Question: How do I know my escort is STD free just because he says so.

[nortonman02]

I'm having my first session with an escort and have chosen one who advertises that he is safe and disease free. This will also be my first time with a man. One of the reasons I decided to hire an escort is because I feel that the sex will be safer than with someone I meet in a bar. How do you guys feel if a client asks to see a recent STD test?

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

That would only provide you a measure of false reassurance unless he has abstained since the test. He is only as safe as the status of his partners in the intervening period. Not to mention that the STD tests may have missed an infection too recent to generate a detectable antibody response. Your best bet is to conduct your own visual inspection preferably in a subtle manner rather than that of a military induction exam. That and a condom should go a long way. However, there is no safe sex. You can minimize risk but you cannot not eliminate it.

 

Are you considering asking him to take the test specifically for your encounter? If so would you reimburse him for the testing? Would you ask that he abstain during the interim?

[AaronScottDC]

I suppose you can ask for some kind of proof, but the clinic that I go to here in DC is very attuned to being discrete. So, they do not provide any kind of documentation that the test has even been conducted, let alone the test results. I highly doubt that you would get such a piece of paper stating the results from your soon to be companion.

 

Aaron Scott DC

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[+ Charlie]

Can you imagine an escort advertising he is unsafe and diseased? Or that he is unattractive (even if he is)? Such claims should never be taken as a guarantee. Besides, how does he know that he is disease-free? Some people show few symptoms of illnesses that they may nevertheless transmit. And even if he was completely healthy when he wrote the ad, or even the day he made the appointment with you, who knows what could change by the time that you meet. Only you can take responsibility for your own health, and that means insisting on safer-sex behaviors, no matter how good the escort looks or how nice and reliable he seems (or even what great reviews he has received).

[joel304]

OMG ... Really??? Maybe he'll let you get a mechanic to kick the tires, etc. before you hire ... You're hiring a man for sex, that openly provides sex in exchange for money (yeah ... legal ... time only ... yadayada) on a consistent basis (assumably). Use a condom and grow up. My blood pressure is raising ... is this George dubya???

[joel304]

I once adopted a puppy, and was told he was potty trained ... fuckin liars ... carpets, carpets, carpets ... and i got the papersx(

[noviceny]

I worked in a clinic where we tested for HIV (only). We never provided paperwork for anyone.

 

I also think that sex with an escort MIGHT be safer than someone in a bar, cause with an escort you can be sure that they will not go further than you like (hopefully). As far as being safer (i.e. less STD risk), Id say its 50/50...some escorts are very careful and really care about there lives and others. Some dont give a shit and are unsafe, use drugs etc. But this is also the case with the rest of the world.

 

I guess that one thing you can count on is that if an escort advertises that he barebacks, then ya know he's not safe.

[TerryP]

Gotta agree here. Whether you have sex with a guy in a bar or with an escort, nortonman needs to accept the possibility that the guy just might have an STD. Use a condom and have fun. There's no sense in worrying about it, just be smart about it.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

A Second Escort Answers

 

You have already gotten a good answer from Tampa Yankee. This question has been brought up many times, by a number of different clients, so clearly this is a question that is a set of circumstances contemplated by a number of them. As Deej is wont to put it and as was stated here, there is no such thing as risk free, truly safe sex unless we are talking about a solo JO session. There is, on the other hand, SAFER sex.

 

There are a number of threads you (and any other client) can find by searching for "STD" in the search option on this site. However, a simple, clear site for health concerns of men who have sex with other men (whether hired or not) is:

 

http://www.gayhealth.com

 

There is a tab on the site for SEX and within that area, there are some good resources, answers and information.

 

Enjoy!

[+ deej]

>That would only provide you a measure of false reassurance

>unless he has abstained since the test.

 

Abstinence wouldn't prove anything either. Even if Prince Charming is celibate since his last test, he may have seroconverted an hour after the blood was drawn. He may have been poz even as he got the good news from the clinic that he wasn't!

 

I am ashamed to admit I'm not familiar with "discovery periods" for other STD's, but I sorta assume there's a window where the patient has been infected but it doesn't yet show up on tests.

 

I do know there's a doctor's office across the street from Chicago's Steamworks and a nurse there told me she's administered Penicillin injections to Syphylis cases only to observe them out the window going into Steamworks later that day.

 

Assume your guy is loaded and proceed accordingly.

