“Buyers remorse” when hiring providers

[JungleForest]

Hi, has anyone else felt as I’ve described above? Sometimes I feel a bit overwhelmed by choice and just am unsure about hiring due to inexperience and I hire someone that ends up not working out as much as I hoped.

Any tips on having a better “picker”?

[ShortCutie7]

Yes, but in all cases the remorse had nothing to do with my ability to pick, and I felt that the result was “meant to be”, eg in case 1 I was not meant to have sex that night and in case 2 I was meant to end up having a lot of fun with a guy who wasn’t on top of my “list” because the first choice didn’t work out.

[Mark_fl]

I've had buyers remorse 2 of the 4 times when choosing a shorter session. Both providers disappointed me. One wasn't professional, and the other seemed perfunctory and watched the clock.

The two overnight sessions I had were great, so maybe for me being able to take my time, relax, and not just feel like one and done help.

The other two short sessions were good, but even those disappointed in a way. One didn't do what we discussed and claimed he didn't see the text. The other seemed to have reservations on the second visit doing what he did on the first visit, kind of like he offered things to get me to come back.

But mostly now I know what I want and need to have in order to have a good time, so I'll be more clear when screening and lean toward fewer meets, but when I'm able to spend the night. 

[Mark_fl]

7 hours ago, JungleForest said:

Hi, has anyone else felt as I’ve described above? Sometimes I feel a bit overwhelmed by choice and just am unsure about hiring due to inexperience and I hire someone that ends up not working out as much as I hoped.

Any tips on having a better “picker”?

If you tell us what your disappointments were, we can be of more help. Without that information,  I would say that after you filter down the guys you physically like, read profiles and text them. See who seems friendly and wants to please you vs. those who autoreply with rates and nothing else, have rigid rules and act like they're doing you a favor.

[Nue2thegame]

I think it’s understandable to be overwhelmed and feel inexperienced initially. Part of the fun is finding out what you like and what really works for you in a provider. When you find those men, having had some unsatisfactory experiences makes you appreciate them more. I would select the next one by prioritizing what you really want from a provider and then read his reviews. If a provider has been reviewed by someone that syncs with your preferences and views, go with that. You’ve already learned some valuable lessons and going forward you should be in a better position to make some great choices. Happy hunting!

[jmichaeliii]

Unfortunately you are going to have some of those as you feel your way through what you like in a provider.  I think we have all experienced this, and I don't know if I would call it remorse versus learning.  What you or I may love in a provider, another person does not value and vice versa.

What I will say is when you find one that really turns you on, hire him more than once.  I have found that if things seem to be good from meet number one, they only get better as you learn about and get comfortable with each other.