Isn't it akward?

[12is12]

When a client and an escort spend a couple of days together, at a hotel and even more so on a cruise, at lest some people around kind of guess what the relationship is all about. Isn't it akward for both sides?

 

I'm assuming of course, that most clients don't want to be known as men paying for sex, and that most escorts don't want to be known as having sex for pay.

[KMEM]

Only if you let it be awkward. There are many possibly awkward moments in life, no? Just keep going.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[AdamSmith]

Seconding KMEM.

 

Too, there is the old saw: You wouldn't worry what people think of you if you realized how seldom they do.

 

Anyway, neither of you is walking around with a big red "C" or "E" emblazoned on his forehead.

 

As for onlookers you think might be guessing -- let 'em stew in their envy.

[MsGuy]

I figured out a long time ago nobody really cares what you do except your relatives and your creditors. The creditors don't really care as long as you pay your bills on time and, after a while, your family gets used to you. Just brazen it out.

[Greathands]

I have become quite used to this. I'm a 46 years old overweight bear. My partner of 5 years is 26 years old and is in great shape with a very hot body. When we first started seeing each other, many people thought he was an escort (especially since he was from out of the area and not known in the local gay community). When he moved here and started bartending at a local gay bar, speculation then was that I was his sugar daddy. The look on their faces is always priceless when they learn I work for a non-profit and that he makes more money than I do.

 

Bottom line ... who cares what other people think!

[MsGuy]

"Bottom line ... who cares what other people think!"

 

Especially when you're holding hands with a "26 year old in great shape with a very hot body." Good for you (& your partner), Greathands.

[AdamSmith]

speculation then was that I was his sugar daddy. The look on their faces is always priceless when they learn

 

Great story!

 

My silly variant...Escort Andre came to Boston last winter. For a lark we drove down to 727, the male strip club then operating in Providence. One of the dancers asked Andre if I was his sugar daddy. I surreptitiously fed him his response line:

 

"Oh, the old guy just works for me."

 

[Mark Gordon]

It really doesn't faze me what other people think. I just try to remain sensitive to the client's sense of discretion and propriety. I will follow his lead regarding how we interact in public and what is said when we might be overheard. When on cruises or in other situations where we might have to interact with other people, we have sometimes come up with a cover story beforehand regarding who I am and the nature of our relationship. If I encounter a client at random in public, I don't openly acknowledge knowing them unless they make contact. This has has happened many times, including at a dinner party.

[justaguy]

"let 'em stew in their envy"

 

AS-as usual, your advice is concise and priceless :-)

[+ deej]

Just brazen it out.

 

Yeah.

 

I used to sometimes introduce my companion as a nephew or cousin. When they asked later why I had a hand down his pants I'd say "we're a CLOSE family".

 

Now it's "he's my date" and leave it at that.

[NYTomcat]

worse than the age. Went out to dinner with an incredibly handsome young man the other day. I swear I was chopped liver as the waiter and waitress salivated over him. Didnt matter it was my gold card paying for our meal.

 

Oh well you can hate the beautiful people but you want them around. Its still fun saying yeah he's with this ugly old foggy over here. and watched the pained jealous looks on their faces.

[+ Charlie]

12is12, I suspect that this topic would never have occurred to you if you weren't contemplating the possibility of yourself in that position, and worrying that you would feel awkward. In that case, you have various options. You could tell everyone who looks at you that the handsome youth is your nephew, or your godson, or your grandson if the age difference is really dramatic, and you are taking him on a trip to celebrate his graduation. Or you could give him a credit card and some cash, and tell him to always pay the bills ostentatiously, so the onlookers think he is keeping you. Or you could wear wedding rings and t-shirts that say "He's My Husband!" Or you could hire an older, out-of-shape escort who doesn't look so obvious (glutes can probably tell you who they are). Or you can just accept that all the posters are right, who have pointed out that most people won't even bother to try to figure out the relationship, and if they do, why should you care (unless, of course, you are taking him as your companion to a Republican convention)?

