no show escort for weekend trip

[+ cougar]

Need your suggestions on how I should respond following a no show on the escorts part for a planned weekend trip. This escort and I have had 19 dates since January of this year, including a trip together this past summer. Needless to say, we have a very established client/escort relationship.

We had planned a trip together this weekend. But when I got on the jet to join him on this connecting flight, he wasn't there. Since I was on the jet, with checked luggage, I would not be allowed to de-plane. At that time, I called his phone and left a message.

When I arrived I went to the ticket counter and they confirmeed that he was a no show for the first leg of the flight and he hadn't gotten on the next flight out of his home city that would be briging him here also. At that time I called his number again and told him I hoped nothing had happened and wanted him to call me. Needless to say, I decided to get the rental car I had reserved and stay in that city overnight instead of driving to our planned hotel which was 3 hours away.

[+ cougar]

part of my previous post didn't post up....what follows is the remaining part of my post....second time is a charm:

 

Need your suggestions on how I should respond following a no show on the escorts part for a planned weekend trip. This escort and I have had 19 dates since January of this year, including a trip together this past summer. Needless to say, we have a very established client/escort relationship.

We had planned a trip together this weekend. But when I got on the jet to join him on this connecting flight, he wasn't there. Since I was on the jet, with checked luggage, I knew the airline wouldn't let me de-plane. At that time, I called his phone, no answer and left a message.

After I completed the flight, I went to the ticket counter and they confirmed that he was a no show for the first leg of the flight and he hadn't gotten on the next flight out of his home city that would be bringing him here also. At that time I called his number again, no answer, and told him I hoped nothing had happened and wanted him to call me. Not knowing what to do now, I decided to get the rental car I had reserved and stay in that city overnight instead of driving to our planned hotel which was 3 hours away.

Here I am 48 hours later, back home after driving back here in the rental car and haven't heard from him, no return calls or e-mails and I haven't called him anymore.

It has been two weeks since our last date and he was still excited about the trip and looking forward to it. Since we haved an established relationship, this no show and no response from him has been tough.

So guys what would you do in following up with this escort? This is out of character for him, he is reviewed here and every reviewer post him as being friendly, caring and one of the best new escorts they had been with. Likewise, I have to agree, otherwise I wouldn't have hired him as frequently as I have. I would never expect this from him, unless something bad has happened that was totally out of his control. I will post a review if I never hear from him, but I have to give him enough time to respond.

[KY_TOP]

> I would never expect this from him, unless something bad

>has happened that was totally out of his control. I will post

>a review if I never hear from him, but I have to give him

>enough time to respond.

 

I think you have answered your own question. Definitely give him time to respond. Escorts are Human just like you and me and things outside their control do happen. Since you have seen him numerous times you would seem to know him well. If he doesn't respond, hopefully nothing has happened to him, or gives no reasonable answer then maybe a Review would be in order. I had an Escort that was in an Auto Accident on his way to the airport earlier this year. I waited over 2 hours at the Airport with no show and no call, I was pretty mad. Then I felt like a jerk when I found out what had happened.

 

Good Luck and don't let your emotions overule clear thinking.

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

I agree with KY. Mix-ups do happen. A trusted escort-friend of mine and I had arranged an appointment to meet at a restaurant first before going back to his apartment. When it appeared as if he had stood me up (which was very unlike him), I was miffed at first. It took several days to get the mix-up straightened up. He and I had gone to different restaurants, I had lost his phone number, and his computer was being repaired (hence no email reply) It all worked out in the end. I hope your situation does too. Please keep us posted as to the results, OK?

[Will]

If you know his real name and where he lives, maybe you should try to find him in a local hospital. If you've had 19 dates with him, it's not really likely that he was blowing you off. On the other hand, if he was, I hope you'll write a review -- BIG TIME.

[+ cougar]

Thanks for the imput. It has been a couple of rough days here not knowing anything. Just wondering, when or if I should make another call to him or send him an e-mail. Still haven't sent an e-mail. If he is okay, he might be too embarassed to answer the call, fearing what might happen. But I sure do want to hear from him to know what really happened and let him know, that yes, this too can be worked out.

