Holding out for a hero

[xanadude]

Hey guys -

 

I've been reading and posting on this site for several months now. I love that there is a supportive community to talk about escorts - this is really comforting.

 

Here's my dilemma: I really want to hire my first escort. And the thing is, I don't want to waste the money on someone who is going to turn out to be a dud. So every time I get psyched for a guy, I come here and usually find a post that talks about his fake pictures, or bad reviews, or even worse - no reviews. Or sometimes there will be good reviews but then someone hints that the review may be fake!

 

I know, that ultimately I should just take the plunge (pun intended) and find a guy and go for it. But all of the negative feedback has gotten me so worried.

 

Anyone have tips on choosing the right guy? OR does anyone have any sure fire bets, totally amazing guys, here in NYC?

 

Thanks for listening and any feedback would be appreciated.

 

best,

 

xanadude

[+ David-SF]

Xanadude

 

Its always helpful and you will get more response from posters here if you tell us what your looking for in an escort.

 

then posters can glean through their encounters useful info to recommend someone.

 

hiring reviewed escorts does not = a heroic encounter..... chemistry does.

 

Good Luck to you.

[+ Charlie]

There is no such thing as a guarantee in any escort experience. The pictures may be accurate and the rave reviews from reliable reviewers may be completely true, but he may still be a dud with you. As David says, it's all chemistry, and it may not be there between you on a particular day, or maybe never. You just need to choose someone who looks like your fantasy, whose reviews suggest compatibility, and try it out, and don't be crushed if for some reason it doesn't work.

[Bart]

I too started out nearly 8 years ago with stars in my eyes, seemingly sure of what I wanted and scared to death thinking of all the worst. I can assure you the forum back then was a collection some of the most angry and belligerent people I have ever put eyes or ears on. Devon, the first real blogger of note who Hoboy gave his own link and one of the more popular guys for those first 18-24 months and then he went into another world which could easily be the first X-Rated Lifetime movie. For the most part I think posters are much more helpful today and more gentlemen post than back then.

But he was my first and I enjoyed it a great deal. I have changed a lot since then and what I thought I liked then has changed somewhat.

 

First you have to go with a gut feeling and not overthink it. You have to trust the pro a bit here. Most of the experienced guys know how to do it with newbies.

 

Second I would actually consider a longer outing 2 maybe3 hours. This allows a settling time for your nerves and some conversation with the gentleman before he makes the move.

 

Third Charlie is absolutely correct you can have the best reviewed most reliable and sexual person and unless you can connect it will fall flat. Believe me I have had several but the good have definitely outweighed the bad and then there are the unforgettable moments that will remain with me forever.

 

Fourth, most important remember you are there to have fun. Try to go in with a positive attitude. You may find out that what you thought you liked to do may not be everything. Be willing to be open to some experimentation, just let the gentleman know how far you are willing to go.

 

Good Luck, I think you will have lots of fun.

[OneFinger]

...Anyone have tips on choosing the right guy? OR does anyone have any sure fire bets, totally amazing guys, here in NYC?

 

When it comes to NYC, there are sooo many choices and varieties that it's hard to chose. I've had some good luck selecting guys from this site and I've also had my share of "no shows".

 

So, when I go to NYC, I stopped trying to make arrangements on my own and I use an agency. My preference is Campus since they seem to have younger / college-type guys.

 

http://campusescorts.com/

 

I've hired Jonathan and been very happy. Showed up on time, very easy going, and a great guy.

 

Another reputable agency is Maximum. Their guys are a little more "beefy" but that company is known for delivering.

 

http://www.maximumescorts.com/listing.html

 

For a first-time experience, I'd suggest you go with an agency. Be up-front with them when you call to make an appointment. Tell them what you're looking for and let them make a recommendation.

 

Good luck.

[+ purplekow]

Xanadude, NYC is the largest escort buffet there is. And as with most buffets, the choices can be overwhelming and not every dish is for every patron. So give a few details of the type of encounter you are looking to have. If you are lookling for chicken, I am sure there are some posters familar with the twinks, but if you are looking for beef, send me a private message here and I will be glad to help you find just the right cut of beef to satisfy the desire you may have.

[xanadude]

I love how supportive you guys are. Thanks. I will figure out exactly what I want and just go for it. I will certainly let you all know how the encounter goes.

 

Xanadude

[+ Gar1eth]

Xanadude-- I also may be able to help if you want to private message me. I do not have a lot of experience with NYC guys-on the other hand, I have been reading what is now Daddy's Review Site and Forum for at least 12 years now and I have a fairly good memory. Just for your info of the types of guys who interest me most-

 

I usually gravitate toward handsome muscular/bodybuilder or athletically muscular guys. I am a top so I look for those who are bottoms or versatile. I am really not into youngish twink types. Older is usually better for me. If I do go occasionally for a younger guy( as in early 20's)then they need to usually be incredibly handsome and usually boy next door type of faces--and they still need to be pretty athletic/muscular. For examples one of the previous posters to this thread suggested Campus Escorts. Campus the last time I looked had no one I was interested in. They were too young, not handsome enough for me, and definitely not athletically muscular enough for me. From this you may be able to tell the types of guys I gravitate to most. On the other hand, as I said have a fairly good memory. And if the guy has been advertising for awhile, I may remember some discussion about him in the Forum here.

 

 

 

I, and I am sure many others here, wish you good luck in your eventual selection. One last thing I want to say is that only hire if you really feel you want to and can handle it emotionally as well as financially. It can be and is an expensive hobby. I was probably a late bloomer. I looked at the escort sites and "lurked" on this one by reading the reviews and this Forum without registering for 6 years before I felt ready and hired my 1st escort.

 

Sorry for the long-winded post, but again Good Luck n whatever you decide to do.

 

Gman

[uwsman2]

Go with the reviews...

 

Hey, guy. I've been living in NYC more than 30 years and hiring off and on for most of that time. Over the long run, I've come to rely pretty heavily on this site, both the comments that guys make here in the Message Forum and the formal reviews. Ultimately, a successful escort hire is a combination of knowing what you are looking for, pitching your expectations reasonably, and luck. Don't place too much weight on the first attempt. If it works, it will be glorious. If it doesn't, you'll learn from it and do better the second time. Go into it with a spirit of adventure, and remember that for the escorts every new client is also an adventure and a challenge - no matter what kind of "cool" they try to project, they are as nervous about it as you are until they meet you and figure out you're OK.

 

So don't obsess - just read the reviews and the comments here, make your list of potentials, and start emailing or calling. Don't be put off if the first few folks on your list turn out to be unavailable or difficult to deal with. Just keep trying and stay alert to the "vibes" from your communication, don't go into any arrangement that doesn't feel "right," and you should be just fine.