Anyone see someone facing a crisis, but he didn't cancel?

[viewing ownly]

I have fond memories of a masseur I saw around the holidays a few years ago. Getting to his place was a bitch, but I enjoyed my time with him. I of course had no idea that something far more important than me seeing him for an hour was going on - he had had his vehicle stolen the day before, and took a call just before I was leaving from the police who had traced the location of it. 

My focus would only be about worrying what I'm going to do for transportation, and not on seeing clients if I were in his shoes. On the other hand, if I'm stuck at home, I might as well make the most of it. That was his line of thinking. 

[+ purplekow]

Pretty much each of us is in some sort of crisis each daywhich is bubbling under the surface.   Some are big, medical issues etc, some are small, out of milk for my coffee.  Some manage to push on and do what they need to do, and that is what this provider did successfully.  Kudos for him and his ability to concentrate on the job at hand and doing so in a professional manner. 

Edited January 25 by purplekow

[+ JamesB]

If I stopped working every time I faced a crisis, I’d probably end up broke, and being broke certainly wouldn’t help me deal with any crisis.

[dbar123]

I saw a new provider recently who kept me waiting outside for about 20 minutes because he was throwing out his roommate for good. When he finally let me in the place was a mess and he was clearly distracted. We went forward with the session but it was pretty much a disaster. After the allotted 2 hours I got up and got dressed (he clearly wanted me to stay longer while he got his shit together but it was clear that it wasn’t happening). I still paid him his full rate but upon leaving he told me that he never expected to see me again and slammed the door behind me.

As I was walking home he called me and wanted assurances that I was going to use him again. I’m filing the experience in the “one and done” file

[Guest]

A few years ago, I met a provider who had multiple terrible things going on. Thankfully, he gave me a heads up beforehand.

The session went surprisingly well, and we met the following month as well. Meeting under those circumstances takes a high degree of empathy, compassion, and patience. Also, one has to resist the urge of trying to save them and giving them more money.

[jawjateck]

This sums up why I curtailed hiring years ago. Too many providers with too much "stuff" going on in their personal lives. I certainly don't want to pay to bring that "stuff" into my life.

[marylander1940]

On 1/25/2025 at 12:52 AM, viewing ownly said:

I have fond memories of a masseur I saw around the holidays a few years ago. Getting to his place was a bitch, but I enjoyed my time with him. I of course had no idea that something far more important than me seeing him for an hour was going on - he had had his vehicle stolen the day before, and took a call just before I was leaving from the police who had traced the location of it. 

My focus would only be about worrying what I'm going to do for transportation, and not on seeing clients if I were in his shoes. On the other hand, if I'm stuck at home, I might as well make the most of it. That was his line of thinking. 

 I know a local escort who had a client a couple of hours after he was informed of the death of his father. Years before a dog named after him by a client died after eating drugs left by another escort, he didn't cancel n his appointments that day either and cry later. 

[viewing ownly]

1 hour ago, marylander1940 said:

 I know a local escort who had a client a couple of hours after he was informed of the death of his father. Years before a dog named after him by a client died after eating drugs left by another escort, he didn't cancel n his appointments that day either and cry later. 

I feel naming a dog after a provider and telling him so is, how can I put this, ruf. 

[CuriousByNature]

3 minutes ago, viewing ownly said:

I feel naming a dog after a provider and telling him so is, how can I put this, ruf. 

And how did he call him at the dog park?  "Here boy! C'mon 9inchHotStud!"