably a lot easier to accomodate than being on your back or stomach. Most of the guys I've been with have been in the 7-8 inch range and I haven't found any problems with pain, but it does seem to be easier to get pounded and pounded hard when I'm on my side, so that may be one thing. Praccticing with a big dildo would certainly be useful.

 

Talking with the guy beforehand would certainly be in your best interest. I'm sure a lot of these guys have run into this before and hopefully will be experienced enough to know what would work best for the bottom they are with.

 

But it raises a question I had just yesterday. I was talking with my personal trainer yesterday (who is straight (damn it) but knows I'm gay). He was telling me about a friend who had come out to him (actually he was with a group of friends at the time), which surprised him (and them). And then his friend, who was probably in his late 20's/early 30's said he was still a virgin. Everyone was shocked and asked why. And then he showed them. I think his friend may be another Castro/Cutler X in size. I think we all drool over the big guys and wish we had the problem. But I'm wondering if they don't have a problem willing to find partners to be with. so first, are there any size queens out there (and I know there are), has there ever been anyone who has been TOO big for you to handle. And if anyone wants to fess up to being that hung (and thereby becoming the most popular guy on the forum ), have you ever had problems finding guys to handle you?

[doitb4ugo]

Is this sortof the position:

 

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp73vtQcLe1r05j4co1_500.jpg

[Guest ihpguy]

Down here in Rio, I was once with a guy who had over an honest 10", no exaggeration. And it did go past that second sphincter or whatever. Not painful, just uncomfortable. I've since with been some others, not as long but thick. And my old boyfriend from down here had over 8 1/4". For me, the key with him was a position that hit the prostate for pleasure/lack of discomfort. Kind of depends on the way the penis curves. I was with someone who honestly had near Castro thickness. Once it went in, and it did take a bit of time, pleasurable and not painful. I had a tunnel drilled through my cheeks for about week until the flesh returned to its original shape. My sphincter was whistling a new tune until it tightened up once more. Last week I was with a Baihano. very thick and about 8". Once it went in, no pain. But without the right angle of approach, as it were, more like conquering a challenge than tons of fun of the poop shoot.

[gcursor]

could i confess?

 

Could I confess to being that hung just so I can experience the euphoric high of being popular and people fantasizing to be with you? Maybe just for a 24 hour trial time period..??Gcursor

 

And if anyone wants to fess up to being that hung (and thereby becoming the most popular guy on the forum ), have you ever had problems finding guys to handle you?

[Showtimems]

I must confess to being a size queen at a point in my life. Back in the day when street cruising was the way to pick up escorts, sometimes you did not know the size until it was on display. One young man I picked up almost caused me to faint when he whipped it out. It was so large, I could barely fit the crown of his dick in my mouth. As he hardened, I almost choked and had to back off. He wanted to fuck me, but I said absolutely no way. I saw him on several occasions and he would literally beg me to let him at least try. He told me that being that large was a curse because no one, male or female would even consider letting him fuck them. He was about 24 at the time and had many blow jobs, but had never fucked anyone. On another occasion, I had a super hung young man who was not as large as this one, but was easily a true 11 or 12 inches, but not extremely thick - thick enough to know it. He tried to fuck me, but it did not work. Later that night, there was a knock on my hotel room door and to my surprise, he had returned. He told me he was not going to give up. This was the first time I had ever been rimmed and what a job he did. He then lubed me good and gradually put in one finger after the other until he had me opened up. He had me sit on his stomach, lean forward and while I was kissing him, he gradually entered. He told me to straighten up and before I knew it he was all the way in. He hit my g-spot and it was the best feeling ever. It was also the first time I achieved an orgasm without touching my dick. When we were done, I tried to pay him and he refused. He said he believed in satisfied customers and that he had failed on the first attempt and wanted to make it right. That he did. Unfortunately for me, I have never returned to that city, so I have not seen him again.

 

ST

[leigh.bess.toad]

He told me that being that large was a curse because no one, male or female would even consider letting him fuck them.

 

That I guess goes along with what my trainer told me about his friend. Too much of a good thing can be just as bad as not enough. Fire and water are good to have. Get too much of them and you've got a disaster. I guess maybe the same thing goes with your dick.

 

Thanks for sharing that.

 

I guess the other thing you showed was that having a patient and understanding top can make all the difference in the world. Someone as indifferent and non-engaged as we saw Castro was in the AJ film left many bored (or worse). I'd rather have a 7 or 8 incher who knows what in the hell they are doing with it than a bigger guy who was simply a robot with a dick attached.

[jawjateck]

Interesting that I just had this discussion with a local Atlanta guy I know. He is goodlooking, nice bod, younger man, fun and friendly, and really well hung. He told me that hook-ups are often difficult and unsatisfying because other guys like to admire, marvel, handle, and suck (gag on) his cock, but will not bottom for him, and since he's not a bottom, he admitted that having a big dick has been a barrier to a fulfilling sex life. To look so good and to be so cursed.....what a shame!

