Why do some bottom clients want strict tops?

[AdamATL77]

I'm a versatile escort and I'm very good at either role. But I'm always confused when I deal with certain guys. They will tell me how great I fuck and all that. Then they will say that they don't like to hire versatile guys or they usually look for "strictly top" in ads. Why does it matter when you can just tell a versatile guy you are strictly bottom and how you like it. I've tried to get an answer out of them but never get a clear good answer out of them.

 

I don't usually get the same problem with tops. They are usually afraid of the word "top" because they want a sure thing. Only a few hesitate at the mention that I don't bottom often. The fact that I am aggressive when hired as a bottom usually surprises them - in a good way of course.

 

The only advertising that I have found worse than stating just "versatile" or just "top" is not stating at all.

[Guest greatness]

Maybe because they want an extremely masculine guy or a straight guy type.. Who knows?

[Kevin Slater]

Speaking in generalities, the world has more bottoms than tops. If the client is horny and looking to hire, he wants to be sure he's going to get fucked. If the ad says versatile, he's afraid that's not going to happen, that the escort is going to come over and throw his legs in the air. "Strictly top" appeals to that (the largest) demographic.

 

Relatedly, a bud of mine (not a working boy) has two profiles on one of the hookup sites: one for when he wants to top and one for when he wants to bottom. He finds that works better than a single profile saying versatile.

 

Kevin Slater

[EZEtoGRU]

Greatness,

Bingo!!

[Guest greatness]

It is always interesting to know how people think.. Thanks Kevin!

[Guest greatness]

Thanks EZEtoGRU

[Mocha]

You'd be surprised...

 

Some bottoms have a thing that if a versatile guy gets fucked and then switches to a top, they may be more likely to pass something on.

 

However, I slightly disagree with Kevin's analysis on versatile. Only on the basis that I believe alot of this 'bottom prevails' phenomenon mainly exists in the U.S. Especially when it comes to the White guy-Black guy scenario. Here in the U.S. more often than not they want a top. But I've met guys from France, Germany, Australia, Canada...even New York City. Hell, even Mexico... and they are happy to find a masculine Black guy who's 'willing' to bottom. You're not forced to be a top, and aren't looked at any less masculine than if you're versatile.

 

I also prefer to just leave the position field blank sometimes. When people go out to bars, how many 1 night stands would have oocured if everyone wore a sign saying 'top' or 'versatile' or 'bottom'. If someone skipped over me because I say versatile, or said nothing at all... then they'd be missing out on a good ass fucking...If the client told me they were a bottom, then I'd already be mentally ready to go in ready to fuck.

[instudiocity]

Interesting information - I always search Rentboy for Versatile and Bottom, never top. I've not had such good luck dating tops.

[Mocha]

Interesting information - I always search Rentboy for Versatile and Bottom, never top. I've not had such good luck dating tops.

 

Nothing wrong with versatile. But, the 1st client who ever flew me out to him was a top. Even though I do meet majority of guys who 'want' to be a bottom. Doesn't mean they are bottoms though.

 

And besides, lets be real. I know its all about playing up on a fantasy, but any escort can say strictly top...but for all you know they can be a big ole bottom. I met an escort once who claimed to be a top for clients, but he was a complete bottom for me. Im sure I can name a couple of 'top' guys on here who are probabaly big ole bottoms too.

[+ Gar1eth]

I think also some bottoms really get off on the fantasy of being taken/raped or enjoy the fantasy that they have somehow converted a straight guy into topping them. If the guy says he is versatile, I think they are afraid he is not "manly/macho" enough for them or as Kevin said afraid that the guy won't be able to top them.

 

Gman

[Decatur Guy]

The psychology of all this can get tricky, and so much depends on your own experiences, preferences and head space.

 

My background: I am versatile. Sometimes I like to top. Sometimes I like to bottom. I lean a little more to bottom than top, but not in a strong way. But I'm not a "flipper." If I am fucking someone, I only want to fuck him. I don't want him fucking me -- at that moment/night anyway. And the reverse is even more true because sometimes, getting fucked makes me lose my hard on even though I love it.

 

Most of my life, I wanted my tops to be versatile, because I thought a versatile guy knew how it felt and would do a better job at topping precisely because of that. I would quiz guys and sometimes turn them down if they weren't versatile. And I also thought it was only fair ... if you're fucking my ass, I want the "right" to fuck yours another time. So even if that particular fuck was all one top / one bottom, I liked the idea that the top knew what bottoming was like and would be willing -- in theory anyway -- to be fucked by me.

 

Then I had a memorable fuck from a dude who was a "Total Top." I was actually in a top mood, thought I'd be fucking him, but he'd have none of it. I was so into him that I switched gears and got into my "bottom head." Turns out, he was 100% gay but also had 0% interest in getting fucked. He had never tried it and never would. He was a good looking guy. A nice guy. But a "total" top in the true sense of the word.

 

It made me kind of mad that he was the kind of guy willing to dick a guy down but wouldn't never even broach the idea of switching places. But I was also so horned up and excited about being with a guy this good looking and sexy, I went "total bottom" -- heart, body and mind. And after a reasonably slow and considerate entry, he proceeded to fuck my brains out. He had no compulsion to take it easy on me because he had no idea what I was experiencing and no desire to. While it made the first 10 minutes rougher and more painful, it somehow made the rest of the fuck even wilder and better than normal. And I did get turned on that it was somewhat painful at first and that he didn't know or care. (note: strong pain would have had a very different outcome).

 

Since then, I've had several other GREAT fucks from tops who never bottom. ... So, I started changing my mind about things. I now get a turn-on from giving my ass up to a guy who doesn't bottom. And I've hired several escorts who fit that bill -- and every single one of them was a damn good fuck.

 

That's not to say a versatile guy can't be a great top. And bottoms I've fucked have told me I'm a good top. In fact, a guy I fucked a couple of months ago told me he couldn't fathom me taking cock up the ass.

 

I'm just saying I've now come to experience a new side to sexuality where a one-sided situation with a "total top" -- especially an escort -- seems to have its own unique heat that I had not been open to experiencing until five, six years ago.

 

That's why I've leaned toward escorts who advertise as total tops. But I'd never rule out of hand a versatile escort. I hope that makes any sense.

[Damascene]

I have found just as most as escort just as they shave up penis size and save down age, also save up their ability to top. Guys do this on hook up sites too. I made myself a table

 

List as - Manhunt reality - Rentboy reality

 

Top - Vers Top - Vers

Vers Top - Vers - Vers Bottom

Vers - Vers Bottom - Bottom

Vers Bottom - Bottom - Bottom

Bottom - Bottom - Bottom

 

I am not saying that there are not some guys who are honest or do not round bottom as much as I've observed, but 90% time this has worked for me. Yes, I have met top escorts who are exclusive tops in real life, but they are very rare.

 

Damascene

[instudiocity]

...big ole bottoms...

I keep hearing this term "big ole bottom(s)" What's that mean? The only guy i've been with who self-described himself as a 'big ole bottom' nearly didn't give me my dick back when we finished cumming.

[Mocha]

I keep hearing this term "big ole bottom(s)" What's that mean?

 

More often than not, a size queen; nontheless. One who readily throws his legs in the air and opens his hole for the largest cock/dick/penga he can take. They tend to be very annoying whilst in a bar or club...walking in front of you and pushing their ass up on your junk with no invite to do so. And then they walk away disappointed because they expect every man to be rock hard in 2 seconds flat, without any stimulation to do so.

 

Okay, maybe thats an extreme example, but you get the picture LOL.