Mingleo

[ericwinters]

I’m not totally sure this is the right place for this topic, so feel free to move it and gently educate me if needed. 🧐

Facebook keeps serving me ads for Mingleo, and I’ll admit… I’m intrigued. I’m also a little skeptical because I haven’t found much real feedback about it. Honestly, this might be the first post on here discussing it at all.

From what I can tell, it’s not a hookup app — more of a platform meant to help gay men build meaningful, real‑life connections outside the usual bar or hookup‑app circuit. That idea appeals to me. I’ve never had a big circle of gay friends; a few here and there [and many were older and now gone], but never that “pack” you see some guys have. As I get older, I’m realizing I’d really like to build a small circle of genuine connections.

So I’m curious: has anyone here tried Mingleo? Any first‑hand experiences, impressions, or even one‑off feedback you’d be willing to share with the group?

[CheckCar]

Bumping. I, too, am curious about others’ experiences with Mingleo. It sounds like a cool idea, but since the ads I’ve seen have featured conventionally attractive guys in their 30s (and maybe early 40s), I wonder how different (if at all) it is from looks-based hook up apps.

[+ Just Sayin]

I am seeing posts on my Instagram feed too and some of them appear to be using older men;  it's similar to posts I've seen for straight young people; I always hesitate to go to gay bars but this could be a better alternative; if someone goes to one, keep us posted, please

Edited May 16 by Just Sayin

[CheckCar]

Bumping to see if anyone has tried Mingleo

[Nightowl]

On 5/13/2026 at 7:14 AM, ericwinters said:

. As I get older, I’m realizing I’d really like to build a small circle of genuine connections.

I am feeling the same way.  Casual connections are easy; genuine connections are hard.  I want a group of men I can be honest with and talk about more than “things” like sports, movies, and the like.  I feel the need for a genuine bond.  I’ll be very interested in hearing whether Mingleo helps facilitate that.

[Heart It Deep]

I have been to a few events..  Very mixed experience.  Not really any good connections so far.

[Reggyreg56]

3 minutes ago, Heart It Deep said:

I have been to a few events..  Very mixed experience.  Not really any good connections so far.

Can you share more about your experience? Why was it a mixed bag for you?

[Heart It Deep]

Dinners are 6-8 people.   Issues with no shows.  

First Dinner:  2 No Shows.  

Second Dinners, 6 No Shows.  Was basically a blind date with one. 

Third Dinner:  I cancelled because location was remote staten Island.....

Third Real Dinner:  A couple of no shows.  

 

Other Issues:  People are still very fake:  

First Dinner:  Everyone was like "OMG, I had such a good time."  Then people didn't ask to connect after, or said they did and never answered follow up textss. 

Second Dinner:  success with the 1 person.  We bonded over the 6 no shows, and have some things in common.  We keep in touch a bit. 

Third Dinner:  Of the 3 other people who were there, I said I wanted to trade info with all of them.  Only 1 person responded as a match.  Everyone else was very friendly, and overly nice.  So being fake.  

That's it in a nutshell.  I have dietary restrictions, so what I can eat at these functions is limited.  They aren't considering that.  I also don't drink, so Mocktails for me. 

[Danny-Darko]

7 minutes ago, Heart It Deep said:

Dinners are 6-8 people.   Issues with no shows.  

First Dinner:  2 No Shows.  

Second Dinners, 6 No Shows.  Was basically a blind date with one. 

Third Dinner:  I cancelled because location was remote staten Island.....

Third Real Dinner:  A couple of no shows.  

 

Other Issues:  People are still very fake:  

First Dinner:  Everyone was like "OMG, I had such a good time."  Then people didn't ask to connect after, or said they did and never answered follow up textss. 

Second Dinner:  success with the 1 person.  We bonded over the 6 no shows, and have some things in common.  We keep in touch a bit. 

Third Dinner:  Of the 3 other people who were there, I said I wanted to trade info with all of them.  Only 1 person responded as a match.  Everyone else was very friendly, and overly nice.  So being fake.  

That's it in a nutshell.  I have dietary restrictions, so what I can eat at these functions is limited.  They aren't considering that.  I also don't drink, so Mocktails for me. 

My rule of thumb is I make people R.S.V.P. If there are no replies and/or any no shows, I don't invite again and scratch them off my invitation list. If people can't be bothered with manners and basic formalities, then I can't be bothered with them. I understand your frustration. I stopped trying years ago to make social gatherings and connections in the gay "community". It just never really worked out for me even if there were a gathering or two when most showed up once or twice. People really are such flakes and it is comon too! 😟

[Heart It Deep]

42 minutes ago, Danny-Darko said:

My rule of thumb is I make people R.S.V.P. If there are no replies and/or any no shows, I don't invite again and scratch them off my invitation list. If people can't be bothered with manners and basic formalities, then I can't be bothered with them. I understand your frustration. I stopped trying years ago to make social gatherings and connections in the gay "community". It just never really worked out for me even if there were a gathering or two when most showed up once or twice. People really are such flakes and it is comon too! 😟

Good news is.  For this app.  You rate everyone after.  If they didn't show up, there is a "no show/this person wasn't present" option.  

I emailed tech support after the time only 1 person showed for the second dinner.  They said, they ban you temporarily or forever depending on your record.

So there are reprucussions for no shows.

[+ Just Sayin]

7 hours ago, Heart It Deep said:

Dinners are 6-8 people.   Issues with no shows.  

First Dinner:  2 No Shows.  

Second Dinners, 6 No Shows.  Was basically a blind date with one. 

Third Dinner:  I cancelled because location was remote staten Island.....

Third Real Dinner:  A couple of no shows.  

 

Other Issues:  People are still very fake:  

First Dinner:  Everyone was like "OMG, I had such a good time."  Then people didn't ask to connect after, or said they did and never answered follow up textss. 

Second Dinner:  success with the 1 person.  We bonded over the 6 no shows, and have some things in common.  We keep in touch a bit. 

Third Dinner:  Of the 3 other people who were there, I said I wanted to trade info with all of them.  Only 1 person responded as a match.  Everyone else was very friendly, and overly nice.  So being fake.  

That's it in a nutshell.  I have dietary restrictions, so what I can eat at these functions is limited.  They aren't considering that.  I also don't drink, so Mocktails for me. 

I'm disappointed to learn this; I had higher hopes for this type of event, and if this is the norm, darn!

[Heart It Deep]

2 hours ago, Just Sayin said:

I'm disappointed to learn this; I had higher hopes for this type of event, and if this is the norm, darn!

It could be an age thing.  

My understanding is that they group you with people around your own age.  

At the dinner I was at last week, there were 3 groups seated at 1 spot.  Your email said which group you were in.  One of the three groups looks significantly older than me.  Perhaps depending on your age, you'll have better luck?

[wsc]

12 hours ago, Heart It Deep said:

Good news is.  For this app.  You rate everyone after.  If they didn't show up, there is a "no show/this person wasn't present" option.  

I emailed tech support after the time only 1 person showed for the second dinner.  They said, they ban you temporarily or forever depending on your record.

So there are repercussions for no shows.

Do they even care?

[wsc]

3 hours ago, Heart It Deep said:

It could be an age thing.  

My understanding is that they group you with people around your own age.  

At the dinner I was at last week, there were 3 groups seated at 1 spot.  Your email said which group you were in.  One of the three groups looks significantly older than me.  Perhaps depending on your age, you'll have better luck?

Absolutely true! My first meet-up was a soiree at a funeral home to learn about casket options.