When an escort rejects you

[azhiker]

It can feel a little odd. I had e-mailed a recently reviewed escort in Atlanta a couple days ago to set up an appointment today. We spoke on the phone yesterday and I thought we had good rapport. We were to meet this morning but I got this e-mail about an hour ahead instead, “Thank you for your interest in me, but we are not a match. Best of luck.” Wow, talk about a disappointment. I could not reschedule with a substitute. With all the topics lately about how far ahead to set up an appointment and flaky clients, I wonder how many clients have escorts that decide they would rather not keep an appointment. My question is do I do a review or just toss it off thinking maybe he met the love of his life last night?

[orbital sander]

I would not waste the time, whatever his reason, you have wasted enough time on this winner. I do not think that daddy will post a review based upon the fact that you actually did not meet with the guy, but you sure could give it a try. In my mind the guy did you a favor, if he cares that little, then imagine what your time with him would have been like?

[azhiker]

Yeah that was my original thought too but it was still bugging me tonight. On a positive note I did a trip to Swinging Richards last night and spent most of the evening with a dancer named Mario. He told me he had done films for Corbin Fisher and at the time I thought it was just a story. Looked around that site later today (after the cancellation) and sure enough he has done 7 films for them. Kinda makes up for everything so far on this trip.

[Steven_Draker]

We spoke on the phone yesterday and I thought we had good rapport. We were to meet this morning but I got this e-mail about an hour ahead instead, “Thank you for your interest in me, but we are not a match. Best of luck.” Wow, talk about a disappointment. I could not reschedule with a substitute.

 

Azhiker,

Sorry to hear about your misadventure. I agree that nobody likes to be rejected, but I wouldn't take this situation as a rejection. I guess that there is more to the story from his end, but he's not willing to tell you. Had he realized that the two of you wouldn't be a good match he wouldn't have waited till the last minute to send you that email.

[Diverdan]

Better at the Beginning

 

I have only had one outright rejection. I was very angry at the time, but within a couple of hours, I realized that it was the best thing that could have happened.

 

I had exchanged emails and phone calls with this individual over a six week period. He was relatively new to the business, but our conversations were excellent and I shared with him all the relevent stats on age, height, weight, etc. and told him exactly what I was looking for. We were very similar in stats and interests. I visited him at his hotel room, as he was from out of town. When I walked into the room, he gave me a hug and kiss and asked if I wanted a beer. I declined, but asked if I could use the rest room. He said sure, and proceeded to open a beer as I went into the bathroom. I closed the door, not completely, but most of the way, and was a bit surprised to see that there were many empty beer bottles in the waste basket, and a number of unopened bottles in a bucket on ice.

 

When I came out of the bathroom, he was sitting on the chair in the corner of the room sipping his beer. He again asked me if I wanted a beer, and I declined again. As soon as I declined again, he said, "well, this is just not going to work". "I have no interest in spending any time with you, and you are not really my type and I don't want to get undressed in front of you."

 

I left, and should have written a review of the experience, but did not. Interestingly enough I have not seen any postings of him on line after that weekend.

 

In retrospect, I am glad it ended. Not sure if it was "rejection" as I have no idea what was going through his head.

[orbital sander]

I have only had one outright rejection. I was very angry at the time, but within a couple of hours, I realized that it was the best thing that could have happened.

 

I had exchanged emails and phone calls with this individual over a six week period. He was relatively new to the business, but our conversations were excellent and I shared with him all the relevent stats on age, height, weight, etc. and told him exactly what I was looking for. We were very similar in stats and interests. I visited him at his hotel room, as he was from out of town. When I walked into the room, he gave me a hug and kiss and asked if I wanted a beer. I declined, but asked if I could use the rest room. He said sure, and proceeded to open a beer as I went into the bathroom. I closed the door, not completely, but most of the way, and was a bit surprised to see that there were many empty beer bottles in the waste basket, and a number of unopened bottles in a bucket on ice.

 

When I came out of the bathroom, he was sitting on the chair in the corner of the room sipping his beer. He again asked me if I wanted a beer, and I declined again. As soon as I declined again, he said, "well, this is just not going to work". "I have no interest in spending any time with you, and you are not really my type and I don't want to get undressed in front of you."

 

I left, and should have written a review of the experience, but did not. Interestingly enough I have not seen any postings of him on line after that weekend.

 

In retrospect, I am glad it ended. Not sure if it was "rejection" as I have no idea what was going through his head.

 

Well hopefully he stuck to the beer...it sounds like he needed it. Too bad he wasted your time, but I am glad that he did not get your $$$

[NYTomcat]

Azhiker,

Sorry to hear about your misadventure. I agree that nobody likes to be rejected, but I wouldn't take this situation as a rejection. I guess that there is more to the story from his end, but he's not willing to tell you. Had he realized that the two of you wouldn't be a good match he wouldn't have waited till the last minute to send you that email.[/color]

 

I agree steven. Very good point. Listen to the escort and don't take it as a rejection. Sounds more like a he got busy or a crisis and didnt know how to just say that. Poor choice on his part I agree. So enjoy the dancer

[Guest BrandonWilliams]

AZHiker,

 

Just imagine how livid and colorful a review you would have fired off had this guy followed through with his appointment, only to show up at your door completely unengaged, visibly dreading every moment he was in your company. I'm certain his distant affection would have left you more bone-chilled than his not so timely note stating it's just not going to happen.

 

I'm sure there is more back story to the reasons why the escort declined the appointment at the last moment. But, my guess is, he did you a favor.

[+ Travis69]

I would bet that the escort had a regular client call and want that same time slot. I have spoken to a few that say regulars come first. They don't want the regular going somewhere else and losing his potential business.

