Your thoughts ?

[OceanTraveller]

I was reading a blog of an escort that I have thought about seeing . He wrote in his blog of going on a call and was surprised to see that the client was young and muscular and that was nice . He had expected that the client would look like Woody Allen. Would it bother you as a client to read this ? Does it convey a lack of respect for clients that may be older ? I am in my late fifties so I am somewhat conscious of my age. One of my last escorts put me down ... he said things that were hurtful like " when I get turned on " blah blah blah and othet things that I don't want to think about .. and showed further disrespect by answering his cell phone a lot . I'm trying to look for the signs of this kind of thing before I hire now . What are your thoughts ..am I being too sensitive here ?

[EXPAT]

This is a great example of "kids" not understanding the impact of social networking tools like blogs, twitter, Facebook etc. When you document everything that you are thinking and doing, you risk major consequences in your business etc. In this case, potential clients/customers are reading his social networking conduit and the consequences might be offending someone that might hire him. I really think that everyone who use these tools need to fully understand and think through the potential impact of anything that they may write.

 

In this case, you are absolutely right to be concerned. It should all be about the client experience and if you think he isn't going to be in to it, then chances are you will be distracted wondering what he is thinking all the time. I would be cautious.

[Guest Musclestudoh]

IMHO I feel it is disrespectful and it troubles me as an escort to hear these types of situations. It actually shows a lack of professionalism and respect for what I am sure are the majority of his clients. This could really impact his future opportunities as very few of us want to be made to feel degraded or less than. (I would venture to say, as I am no expert in this type of scene, that even dominant and S&M scenes still have some form of respect and integrity.) Attitude is very important....or lack of attitude that is.

It can be very entertaining and enlightening to follow the lives of people with all of the social networking options out there now. I myself have found Twitter and really enjoy letting people know little snippets of my life. But I am very aware of my audience and am careful to sensor anything that could alienate anyone. Although we have certain thoughts and opinions when it comes to business you ABSOLUTELY should be aware of your audience.

 

It's a shame that you had to endure that type of experience. At least now you know so you can make more informed decisions about which guys you hire.

You should definitely ask what their demeanor or attitude is towards whatever concern you have if they aren't initially forward about it.

At least you found out before rather than after. Even if you proceeded with seeing this person the "seed" would already be planted and you would question his sincerity. My 3 cents worth!

I was reading a blog of an escort that I have thought about seeing . He wrote in his blog of going on a call and was surprised to see that the client was young and muscular and that was nice . He had expected that the client would look like Woody Allen. Would it bother you as a client to read this ? Does it convey a lack of respect for clients that may be older ? I am in my late fifties so I am somewhat conscious of my age. One of my last escorts put me down ... he said things that were hurtful like " when I get turned on " blah blah blah and other things that I don't want to think about .. and showed further disrespect by answering his cell phone a lot . I'm trying to look for the signs of this kind of thing before I hire now . What are your thoughts ..am I being too sensitive here ?

[+ Charlie]

I agree that as a good businessman, he ought to have thought about the effect what he said in his blog might have on potential clients--he has not yet learned to think like a careful politician (but then, neither has Joe Biden). On the other hand, what he said sounds to me like a pretty normal reaction. I don't expect that most escorts--or any other gay man--would prefer me to a young, muscular stud, any more than I would prefer Woody Allen to a young, muscular escort. As many escorts have said here over the years, a good escort manages to find something sexy about any kind of client, but that doesn't mean that the client is the kind of man he would prefer to have sex with if he weren't performing a service for money. It's OK to convince yourself that the escort is turned on by yours truly during the appointment (and you shouldn't hire someone who makes it clear that he is NOT turned on by yours truly, unless you are a certain kind of masochist), but if you have to believe that he would genuinely rather be with you than with anyone else in order to enjoy yourself, then you are likely to be disappointed, unless he is a very good liar.

[Guest EuropTravl]

I remember reading a review from an older gentleman who felt patronized by the escort and his "oh, you're so hot, so hot" and the gentleman wrote "I'm in my 70s, and not 'hot'".

I saw his point. I also remember an ABFab episode where Eddy and Patsy ordered escorts for the evening and Eddy was worried about making a good impression and Patsy opined: "Honey, you're paying him. In his mind you're already naked, on the floor, and staked out." So true.

[+ purplekow]

I am in a profession in which I expect to see older people going about the activities of their usual life. When I open the door and there is a muscular stud there, it brings an inner smile to me, even though I am not getting paid to have sex with him. If I was getting paid to have sex with him, I would be absolutely giddy. I am past the half century mark and I remember this song from my childhood, it was true then and it is true now....The old gray mare aint not what she used to be....doesnt mean we can't get out and run with stallions once and again.

[Guest ryan2552]

I agree with a lot of what EXPAT wrote on social networking sites and the younger generation.

 

I doubt that escorts are often hired by young and attractive people.Without knowing the escort and his track record I will say it doesn't sound as if he meant any disrepect to older patrons. I do not feel an escort finds his clients attractive in most cases.

 

We all make comments like, oh he looked better when or doesn't he look younger without the goatee or he is aging nicely. Its human nature.

