What Should Escorts Be Told In Advance Regarding Appearance?

[jgoo]

Relatively recently I have developed Rosacea. For those that aren't aware, it is "a chronic skin condition involving inflammation of the cheeks, nose, chin, forehead, or eyelids. It may appear as redness, prominent spider-like blood vessels, swelling, or skin eruptions" (ref. https://health.google.com/health/ref/Rosacea).

 

In my case it is mostly red cheeks and some pimples. Not the most attractive thing and a bit embarrassing for a 50+ year old man. It is noticeable and for sure I am very self conscious about it, so I am concerned about how others might react to it, especially with an escort I plan on meeting in the not to distant future.

 

I don't want anyone to think that it has to do with poor hygiene or something that might be contageous, so my gut feeling is to tell them in advance. Is this (or anything similar to this that is noticeable, like scars, etc) something escorts would like to know about in advance? And if so, as this is something new I am dealing with, I am struggling as to how to appropriately bring it up in an email.

 

If only the rest of me was acting/performing like a teenager, I wouldn't care Thanks in advance for your advice. If clients have an opinion on how they would handle this, I would appreciate your input as well.

[doitb4ugo]

Jgoo, I, as a client, live with many insecurities and probably tell some of the escorts I hire more than they need to know. I have found that the really professional guys are used to client "imperfections" and seem to have no issue working with them. While not the most goodlooking guy, my insecurities revolve around my performance and interactions when with someone...I try to let the escort know that I need some assistance from them to relax and have a good time.

 

I would lean toward disclosing your condition in a matter of fact way when discussing what you expect from your time together. I usually have a small paragraph about my needs/wants and I usually include anything I think they should know in that e-mail....I can't imagine that most escorts would care but I agree that they should know what it is so they are not put off ad wandering if they should be concerned...I'm not very experienced with all of this but find that you can never go wrong with truth and disclosure....

 

Good luck and I'm sure everything will work out. Generally our own perceptions about our selves and our appearances is much more extreme than the reaction of others to it....

[+ sf westcoaster]

Take the "no surprise" route. Tell the escort upfront of your condition, otherwise you may be setting youself up for a major disappoinmnet and embarrasment

[+ Charlie]

When someone's business is having intimate physical contact with a stranger, he is bound to notice and be concerned about anything he sees that is out of the ordinary. I was surprised once when an escort became hesitant to proceed with me after I took my shirt off, because I have a large discoloration on one shoulder (the result of a bad sunburn when I was ten years old) that I never think about at all, but he was afraid it was something contagious. He may know about rosacea, or he may not, so it would be best to mention it when setting up the appointment.

[justaguy]

I agree with what has been said. Even though it isn't going to matter to the true professional, it would obviate the possible 'surprise' look. I think they would appreciate advance knowledge, and you most certainly don't want to set an appoinment with someone for whom it is a problem.

[jgoo]

Thanks gentlemen. I will follow my gut feeling and the advice of everyone responding, and will contact the escort to let him know about it. Again, thanks for the good advice.

[KMEM]

Charlie-

 

Is this discoloration in the shape of a dragon or butterfly or could it be made to resemble same?

 

I usually just say I am old, fat and ugly. That mostly covers my current multitude of sins.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Bart]

I would agree with what has been stated and even include the link to the website. I would think most gentlemen will handle it professionally. This would be a time to use a reviewed gentleman with a bit maturity. I have always considered myself a bit on the dumpsy side so I tend oversell that lack of looks a bit and most gentlemen have a tendency to be pleasantly surprised in my appearance when we meet. So much like we dont like when a gentlemen shows up totally unlike their description I just think it does you any favors to over sell yourself.

[+ Charlie]

Charlie-

 

Is this discoloration in the shape of a dragon or butterfly or could it be made to resemble same?

 

I usually just say I am old, fat and ugly. That mostly covers my current multitude of sins.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

I don't know what it resembles, because I can't see it. However, your question made me realize that I could have covered it with a tattoo when I was younger, if I had been really concerned about it, which I wasn't. Now there are enough other physical distractions to make it unnecessary.

[AdamATL77]

Relatively recently I have developed Rosacea. For those that aren't aware, it is "a chronic skin condition involving inflammation of the cheeks, nose, chin, forehead, or eyelids. It may appear as redness, prominent spider-like blood vessels, swelling, or skin eruptions" (ref. https://health.google.com/health/ref/Rosacea).

 

In my case it is mostly red cheeks and some pimples. Not the most attractive thing and a bit embarrassing for a 50+ year old man. It is noticeable and for sure I am very self conscious about it, so I am concerned about how others might react to it, especially with an escort I plan on meeting in the not to distant future.

 

I don't want anyone to think that it has to do with poor hygiene or something that might be contageous, so my gut feeling is to tell them in advance. Is this (or anything similar to this that is noticeable, like scars, etc) something escorts would like to know about in advance? And if so, as this is something new I am dealing with, I am struggling as to how to appropriately bring it up in an email.