[Guest Spanky]

Interesting that I just had this discussion with a local Atlanta guy I know. He is goodlooking, nice bod, younger man, fun and friendly, and really well hung.

 

A good friend would volunteer to help him out.

[jawjateck]

A good friend would volunteer to help him out.

 

Yeah....too bad imma mean selfish sum bitch or I would.....

[Phil_musc]

Isn't this really another variant on fist-f---ing? I'm sure most of us have seen porn where this happens - it would seem to me that

if a man can take a fist, he should certainly be able to take a dick. But the information presented by the first two posters was certainly informative and I learned something. I also remember when my doctor gave me a prostate digital exam as a part of my physical, he really found the spot. It was a sensation like I have seldom experienced. I thought of signing up for more physicals - one should never take good health for granted, I believe. Alas, he has retired and moved onto the examination room in the sky. But I wish more guys were as adept as he was. Perhaps some of our working guys would benefit from a little anatomy class. I'm not pointing the finger (of blame) at anyone - just putting the idea out there. Size isn't really the issue here - it really is about technique and finding the right spot (which is not all that far in). The prostate needs stimulation, not obliteration.

[JT Brooklyn]

A Big Dick and "bending over" for it is definitely an aquired taste! But most guys do in time find it enjoyable...

[leigh.bess.toad]

Isn't this really another variant on fist-f---ing? I'm sure most of us have seen porn where this happens - it would seem to me that

if a man can take a fist, he should certainly be able to take a dick. But the information presented by the first two posters was certainly informative and I learned something. I also remember when my doctor gave me a prostate digital exam as a part of my physical, he really found the spot. It was a sensation like I have seldom experienced. I thought of signing up for more physicals - one should never take good health for granted, I believe. Alas, he has retired and moved onto the examination room in the sky. But I wish more guys were as adept as he was. Perhaps some of our working guys would benefit from a little anatomy class. I'm not pointing the finger (of blame) at anyone - just putting the idea out there. Size isn't really the issue here - it really is about technique and finding the right spot (which is not all that far in). The prostate needs stimulation, not obliteration.

 

Philmusc -- believe it or not, there really is a difference in being fisted and being nailed by a really long dick. As someone who was just fisted for the first time (and as an aside, I doubt there is anyone better at walking you through it than Ace -- thanks guy), it was an entirely different experience. Being fisted, at least for me, was a long, slow process learning to breathe, relax and open up so that you can be fisted. It is nothing like having a really long dick slide into you rather "abruptly".

 

I have my physical this week. I'm hoping for somethig similar to you, but it's not likely. I guess the question is, can I tell him he missed it and should try again? Or ask him to try again with a few more fingers? Is moaning in pleasure acceptable? Is thrusting your ass backwards on his finger ok? I will be coming out to my doctor during this visit. Should I wait until he is doing it and sort of let him know this way? Just wondering.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Yeah....too bad imma mean selfish sum bitch or I would.....

 

I mean the least you could do was ask his permission to post his phone number here

[uwsman2]

In my experience, the mind is the main barrier to getting fucked by a really big dick. A very skillful top with a big dick who knows how to open you up can get you to take a humongous dick. Different positions help. I find that the easiest way for me to get started with a super well-hung guy is for me to sit on it and thus have total control of the angle and speed of penetration. Only once in my experience of over 30 years has a dick proved too large to take that way - not to say I can always take it down to the root - and I have had some real whoppers! After that, I find the next easiest way for me to take a big one is lying on my stomach with my ass slightly elevated, usually by a pillow, or kneeling, so my legs are perpendicular to my body, and taking it from behind. The absolutely most difficult for me has usually been lying on my back, legs drawn back or held in the air by the top, and entered frontally. Since I absolutely crave being fucked in this last position, I find what frequently works is to start out by sitting on it, facing my top, and when I've got it in and I'm reasonably comfortable, I rock backwards whith my arms around my top's back, and we roll together until he's on top and I'm on bottom - and then, let 'er rip.

 

Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. There was one fine young escort with whom I had one or two sessions and when we were setting up the next one - as I knew at that point that he was a trustworthy lad and we were a comfortable fit - I told him I wanted to be taken from behind really quickly and strongly. He followed my instructions to the T - when I got there, he ripped my clothes off, turned me around, just plunged right in, while holding one hand over my mouth to muffle any screams. It was ecstatically exciting!! Too bad he retired from escorting shortly thereafter, having graduated from school and gotten a job and no longer needing the extra cash from escorting.

 

I've also found that if there is lots of foreplay and I'm tremendously aroused, I can take it in any position pretty quickly without any problem, regardless of size. Once in the old East Side Sauna in Manhattan (this is going back decades) I was sitting in the steamroom, the steam incredibly thick so one could barely see, and a smooth muscular African-American kid (he must have been about 19 or 20) sat down next to me and started feeling me up. I reached into his towel and almost fainted from the shock of the huge baseball-bat-like appendage I felt. He was so sweet and gentle in his touch, and so obviously turned on and eager, that we quickly retreated to my cubicle, and I was so turned on, my asshole just twitching for it, that he was able to fuck me with that truncheon like there was no tomorrow.

