jsn102 Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 Very new to the board, so apologies if this is in the wrong section - please do tell me where to move it, if that's the case. NYC-based here. My wife's hit menopause and her sex drive has dropped to zero, but I've been given a hall-pass to explore my bi-side. Was wondering what people think about erotic massages as a way to dip my toe in the water. And, related to that, how does one go about discussing 'extras' with a masseur without causing offense? As you can imagine, I'm very new to this! Any advice/recommendations would be much appreciated. Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 I think massage is a great way to explore, since it's primarily service oriented without too many expectations on your side. Discussing extras is always a case by case with a provider...so I would suggest you find a provider who you are attracted to, and who offers "erotic" massage. Read the profile and check the reviews. You can normally expect a happy ending hand job with most "erotic" sessions. Beyond that ...it's always best to discuss on a second meet about other extras that might be on a private menu for vetted clients. Medin, + KensingtonHomo, AsianMassLover and 3 others 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MmM Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 Massage is a great way to do it. I suggest ask forum members to determine what the provider is willing to provide , then when you hire, simply ask the masseur if it's ok to touch etc. If you know what the masseur is willing to do, there's no need to be shy; but you have to be respectful. jsn102 and + glennnnn 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gatlin G Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 The erotic massage is definitely the best way to go here. I started recently that way and it was a perfect way to explore. Make sure you check the ads and reviews to see what is offered and then explain what you want to do and that you are new to this. There are a number of guys out there that mention “first timers” in their ad. jsn102 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ glennnnn Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 (edited) I'm currently scheduled for a first erotic massage in a couple of weeks. Check for pertinent topics,/discussions in the December forums- I got plenty of great advice there. Check out "gay massage on line too. Go for it!!!!!!! Message me if you have questions. If it feels good.... Do it! While staying safe. Edited January 3, 2023 by glennnnn jsn102 and musclestuduws 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr.Daddy Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 My usual script when messaging new sensual/erotic masseurs: hey (name), great massage ad on (site)! I love a good massage but am interested in the adding the sensual/erotic element too. What’s that entail for you? Please share your rates and let me know if both nude/mutual touch is cool so we can schedule something soon! Thx jsn102, edgar214469 and mkm556 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsn102 Posted January 3, 2023 Author Share Posted January 3, 2023 43 minutes ago, Dr.Daddy said: My usual script when messaging new sensual/erotic masseurs: hey (name), great massage ad on (site)! I love a good massage but am interested in the adding the sensual/erotic element too. What’s that entail for you? Please share your rates and let me know if both nude/mutual touch is cool so we can schedule something soon! Thx Dr. Daddy, this is great! Thank you so much! I presume that you'd recommend I start looking on RentMasseur (or equivalents) rather than going the Rentmen route? And thank you everyone for the good - and friendly - advice! Dr.Daddy and + db66 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr.Daddy Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 Yea, that’s my suggestion. You should decide based on whether you want a masseur who will be erotic, or if you want an escort who might be good at massage. I think you should start with the sensual/erotic massage route and figure out your likes/dislikes/interests before hiring an escort - but that’s just my opinion! Reading reviews on here of providers in your area will help you decide what’s right for you too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 All good advice here. I’m a masseur and I see plenty of guys who want to explore in a safe environment with another guy. Sensual Massage is ideal for that because you can decide just to enjoy the massage or you can explore further with your masseur. If you choose a good sensual masseur they’ll agree with you beforehand what you’d like to do and they’ll gently lead you on that journey. Ask your masseur about what he’s happy to include in a sensual massage. Don’t feel awkward to ask any question; we’ve heard them all before and no question is silly or off limits. If your request is something your sensual masseur won’t do he will simply say so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harryinny Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 (edited) @jsn102 you are in the right track. I suggest you chose a thirtysomething + masseur that has the qualifications described by my colleagues here. I would suggest https://rentmasseur.com/StrongStrokes, good looking, tall, nice physique, a good therapeutic masseur well know in this forum. However, when you contact him, and WA is ideal, be candid and tell him that you are a newby and want to go very slow. He is a great guy. Edited January 3, 2023 by Harryinny pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rhh33 Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 4 hours ago, jsn102 said: Very new to the board, so apologies if this is in the wrong section - please do tell me where to move it, if that's the case. NYC-based here. My wife's hit menopause and her sex drive has dropped to zero, but I've been given a hall-pass to explore my bi-side. Was wondering what people think about erotic massages as a way to dip my toe in the water. And, related to that, how does one go about discussing 'extras' with a masseur without causing offense? As you can imagine, I'm very new to this! Any advice/recommendations would be much appreciated. Thanks! Enjoy your adventure! I sent you a PM about mine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsn102 Posted January 3, 2023 Author Share Posted January 3, 2023 58 minutes ago, Jamie21 said: All good advice here. I’m a masseur and I see plenty of guys who want to explore in a safe environment with another guy. Sensual Massage is ideal for that because you can decide just to enjoy the massage or you can explore further with your masseur. If you choose a good sensual masseur they’ll agree with you beforehand what you’d like to do and they’ll gently lead you on that journey. Ask your masseur about what he’s happy to include in a sensual massage. Don’t feel awkward to ask any question; we’ve heard them all before and no question is silly or off limits. If your request is something your sensual masseur won’t do he will simply say so. Thank you for the masseur's perspective! I'd actually already had my eye on your profile from my lurking days on the forum. I'll be in the UK in March, so who knows? 🙂 Jamie21 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 1 hour ago, jsn102 said: Thank you for the masseur's perspective! I'd actually already had my eye on your profile from my lurking days on the forum. I'll be in the UK in March, so who knows? 🙂 I hope to see you when you visit! In meantime, good luck with your exploration. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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