is it smart to hire an escort in your hometown?

[johnnyboy]

Recently i saw on rentboy a guy that like to match with my preferences. The point is that he lives in the same city as i do. When making the decision about hiring him (at his place) it can be possible that he lives very close to me or that we both go to the same places in town and i prefer to be anonymous which will be the same for the escort. Your opinion about this issue please.

[+ ArVaGuy]

It depends on your comfort level from my point of view. It's perfectly fine to be concerned about such issue and I'd say you should discuss it with the escort directly. There's no doubt that he's seen other local clients in public settings and vice versa.

 

Here in DC I used to see a guy very regularly. We would run into each other at various places in town and had no problem. Usually a casual exchange of greetings and if time allowed a bit of chat about our next link up. However, when I was with a group of friends, he always chose discretion and would not come up to me at those times. Same if I saw him out with a group or someone I perceived was a client, I would not make any attempt to intrude. We'd usually acknowledge each other with a nod or wink in a quick private moment when time allowed.

 

Other times I've seen guys who advertise on Rentboy, Rentmen or been reviewed here who've posted there face pics as part of their advertising. This has usually happened at the market or in some other public place. I've never once gone up to them and said anything but have smiled and thought to myself "so that's what they look like without Photoshop". LOL

 

If you still feel uncomfortable after discussing the issue with the escort in the pre hiring stage, my advice would be consider hiring an out of town traveling escort visiting your city. Then you will have no worries about running into this guy at the Starbucks and having an awkward moment.

 

But I have a feeling your local escort would be just fine discussing the issue and setting a protocol with you for accidental public meetings. Believe me, if he's experienced and good at his work, he'll be just fine and have the utmost discretion.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I have hired 5 guys in my hometown and have seen two of them by chance in public places total three times. One time at a local restaurant, the other time was on the street him driving by in his car, and another time someone called me by last name ( his voice was very young and I write checks so most of them know my name) when I was stopped at a traffic light. I didn't look at him because I didn't want to acknowledge that I was the guy he was referring to so I simply ignored him. He yelled that I had a nice car and I could hear his friend giggling. I wonder who it was.

Most escorts want to stay anonymous as much as you do. Unless you are a politician or someone has an intent to blackmail you, you should be fine. Make sure you hire a discreet escort. It is hard to know by just looking at one but when he speaks ill of his clients and others escorts in front of you, then I become a bit leery. I tend not to hire him again.

[Guest Merlin]

I agree with most of the above, although "hire a discrete escort" may not be helpful. There is no way to know, and once he meets you. he knows you to see you.

I have hired escorts in my hometown, with not problem. BUT it might depend on how serious it would be if he were indiscrete. If you are in a job or profession where it would be disasterous if it came out, it may not be worth the chance.

[+ g56whiz]

It also could depend on the size of your "hometown". It it's New York, LA or Chicago for example, there's less likelihood of running into each other except perhaps in the gay ghettos where it really should not be an issue. If you live in a small city like Laredo, it's hard not to run into each other.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Only you can know the answer. If you want to assure yourself that you will never encounter an escort within your home city then don't hire locally. If you do hire locally then you must be prepared for the time when you see that individual in public. The fact that you pose the question would seem to be an indication that you have concerns and therefore it might be best that you not hire locally at this time.

 

When I first started hiring I only hired when I was traveling - seemed to give some degree of assuance that I would not meet them in my local grocery store. Over time I became more confortable and now hire locally and except for deliberate meetings I have not crosssed the path of any of my hired escorts.

[Romann]

Communication is key.

 

Hiring a local professional is a risk because both parties will need to coexist in the same city confines including local shops/restaurants or even common friends. That said, a firm and diplomatic conversation about being discrete should probably be on the top of your talking point list. I can only speak for myself but I have a hard and fast rule that unless otherwise told directly by the client in a prior conversation, there is a general understanding that if we should bump into one another separate from the hiring process, we don't opening acknowledge each other. That doesn't mean there are not winks/smiles or simple nods are not exchanged out of respect. I do have relationships outside of the hiring process with clients where they know my actual name and I'm introduced as a friend of theirs but again, that's a discussion that was had prior to about comfort levels when it comes to being discrete. My professional name is at no time used to introduce me to others. If asked how we know one another, we're simply business associates which is pretty general and most will drop the discussion at that point.

