Straight acting or not!

[guyinsf]

As others have suggested, how about the term "masculine"? I'm not sure I even know what "straight acting" is supposed to mean, but I can tell you that I haven't heard anyone use the term in many years; I've only seen it in some lame profiles referring to some website that rates men on a "straight acting" scale. Yuck. Perhaps it's because I live in San Francisco where it is much easier to be comfortable being an "out" gay man, but I think more gay men think in terms of masculinity (particularly muscles) than attempting to appear "straight."

 

I do think I've read a few reviews where the reviewers criticized the escorts for being effeminate. I wouldn't advocate for this being a category on the review form, however; I think it makes more sense for someone to include it in their narrative if he thinks it is important. For example, if I hired someone significantly effeminate or hyper-masculine, I would probably comment on that because it would be out of the ordinary. All of the guys I've hired have just seemed "average" or "normal" to me in terms of masculinity.

[Guest jc92103]

Hooboy’s review submission questionnaire asks quite a few questions regarding the physical attributes of escorts. There is one quality that I seldom see mentioned in the reviews. How effeminate acting is the escort? This quality is extremely important to me. I want my escort to be very “straight acting”, I despise that term but it’s the one we all use. I am interested in knowing how other clients feel about this. How would this question be phrased on the review submission form? Do you want your escorts to be “straight acting”, “effeminate” or maybe you have no preference. Should Hooboy add it to the review?

[Rick Munroe]

What's wrong with "masculine"? (I already know what's wrong with effeminate...ha ha). Isn't it "straight acting" to hold your gal's handbag while she tries on a dress, or run into a convenience store to get tampons, or get yelled at for keeping the toilet seat up? Give me a masculine gay, bi or straight man any day (preferably today). Oh and yeah, that's a good idea for the form.

[+ deej]

I actually just had this conversation with a friend.

 

Honey, if you're having sex with men you're not very "straight acting". I don't care if you're so butch you stand around with lit highway flares clenched in your teeth. You're gay!

 

Give me a gay-acting masculine man any day! ;-)

[BuckyXTC]

Guess it depends on whether we're going to have sex in the privacy of my home or a hotel room, or if we're going out to dinner.

 

If our time together is going to be private, it's not much of an issue for me.

 

If we're going to be in a public place, I'd definitely lean toward the masculine type.

 

BuckyXTC

[Guest DCescortBOY]

honey, if he were straight, or even acting straight, he wouldn't be having sex with a man.

taking it up the ass is generally not a straight guy kinda thing.

[BuckyXTC]

>taking it up the ass is

>generally not a straight guy

>kinda thing.

 

Well put, Ethan! No one will ever accuse you of understating things. Still laughing here........

[Guest jc92103]

All of you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about.

[+ deej]

Ethan, you're agreeing with me again. :9

[Guest DCescortBOY]

>All of you know EXACTLY what

>I'm talking about.

 

 

precisely! fucking a woman is about the only thing i can think of that qualifies as ACTING STRAIGHT!

straight refers to sexual orientation. the only way to act out sexual orientation is to have sex.

if all you want to do is watch a man & a woman have sex, why don't you just save yourself a couple hundred dollars & rent a porn?

[Guest DCescortBOY]

hey... no fair calling attention to it!

scarey thing: our posts even SOUNDED ALIKE!

[Matt_Vancouver]

I thought those cocks looked alike: ) Separated at birth?

Staight acting. yada yada. it's all relative. Being percieved as straight is completly different in Toledo as compared to LA, or SF. I laugh everytime I am in SF, and I see some really butch looking stud walking his dog down the street, growling to myself at his sexiness, until he opens his mouth and a string of pearls comes pouring out, and his rhottweiler is named Princess: )

Or meeting someone from a personal ad where they include straight acting in thier profile, and when you are actually face to face, you realize that they are really Martha Stewart.

I prefer Masculine myself, but I have a great friend who is so flaming I feel like I should carry a fire extinguisher when we are out in public. I respect him for who he is, but there is no way I would ever find him sexually attractive.

Matt(yes I've answered personal ads, alright make fun)(comfortable enough with my sexuality, and my masculinity to not give a shit if anyone knows I'm gay, I worried for too many years about that, never again)

 

http://go.to/mattsplace

matt_escort@yahoo.com

[+ deej]

>scarey thing: our posts even SOUNDED

>ALIKE!

 

Not that scary, sweetie. We're both just willing to call a spade a spade.

