How not to get on one’s good side as a potential client

[JB_Studio38]

I posted on a different platform about how unreliable dudes tend to be over the holidays (both gay and straight alike), and it always seems like clockwork…when it’ll go down. Despite my best attempts, some of them manage to go along with pretending to book but then don’t. 

But 2 examples: a previously met 1st time client who did everything right the first meet couple weeks ago, I touched base with Saturday. We been occasionally in touch. I casually ask around 1 p.m. (afternoon) if he may be in my area and that I’m open to connect if so. No response, no worries. But then 2 in the morning and I see a text and email response asking if I’m in town. I respond back first thing when I see it, although it was about hour and half later (I’m normally not up at 3:30 a.m. but I decided to catch up on manscaping lol). I also normally don’t take same day meets after midnight much. However, no response then or the next day. I don’t want to kick him off just yet, but why hit me up hours later, when he could have just responded earlier and made something happen seamlessly.

Then another is pretending to book me yesterday. Doesn’t want to exchange numbers as instructed. I’m sending location where to meet for incall on the app we’re communicating on. Then no response. So I unsend the message and block him. Not the first time he’s played around with me either.

Then another client contacting me to play in his truck, and he not only tried to game me into thinking other “models” talk explicit when giving out rates: he goes on to say “well I only feel okay playing in my semi because of my anxiety I don’t want to meet anywhere else”. I ask to see where he’ll be so I can check what hotels may be near him, no reply. Because no way am I going to go meet in some randos truck.

All of that after a disagreement with another guy I been seeing casually who’s not a client, after he showed for the 3rd time this year, to not be reliable to pay his share when trying to travel with. So I told him it’s over with. I also told myself the other day that I really rather only see clients to meet both my dating and sexual needs…but goddamit it makes it hard to consider when half of em out there, can’t be relied on when I have the time available.

As a joke: has anyone gay explored being straight? I know we often hear it going the other way around lol. But I’m starting to wonder if I should switch teams. Dealing with dudes some days, is like a city having a losing NFL streak 🙈 It’s like they do things to push me to the edge 🧗🏾‍♂️ but then can’t handle the fallout it brings.

 

[+ Gar1eth]

It's a funny business. Part of it is probably the impersonality of the cyberworld. Similar to the way people might do things in a crowd that they'd never do around people they know.  
 

The other part is that since meeting like this are usually on the "down low" normal life can interfere. And then there's the issue of libido. Someone around midnight feels horny. It takes an escort an hour or two to get back with you because they have a life too. And by then the urge or opportunity has passed. 
 

 

@JB_Studio38-one question  is there a reason you don't list your ad as an automatic signature in your posts? Possibly you've listed it before and I've missed it. And I have to admit, I can't hire. So posting it is not going to get me as a client. But there might be other Message Center members on here that having your ad listed would make them think of hiring you. 

[Nightowl]

On 12/1/2025 at 9:05 AM, JB_Studio38 said:

As a joke: has anyone gay explored being straight? I know we often hear it going the other way around lol. But I’m starting to wonder if I should switch teams.

 

As a man who lived as straight for decades, suspecting I was bi and only in the last few years realizing I am gay, I don’t recommend the team switch.  Now that I’ve discovered the marvels of playing with the male anatomy, the female anatomy holds no attraction.  You’d probably be disappointed.

[JB_Studio38]

1 hour ago, Gar1eth said:

It's a funny business. Part of it is probably the impersonality of the cyberworld. Similar to the way people might do things in a crowd that they'd never do around people they know.  
 

The other part is that since meeting like this are usually on the "down low" normal life can interfere. And then there's the issue of libido. Someone around midnight feels horny. It takes an escort an hour or two to get back with you because they have a life too. And by then the urge or opportunity has passed. 
 

 

@JB_Studio38-one question  is there a reason you don't list your ad as an automatic signature in your posts? Possibly you've listed it before and I've missed it. And I have to admit, I can't hire. So posting it is not going to get me as a client. But there might be other Message Center members on here that having your ad listed would make them think of hiring you. 

 

Exactly 👍🏾 All of that being understood, yet it doesn’t necessarily get easier. I try to be understanding and forgiving to an extent, but some out there…it’s like if they expect respect, it needs to be reciprocal. I especially dislike the ones who try to compare me to other providers: most of whom I don’t know, never worked with and probably will never meet. 
 

8 minutes ago, Nightowl said:

As a man who lived as straight for decades, suspecting I was bi and only in the last few years realizing I am gay, I don’t recommend the team switch.  Now that I’ve discovered the marvels of playing with the male anatomy, the female anatomy holds no attraction.  You’d probably be disappointed.

Good insight 😆 I would probably have to be in a demi-sexual/pansexual situation if I were to consider that. 
 

But like you, I’m just regular gay and can’t quite see that happening yet. Like a hookup app profile I seen the other day, “I’m not into trans. Y’all are beautiful but not my preference” lol

 

[Nightowl]

36 minutes ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Good insight 😆 I would probably have to be in a demi-sexual/pansexual situation if I were to consider that. 

You might need a shot of whiskey too.

[+ Gar1eth]

1 hour ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Good insight 😆 I would probably have to be in a demi-sexual/pansexual situation if I were to consider that.

 

58 minutes ago, Nightowl said:

You might need a shot of whiskey too.

As I'm a 6 on the Kinsey Scale, I'd  have to be comatose. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 12/1/2025 at 8:05 AM, JB_Studio38 said:

As a joke: has anyone gay explored being straight? I know we often hear it going the other way around lol. But I’m starting to wonder if I should switch teams.

If looking for a group of people known for:

- Not changing their mind. 

- Always in the mood to have sex. 

- Not playing mind games. 

Women may be the LAST group you're looking for.

 

[JB_Studio38]

8 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

If looking for a group of people known for:

- Not changing their mind. 

- Always in the mood to have sex. 

- Not playing mind games. 

Women may be the LAST group you're looking for.

 

Lol, I suppose it’s true. The “how to get a woman to be attracted to you” franchise never goes out of business. And they’re also looking for the same. At least with gays, sex is the appetizer not the entree. Fuck first, date after🤪 

Edited December 6 by JB_Studio38