[Guest jeffOH]

Suzanne Sugarbaker: (to Mary Jo) "You know what your problem is?"

 

Mary Jo: "No, what?"

 

Suzanne: "You think too much."

 

Julia: (to Suzanne) "You've never been plagued by that one."

 

Be careful AND enjoy yourself!

[JT Brooklyn]

RE: A Second Escort Answers

 

IMHO... Both Tampa and Franco right on the money. After all is said and done.. I am also sure this question will always be asked, from time to time in the future. STD'S have and will always be hangng out somewhere. :+ :+ :+

[Vincent_Michael]

Asking for a STD test means nothing and only provides for a false sense of security. I am sorry to say…you can get tested and the test is only good to say that you haven’t been infected in the last 3months to 6months and that is ONLY to say if your not actively having sex. Other than that you should assume everyone has a STD

[modelscoutnyc]

>Gotta agree here. Whether you have sex with a guy in a bar

>or with an escort, nortonman needs to accept the possibility

>that the guy just might have an STD. Use a condom and have

>fun. There's no sense in worrying about it, just be smart

>about it.

>

 

 

Terry said a mouth full. BE SMART always practice safe sex. Yes there are safe practice in sex where STD can not be transmitted. Condoms do break thats why you double up. I always put on 2 condoms an use a lot of lubrication (water base) no oil.

[+ Italiano]

It is unbelevable and somehow sad how some people delude themselves...

 

No offense meant, but if you want to avoid STDs (of any kind, of course HIV on top of the list) and you just trust someone (escort or guy at the bar) who tells you "oh, sure, I am negative and totally disease-free", you are VERY NAIVE.

 

The other day I went for a "sensual" massage with some guy I met through AOL chat room, never met before.

The guy was hot and horny (I was too...), after 20 minutes (mediocre as a massage, but increasly sensual) things heated up, he went down on me, grabbed my dick, was going to open his mouth and wrap it, but he looked at me and asked "are you negative?". I said "yes" (as far as I know from my 5 months old test and my general beheaviour I am) and he began to have a feast on my italian sausage, and BTW I leak precum like an open hoze....

 

I could not believe that he just felt safe with my reply.

 

If STD in general is something you want to avoid totally, play as safe as you can, and by now EVERYBODY should know how to!

[Guest endoman31]

Remember Thyphoid Mary!

[Guest soccerstud]

RE: Unintended Pun

 

> "As Deej is wont to put it and as was stated here, there is no such thing as risk free, truly safe sex unless we are talking about a

>solo JO session. There is, on the other hand, SAFER sex."

 

 

Puns can be fun. Especially when they are unintended.

[joel304]

"and BTW I leak precum like an open hoze...."

 

 

Yucky poo ....

[sncalif]

Ok, new to this, so anal and condoms is a no brainer, but what do you recommend for oral, both on the receiving and giving end. Where can I learn more.

[+ deej]

>Ok, new to this, so anal and condoms is a no brainer, but

>what do you recommend for oral, both on the receiving and

>giving end. Where can I learn more.

 

Try http://www.gayhealth.com.

[sncalif]

Thanks!! Can I ask what your personal thoughts on it are?

[joel304]

>Thanks!! Can I ask what your personal thoughts on it are?

 

 

When sucking cock be careful. When getting your cock sucked, make sure it isn't bitten off. When sucking your own cock, be mindful of your lower back.

[+ deej]

What Joel said. :+

 

Seriously, my opinion shouldn't matter to you. You should study the risks and make a personal evaluation of what risk level is acceptable to you. Please don't take anyone's word on an anonymous message board. Arm yourself with information, and proceed accordingly.

[sncalif]

Thank you!

[JT Brooklyn]

IMHO..All anyone can do is Play as SAFE as is possible. Does anyone really know if he is TOTALLY STD Free at all times, I am sure that is doubtful! Unfortunately Great Safe Sex doesn't carry any guarantees. Whether you have it everyday or once every 3 months..IF it is with guys who have it on a steady basis, as most "FULL TIME" Escorts do, the Odds do go up Naturally. The "No Never happen to me", will not work. It can be a fact of a Sexual Act, either with a Guy or a Girl! That's why the "Genital Herpes Commercial" as COOL as it plays., should make everyone think twice..I have met BI-Guys who do get laid by Girls who bring a whole new group of "Possibilities" into the Equation.. :+ :+ :+