My complaint about gay escort sites

[Hieralias]

So I'm a straight male who also has an attraction to (and had sex with) pre op trans women. This has also awakened an attraction in me to a specific type of Twink/ femboy type men (early 20s, hairless, very feminine, occasionally crossdresses but still identifies as male (hunnypaint is a great example of a type guy I'd love to bang).

The problem is, it seems 99% of men on escort sites are macho, hairy, muscly men I have zero attraction to.

Are there any sites where we can find more Twink/femboy men? They pop up on trans sites here and there, but still rare. It's very weird to me that there's so few, am I missing something?

I'm in eastern Canada btw.

[+ Just Chuck]

I am attracted to (some) male, female, and intersex people across the entire gender spectrum and with behaviors and presentations that are also across the masculine, feminine, and androgynous range.  I've had to search for the rare combo before also.

On rent.men, or Tryst, the keyword search is your friend.  For the type of person you're looking for, a challenge is all the different cute ways that they spell out slang terms like femboy, fem-boy, femme-boix, femboi, etc.  Searching in all the possible ways might be tedious and require some creativity and web-searches for different slang terms.  Good luck.  In eastern Canada, you might also try some French language terms.  Montreal sure has a really sexy and diverse community!

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

7 hours ago, Hieralias said:

So I'm a straight male...

That shouldn't affect how you search for your type of man to hire.  In all my hiring, I've never been asked to disclose my sexual orientation to the men I hire.

Edited April 17 by Vegas_Millennial
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[+ Gar1eth]

On 4/17/2025 at 3:37 AM, Hieralias said:

 

Are there any sites where we can find more Twink/femboy men? They pop up on trans sites here and there, but still rare. It's very weird to me that there's so few, am I missing something?

I'm in eastern Canada btw.

I don't think it's that weird that there are so few of the type you like at all-at least not here on the N American Continent. I mean it's hard to make monolithic statements but think about this. A lot of us are gay-and many of us are probably far down on the Kinsey Scale ( 0 being totally heterosexual and 6 being totally homosexual). I may be one of the few on here who may be a 5 or 6.  But even for those of 'lesser degree'-it seems to me to make sense that if we aren't into females-we might not particularly be into men who are overly feminine. I for one am not particularly into drag shows  -although  again I might be in the minority. 
 

And of course different cultures may be attracted to different types. Think of all the ladyboys in Thailand. There are obviously men here in the states and Canada that are attracted to them. There are probably even some members here. But feminine guys aren't going to be the majority advertising. 

Edited April 20 by Gar1eth

[pubic_assistance]

On 4/20/2025 at 2:35 AM, Gar1eth said:

different cultures may be attracted to different types.

The masculine / feminine expression is a sexual trigger that varies a LOT for different people and different cultures.

I find that a lot of homosexuals tend to idolize more masculine men who sleep with men... so effeminate twinks are possibly a minority fetish category of what gay men seek.

 

[ShortCutie7]

I’m a Kinsey 6 and honestly don’t care if a guy behaves in a feminine manner; as long as he looks like a man I’m fine… so an effeminate twink would be fine as long as he presents as male.

[Guest]

My attraction to effeminate or pretty men stem from my attraction to females. I wonder if other gay or bisexual men are the same way.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

Popularity of body types trend in and out of style, similar to fashion styles.  Look at 80s/90s pornography and it's all smooth muscle tanned hunks.  90s/00s saw a lot of smooth young twinks.  In the 2010s, body hair and beards became fashionable along with bigger older (over 25+) men.  Now it's fashionable to be covered in tattoos and piercings. 

Some of it has to do with technology (high definition cameras, photo shop, make-up) which affects the look of men in images, but also popular fashion and resemblance to celebrities popular at the time.

The different boddy types of men are all there.  But some men will modify their grooming or workout to focus on what's popular at the moment (waxing or shaving vs natural, working arm/back muscle groups or legs/buttocks, etc.).  Some men probably meet the type you are looking for, but they just aren't posting photographs which accentuate what you are looking for.

[+ Gar1eth]

On 4/17/2025 at 3:37 AM, Hieralias said:

So I'm a straight male who also has an attraction to (and had sex with) pre op trans women. This has also awakened an attraction in me to a specific type of Twink/ femboy type men (early 20s, hairless, very feminine, occasionally crossdresses but still identifies as male (hunnypaint is a great example of a type guy I'd love to bang).

The problem is, it seems 99% of men on escort sites are macho, hairy, muscly men I have zero attraction to.

Are there any sites where we can find more Twink/femboy men? They pop up on trans sites here and there, but still rare. It's very weird to me that there's so few, am I missing something?

I'm in eastern Canada btw.

 

On 4/20/2025 at 1:35 AM, Gar1eth said:

I don't think it's that weird that there are so few of the type you like at all-at least not here on the N American Continent. I mean it's hard to make monolithic statements but think about this. A lot of us are gay-and many of us are probably far down on the Kinsey Scale ( 0 being totally heterosexual and 6 being totally homosexual). I may be one of the few on here who may be a 5 or 6.  But even for those of 'lesser degree'-it seems to me to make sense that if we aren't into females-we might not particularly be into men who are overly feminine. I for one am not particularly into drag shows  -although  again I might be in the minority. 
 

And of course different cultures may be attracted to different types. Think of all the ladyboys in Thailand. There are obviously men here in the states and Canada that are attracted to them. There are probably even some members here. But feminine guys aren't going to be the majority advertising. 

 

On 4/21/2025 at 2:41 PM, pubic_assistance said:

The masculine / feminine expression is a sexual trigger that varies a LOT for different people and different cultures.

I find that a lot of homosexuals tend to idolize more masculine men who sleep with men... so effeminate twinks are possibly a minority fetish category of what gay men seek.

 

I wouldn't say I 'idolize' more masculine men-although if if my only two choices were 'more masculine' and 'more feminine,' I'd pick the more masculine guy every time. What I think I like though in general is more of an average personality. I mean I'm not the most masculine guy myself. But I don't walk down the street skipping with every step only every 3rd or 4th one. 
 

But back to what I do and don't like-I don't like 'hyper-masculine'-the guy with an attitude whose every 3 word is f-ck, sh-t, damn -etc.  But I also don't care to be around drag queens or overly butch lesbians. Give me an average normal guy or one with maybe just a slight weighing of the scale towards the masculine side. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Supply and demand. 

If there was a larger demand for what you're seeking, sites like RM would feature them more prominently.

That's just not the case.

Necessity is the mother of invention:  Start you own twink/fem listing site.

[+ sniper]

What you're looking for seems to be on grindr in the suburbs a lot these days.

[+ Just Chuck]

TS4Rent.eu

Is a site where a number providers who are trans or people  of different gender-identities advertise.  I've only hired from there once.  But I met an absolutely gorgeous trans woman with one of the shapeliest butts that I've ever seen.

[Gerhardjack]

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[+ Just Chuck]

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