[instudiocity]

I'm sure there is more back story to the reasons why the escort declined the appointment at the last moment. But, my guess is, he did you a favor.

Your guess implies wisdom beyond your years! I do not ever want a guy who doesn't want me, no never!

[Poolboy21409]

I was just recently dissed 15 minutes out from an appointment with a top ranking well known escort. The appt. was set up weeks in advance as he was traveling in for several days. Confirmed and reconfirmed etc. 15 minutes out, I texted him for the room number and got back a text saying "I hurt my back last night and won't be able to see you." I immediately suspected too much partying the previous night or his overnight, if he had one, had not yet left. Royally pissed because i had set this up weeks in advance and had driven in over an hour to keep the appt. Then later in the day, I received "I can see you now at 4PM. My back is much better." text. NOT.

[+ purplekow]

I think, I cant make our appointment which is in 15 minutes is more a telephone message than a text. A bit of an apology and a bit of an explanation seem required in this situation. Please call me would have been my response to the hurt my back text.

[Juan Vancouver]

I know most have said the same so far, but here's what I think:

 

In good riddance!

 

Whatever his reason, you were just spared from something you may have not signed up for. You had a gorgeous evening with a hot dancer instead of being the unlucky recipient of this escort's perfunctory "favours".

 

May you remain as fortunate as this forever!

 

Big hug.

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Just the other night. . .

 

I called a well advertised escort in my area - who advertised similar interests. We talked for about 5 minutes he said

 

WOW We can have a really HOT Time together - "Listen I have to make a call can I call you back in half an hour?

 

Never Called Back

 

I left him a followup message saying I had made other arrangements for the evening since he apparently was busy,

 

but would be interested in possible future meeting. Nothing -

 

Oh well his loss - Had an incredible overnight with a regular - Who got more wild then ever and took me to places

 

we had never been before and always wanted to go!

[azhiker]

Thanks for eveyone's response to this post. I'm headed back west today with a little more money in my pocket than I expected and good memories from Swinging Richards. That place never dissapoints. Juan, you have been on my to do list for a long time and some day I hope to see you somewhere in the US. Big hug back ...

[JoeyBryant]

I was just recently dissed 15 minutes out from an appointment with a top ranking well known escort. The appt. was set up weeks in advance as he was traveling in for several days. Confirmed and reconfirmed etc. 15 minutes out, I texted him for the room number and got back a text saying "I hurt my back last night and won't be able to see you." I immediately suspected too much partying the previous night or his overnight, if he had one, had not yet left. Royally pissed because i had set this up weeks in advance and had driven in over an hour to keep the appt. Then later in the day, I received "I can see you now at 4PM. My back is much better." text. NOT.

 

LOL, I'm sorry to be laughing at these misfortunes...but only because I've dealt with it myself. These guys dont sound like escorts, they sound like guys you'd meet off of hookup lines or craigslist and are sneaking around behind their boyfriends.

 

Im not trying to say anything about anyone here on this forum, but Im just speaking from my experience dealing with guys from online outside of escorting. But I find that the ones who dont show their face, are the main ones who end up having weddings 5 min. before meeting, breaking their back the day of the date, or having their sister call and ask them out to dinner when "we" were supposed to be having dinner that night.

 

I had a client who was telling me about a girl he was trying to hire who messed him about for something like a couple of hours. In the end, he never even met her. So I have to say, I thought we as escorts go thru some shit...but gee, sounds like clients really do get some tossers as well!

[Juan Vancouver]

I hope that too, my man.

And thanks... I live for hugs!

 

Dirty thoughts!

[instudiocity]

So I have to say, I thought we as escorts go thru some shit...but gee, sounds like clients really do get some tossers as well!

 

And, um, we, clients are offering to pay from $3.33/minute to $5/minute and more for an encounter all while running the risks that someone will show, will provide the service, and will not cause us physical, mental, or reputational harm.

[JoeyBryant]

And, um, we, clients are offering to pay from $3.33/minute to $5/minute and more for an encounter all while running the risks that someone will show, will provide the service, and will not cause us physical, mental, or reputational harm.[/font]

 

Ok? that threw me off where'd that come from...

[jimboivyo]

Hate it when I hear these stories from either side, but ya gotta keep in mind that no matter how much we want to think otherwise, this is still a fringe business. That leads to people acting in 'fringe' ways. It's not right, but to sometimes be expected.

[instudiocity]

Hate it when I hear these stories from either side, but ya gotta keep in mind that no matter how much we want to think otherwise, this is still a fringe business. That leads to people acting in 'fringe' ways. It's not right, but to sometimes be expected.

 

HA! Love the fringe, but hate to get singed!

[Guest Merlin]

I agree he probably had another client. BUT, it is also possible that he began thinking that you might be a cop. Perhaps something that was said or not said in the conversation led him to be wary. I am sure all clients and escorts have had moments when we wondered if we were being drawn into a police sting. Recently in LV an escort would go no further until I took all my clothes off, because he believed a cop would not do so. And, I contacted a young guy on Rentboy, who looked great, maybe too good to be true. He sent me an email saying that he would need my correct legal name, phone number as it appears on my ID, and my rooom number, in sufficient time for him to check it all out, etc. He wanted the money to be laid out in plain sight. I, of course, backed off.

The guy with the beer may also have thought that having a beer would prove the client was not a cop.

[BewareofNick]

Ok? that threw me off where'd that come from...

 

Just another salvo from the asshat brigade. Better off ignored.

[orbital sander]

Just another salvo from the asshat brigade. Better off ignored.

 

Just another salvo from the asshat brigade. Better off ignored...

[JoeyBryant]

cut it out, its annoying....