 

That said, one never really knows how discrete the other party will be but one can measure it by asking fellow posters/friends for recommendations and performing due diligence in researching posted reviews not just on one site but various sites.

[azhiker]

Even if you are in a strange town funny things can happen with "locals". I was in Melbourne, NSW, AU in 2000 and my first night there in a gay bar, I met a cute late twenties guy who enjoyed hearing stories about the US and I wanted to learn more about Melbourne. We danced, drank, made out and laughed our way into the early morning. Hungover that same morning I called an escort over to the hotel and we hit it off. He asked me to spend the day with him so we went to a "drag race" hosted by a neighborhood bar. After the race was over we went back to the bar and set about drinking when in comes my friend from the night before. It was a mess! He knew my "escort", they were best friends. He got mad at me because the night before I had told him I didn't know anyone in town. Worse, I did not know if he knew his friend escorted or that I did not know his real name! A little awkward at the time, thinking about it makes me laugh.

 

If you hire, sooner or later you will see the guys out in public. Most of the time, discretion is the key unless there was a little spark. Then I just mostly wink and move on.

[Boomer]

It depends on your comfort level and the size of the city where you live. If you're in a small town and you're a prominent public figure or closeted, it may not be such a good idea. In New York, L.A. or other big cities it's probably not a problem. There are many escorts who work with people who need discretion. Look for escorts with positive reviews and a track record. The more professional the escort the less likelihood of problems. In the end, it's really a question that only you can answer since we have to fill in the blanks.

[Guest BrandonWilliams]

Two words come to mind: professionalism and communication. When based in Kansas City, I often encountered this issue with clients. I hate to use the word “issue,” as it never was a negative, but the uncomplicated matter was a result of having a very open and honest conversation with the company I kept. I always let guys know that, should we see one another in public, I will simply smile, and I expect the same in return. As our friendship grows, the dynamic often changes and given the situation, we may become more open in our public communication.

 

While in Kansas City, I had a client who had season tickets to the symphony; his seats were literally the two seats next to mine. Still to this day, he is one of my closest friends. It’s all in how the escort conducts himself in and out of the public eye. Look for signs of professionalism from your initial communication with the escort. Written and oral communication skills are very telling of how one would behave in a situation where you must remain discreet.

 

In Phoenix, I have two clients who I will often run into at the gym. Again, it’s a simple smile. I’m quite confident no one knows of our relationship and both guys have shared similar thoughts with me.

 

In short, if you see a smart and great looking guy in your home town, don’t miss what could be a remarkable friendship (and some incredibly hot sex) out of the fear of something which with a simple conversation can be put to rest. Find a true professional and let the fun begin!

[+ Charlie]

When New York was my home town, I never thought twice about this issue, but in a smaller place, I would be more hesitant about hiring a local, if I cared about privacy.

[KMEM]

Smaller- You mean like Chicago or LA? Sorry, couldn't resist.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ Charlie]

More like Memphis.

[OneFinger]

When working on an out-of-town project lasting several months, I hired a local guy. Imagine my surprise when he showed up on the project working for one of our subcontractors.

 

We obviously recognized each other immediately but we both acted like it was the first time we met. I called his cell phone that night after work and suggested we get together and talk.

 

In short, we both agreed it would be better to keep our "external" relationship private. Although assigned to the same project, I had no direct supervisory responsibilities with the escort so that wasn't an issue.

 

I didn't find it to be a problem. But, I'm glad we talked after finding out our common link and establishing ground rules.

[adriano46]

This has been an issue for me a lot in the last year.

 

For many years, I never saw an escort in the cith where I lived and worked. For the years I lived in Europe, when the randiness level rose, I simply checked out a cheap flight to another city, and off I went for a happy weekend. I did it rarely enough that I was not in the habit of seeing a guy more than once, and all dates were either through an agency, or more only for a few hours. In all those years only one guy ever knew my full name and background, and that was because I told him, and trusted him (and still do trust him).

