WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER KINKY? WHERE R YOUR LIMITS? ESCORT AND CLIENTS PLEASE REP:Y!!!!!!!!

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Greetings all

 

I love when I read an Escorts Ad/Profile and he says "MILD TO

 

WILD" or "KINK TO CUDDLE" and I always wonder - What does KINK mean

 

to you Mr Escort?

 

 

As I think many of you know from my posts - I Like

 

Top/Botton/Master/Slave/Bed/Bath and Beyond

 

 

For Me KINK as a TOP and KINK as Bottom may be Different

 

KINK to me can mean anything from Rope Bondage to Enforced Enema

 

Retention, Hotwax to Catheter Control, Leash/Collar to Toilet Slave,

 

Spanking to Intrusive Electric Punishment, Piss Kiss to Dog Training

 

Etc.

 

As an ESCORT WHERE ARE YOUR KINK LINES? WHAT WON'T YOU DO?

 

 

As a CLIENT WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER TO BE KINK?

 

As A CLIENT HOW FAR HAVE YOU HAD AN ESCORT TAKE YOU?

 

AND WHO CALLED CALLED FOR A STOP U OR YOUR ESCORT? AND WHY??

 

INQUIRING MINDS WANT TO KNOW!

[R-Sportsguy]

This is a great topic! I remember I was at a muscle site just starting out (not Muscleservice) and they had a forum on 'kinks'. They encouraged people to share their fetishes and promised that they would consider making videos of them. Well, there were some pretty 'hard core' suggestions in my opinion, but to each his own. I posted that I had a foot fetish which included tickling (all body). I was ripped at the board. The moderator told me that my fetish was too 'gay' and numerous posters ranted about how 'sick' it was. I always thought as fetishes go that tickling was pretty mild. The funny part of the thread was that tickling was considered too gay, but posts about barebacking, blow jobs, anal dildos were considered 'masculine'. The guys who ran the site advertised themselves as straight guys. I think this is why I love these forums. I have posted about my fetishes here and have not been ripped. I am also very fortunate to have many of the hot escorts here answer about their ticklishness status and if they were willing to experiment in it without making feel like I am a freak. I am very interested in what the posters here think 'kinky' means related to them.

[whipped guy]

Kinky??? According to Encarta, “kinky” is defined as:

 

Being or engaging in unusual sexual practices that may be considered deviant.

 

Intended to be provocative or sexually alluring, usually by being deliberately unusual or bizarre.

 

Behaving in an unusual, idiosyncratic way

 

Full of tight coils.

 

I think it is important that an individual not feel kinky when doing so-called kink. If something gives pleasure and one or more parties consent to the activity, it should be considered a normal, usual, and natural practice.

 

Now when one feels totally comfortable with one’s sexual proclivities (what ever they may be) one stops feeling deviant, unusual, bizarre, and even idiosyncratic. Now having tried quite a number of things throughout the years (and having refused or had no desire to try certain other activities) I have come to find what might be referred to as a “kink comfort zone”. For example, I am not into being “wet”… but am into certain other “wild” activities that might bee considered “kinky”.

 

Now according to Encarta’s definitions, it seems I have not yet tried anything related to “tight coils” (at least I have no recollection of doing so)… but it certainly sounds like fun and I certainly am willing to give it a try! }(

[uwsman2]

Yes, this is a great topic for conversation. I've seen a video where a tied down guy was worked over with a feather and was absolutely convulsed iin forced laughter. It was hot to watch - I got super hard stroking to it - but I wouldn't want to be on the receiving end. I'd love to be the guy with the feather, though!

 

I've also been curious about how escorts would describe their range of "mild to wild"

[+ Charlie]

"Kink" is whatever turns someone else on, but doesn't turn me on. Whatever turns me on is just natural. (E.g., leather is natural, rubber is kink; dildos are natural, fists are kink; etc.)

[Damascene]

I almost agree with Charlie. Kink for me is a mixture of what society considers taboo and I consider unusual.

 

Leather - Not kinky

Toys - Not Kinky

Dirty Talk - Not Kinky

Watersports - Once kinky, now not to me

Fisting - Kinky

Bondage - Kink

Most role play - not kinky; but some role play is kinky - i.e., Infantilization - Kinky (because not appealing); Partner dressing as a cop - not (because many guys find it appealing)

 

It is a self-defined standard. To me society's lack of approval implies kink to me. One important exception to this is

 

Sleeping with men - Not Kinky; Sleeping with Women - Kinky.

 

To the original question - I let the escort know my limits for a kink session - (in brief) no blood, no shit, no visible marks. I've stopped session that were inching to close to crossing those lines (even in bondage, I can be a bit of an escape artist) and I even tossed one escort out of my apartment. The last one thought my limits were to be tested and overcome and I let him know that I don't cross those lines.

 

That said I am willing to try most things but if it is not doing anything for me, I will let the escort know. Most will switch to something else.

[whipped guy]

Since we are also discussing where to draw the line when getting kinky, I think that a sane place to draw such a line would be where common sense safety issues would come into play. For example, any behavior that could induce bleeding, scaring, burning, hematoma, injury, infection etc. might be considered a logical place to set limits and restrictions.

