Oral or Sex?

[Guest antoanvegas]

If you need to choose and can choose only one, what would you choose oral or sex?

Personally I am choosing sex.

[+ Charlie]

So, you have bought Bill Clinton's contention that oral isn't sex?

[josephga]

Id pick oral. and for the record I consider oral, sex

[+ purplekow]

I'd pick oral for the convenience. No condoms No lube No muss No fuss. Oral is oral sexual but it is not sex. at least for me/

[Rick Munroe]

what would you choose oral or sex?

 

This reminds me of my mother-in-law's favorite (really bad) joke. I (thankfully) forget how it goes but it ends with the blonde bimbo saying, "I'm gonna give you super sex!" and the old codger saying, "I'll take the soup."

 

I think oral sex is sex and since I'm an expert, I guess I prefer it.

[+ honcho]

A matter over which reasonable people might reasonably disagree ...

 

I must respectfully disagree with my esteemed colleage PurpleKow on the question of whether oral sex is sex is not.

 

Having invested in an interlude with Rick Munro and his partner a few years ago, I can unhesitatingly attest that a blow job from Rick constitutes mind blowing sex, and I highly suspect that the extent to which his partner moaned and shivered while my mouth was implanted on his pec presented persuasive evidence that even that form of contact must also be considered sex.

[Rick Munroe]

I can unhesitatingly attest that a blow job from Rick constitutes mind blowing sex

 

Thanks! It was a memorable treat for me, too.

 

and I highly suspect that the extent to which his partner moaned and shivered while my mouth was implanted on his pec presented persuasive evidence that even that form of contact must also be considered sex.

 

Absolutely! Although, it also gets him really primed to fuck.

[Guest TBinCHI]

It's hard to make eye contact while sucking dick...

 

I love oral sex, but to me making eye contact while having anal sex, either as a top or bottom, adds much to the equation. So, if I had to choose, I would definitely choose fucking!

[uwsman2]

It's all sex...

 

Any activity which produces a sexual response is sex. Phone sex was sex. Sexual conversation in a chat room is sex. Masturbation is sex.

[Guest SwordSwallower]

Oral for sure with me on the giving end

[AdamSmith]

I love oral sex, but to me making eye contact while having anal sex, either as a top or bottom, adds much to the equation. So, if I had to choose, I would definitely choose fucking!

 

Absolutely!!! To be all but lost in the ecstasy of bottoming or topping, then to revive, open your eyes, and see your partner feel your gaze and return it -- no more intense connection that I know of.

[rvwnsd]

Look up!

 

I love oral sex, but to me making eye contact while having anal sex, either as a top or bottom, adds much to the equation.

 

I simply look up when I'm blowing a guy. I can make eye contact and see his face, chest, etc. Hence, I vote for oral sex. So many places to explore, tastes to savor, and that creamy reward at the end! Yum!!

 

PS: I think oral is sex. I've also had the Rick and Derek Experience and let me tell you, alternating between stud and studly is very sexy. If what we had wasn't sex, then the pope ain't Catholic.

[Rick Munroe]

I've also had the Rick and Derek Experience and let me tell you, alternating between stud and studly is very sexy.

 

You sure gave us the royal treatment. And as I recall, we enjoyed it so much that we followed you as you drove away...

[rvwnsd]

You sure gave us the royal treatment. And as I recall, we enjoyed it so much that we followed you as you drove away...

 

Indeed you did.

[Guest antoanvegas]

Well not

 

So, you have bought Bill Clinton's contention that oral isn't sex?

Well not, but I meen fucking as a sex here

[Kevin Slater]

A friend was just describing to me this new cute young thing he's been seeing. "And he gives head like a fat man," which we both understood to be a compliment.

 

Kevin Slater

[Guest zipperzone]

A friend was just describing to me this new cute young thing he's been seeing. "And he gives head like a fat man," which we both understood to be a compliment.

 

Kevin Slater

 

Really? And would a fat man agree?

[ShaunRoss]

I think that some people do not consider oral as 'sex' because it does not involve penetration of the anus or vagina.

 

How is sex defined?

 

Wikepedia defines sex as:

 

Sex

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

In biology, sex is a process of combining and mixing genetic traits, often resulting in the specialization of organisms into a male or female variety (known as a sex). Sexual reproduction involves combining specialized cells (gametes) to form offspring that inherit traits from both parents. Gametes can be identical in form and function (known as isogametes), but in many cases an asymmetry has evolved such that two sex-specific types of gametes (heterogametes) exist: male gametes are small, motile, and optimized to transport their genetic information over a distance, while female gametes are large, non-motile and contain the nutrients necessary for the early development of the young organism.