[KY_TOP]

> Just wondering, when or if I should make

>another call to him or send him an e-mail. Still haven't sent

>an e-mail.

 

I'd definitely send him an E-mail. It might be easier for him to respond than trying to talk on the phone.

 

It seems you are very attached to this guy. Hope you don't crash and burn on this one. Sometimes we seem to forget that hiring Escorts is mostly a money thing and many Escorts will cut things off if they think a client is getting too close or seem to be "In Love". Part of a good Escort is the make you feel like you are the Greatest thing since Gravy on mashed Potatoes (Did I just have a Dan Qualye moment?), their favorite client, etc... when really it is a money thing.

 

Again, good luck and keep those emotions in check.

[marc anthony]

I would definitely keep trying to contact him (for a reasonable time anyway). He either has had something bad befall him, and he may need help... or after a long and profitable relationship with you, has unceremoniously and uncommunicatively blown you off. I should think you would want to know which.

 

What has also made me curious is how you got the airline to tell you whether he was on the flights or not. The couple of times I have tried to find that out about friends of mine, etc... they always say that is confidential information and they can't reveal it.

 

Anyway, good luck! At this point, don't know what to hope for, because neither explanation is desirable.

[+ cougar]

The airline gave me the information cause I had their handcopy showing that I had purchased the tickets and had the confirmation number that only the purchaser would have

[marc anthony]

>The airline gave me the information cause I had their

>handcopy showing that I had purchased the tickets and had the

>confirmation number that only the purchaser would have

 

Ok... that explains it then.

 

Hope things work out. Like I said, best of luck. I hope the escort is safe and sound, and that your relationship with him is intact, but is seems unlikely that both could be true.

 

:-(

[Guest alanm]

Nearly everyone who has hired escorts has been in a similiar situation. In my case, I had a terrible two days, only to arrive home to find a message on my answering machine (left ten minutes after I started out to the airport) explaining why he had mixed up the exact dates.

 

I then realized that our 'relationship' was far more important to me than to him. So he almost certainly will call you, but think about

investing so much emotional capital in this guys. I am sure he's worth it, but to a lover not a client.

[Luv2play]

This is now a different spin on your story. Why didn't you check your answering machine as soon as you found out he had missed his flight? You waited 48 hours whereas you could have found out about the mixup before the weekend really got started. Had you checked your machine, you might have saved the situation or at least not embarked on your 3 hour drive for nothing. Just my opinion but I would have handled the situation differently, I think.

[Luv2play]

Oops got mixed up with the original poster. ignore my message. I need another coffee to wake me up.

[+ cougar]

Luv2play, yes got to have my caffine before I can even consider functioning in the morning also. However, you did bring up a point I had failed to mention in my post regarding checking my machine at home. Needless to say, I did check it, several times before I made the decision to drive back home. Also, just to let you know, I still haven't heard anything from him and called his phone yesterday again and left a message.

[theDCeBOY]

stop calling him! if something horrid has happened, you're only going to make it worse with repeated calls. send him an email. but, understand that it may well be a couple of weeks before he can answer.

of course, you can try to be devious, create a new email address, send an inquiry under that one, and see if he responds. if he does, you've been screwed over. or, if there is a friend of yours here who has a phone with a different area code, have him try calling ONCE. if he answers, well...

[Guest alanm]

I agree, stop calling or e-mailing him. The ball is now in his court.

 

Either something horrible has happened in his life, or he believes you have taken your dates with him too seriously.

 

In my example above, the escort did call and had no way of knowing that I had already left for the airport (always get there too early) and I would not get his message, but we never had the same relationship again. I suggest you start preparing yourself for the same thing, which is very easy to say but very hard to do. Good luck!

 

Alan

[Guest Merlin]

You didn't tell us whether you had advanced him any part of his fee. If you did, I would say the out look is not good.