[+ deej]

<<Or meeting someone from a personal ad where they include straight acting in thier profile, and when you are actually face to face, you realize that they are really Martha Stewart. >>

 

That would be acceptably butch. :9

 

I mean, come on, the woman uses power tools. How butch is that?

 

LOL

[Guest IM_Moore]

>I actually just had this conversation

>with a friend.

>

>Honey, if you're having sex with

>men you're not very "straight

>acting". I don't care if

>you're so butch you stand

>around with lit highway flares

>clenched in your teeth. You're

>gay!

>

LOL

[Guest WetDream]

Any self description -- particularly in a personal ad -- is highly subjective and relative. Remember that old song "you say potatoes and I say potatoes"? Not sure what good it would do on a form. Don't you think this the type of thing that can be determined pretty well in a phone conversation?

[fedssocr1]

I think that the things on the "form" should be the more objective stuff, like what the guy looks like, fees, what he will or won't do. Then the review section is to tell us the more subjective stuff about him in terms of what he's like to be around. I find that as time goes by I care less and less about how "straight acting" or even masculine a guy is. Some of the best sex I have had was with boys who lean more towards the "effeminate" side of the scale. But I generally enjoy them all. If there's a particular scene you want, that's what you need to talk about with the escort in your initial phone or email contact. Hopefully he'll be honest enough to let you know if he can fulfill what you want...or you will be able to tell by his voice how "girly" he is. I can see how if you want to take him out to dinner etc it would be important to you to know how discreet or effeminate he might be. But I think since terms like "straigh acting" and even masculine are so subjective that they should not go on the form.

[+ Charlie]

I suspect most genuinely straight men would much rather take it in the ass than suck cock or--horrors!--french kiss another butch man.

[Guest IM_Moore]

AN UPDATED REVIEW FORM (was)RE: Straight acting or not!

 

Now that HooBoy has some free time I hope that he'll spend part of it on updating the review form. Do we really need to know if the escort is 130 or 135 or is 5'10" instead of 5'9" in EVERY REVIEW? Wouldn't it be more pratical to list the basic stats of each escort such as HT, WT, Hair and Eye color, cut or uncut (I am always amazed to see the various responses to this question for the same escort I would like to see this information be placed on the escorts review page maybe at the top of the page one time and updated as truly needed.

 

What I would like to see on the form is cock size, thickness, top-bottom-versatile, age, contact info & web site link, hiv positive or negative, does escort bareback, s&m-watersports-bondage (no, yes active or passive would be the selection)- does he kiss and body / facial hair if any.

 

Then the essay part of the review followed by the info on the client.

[ready182]

I will stick up for you

 

JC,

 

I agree with you. I think there is a difference between enjoying sucking, top, or bottom, versus wishing you were a girl or acting like a girl. I like my penis and have no desire to have it turned inside out nor have my nuts chopped off -- and I prefer "friends" who feel the same way.

 

Is it me, or is the "effeminate gay" mostly an American thing (not all of us, of course, but some), whereas the European & Austrailian gay guys are more likely to act like guys???

 

<oh no, here it comes ...>

[Guest DCescortBOY]

RE: I will stick up for you

 

nahh... i know plenty of really girlie boys in london, zurich, & geneva.

[Guest WetDream]

RE: Oh NO! Another Limerick

 

When all of the late drinkers are fem,

And your closing time prospects seem grim,

All those guys you decline

To go home with at nine

Look simply gorgeous at three a.m.

[Bilbo]

RE: I will stick up for you

 

There is also a lot of difference between being nelly and wishing you were a woman, believe it or not. Most of the drag queens I have ever met were more butch in bed than half of the leather men I've known, and I've known a lot of both. Some people like and are attracted to the exotic (like me), some are not (like my lover), some are so in love with the status quo that they don't mind risking being called banal. Which I have probably misspelled, but there you have it.

[Guest DickHo]

The category should be "masculine" and next to it the reviewer would be ask to name a public figure that he considered "masculine": masculine as John Wayne, masculine as Brenda Vaccaro, etc.

[Guest regulation]

I agree, jc. I'm not in the least interested in spending time with men who adopt the speech or mannerisms our society normally associates with women, and I suspect many men with homoerotic desires feel the same way. It's been a long time since I've seen a personal ad describing or seeking someone who is NOT "straight-acting" or "masculine." Or an escort ad, for that matter. How many escorts advertise themselves as "feminine"? If they thought their clients considered that quality desirable, I assume they would mention it.