Text messaging

[Michael Vincenzo]

I am all for technology and convenience, but text messaging has gotten a little bit out of control. Text messaging is a wonderful convenience in many circumstances, but it does not replace a conversation. Increasingly, people think that it is normal to have an entire conversation via text. I have a feeling that one day we will look back on text messaging, coupled with other forms of electronic communication and social networking, as the demise of our society's ability to communicate with one another face to face. It seems we are hell bent on taking the human out of being human.

I am not one for holding back my opinion so here it goes:

 

To the text obsessed, it is not normal for text messaging to be used for entire conversations. It does not make you current, younger, hip, or more technologically advanced. It is called social retardation!

 

And, I certainly don't mind a little sarcasm with my morning coffee:

 

Maybe the day will come that I can text my cock to someone and they can use it, pay for it, and return it without ever having to speak to me. No worries about having to, God forbid, respond in real time to a question or verbal dialogue. There would be no strings attached, or human emotion involved, but my fee and text messaging rates would apply.

 

But, I always round it out with a little humor for balance:

 

I thought everyone might find humor in a text message that I received a few weeks ago. There is humor in both the length of the text message as well as the content. I am going to write it just as I received it. This is the first time this person contacted me and there were no responses from me in between his text messages or thereafter:

 

Feb. 13, 2011 12:32 AM

 

Hi Michael ~ IV. I am Wayne and ~~ I am texting u directly to speed the process along. I would like to hook up 'Monday morning the 14TH OF. March. at About 11:00AM FOR SOME DEEPTHROATING OF UR COCK ~~~I will probably take it all the way down. I do not eat six hours before - I deepthroat cock then as you deep throat my fucking throat with ur cock like using ur cock like a battering ram all you will hear is some gagging and no food!!. Nobody likes a puking cocksucker!!. Also if u like ruff deep merciless fucking. I am up for that toooo!! In all the way. Then all the way out. In. All the way. Then pull it out fast. In all the way fucking fat ruff and merciless!! ~~ I am getting hard thinking about u in meand down my throat!. He cost please fo in hous on hour visit. And where r u. Keep the room number until u want to give it to me!. Thanks. You can text me or call me. My cell is (***)-***-**** THANKS. Wayne zip ***** -- when u r deepthroating me. If u can piss a little that will loosen my throat and relax it!!. How big is your cock!. You dont have to reciprocate! I get off by

 

(NEXT TEXT)

 

getting u off and giving u the best time i can. thx again...

 

(NEXT TEXT)

 

Sorry. I see $250.00 PER HR

 

(NEXT TEXT)

 

Feb. 13, 2011 12:51 AM

 

Yes. I didn't wake u i hope?. I am a total bottom. Luv getting ruff fuckd. And I luv to deep throat. Do u have overnight rates?

[Poolboy21409]

F**ing INCREDIBLE. I tried once to have an email free Friday at my company. Failed miserably. I am with you - talk to me.

 

PB

[josephga]

I called at&t and had texting disabled on my phone over 2 years ago. I dated this guy once that was really into that texting. drove me up the damn wall.

[zeferrelli]

i agree with all above!

[Guest BrandonWilliams]

Thanks Michael for sharing. I ABSOLUTELY hate texting in the business world. The only time it should be used is in situations when you need to say you are running late, you have arrived, etc. It should NEVER be used to secure the interest of a companion or to schedule an appointment. NEVER. Sadly, the guys who need to hear this message are not lurking here.

 

If you want to ask the hot guy at the bar out on a date, go SPEAK to him. Don't send your bud over to chat and give the stud your phone number. Man up! Yes, that's my texting analogy.

 

OK, finished venting......just don't TEXT!

[jgoo]

While I personally detest text messaging, I recognize that those I deal with (including those I hire) have a wide variety of preferences for contacting and communicating. As a potential client I hope my own preferences is of some interest to them. In any case, if someone has a strong preference then they can make that clear up front. No one can have a conversation with you by texting unless you participate as well so it is acceptable to cut if off by a simple text like "call me" or something similar. Michael and Brandon, neither of you have a clear stated preference in your ads for how to arrange a meeting or exchange details so if it is something you feel strongly about, I would suggest you explicitly list in your ads your preferences in order and even to go so far as to say texts will be ignored if you feel that is appropriate.

[+ overeasy]

I had never been one to text...until a signigicant friend came into my life who will text to the exclusion of real communication. My personal feeling is that I find texting to be great for those update or question occasions where I don't really want to intrude into someone's life by having them stop to talk to me (and there is no rush to get an answer)....but it ends there. There are very few times that I can think of that actual conversation can be replaced by texting....and consider it a waste of time to text in those instances. One of my main problems with texting is that I have no idea that it was actually received...and, if received, my true meaning is understood....It just cannot convey inflection and emotion necessary for true communication.

[Bart]

First I would say that the message was vulgar and inappropriate, especially for a first time contact. I have heard from gentlemen friends that they receive this type of request often, phone, email text but it is completely inappropriate and usually goes nowhere anyway.