[+ cougar]

I agree, the ball is in his court now. I have only made and left three phone messages to him since this happened on Friday. I have yet to send him an e-mail and I am not sure if I want to send him one.

[Jeff]

It doesn't make sense. 19 dates - and not even a phone call? Something must have happened. Don't give up on him.

[theDCeBOY]

send ONE email. explain that you're disappointed that the engagement didn't occur as planned, but--more importantly--you're awfully concerned that something has happened to him. you'll either get a response (might take a while if something really bad HAS happened) or not. i hope you do, but to be honest, i don't think it is likely.

 

best of luck...

[+ cougar]

You guys have been a great resource, as a way to talk this through. But please keep your minds open and thinking and let me know.

I have yet to send him an e-mail, cause I am confident he received my three voice messages and even if he hasn't, he knew the dates of the trip, and I had left him a phone message three days before the trip.

I am beginning to think he really did just blow me off. I know we all have heard of escorts being a no-show for an appointment, but this one is really extreme because of the money I lost and the fact that I was probably his most reliable client. The reason I am beginning to think that he just blew me off was probably pressure from his boyfriend. The escort says on all the sites that he loves overnights and travel, however, I always felt as though his boyfriend was uncomfortable with the attention he was getting from me and other clients. If that is the case, the escort had plenty of time the week of the trip to give me a call and just back out.

For me to post a review as a no show, I see Hooboy requires documentation such as e-mail, confirming the travel plans and sort. However, since I saw this escort so frequently, the only e-mail I have to document it is one with his flight itinerary I sent to him with instructions to print it up dated September 5. We usually just made the plans as we got together so frequently or by phone.

[KY_TOP]

I agree with Ethan and would send him ONE e-mail as he suggested in his earlier post. It may be easier for him than the thought of having to deal directly with you on the phone.I also think If you want, go ahead and sent in a review, after time for him to contact you, and Hooboy can make his decision on whether to post it or not. I'd just mention in the review how you contacted him to make the arrangements. Also, if he does respond to your e-mail asking what happened, and the respond is something negative, then you have something to forward to HB for the review.

[marc anthony]

>I have yet to send him an e-mail, cause I am confident he

>received my three voice messages and even if he hasn't, he

>knew the dates of the trip, and I had left him a phone message

>three days before the trip.

>I am beginning to think he really did just blow me off. I know

>we all have heard of escorts being a no-show for an

>appointment, but this one is really extreme because of the

>money I lost and the fact that I was probably his most

>reliable client. The reason I am beginning to think that he

>just blew me off was probably pressure from his boyfriend. The

>escort says on all the sites that he loves overnights and

>travel, however, I always felt as though his boyfriend was

>uncomfortable with the attention he was getting from me and

>other clients. If that is the case, the escort had plenty of

>time the week of the trip to give me a call and just back out.

>

 

Jealous boyfriend? That is a new twist, and one that opens up all kinds of possibilities. If the phone and computer (and email account) were either owned by the BF or even joint accounts, all of your messages can get deleted, and all of your contact info can get erased.

 

Adding the jealous boyfriend twist? Even the most bizarre thing you can imagine is fair game now!

[+ cougar]

Yes, a jealous boyfriend does present a whole new twist. However, I know for a fact that the cell phone the escort uses, is his private cell and only used by him and he has assured me several times that his boyfriend does not read his personal e-mail that is sent to his escort homepage. Additionally, he started escorting after he and boyfriend had been together for one year, and has even told me that it was his boyfriends idea for him to start escorting.

[+ cougar]

I finally hear from the escort

 

Since it looks like alot of people are following this developing story, I have finally heard from the missing escort.

He didn't make contact with me until after, I sent him my first and only e-mail. The e-mail was very sweet and apologized many times for missing the planned trip. He told me something very serious came up, and he is safe, but didn't not go into detail. He says that he will bring me up to date very soon. Needless to say, I was happy to hear from him, and he admitted that he was afraid to answer my three calls because he knew how much we both wanted to take this trip.