 

Since you are sensitive about age and what the escort wrote I would suggest not hiring him. As that will be foremost in your mind the entire session. Another alternative might be to contact the escort and ask him straight forward about the comment.

 

Good suject.

[+ ArVaGuy]

My thoughts are “trust your gut” and if you feel that his comments make you uncomfortable then by all means move on to some other escort. There’s ALWAYS another option.

 

He’s entitled to express his thoughts about his experiences on his blog. That he may not realize how such may portray him in a negative light to potential clients is a consequence. The escort will have to learn that discretion and professionalism are highly valued.

 

You mention that a particular escort had put you down and was disrespectful toward you recently and that has made you more self conscious. I hope you’ve submitted a review of the encounter so that others may avoid this escort in the future. If he’s done such to you, he’s likely done it to other clients and will continue with this behavior. That’s the whole purpose of this review site to provide information to fellow clients.

 

Also, I don’t think you are being “too sensitive” in regard to how you feel after such experience. Once stung is twice shy as they say. It’s better to have a longer vetting process and take your time deciding than become enamored with the hot body, handsome face, and large dick. All that nice packaging on the outside can’t make up for personality flaws and a negative attitude about clients. It’s your money and your time ultimately you have to feel comfortable with your choice of escort.

[Luv2play]

There was an episode on Two Men and a Half last night which touched on this question. Alan, the geekish brother to Charlie, the randy stud, wanted to get laid without strings so he decided to hire an escort (female of course). When she appeared she was a little hottie and after requesting the money up front (which of course we gays see as a bad sign), she commenced by jumping on Alan's lap and started kissing him.

 

At this point she started her "ummmm, you're so hot" routine. Alan was having none of it. He broke off the kiss and said that if this was going to work for him, she would have to tone down her talking. So she resumed with something less flattering but still over the top for Alan and again he broke off and told her to tone it down.

 

She then said "oh your lips are so thin and dry" and Alan responded "now your're talking!"!!

[+ newatthis]

I remember reading a review from an older gentleman who felt patronized by the escort and his "oh, you're so hot, so hot" and the gentleman wrote "I'm in my 70s, and not 'hot'".

 

Along those same lines: the very cute dancer at Campus in Montreal who, after spending a long time cuddling and making out with me at the bar, remarked "you look really good for your age." (By that point, I felt comfortable enough with him and liked him enough to explain gently why that was perhaps not the compliment he meant it to be.)

[Guest ryan2552]

Along those same lines: the very cute dancer at Campus in Montreal who, after spending a long time cuddling and making out with me at the bar, remarked "you look really good for your age." (By that point, I felt comfortable enough with him and liked him enough to explain gently why that was perhaps not the compliment he meant it to be.)

If someone told me I look really good for my age I think it is a high compliment. Now if you're 25 and he mentioned that I'd be concerned lol.

 

I tell people all the time they look great at their age, they tend to enjoy the notice.

[+ purplekow]

Seems to me that "you look great" is enough, the qualifer "for your age" is unnecessary. "You look thin" good "for someone who weighs as much as you do" not so much.

[N.N.]

When I was young, scoring a hot guy was not just about enjoying the

sex, it was about the acknowledgement (it was reassuring to know

I was attractive enough in his eyes).

 

I'm middle-aged now, young guys seldom give me a second look, and I

am at peace with that. I'm not looking for an escort to compliment me

that I'm still in shape or anything. Like a lot of things in the escort-client

relationship, it's about communication; I don't expect the escort to read

my mind, and I can find a way to tactfully let the escort know that he

doesn't need to compliment me.

 

Me, I'm just looking for escorts who are adaptable enough that they can

have decent sex (and conversation and so on) with middle-aged men.

They don't have to pretend it's as exciting for them as it would be with

someone who's really their type.

[MsGuy]

There was an episode on Two Men and a Half last night which touched on this question. Alan, the geekish brother to Charlie, the randy stud, wanted to get laid without strings so he decided to hire an escort (female of course). When she appeared she was a little hottie and after requesting the money up front (which of course we gays see as a bad sign), she commenced by jumping on Alan's lap and started kissing him.

 

At this point she started her "ummmm, you're so hot" routine. Alan was having none of it. He broke off the kiss and said that if this was going to work for him, she would have to tone down her talking. So she resumed with something less flattering but still over the top for Alan and again he broke off and told her to tone it down.

 

She then said "oh your lips are so thin and dry" and Alan responded "now your're talking!"!!

 

I'm with Alan (or his writer). Polite, skillful and willing is great. Good conversation skills are a big plus. "Honey, you're so hot," while trying to light my cigarette just makes me feel that I'm being manipulated. And not in the good way.

[stripfan]

I remember reading a review from an older gentleman who felt patronized by the escort and his "oh, you're so hot, so hot" and the gentleman wrote "I'm in my 70s, and not 'hot'".

I saw his point. I also remember an ABFab episode where Eddy and Patsy ordered escorts for the evening and Eddy was worried about making a good impression and Patsy opined: "Honey, you're paying him. In his mind you're already naked, on the floor, and staked out." So true.

 

Great quote. I will remember that one from now on!

 

stripfan