 

I would then say each gentleman as the sole proprietor of their business should conduct their business as they see fit. If you are not comfortable in first time contacting using text than I would display that in your ad.

 

My own personal method is I prefer to send a request via email with appropriate information and if the gentleman wants to contact me via phone great but if they are not fond of voice mail, email will probably get a quicker response.

 

I believe texting has a place, not as a replacement for the phone but to augment such as directions, a place where you cant talk etc.

 

I am not thrilled with texting but a gentleman friend in the business is responsible for my using it. That is just his favorite way of communicating and/or keeping in touch.

[instudiocity]

I think Wayne is guilty of TWJ, he obviously had too little blood in the big head and too much in the little one. He even texts in jabber as he comes close to orgasm. Then his texts turn into dribbles...

 

Texting isn't the problem here. Alcohol? drugs? mind-numbing horniness? or just plain stupidity doesn't justify removing TEXT Messaging from it's appropriate uses.

 

*TWJ - Texting while Jerking

[dcguy20]

Michael, did he try contacting you after the lengthy message? I would have responded with a "not interested".

 

I have thought the exact thing regarding text messages in general: don't people speak anymore?!

[Steven_Draker]

... he obviously had too little blood in the big head and too much in the little one.

 

Texting isn't the problem here. Alcohol? drugs? mind-numbing horniness? or just plain stupidity doesn't justify removing TEXT Messaging from it's appropriate uses.

 

I think you just hit the nail on the head!

 

On one hand I understand that in some situations a client can't talk on the phone and needs to send a text. On the other hand text messages should be short and to the point. If you can't convey your idea with two or three short text messages then try better emailing or calling. Endless back and forth usually doesn't result in anything concrete. Most of the times someone is just playing with your time. Move on.

[instudiocity]

....don't people speak anymore?!

HA! Yeah, they speak, but the goal is to converse and yet the methodology has been reduced from face-to-face conversations to: messenger, mail, telephony, text, email, chat, and video chat. But the goal can still be accomplished if both parties are willing.

 

But as Forrest Gump's Momma always said, "Forrest, Stupid is as Stupid does." So if you choose an instant communication format, BE INSTANT in your communications. If you want to converse, choose a format compatible with the EXCHANGE of ideas.

[Michael Vincenzo]

While I personally detest text messaging, I recognize that those I deal with (including those I hire) have a wide variety of preferences for contacting and communicating. As a potential client I hope my own preferences is of some interest to them. In any case, if someone has a strong preference then they can make that clear up front. No one can have a conversation with you by texting unless you participate as well so it is acceptable to cut if off by a simple text like "call me" or something similar. Michael and Brandon, neither of you have a clear stated preference in your ads for how to arrange a meeting or exchange details so if it is something you feel strongly about, I would suggest you explicitly list in your ads your preferences in order and even to go so far as to say texts will be ignored if you feel that is appropriate.

 

I do not mind text messages when used appropriately. It should never be as lengthy as the one I highlighted. When I receive text messages like that I do not respond, or I just call the person. As someone else mentioned here, those type of text messages never result in a get together and are usually sent by someone who is getting off on the "connection" they perceive they have with you.

 

It never fails that when we find something that is convenient, there are those who will overuse/abuse it. I am not uncomfortable speaking to anyone about anything, including feelings. I never want to lose my ability to communicate, in person or directly, with ease. When people display their inability to communicate by consistently throwing in the buffer of text messaging it speaks volumes to me about one's social skills. I don't relate.

 

People find comfort in abusing text messaging because they do not have to be concerned about making an immediate response as one would in face to face conversation. I guess I find that behavior to be a disturbing trend as many people already have issues communicating with one another as is. For some, text messaging is a crutch that is retarding their social skills.

[Michael Vincenzo]

By the way, I hope this doesn't scare anyone off from text messaging me. I am all for the convenience of text messaging, but I will call you if you try to have a long conversation with me via text.

[instudiocity]

By the way, I hope this doesn't scare anyone off from text messaging me. I am all for the convenience of text messaging, but I will call you if you try to have a long conversation with me via text.

So would I get a call from you if I text you, "You & Me, Baby! Hubba-Hubba!"?

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

In communications, the only thing worse than text messaging is call waiting. If you are talking to me, please don't ask me if to hold in case someone more interesting is wanting to talk.

 

And don't be surprised if I've hung up while you answer the other line.

[NYTomcat]

Since joining the forum I am an avid texter. It has given me a unique way to stay in contact with people whom I otherwise would never find the time to call or keep in contact with. From the couple of texts we then follow up with phone chats and the like when we have the time.

 

Further as a business tool it is great for people to convey a quick message without a lengthy discussion that would otherwise ensue thus saving time for those calls you want to make. So michael. I love you and can't wait to meet you but I couldn't disagree more. I am more in contact with friends and loved ones. And stay more abreast and connected to their lives because of this technology. But I agree it has a use and your example is wholly not the right one. Like Bart first contact is more appropriate by email. Plus that sort of description to me is better saved for a later not first introduction.