 

Now it helps if all partners to the activity are on the same page. Still, everyone draws the line of common sense in a different place. I’m sure fellow posters who are not into so-called Kinky activities would draw such a line in a very different location. Plus, everyone has a different risk tolerance factor, plus there are those that unfortunately like to play riskily and daringly. Still, no activity is one hundred percent safe… even walking down the street is not one hundred percent risk free.

 

Once one has found a comfort safety zone it then boils down to that which simply excites and stimulates an individual. Here again communication is the key. Never assume anything. The more communication between partners the more one can relax, enjoy, and take pleasure…

 

For the record my favorites include, but are not restricted to:

Flogging

Paddling

Electrical

Hot Wax

Clothespins

Nipple Clamps

TT and CBT using all of the above

[Louis]

I have always wondered what it would be like to be tied up on a bed or something else. I have no doubt that I could handle cloth pins. It would be to be tied down on a bed, and have a good bottom do his thing.

I'm a pretty mild kind of guy, but who knows with a bit of training anything could happen.

[+ purplekow]

Until I read this, I had no idea how relatively kinky I am.

I never considered light bondage, spanking, paddling, fingering, nipple clamps and torturous nipple and cock play to be kinky. I enjoy feet as much as I enjoy any other part of the body and don't mind at all spending time massaging and sucking feet and I enjoy being on the receiving end. A little role play is fun and hot wax and food also add a dimension that I occasionally enjoy.

I haven't explored real pain, but I have a high tolerance for pain so being smacked on the balls or on the ass can leave them sore the next day but they are quite fun while it is happening. A blindfold or a mask can add a danger without really being physically dangerous. Hot wax is also a now and then treat.

I haven't ventured into fluids and feces and while I wouldn't object to being a watersports top, I have no interest in receiving that kind of attention.

So posters, am I kinky without realizing it? How would you grade me on a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 being vanilla and 10 being newsworthy.

I still think of myself as a 2 or 3.

 

I have never seen a purplekow;

I never hope to see one;

I can tell you anyhow;

I'd rather see than be one

 

Help there is a purplekow in my mirror

[+ Charlie]

2 or 3 sounds about right, if Jeffrey Dahmer is a 10.

[Guest zipperzone]

>2 or 3 sounds about right, if Jeffrey Dahmer is a 10.

 

What if Dahmer was only a 5. What else is out there?

[whipped guy]

RE: How would you grade me on a scale of 1 to 10...?[/font color]

 

Speaking of the numbers game as it relates to S&M, the old Mr. Whip (read the younger version) had this obsession with wanting to be an S&M ten. I consequently scheduled a session where I asked for absolutely no mercy. It was a big mistake. Not only did the guy not rate me a ten (I think he gave me a seven or an eight), but I was so badly bruised physically that I almost wanted to retire from the S&M game entirely. Well after a brief recovery period (and that included some recovery for my bruised ego as well) I decided that the numbers game was just a silly and useless exercise in futility. From then on I came to realize that my only concern should be to traverse that fine line known as the “pain-pleasure zone”. Fortunately I was able to hook up with several guys who were adept at finding that wonderful zone of gratification…

 

So the S&M bottom (is there a pun in there?) line is this… know your limits, articulate them well so your partner can find your “happy zone”, and then simply relax and enjoy the ride. The same would apply to other forms of so-called kink (not to mention vanilla) as well.

 

In the final analysis having fun is what it’s all about... and that's the real bottom line.

[+ Charlie]

Well, an escort once told me about a client who wanted him to take the client out into the desert, chop off his arms, and watch the guy bleed to death. If Dahmer was a 5, that might qualify as at least a 7.

 

Your curiosity about the possibilities is a little scary.

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

>Well, an escort once told me about a client who wanted him to

>take the client out into the desert, chop off his arms, and

>watch the guy bleed to death. If Dahmer was a 5, that might

>qualify as at least a 7.

>

>Your curiosity about the possibilities is a little scary.

 

 

Charlie - What your Escort Friend described was not KINK - It was

 

Suicide/Murder by Escort. It ranks on a kink scale from 1-10 as

 

a "300" - As in 300 Dollars per hour of therapy and 300 dollars a

 

month in anti-depressant/antipsychotic prescription medications.

[Guest zipperzone]

>Well, an escort once told me about a client who wanted him to

>take the client out into the desert, chop off his arms, and

>watch the guy bleed to death. If Dahmer was a 5, that might

>qualify as at least a 7.

>

>Your curiosity about the possibilities is a little scary.

 

Really? Believe me, I have no leanings in that direction but I'm always curious about whether what is considered to be the absolute limit, is in fact the true absolute limit. Guess it's just the way my mind works.

[Guest novabear22031]

For myself kink depends on whom I am with...

 

But in the end it also depends on the level of the guy you are with.. some might look at WS as kinky or the norm, same way as with RP or any other variant from what we consider vanilla sex...

 

For me one "kink" I enjoy is VERY hot sweaty sex - I mean that I cranked up the heat in my hotel room to 90 degrees and let the sweat just roll off my buddy ands me...

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Ohhhhhhhhhhh NOVA that is Pit Lickin Good!