 

 

Wikipedia defines Sexual Intercourse as:

 

Sexual intercourse

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

Sexual intercourse, also known as copulation or coitus, commonly refers to the act in which the male reproductive organ enters the female reproductive tract.[1][2] The two entities may be of opposite sexes or not, or they may be hermaphroditic, as is the case with snails. In recent years, penetration of non-sexual organs (oral intercourse, anal intercourse) or by non-sexual organs (fingering, fisting) are also sometimes included in this definition.[2] Traditionally, intercourse has been viewed as the natural endpoint of all sexual contact between a man and a woman.[2]

 

Non-penetrative sex (oral sex may or may not be penetrative) and mutual masturbation have been referred to as "outercourse".[3][4][5][6] "Outercourse" is something of a misnomer, as it contrasts "outer" with "inter" but the "inter" in "intercourse" means "between two people" or beings. It does not describe being inside or outside of the body. The word sex, in the context of sexual intimacy, is often, if not universally, understood to include any mutual genital stimulation, i.e. both intercourse and outercourse.[7]

 

Mating is the term most often used to refer to sexual intercourse between animals other than humans; for most, mating occurs at the point of estrus (the most fertile period of time in the female's reproductive cycle),[8][9] which increases the chances of successful impregnation. However, bonobos,[10] dolphins,[11] and chimpanzees are known to engage in sexual intercourse even when the female is not in estrus, and to engage in sex acts with same-sex partners.[12] In most instances, humans have sex primarily for pleasure.[13] This behavior in the above mentioned animals is also presumed to be for pleasure,[14] which in turn strengthens social bonds.

 

Modern Judaism, Christianity, and Islam view sexual intercouse between husband and wife as a spiritual and edifying action, while extra-marital sex is viewed as immoral. The limits of marriage and concubinage within these traditions has changed over time, along with corresponding views of acceptable sexual behavior. The teachings of Hinduism and Buddhism on sexuality have differing interpretations, though mostly they are associated with marriage. Buddhism's injunction to "refrain from sexual misconduct" finds its interpretation and practical definitions within the particular Buddhist communities. However, within each of these major religious traditions exists subgroups with varying stances on acceptable sexual practices, and some religious groups prohibit their members from engaging in sexual intercourse altogether.

 

 

 

You can see how gay men and gay women or left out of the above equation.....so we have to the go to the definition of gay male sexual intercourse, also known as anal sex:

 

Anal sex

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

 

Anal sex most often refers to the sex act involving insertion of the penis into the anus.[1] The term anal sex can also sometimes include other sexual acts involving the anus, including Anal–oral sex, fingering, and object insertion. As the rectal mucous membrane provides little natural lubrication, a personal lubricant is most often required or preferred when penetrating the anus.[2]

 

 

 

 

Wikipedia defines oral as:

 

Oral

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

The word oral may refer to:

 

As an adjective:

 

* the mouth

* speech communication as opposed to writing

* oral schools use oralism to teach the deaf

* oral stage, Sigmund Freud's name for a child's development during the first 0 to 18 months of life, in which an infant's pleasure centers are in the mouth

* oral sex

 

 

Wikipedia defines oral sex as:

 

Oral sex

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

 

Oral sex is sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitalia by the use of the mouth, tongue, teeth or throat. Cunnilingus refers to oral sex performed on females while fellatio and irrumatio refer to oral sex performed on males. Analingus refers to oral stimulation of a person's anus. Oral stimulation of other parts of the body (as in kissing and licking) is usually not considered oral sex.

 

People may engage in oral sex as part of foreplay before sexual intercourse, or during or following intercourse. It may also be performed for its own sake.

 

 

It also shows this lovely picture: (Not really the type of picture that we want to see! )

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Hayez02.jpg

 

 

 

 

Other resources define oral and oral sex as a type of foreplay...and foreplay is usually defined as human sexual behavior. Foreplay is a set of intimate psychological and physical acts between two or more people meant to create and increase sexual arousal, in anticipation of sexual intercourse.

 

 

 

SO!

 

 

I can see why the lines on oral and sex, or oral sex and sex, or oral sex and intercourse are blurred.....it is because the act and very nature of SEX is complicated...and...in my opinion wonderfully complicated

 

 

If I had to pick one as the original post asks...oral or sex...I will take what ever I can get!

 

 

P.S.

 

How do I define Sex or Oral....especially GAY sex and GAY oral..........AWESOME! (I live in Los Angeles so I can use that adjective!)

[instudiocity]

A Paraphrase?

 

Some Supreme Court Justice in writing about pornography said, "I can't define it but I know what it is."

 

With Oral/Sex, I'm not sure how to define it but I KNOW WHAT IT IS!http://www.companyofmen.org/images/smilies/smile.gif

[JackTwist]

I love to give and receive oral pleasure. But quality fucking is far better, especially when you are both cruising along in perfect rhythm, and your shaft and his ass fit together magically, creating pulse-pounding friction. There's not a better feeling in the world than that one! But, it's not like I would ever say "no" to a hot blow-job either.

[Mark Gordon]

What is sex?

 

A recent study by the Kinsey Institute has found that there is no broad consensus among Americans regarding what constitutes sex:

 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20152093

[NYTomcat]

A recent study by the Kinsey Institute has found that there is no broad consensus among Americans regarding what constitutes sex:

 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20152093

 

We are right back to the supreme court and defining porn:

 

I'll know it when I see it "or feel it" Hallelujah

[justaguy]

Thanks for the article and its interesting statistics. It seems that 'sex' is just about as personally defined as 'sexy'.

[Guest OCBeachbody]

Yeah like many here I would have to say oral is sex.......

Oral for me cause its convenient and I can do other things like

watch a movie, do reports, play a video game (yeah... that was fun...lol), well you get the picture... and as my buddies say it is a great way to shut someone up....lol

 

WOW... that was a lot of personal info. Good thing I have a long break today...lol

[JackTwist]

Oral IS Sex

 

I agree: Oral IS Sex. And I like it a lot--giving and receiving. I just don't understand or buy into the rationale that sucking your partner's genitals and/or eating his butt isn't having "sex."