 

Actually I was meaning to text you michael. How could you? Finally come to NYC while I am in PS. Well don't worry ill text you for an update on when your here next. Then we can converse and get acquainted.

[Steven_Draker]

In communications, the only thing worse than text messaging is call waiting. If you are talking to me, please don't ask me if to hold in case someone more interesting is wanting to talk.

 

"Miss Manners" says that it's not a good idea to make a client hold the line while you're taking another call.

 

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[Rick Munroe]

This is the first time this person contacted me and there were no responses from me in between his text messages or thereafter:

 

Alright, I have to say, I think it was a little rude not to reply. If your policy is to not accept these types of texts, then you could have replied and told him so (or mentioned it in the text of your ads). Yes, he went on a bit in his first text (I thought they could only be 140 characters!), but he also went back & checked your ad to confirm the rate, etc. I usually give everyone the benefit of the doubt and I have asked guys, after the first few texts, to call instead of text. If they continue texting after that point, then yes, it's obnoxious. But more often than nor, they do call. And many first-time texters turn out to be legitimate. Just my two dollars (inflation).

 

Btw, I often prefer texting to placing a cell phone to my head because I'd rather get carpal tunnel than a brain tumor.

[Michael Wayne]

As an old fashioned guy the whole idea of texting is strange and odd to me. However, it is an invaluable business tool and irreplaceable. Majority of my new clients come in these days initially via text. Texting has usurped email and the phone by two to one margins. We may not like it but as escorts we have to learn to love it because it butters our bread. I still prefer a phone call as I clearly indicate on Rentboy and men4rentnow but however a new client wishes to contact me is fine. I just appreciate the business- especially in this economy......also.... whether it be by phone, text or email a certain percentage of inquiries are not real, flakes, gameplayers etc just like when people walk into a retail store. How many buy and how many more are just looking. Patience is the key in this business. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1 or the old fashioned way: 504-756-9443 Happy Mardi Gras!!!!!!

[nate_sf]

I am getting hard thinking about u in meand down my throat!

 

This is the operative phrase... he's GETTING OFF by writing the text, as some others here have also noted. It's not unlike getting a phone call where there is lots of explicit talk, but you're not sure whether it's going anywhere or if it's just someone getting his rocks off. In either case you have to screen and decide whether it's a serious contact or not.

 

I have some clients who prefer to text, maybe they're at work or somewhere they can't talk or have access to email. And lately there seem to be more requests for sending camera phone pics via text in advance of a meeting, probably to make sure I still look like the pics in the ad. Fortunately nobody has ever cancelled after I sent them a camera phone pic - that would sure suck!

[adriano46]

Interesting thread, and some interesting views here.

 

I have stated elsewhere that as a man well-beyond his 50th year, I sometimes find it distracting and downright rude and boorish to ne in pulic, be it on a train, on an airplane (admittedly NOT while taking off and landing), in a restaurant, bar or any other place and watch people texting away like maniacs - fingers flying across miniature keyboards or on other devices.... all while sitting with "friends" (if someone did that to me while I was with them, I would excuse myself and leave, as obviously the person they are texting or receiving a text from seems more interesting).

 

When hiring, I tend to either text or send an e-mail first. It depends on the city, and the circumstance. If I am planning in advance, I always send an e-mail in advance, but am a bit surprised with escorts wo do not like to be pinned down in advance for an encounter (or wo have been burned by too many cloients who book time a week or two in advance, and skip out at the last minute). Still, it is my way of introducing who I am, and what I am seeking.

 

I use a text primarily when I am making a "last minute" decision to hire a guy, and want to get this to him fast. I do NOT like to call; on that first encounter, assuming a) he may be with someone else or b) he is not in a position to pick up the phone and talk to a perspective client. If he texts "phone me" I do, willingly but also knowing that often you cannot say many details over the phone.

 

There are, admittedly for me, plusses and minuses, for texting and the only time I refrain completely is if, in an ad, an escort says - "e-mail or call, but do not text".

[leigh.bess.toad]

Since joining the forum I am an avid texter.

 

I know. You took my texting virginity a few months ago, you cad.

 

roflmao.

 

Before I joined the forum I had never texted once. Each month for the last few months with the number of friends and the number of texts I keep having to increase the number of texts in my wireless plan. 500, 1000, 1500, 3000, now 5000 a month.

 

And it's your fault TC.

 

[nate_sf]

Each month for the last few months with the number of friends and the number of texts I keep having to increase the number of texts in my wireless plan. 500, 1000, 1500, 3000, now 5000 a month.

 

Looks like it will soon be time for an Unlimited Plan... if not already!

[NYTomcat]

Looks like it will soon be time for an Unlimited Plan... if not already!

 

Nah I finally got him on mobile yahoo im. Lol.