[jackcali]

Oh, you'd do fine at a Republican convention, too. I was at an event at the 2004 Republican convention in New York and met a relatively well-known contributor to and supporter of conservative causes (mostly anti-tax efforts, not the "social" issues). He introduced me to his 'nephew', who was an escort whom I had hired several times. I guess he COULD have been his nephew . . .

[Guest TBinCHI]

Oh, you'd do fine at a Republican convention, too. I was at an event at the 2004 Republican convention in New York and met a relatively well-known contributor to and supporter of conservative causes (mostly anti-tax efforts, not the "social" issues). He introduced me to his 'nephew', who was an escort whom I had hired several times. I guess he COULD have been his nephew . . .

 

Love it. Good old republican hypocrisy just warms my heart. But wait, I forgot, Larry Craig isn't gay - he just has a wide stance.

[NYTomcat]

Love it. Good old republican hypocrisy just warms my heart. But wait, I forgot, Larry Craig isn't gay - he just has a wide stance.

 

And a nervous foot, or was it a tic, maybe he was just tapping out the latest Lady GAGA tune for the next republican convention

[Guest greatness]

for me

 

I think a lack of chemistry is more of a problem than awkwardness. I usually don't go on an extended trip with an escort for that reason. I usually settle for an overnight session.

 

When a client and an escort spend a couple of days together, at a hotel and even more so on a cruise, at lest some people around kind of guess what the relationship is all about. Isn't it akward for both sides?

 

I'm assuming of course, that most clients don't want to be known as men paying for sex, and that most escorts don't want to be known as having sex for pay.

[12is12]

Thanks everyone, and especially Adam

 

Notwithstanding the issue at hand, I liked the quote: "You wouldn't worry what people think of you, if you realized how seldom they do."

[AdamSmith]

Notwithstanding the issue at hand, I liked the quote: "You wouldn't worry what people think of you, if you realized how seldom they do."

 

Glad it resonates. I was brought up to worry terribly what the neighbors thought. That quip really brings home the truth.

[AdamSmith]

"let 'em stew in their envy"

 

concise and priceless :-)

 

Happy to tickle.

 

I've had this distinct pleasure on at least a couple of occasions. Last summer I brought a 22-year-old escort with me on a business trip where I was attending a necessary but tedious conference. He did his own thing during the day, then we would reconnoiter for dinner and evening out.

 

At the end of the day, I was talking to a colleague who was about 29 years old. My escort friend appeared on the other side of the lobby, hanging back discreetly. I could not resist edging my colleague and me across the lobby as we kept talking, then finishing our conversation where I could pivot directly to my escort and go out the door with him to a cab.

 

The situation was immediately obvious to my colleague, whose eyes bulged out of his head on stalks. Clearly equal parts shock and lust. (My professional image is, shall we say, a little more buttoned-down than that. ) I just couldn't resist.

[Guest greatness]

oh my

 

You are brave... I don't work in an open environment as you do...

 

Happy to tickle.

 

I've had this distinct pleasure on at least a couple of occasions. Last summer I brought a 22-year-old escort with me on a business trip where I was attending a necessary but tedious conference. He did his own thing during the day, then we would reconnoiter for dinner and evening out.

 

At the end of the day, I was talking to a colleague who was about 29 years old. My escort friend appeared on the other side of the lobby, hanging back discreetly. I could not resist edging my colleague and me across the lobby as we kept talking, then finishing our conversation where I could pivot directly to my escort and go out the door with him to a cab.

 

The situation was immediately obvious to my colleague, whose eyes bulged out of his head on stalks. Clearly equal parts shock and lust. (My professional image is, shall we say, a little more buttoned-down than that. ) I just couldn't resist.

[NYTomcat]

Happy to tickle.

