How to know the "signs" that the masseur will provide extras

[Guest]

Hey there.

i get that if i book with rentmasseur or masseurfinder, it will show if they provide erotic/sensual.

but I've had a couple massages at other places I either found through recommendations or just store fronts, where I felt like there was some sexual tension and maybe some signals that the guy wanted to touch me or have me touch him. But I couldn't tell for sure if I was reading the signs right, so I didn't do anything, for fear that I was wrong and didn't want to cause a scene if I tried something.

So, what are the signs in a massage that the masseur wants to do something more? And what signs can I give?

[Nightowl]

1 hour ago, JD-Angel said:

Hey there.

i get that if i book with rentmasseur or masseurfinder, it will show if they provide erotic/sensual.

but I've had a couple massages at other places I either found through recommendations or just store fronts, where I felt like there was some sexual tension and maybe some signals that the guy wanted to touch me or have me touch him. But I couldn't tell for sure if I was reading the signs right, so I didn't do anything, for fear that I was wrong and didn't want to cause a scene if I tried something.

So, what are the signs in a massage that the masseur wants to do something more? And what signs can I give?

We all suffer from that same dilemma with a new masseur.  The first sign that something more could happen might be if you discover his hard cock right next to your hand on the table or if he maneuvers it into your hand.  Better yet if you discover his cock near your mouth.  If he was clothed when the massage started but is eventually naked, another sign.  Signs that you are up for more will probably be dictated by your body.  If he touches the right places you’ll get a hard-on, which he will notice.  If you’re lying on your stomach and he’s massaging your inner thighs, raising your hips to give him access to your cock also signals openness to extras.  Even with all of this, there’s no guarantee he will be as open to extras as you are since he may have four massages scheduled that day.  I once tried the direct approach once I was naked on the table: I asked him what the rules were.  He said “there are no rules.” Music to my ears.

[56harrisond]

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[Guest]

2 hours ago, 56harrisond said:

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Thanks! i Hadn't seen these other threads before. Good info

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 12/20/2024 at 6:27 PM, Cdog123 said:

I feel like my masseur gives me signs he is willing to provide extras: he lets his elbow go between my cheeks, brushes across the tip of my dick; now, I was wondering how I could ask him for further services. I worry that it could end badly and he may refuse to massage me in the future. 

When a massuer sticks his finger in my ass, at that point I believe the odds are in my favor to ask for more.  So, I promptly let him know that he his welcome to insert more.

Edited January 21 by Vegas_Millennial

[Simon Suraci]

I enjoy it when clients give me their clear, enthusiastic consent. The more ways you can indicate you like what is happening in the session, the better. For example:

Moans, groans, gasps, whimpers, swearing, and other vocalizations expressing your pleasure. These are the best. It makes it very clear you are enjoying yourself and want more. It’s more difficult to misinterpret these than anything else.

Changes in your breathing. I don’t mean falling asleep, per se, but that is fine too. Short intense breaths when you’re excited, or long intentional breaths when you’re focused on relaxing your body, like a meditation. Heavy sighs. Vocalizations with your breathing and sighs.

Raising your hips, when face down or face up. It doesn’t take much to get the message across. You can be subtle. Shift the angle of your hips, arch your lower back a little. Shift slightly from side to side. Some men are extreme about this. I call it stink bugging, and it’s comical. Some go so extreme they end up on all fours. You don’t need to go that far. With your hip signals, go for the verbal equivalent of a whisper rather than a scream.

Adjusting your cock downward when face down to provide access. Or start on the table positioned this way. Many of my clients do.

Squeezing my hand when I am holding yours. Interlocking fingers.

Reciprocal touching when my body is on/near your hand, like brushing against my torso or lightly stroking my cock.

Gently touching my legs or other parts of my body. Not “grabbing”, aggressively “pulling”, scratching, slapping, etc. Gentle, sensual touch is best.

Even better when clients verbalize directly like, “Is it ok to touch you?” or “I like that.”

I’m sure I’ll think of more. There are so many ways to indicate interest and pleasure. Lots of subtle cues.

Masseurs willing to do more on the sensual and erotic spectrum will clearly get the message and indulge you. Those who won’t will refrain, but it’s pretty hard to misinterpret all these signs.

When your masseur is not responding in any way to your cues, it means he is not going there. Let it go and move on. Enjoy the massage for what it is.

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Simon Suraci said:

 

Masseurs willing to do more on the sensual and erotic spectrum will clearly get the message and indulge you. Those who won’t will refrain, but it’s pretty hard to misinterpret all these signs.

When your masseur is not responding in any way to your cues, it means he is not going there. Let it go and move on. Enjoy the massage for what it is.

This was crazy helpful. If I book on rentmasseur or masseurfinder, I always make sure ahead of time that they do erotic/sensual. But your explanation is very helpful for the times when I've booked through other organizations, like MassageBook, and I have a HUNCH that the guy might be willing, but I don't know for sure, so I have to figure it out during the appointment!

[jmichaeliii]

When meeting a new provider, I think it is so great to not know the possibilities ahead of time.  You can kind of figure some things out from pictures and how a profile is written.  

I never ask ahead of time, but if I think there is a possibility, maybe its a gentle touch when they are in front of you or how you react to something they did to you.  

For me, I really like the surprise and where things go.  My favorite is when the masseur asks me if anything is off limits before they start.  Then you know a good time is gonna happen!