 

In the States, I generally call guys when traveling out of town. I do not invite guys to my home for many reasons and (as mentioned elsewhere), the idea of throwing out another few hundred dollars just to have an anonymous hotel room seems a bit extravagant.

 

Some months ago, I began seeing two guys I met on a 3-way in a social way. At first it was working well, but as the weeks progressed, they had some really complicated issues that nearly blew my cover. This experience pushed me back to my former practice of NOT hiring in my own city. Period.

[Epigonos]

It can happen even in L.A. guys. I live in the depths of Orange County and went in to West Hollywood one Saturday afternoon to see a movie. I parked my car in the theatre's parking structure and after getting out of the car just happened to notice that the guy getting out of the car next to me was an escort I see on a regular basis. As we were both alone we looked at each other and burst out laughing. We still, a couple of years latter, comment and laugh about the rarety of such a encounter happening especially in a city the size of Los Angeles.

[Guest OCBeachbody]

For me I have only had escort services when I am out of town. Even though I may run into business clients, etc.... it never a problem since they always awesome I am entertaining another business client or a friend.

 

Now if were to do this here, where I have nosy people... tongues would wag.

Although usually for me no one would know unless I was caught in a compromising position....lol

 

Yet seriously, if you are worried about it always go one town over or wait til you on a business trip.

[Rod Hagen]

I live in West Hollywood/Beverly Hills, so of course I see my clients around town all the time.

 

I remember not to react. I gage their reaction first. Generally in West Hollywood they nod hello or even come up to me. Beverly Hills, they might get a bit of a deer in the headlights look, then nervously resume their conversation as I saunter (yes, sometimes I actually saunter) along. In either case, during the next time we are together we talk about how fun it was to see each other out in public and how good he (we) looked.

 

No big deal.

 

And sometimes if he's a frisky married guy, we'll coordinate our dinners out with family and friends so we can watch the other in his group surreptitiously.

[Guest Spanky]

Rod Hagen cracks me up!

 

I remember not to react. I gage their reaction first. Generally in West Hollywood they nod hello or even come up to me. Beverly Hills, they might get a bit of a deer in the headlights look, then nervously resume their conversation as I saunter (yes, sometimes I actually saunter) along.

 

If I ever get to West Hollywood, I'm going to hire you then arrange to see you out, solely for the purpose of seeing you "saunter" by.

 

 

And sometimes if he's a frisky married guy, we'll coordinate our dinners out with family and friends so we can watch the other in his group surreptitiously.

 

Is it just me, or does anyone else find this little scenario extremely hot!?

[KMEM]

More like Memphis.

 

Not to worry. There aren't any here, at least not any who are reviewed on this site.

 

 

Early in my career, I flew on the airlines at least twice a week. I never saw anyone I personally knew on any of those flights even though they almost all were going either to or from MEM. Your results may vary.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ Charlie]

I used to have the same experience traveling from Philadelphia, where I lived for many years; then one night at PHL, I encountered three individual acquaintances, all taking the same flight as I to Heathrow. It never happened again.

[+ nycman]

.....as I saunter (yes, sometimes I actually saunter)...

 

Wait....you mean sometimes you DON'T saunter?....

 

In my fantasy world...my luxury top brother...ALWAYS saunters...grin

 

And sometimes if he's a frisky married guy, we'll coordinate our dinners out with family and friends so we can watch the other in his group surreptitiously.

 

THAT is some KINKY shit...fuck all that handcuffs, ropes and candle wax crap...

 

Three words....(1) New (2) York and (3) WHEN?

[doitb4ugo]

wonder what the charge is for sauntering or snickering

 

If I ever get to West Hollywood, I'm going to hire you then arrange to see you out, solely for the purpose of seeing you "saunter" by.

 

 

 

 

Is it just me, or does anyone else find this little scenario extremely hot!?

 

I also find Rod's little scenario very hoy indeed. We certainly need more guys with that very ironic sense of humor...being one of those older married guys, the image is priceless.