romanhayes Posted April 15 Posted April 15 3 hours ago, MmM said: Just a friendly advice, because I've seen this happen many times. Don't dig yourself into a hole. I agree that being physically in shape certainly attracts more people than otherwise. That's a fact. That's why providers who are in shape get more business. That's just part of the equation, though. You're selling a fantasy. The fact that your comments are connected to your escort name (instead of being anonymous... hint) will prevent people who feel undesirable from otherwise hiring you because they will see themselves with the lens you've created with your comments. People want to feel attractive and wanted, and that's why they hire. I get every one's point. But I would suggest for you not to try to defend yourself with your escort name because that will dispel the fantasy of possible clients. You won't change anyone's opinion regardless of how hard you try. I would go as far as deleting your previous comments because people aren't going to read the entire backstory and see that you were only quoting @pubic_assistance. Damage control. I’m not sure if that would be a good move at this point, because this thread will still be out there with my name tied to it. Without my comments defending myself, potential clients will possibly assume bad things about me. At the very least my comments will appeal and be agreeable to some clientele. pubic_assistance and Anthony 1 1
d.anders Posted April 15 Posted April 15 18 hours ago, pubic_assistance said: My comment wasn't directed at anyone. Except all the "fat" gay men out there. 12 hours ago, romanhayes said: Jesus man, don’t be so sensitive. It's a mistake for any provider to use the word "fat" when discussing customers. Some would call that insensitive, others might call it stupid. Even in jest, or playing with another member here, using the word "fat" or "pig" is a bad idea. Never allow a board member to lure you into a verbal trap. 4 hours ago, MmM said: Just a friendly advice, because I've seen this happen many times. Don't dig yourself into a hole. I agree. You responded brilliantly to the OP, but then you began to dig your grave. Not good. BrooklynIrish and pubic_assistance 1 1
romanhayes Posted April 15 Posted April 15 (edited) 44 minutes ago, d.anders said: Except all the "fat" gay men out there. It's a mistake for any provider to use the word "fat" when discussing customers. Some would call that insensitive, others might call it stupid. Even in jest, or playing with another member here, using the word "fat" or "pig" is a bad idea. Never allow a board member to lure you into a verbal trap. I agree. You responded brilliantly to the OP, but then you began to dig your grave. Not good. Well I agree that “fat pig” isn’t a kind term, but it was simply me quoting somebody. One thing that’s strange is the fact that I’m advertising as “straight”. So I’m not actually attracted to any man, doesn’t matter if they are fat, muscular, skinny, young or old. It’s all the same to me. I can perform regardless despite not having an attraction. If somebody sees “straight” and thinks a “straight” provider will be attracted to a male client, then they are delusional. What’s being said in this thread really doesn’t make much sense to me. But I also know what my clients say about me after they meet me in person, I always get told I’m one of the nicer providers they ever met. Doesn’t matter what they look like, I treat everyone the same. If a few harmless comments on a board throw somebody off from wanting to meet me then so be it. Anyways, there seems to be a lot of cognitive dissonance and a deluded sense of reality from a lot of members on this board. I’d rather see clients with a rational and realistic head on their shoulders. Edited April 15 by romanhayes pubic_assistance and lilbyte 1 1
BrooklynIrish Posted April 15 Posted April 15 1 hour ago, romanhayes said: Anyways, there seems to be a lot of cognitive dissonance and a deluded sense of reality from a lot of members on this board. I’d rather see clients with a rational and realistic head on their shoulders. I don't hire straight guys, so there's zero chance we'd meet. That said, you've been doing this for a month or so. Rather than heeding the feedback of multiple long-term clients who've had a variety of experiences, you've jumped on with the one member who shares your biases. And your take on "a lot of members on this board" is much more suited to how you've presented yourself. pubic_assistance 1
d.anders Posted April 15 Posted April 15 1 hour ago, romanhayes said: Well I agree that “fat pig” isn’t a kind term It's far more than unkind. To any human struggling with weight issues, the term is extremely cruel. These are hateful, bully words. There's no other way to spin it. 1 hour ago, romanhayes said: but it was simply me quoting somebody I had no problem understanding that, but 2 wrongs don't make it right. You got sucked in, and now you're left with defending your actions. In the end, you may not want overweight customers, but think of the percentage of men you not-so-quietly insulted here. Not good. pubic_assistance and BrooklynIrish 1 1
romanhayes Posted April 15 Posted April 15 4 hours ago, BrooklynIrish said: I don't hire straight guys, so there's zero chance we'd meet. That said, you've been doing this for a month or so. Rather than heeding the feedback of multiple long-term clients who've had a variety of experiences, you've jumped on with the one member who shares your biases. And your take on "a lot of members on this board" is much more suited to how you've presented yourself. So it’s like you completely ignored the rest of comments in the thread where I heeded the feedback from other commenters and agreed I needed to improve on things. So it’s two things, either you completely lack reading comprehension skills or you’re just one of those people that looks to be offended by every little thing. I think it’s the latter, that’s a sad way to live life, best of luck to you regardless sir. Wish you the best! 3 hours ago, d.anders said: It's far more than unkind. To any human struggling with weight issues, the term is extremely cruel. These are hateful, bully words. There's no other way to spin it. I had no problem understanding that, but 2 wrongs don't make it right. You got sucked in, and now you're left with defending your actions. In the end, you may not want overweight customers, but think of the percentage of men you not-so-quietly insulted here. Not good. I have no problem with overweight clients, I’ve said this multiple times. This is my last response in this thread. Not going to give into attacks over one little word. Have a good one. Anthony and pubic_assistance 1 1
pubic_assistance Posted April 16 Posted April 16 13 hours ago, romanhayes said: At the very least my comments will appeal and be agreeable to some clientele. Absolutely. Not everyone is so easily offended. Obviously you were being humorous when you quoted me. Your ability to stand up for yourself is admirable and very sexy. romanhayes, Anthony, borgerback and 1 other 2 1 1
Becket Posted April 16 Posted April 16 Hang in there @romanhayes. Some of us forget to be polite sometimes. romanhayes and pubic_assistance 1 1
BrklynNYC Posted April 16 Posted April 16 On 4/14/2025 at 12:38 AM, romanhayes said: Next week I will start hosting and doing incalls at a place in the UWS. Needed some time to get things together and thank you! Looking forward to meeting you. 🤞🏼 pubic_assistance, LookingAround and romanhayes 1 1 1
d.anders Posted April 16 Posted April 16 19 hours ago, romanhayes said: This is my last response in this thread. Not going to give into attacks over one little word. Jesus man, don’t be so sensitive. (Sorry, I couldn't resist.) 🥰 romanhayes 1
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