 

If only the rest of me was acting/performing like a teenager, I wouldn't care Thanks in advance for your advice. If clients have an opinion on how they would handle this, I would appreciate your input as well.

 

As an escort, I don't let a client's physical appearance get in the way of my job. I typically don't ask for a description or a picture of a client. If I utter the words "Could you please tell me more about yourself," I'm hinting that I have no idea what you expect us to do during our session. But seeing as I do frequently have intimate contact with guys, I do like to be aware if anything unusual in a client's appearance is safe or contagious.

 

Since I know what rosacea is, I wouldn't be the least bit worried about it. I cannot speak for other escorts who might not take up the time to look up a word even though there is usually a search box in most browsers in the upper right corner.

[JoeyBryant]

I cannot speak for other escorts who might not take up the time to look up a word even though there is usually a search box in most browsers in the upper right corner.

 

So we're all airheads huh?

 

Anyhow...I dont think anything should be told beforehand. Usually, its alot better to say it when you meet and then discuss it if they ask. And then one can decide if they want to proceed from there.

[AdamATL77]

I didn't say "all of the other escorts", but there is bound to be someone out there who isn't going to look something up.

[justaguy]

I kind of get what you're saying, but disagree. As a client I don't want to wait until we meet to see if we're on the same page. By then both of us have gone through the process of getting ourselves ready to get together. It seems to me that waiting until we meet opens the door to a waste of time and energy.

[+ purplekow]

I believe a light hearted but truthful description is appropriate. If your rosacea is mild to moderate, I might say: "When we first meet I may be a bit red in the face from my rosacea, but when we are done I hope to be red in the face from excitement and exhaustion. By the way, rosacea is a noncontagious rash of the face." If it is more severe, "you may notice that I have some redness and a rash that looks like acne. Although the thought of meeting with you does make me feel like I am a teenager again, the rash is rosacea, a non-contagious rash which flares up occasionally." If you are comfortable with it, the escort, so informed, likely will be comfortable with it as well.

[+ Archer]

jgoo,

 

After developing rosacea and trying many different prescription treatments, a new dermatologist suggested AlphaHydrox Foaming Face Wash and Alpha Hydrox Enhanced Cream 10% glycolic acid once a day. This has been very effective for me in controlling the redness and eruptions, but not the spider veins.

[jgoo]

PurpleKow, many thanks for the good suggestion. It is very much in my character under normal situations to use humor whenever possible so your idea fits well with my personality.

 

Archer, also many thanks for the treatment suggestion. I have PM you for some additional questions I have so if you get a chance please take a look.

 

I did email the escort I am going to meet and brought it up. I haven't heard back from him yet but I am hopeful it won't be a big deal for him.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I believe a light hearted but truthful description is appropriate. If your rosacea is mild to moderate, I might say: "When we first meet I may be a bit red in the face from my rosacea, but when we are done I hope to be red in the face from excitement and exhaustion. By the way, rosacea is a noncontagious rash of the face." If it is more severe, "you may notice that I have some redness and a rash that looks like acne. Although the thought of meeting with you does make me feel like I am a teenager again, the rash is rosacea, a non-contagious rash which flares up occasionally." If you are comfortable with it, the escort, so informed, likely will be comfortable with it as well.

 

PK -- an absolutely brilliant suggestion. Of course, I would expect nothing less from you.

[BewareofNick]

Since I know what rosacea is, I wouldn't be the least bit worried about it. I cannot speak for other escorts who might not take up the time to look up a word even though there is usually a search box in most browsers in the upper right corner.

 

LOL!!!! Google is indeed your friend.

[BewareofNick]

So we're all airheads huh?

 

Anyhow...I dont think anything should be told beforehand. Usually, its alot better to say it when you meet and then discuss it if they ask. And then one can decide if they want to proceed from there.

 

There's your sign...

[bobchitown]

Even though I'm well past adolescence (LOL) I occasionally pop out a mountain of a zit on some random place on my body. It seems to happen like clockwork every time I plan an encounter. I don't say anything beforehand, but when I arrive I do mention "Oh, I have this giant zit, I'm otherwise perfectly healthy" and that takes care of it. One time I had what must have been a spider bite on my ASS and it hurt like hell and was enormous. Again, a simple statement about it's existence and probably cause takes away any tension on both sides. Better that than to be mid-rimming and hear a sudden "what the HELL is THAT"!!

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Upfront Honest and Oozing

 

I am VERY up front about my looks/age/etc with gentleman callers and refer them back to reviews that I have submitted so that they can get a sense of my interest and limits. I am a big-bellied bear who remembers watching the nixon/watergate hearings after school.

 

I want an encounter where the person is fine with that - I have had encounters where I have planned - past up other possible [partners,

where they have cum to the door and said sorry you are too ______________ for this to work.