 

Although so far I haven't been fisted successfully, despite two attempts, I have taken some really huge ones, including Alencar and, before he retired, Talvin DeMacchio (one of the best and a real lead-pipe!).

 

So I think a lot of it is mental when it comes to taking big ones.

[+ Axiom2001]

This indeed good information, thanks for sharing. One of the techniques the article BC provided, explains exactly how I handle my favorite escort. He has about 8" and is very thick. My favorite position to get fucked is laying on my stomach, but I can't take him like this very long. But, when I lay on my side, with him holding my leg up is perfect. The sensation is out of this world, and he can delivery the best fuck ever. Hope this helps.

 

ST

 

"But when I "lie" on my side with him....! I was in Buenos Aires in April of 2010 and had a big dicked hot escort fuck me in this manner for part of the time that we were together. As Showtimems mentioned, "...the sensation is out of this world!"

 

Damn, this man could "plug the hole" divinely; the only downside to his performance was that he failed to give me the entire hour! Was I pissed! You can bet that I!!!

 

If we were to meet again-- I think I'd discuss the time with him before proceeding with the wanted onslaught!

[+ Tygerscent]

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One of the best things about hiring escorts is that many have large dicks. One of the worst things about hiring escorts is...many have large dicks.

 

I'm not sure if I'm unusual about this (it's taken a long time to get the nerve to post this question) but I have trouble taking a dick that's longer than about 7.5". Anything longer than that hits a barrier that feels pretty uncomfortable. I've tried researching this online and can't seem to find much about this barrier, although I found this great explanation about this "second" (or "third", depending on how you count) sphincter:

 

Puborectalis or pubo-rectal sling explanation

 

I would love to hire Rafael Alencar or Diesel Washington, but would have a hard time accommodating their length. Of course, I could ask a long-dicked escort to not go all the way in, but one of my favorite things about getting fucked is the sensation of the top's groin slamming into mine, so going only 1/2 a dick deep wouldn't be as satisfying.

 

So my question is: how are you able to take a long (8", 9" or longer) dick? Are there (safe) things you've been able to do to train yourself? Any particular anal toys that can help?

 

Also, since the barrier separates the rectum from the colon, is there a danger of poop entering the picture? (I eat pretty healthy with fiber, but always douche when I'm getting together with an escort).

 

Any suggestions and advice are greatly appreciated. I've tried looking up this question in these forums but haven't found anything - if I'm mistaken, please point me in the right direction!

[leigh.bess.toad]

Is this sortof the position:

 

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lp73vtQcLe1r05j4co1_500.jpg

 

I was thinking something more along the lines of this:

 

http://www.tumblr.com/photo/1280/8322927999/1/tumblr_lp03bhhOcO1qbdtub

[Bosguy]

I was thinking something more along the lines of this:

 

http://www.tumblr.com/photo/1280/8322927999/1/tumblr_lp03bhhOcO1qbdtub

 

I only discovered this type of position with a favorite escort of mine in NYC a couple of weeks ago. Every position we tried was great but we wanted to try something where we were both comfortable and he could pound my ass hard and long with total in/out action. He had me lay at the edge of the bed with my ass right on the edge and my top leg up and lower leg slightly bent. H e stood by the edge of the bed and inserted his THICK cock into me and pounded away for what seemed like hours with both of us moaning loadly until he shot a load everywhere. Too bad we discovered this well into our time together.

 

I think experimenting with a considerate, confident escort is a good way to reduce the discomfort and increase the pleasure.

 

Bill K.

[doitb4ugo]

Like This?

 

http://dadandson.tumblr.com/post/7725514842

[Bosguy]

Like This?

 

http://dadandson.tumblr.com/post/7725514842

 

That's another interesting variation. Have to try all the variations with 2 of your favorite guys in the Windy City (R&R) in a couple of weeks. The dark haired guy with his leg up looks like the guy carrying drinks that you sent in my birthday thread. He looks more at ease in this picture. Is that what it means when people tell you to rest and put your legs up?

 

Bill K.

[Phil_musc]

Lee, I have to admonish you - there are young, inexperienced people on this board who are looking for information of an educational nature on how to take a big one. What you have posted is certainly not in the realm of a beginner's manual shot. That is for the second semester, I believe. I think I may be ready for the advanced, honors level course myself, which this picture would most definitely be a part of. I like the way your mind works; we should probably study and prepare for the exam together.

 

Come to think of it - Rich, the same criticism could be leveled against your picture. There are young and impressionable minds here that are thirsting for knowledge. I suspect that your picture might fall into the realm of "near the end of first semester" material. But I also like the way you're thinking!