 

I've had this distinct pleasure on at least a couple of occasions. Last summer I brought a 22-year-old escort with me on a business trip where I was attending a necessary but tedious conference. He did his own thing during the day, then we would reconnoiter for dinner and evening out.

 

At the end of the day, I was talking to a colleague who was about 29 years old. My escort friend appeared on the other side of the lobby, hanging back discreetly. I could not resist edging my colleague and me across the lobby as we kept talking, then finishing our conversation where I could pivot directly to my escort and go out the door with him to a cab.

 

The situation was immediately obvious to my colleague, whose eyes bulged out of his head on stalks. Clearly equal parts shock and lust. (My professional image is, shall we say, a little more buttoned-down than that. ) I just couldn't resist.

That is priceless. That is so me. Be proud and fuckem if they can't take a joke.

[jackcali]

Love it. Good old republican hypocrisy just warms my heart.

 

I actually don't think there was any hypocrisy at all (in this case anyway -- Larry Craig is another matter). Pretty much everybody in the room who paid any attention to them knew they weren't uncle and nephew, assumed they were a couple, and couldn't have cared less. I just thought it was funny that everyone's assumption was that they were a long-standing couple and missed the truth, which was that the faux-nephew was an escort hired for the week.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey 12is12,

 

Most of my work, perhaps 70 percent of it, has to do with traveling with my clients. I have been everywhere, from what boasted about being the most expensive hotel in the world -in the arab world, that is, to eating fish tacos in a cute Puertorican shore town. I have found that what really matters is that the connection between the escort (s) and the client (s) work, and when that does, believable explanations come easily to your lips whenever they are needed.

 

My clients and I have explained my presence in those trips with stories as diverse as: diving partners, far away relative, travel buddy, platonic relationship, keptboy, adopted offspring, but my favourite by far was this:

 

A great client of mine, with whom I travel a lot, asked me to join him in Paris. We were at a very fancy gallery opening. We ended up chatting up a group of very nice and mature people and they invited us to have dinner at their place. Inevitably someone gathered the nerve to pop the question.

 

"So, where did you guys meet?"

 

My client smiled broadely, looked at me, ruffled my hair and without a tiny pause responded:

 

"I had just checked into my flight to come here to Paris when I saw this handsome man working at the airport. I asked him if he had ever been to Paris, and he said no."

 

Everyone went silent and looked at me some mortified, some curious.

 

"Luckily I always go to work with my passport." I answered smiling.

 

He and I still have a laugh about that.

 

I think what I am trying to say is that as long as you are comfortable and are sure that you understand that you are doing nothing wrong or shameful, people are going to get exactly the same message and their behaviour and acceptance will mirror your own state of comfort.

 

In other words... Relax, Life is too precious and delicious to spend it worrying. You have a fun, exciting, passionate companion beside you, enjoy him, enjoy yourself, and be sure that nobody will begrudge you for doing that.

 

A tight hug, and I hope that if this is not just some theoretical question and you are thinking about traveling with some hot guy, you will have a terrific, exciting, fun time.

 

Always hard and warm,

 

Juan

[MsGuy]

Pretty much everybody in the room who paid any attention to them knew they weren't uncle and nephew, assumed they were a couple, and couldn't have cared less. I just thought it was funny that everyone's assumption was that they were a long-standing couple and missed the truth, which was that the faux-nephew was an escort hired for the week.

 

Could be the folks that knew him simply assumed the nephew was his latest boy-toy. It's been my experience that high echelon Republicans are usually much more sophisticated about this sort of thing than they let on when the cameras are rolling.

 

Whether that constitutes hypocrisy is a matter of individual judgement.

[KMEM]

My favorite story, if we have the time and inclination to develop it, is that we live in different parts of the US but work for a company that evaluates various products and services. This could be Cedar Point or the cruise line we happen to be on at the moment. That completely explains us traveling together and any noticeable difference in age (and, there always is one ).

 

Best regards,

KMEM