Newbie Question

[Redbook]

2 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

What neighborhood is he in?

I don't remember at this point. It was over a month ago. But he is coming to my city soon, so we will be getting together here:)

[+ purplekow]

Good luck.  It is a bit nerve wracking to hire for the first time and it is also common to get cold feet.  A small glitch, such as being told he is in a bad neighborhood, will sometimes be just push you to cancel.  Meeting in a public space near his place and then having him take you back to his place would have been an option.  In an case, do not let the logistic difficulties you had keep you from working it out.  

[Redbook]

Thanks. I got back to LA and hired someone here, so I now have my first experiences -- and I am ready for more:)

[pubic_assistance]

On 7/14/2025 at 10:02 AM, Redbook said:

some of the locals I knew said it wasn’t a great neighborhood after dark, so I canceled,

 

On 7/14/2025 at 1:47 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

Chicago probably has lots of people who think X place "isn't a great neighborhood after dark." They're usually expressing local prejudices, not reality

If a LOCAL tells you it's not safe to travel somewhere after dark, it's a judgement based ON REALITY. 

People who LIVE somewhere KNOW where to go and where to avoid. 

Don't be like the Columbia University student who felt it was "racist" to assume black people are dangerous so she wandered in a dark park off campus to buys some weed from the local black boys. They collected her remains in a bag from the bushes the following morning. 

All pre-judice comes from pre-vious bad experiences. 

[CuriousByNature]

21 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Don't be like the Columbia University student who felt it was "racist" to assume black people are dangerous so she wandered in a dark park off campus to buys some weed from the local black boys. They collected her remains in a bag from the bushes the following morning. 

All pre-judice comes from pre-vious bad experiences. 

It is definitely racist to assume black people are dangerous.  But it is foolish to wander through a dark park looking for drugs.  That is the issue - she was foolish to be doing that irrespective of anyone's race.

Edited Friday at 03:32 AM by CuriousByNature

[+ KensingtonHomo]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Don't be like the Columbia University student who felt it was "racist" to assume black people are dangerous so she wandered in a dark park off campus to buys some weed from the local black boys. They collected her remains in a bag from the bushes the following morning. 

 

This is literally racist language. Who is this Columbia girl? Is she a fantasy in your head? 

I used to buy from black guys in Bushwick when I was a teenager. A very gay teenager. Never had an issue. Meanwhile a girl I grew up with was stabbed to death by her white drug dealer boyfriend in our white neighborhood. 

[aiseeya]

On 7/10/2025 at 4:36 AM, DrownedBoy said:

Yup, you should ask about each one. Especially the kissing, which escorts don't always provide.

THIS ONE! some providers equate kissing with light peck on the lips or letting the client kiss them whilst they make no effort to reciprocate, its like kissing a pillow

[pubic_assistance]

9 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Who is this Columbia girl? Is she a fantasy in your head? 

Tessa Majors was looking to buy weed before her murder: police union president

Tessa Majors was looking to buy weed before her murder, police union...

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Barnard College freshman Tessa Majors was allegedly in Morningside Park to buy marijuana when she was...

This event launched a whole conversation about the dangers of Liberal color blindness, leading white girls into dangerous situations assuming that crime and color realites of Harlem don't exist if you pretend not to notice.

I REPEAT- Never go somewhere on a hook-up if the locals tell you its unsafe.

Anyway.. we are getting off subject. The question is about the appropriateness of asking an escort about foot fetish services, not just the appropriateness of navigating a sketchy neighborhood ....

I would say that anyone working as an escort is fully aware that men have various kinks that they may be asked to include in a session. So even if the answer is "no"...I doubt anyone is going to be shocked or offended by a request for fetish-play. Your best bet, is always going to be the provider who includes the word "kink" in his profile interests. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

25 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

This event launched a whole conversation about the dangers of Liberal color blindness, leading white girls into dangerous situations assuming that crime and color realites of Harlem don't exist if you pretend not to notice.

This happened 6 years ago. The NY Post is a mouthpiece for the NYPD, who are lamenting that weed was decriminalized. They exploited this poor girl’s murder to ratchet up a culture war issue. There hasn’t been a murder in that park since. This is a horrible tragedy but the number of white girls killed by men they knew dwarfs this one instance.