 

Now not Mr. Olympus - Neither am I Jo-Jo the Dog-Faced Goatboy -or Gigantor the Iincredible bulk.

 

But even if I were - I would rather know from the start that this was a no-go rather than at the front door.

 

I have even been told by those outside of this realm who appreciate Bears and Silver Daddies that I am Hot. (Getting

 

Laid is all about knowing your market niche)

 

Because I usually like extended scenes - with a lot of different types of play 3-48hours - I describe myself in detail to

 

potential gentlemen callers - So if there is a problem connecting we avoid it at the start.

 

As I have stated previously in other posts - What differentiates the true professional caller from the rest, is that the

 

true professionals *always find something to focus on in their partner that is a turn-on - Eyes, smile, humor, intellect,

 

kinkiness, etc. And make the engaging partner feel hot, desireable, sexy, handsome when they may not feel that

 

way in general sense.

 

Because of these encounters with gentlemen callers - I am more confident, more bold, and more successful in my

 

other casual encounters with civillians.

 

 

Relatively recently I have developed Rosacea. For those that aren't aware, it is "a chronic skin condition involving inflammation of the cheeks, nose, chin, forehead, or eyelids. It may appear as redness, prominent spider-like blood vessels, swelling, or skin eruptions" (ref. https://health.google.com/health/ref/Rosacea).

 

In my case it is mostly red cheeks and some pimples. Not the most attractive thing and a bit embarrassing for a 50+ year old man. It is noticeable and for sure I am very self conscious about it, so I am concerned about how others might react to it, especially with an escort I plan on meeting in the not to distant future.

 

I don't want anyone to think that it has to do with poor hygiene or something that might be contageous, so my gut feeling is to tell them in advance. Is this (or anything similar to this that is noticeable, like scars, etc) something escorts would like to know about in advance? And if so, as this is something new I am dealing with, I am struggling as to how to appropriately bring it up in an email.

 

If only the rest of me was acting/performing like a teenager, I wouldn't care Thanks in advance for your advice. If clients have an opinion on how they would handle this, I would appreciate your input as well.

[SteveStacks]

\ As I have stated previously in other posts - What differentiates the true professional caller from the rest, is that the

 

true professionals *always find something to focus on in their partner that is a turn-on - Eyes, smile, humor, intellect,

 

kinkiness, etc. And make the engaging partner feel hot, desireable, sexy, handsome when they may not feel that

 

way in general sense.

 

.

 

Very well said! There have been many conversations on here about to what extent it is acceptable for an escort to have personal tastes that discriminate against different ages, builds, races, etc...While that may still be an open question, I feel that in a perfect world, an inherent part of being an ideal escort is that ability to understand that sexy isn't just what the magazines use to sell product....it's an amazing range of traits that include the soul, the brain, the heart and every part of the body!

 

If you're dealing with that kind of professional, I don't think clients should feel it necessary to describe their race, weight, age etc., but along the lines of this thread, I think that if a client has a feature that could appear to be something contagious, they should let the escort know that is not the case ahead of time to avoid an awkward in person conversation. After all, escorts have the health and safety of their future clients (and themselves) to think of as well as the current client's need.

 

That being said, a client should NEVER be shamed or made to feel uncomfortable by an escort when they choose to share information.

I think the best way to bring it up is simply to state what the condition is in an advance email.

Not only will this be less awkward than an in person conversation, but the escort's response will tell you a lot.

If he is judgmental or insensitive, he's not someone you would likely want to see anyway!

[KMEM]

Very well said! There have been many conversations on here about to what extent it is acceptable for an escort to have personal tastes that discriminate against different ages, builds, races, etc...While that may still be an open question, I feel that in a perfect world, an inherent part of being an ideal escort is that ability to understand that sexy isn't just what the magazines use to sell product....it's an amazing range of traits that include the soul, the brain, the heart and every part of the body!

 

If you're dealing with that kind of professional, I don't think clients should feel it necessary to describe their race, weight, age etc., but along the lines of this thread, I think that if a client has a feature that could appear to be something contagious, they should let the escort know that is not the case ahead of time to avoid an awkward in person conversation. After all, escorts have the health and safety of their future clients (and themselves) to think of as well as the current client's need.

 

That being said, a client should NEVER be shamed or made to feel uncomfortable by an escort when they choose to share information.

I think the best way to bring it up is simply to state what the condition is in an advance email.

Not only will this be less awkward than an in person conversation, but the escort's response will tell you a lot.

If he is judgmental or insensitive, he's not someone you would likely want to see anyway!

 

OK. I am old, ugly and fat as well as crazy. When can we meet?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ Archer]

jgoo,

 

Please let me know if you received my response to your pm. I kept getting an error message when I sent the reply.

 

Archer

[jgoo]

jgoo,

 

Please let me know if you received my response to your pm. I kept getting an error message when I sent the reply.

 

Archer

 

Hi Archer, I did get your PM and have responded. Many thanks for your advice. Jgoo