My First Time...The Agony and the Ecstasy

[noviceny]

First I really have to thank you guys for all of your suggestions and advice. Between this thread and the one on how to prepare for bottoming, I was well on my way to losing my "virginity."

 

However, there were a few things I had to learn for myself.

 

The following is an account of the events that occured in the past week.

 

My first experience was with Mike Grey...totally nice guy...but I am getting ahead of myself...Im dying to tell you my enema story !!!!

 

This was my first experience with an enema. I have never had a problem taking a shit so I never needed them. GUYS THEY ARE FUCKEN GROSS !!!

 

Flash foward to me at Mike's apartment. He opens the door and he looked great. This guy is built and solid...incredible shape and a lot of muscle. I knew that I would have no problem as far as attraction went. Now Mike had told me that he would help me explore my limits and I was all for that. WWWEEEEELLLLL, one of you guys told me that Mike is aggressive and DAMN was he aggressive !!! He can really fuck and fuck and fuck...definitely pushed my limits. He was very hot too but I think he may have been too much for me :-) I knew that it would hurt but OOOWWCCHH !!! Mike was right though, as he said its all about relaxing.

 

To continue, Mike actually got me to cum while fucking me, which I think was more a function of his flexing (really makes me blow) than the fucking, cause it was uncomfortable. I kept thinking, "When is he gonna hit my prostate ?? Do I even have a prostate ?" Also, I gave Mike absolutely no direction on "harder" "softer" "slower" "faster"...he did say that it is important to give your partner feed back...a very good piece of advice for me

 

All in all, it was a good experience and it taught me a lot. I knew that the first time would be difficult and probably painful, and that I would have to try again now that I was "broken in."

 

 

Flash to today (Wednesday)...After a couple of really cool phone conversations, I decided to go with Adam #3 (how impersonal to refer to such a nice guy with a number). Now this guy is not near Mike's size, but he proved to me that I can really be attracted to someone who is different from what is "my type." Adam was great...took his time with me...did the whole romancing/playing around thing and really sems to enjoy it...very respectful of limits while gently probing (psychologically and physically). The fucking was very gentle and I followed Mike's advice by giving feedback. It felt better this time, but I realized something that no one had made mention of before...maybe I wont really like being a bottom. Both experiences were cool...Mike was built, ripped and aggressive...I probably could have cum just looking at him...Adam was muscular, cute as hell and passionate...I was painfully rock hard before we even got to the bed...however, Im left wondering. I dont know if its something that I would like to engage in on a regular basis. Keeping an open mind, but also listening to my inner voice (and my inner anus)...its definitely a journey and these two guys started me on my way.

 

Ill tell you what I never want to do again. I never want to use an enema...very unpleasant both times. Second time I just used warm water and it was a bit better than the acid that coursed through my colon the first time. Sodium phosphate...that doesnt sound like something you should put in ANY orefice of your body.

 

For all those interested, my ass will be on hiatus (or is it sabbatical...probably hiatus as my ass will not learning anything new) for awhile. I was sorry that I couldnt partake of the other recommended guys, but money and my anus are tight, so for now its not possible. Would have loved to meet Rick and Derik and Steve Draker. Eric seemed cool too, but I had to make a decision.

 

Thank you very much for all of your help. I also shared this experience with a few of my staright friends and they were pretty cool, or at least they were happy that I was pursuing something that is really part of me, instead of just wondering and repressing. Ill tell you one thing though...it gave me a whole new appreciating for what my girlfriends had to go through.

 

Damn this is long so Ill wrap it up...I should have titled this, "All you never wanted to know about Jim's colon"

[taylorky]

OMG heyyyyyyyyy LUCKY....the above is reason enough!!!!!

[+ Lucky]

Hey, taylor, where else but Hooville would a guy feel comfortable detailing his enema and spillage?

 

Good for you, novice. Trying new things keeps us young.

[noviceny]

>Hey, taylor, where else but Hooville would a guy feel comfortable detailing his enema and spillage?<

 

 

Ahhhh, so true...but then again Im always being told I give to much information. Once I was telling an ex about a shit I took and I couldnt understand why she was less than thrilled (true story)...I definitely have a need to share...probably cause I have to listen to other people's "stuff" all the time.

 

I forgot one more thing. No one warned me about the fact that when you expell gas after all of this buttfucking, you may be expelling some lube . That was most definitely unpleasant...Anyone else brave enough to admit this happening to them !!?? And I swear to God that I showered right after and cleaned my ass !!

[taylorky]

LUCKYYYYYYYY make it stop *taylor shudders in the corner*

[Rick Munroe]

>Im dying to tell you

>my enema story !!!!

 

For once, even I'm speechless. :o

[noviceny]

hahahahahahahahahahahaha

 

Sorry guys...:-)

 

But seriously, I figure since we are on a site that deals with shit that is consider immoral, disgusting and just plain wrong by many people in society, that I could at least talk about personal hygiene issues.

 

I really dont have any shame :-)

[HotdadENYC]

>Now the next big mistake I made was looking in the toilet. I

>looked down and was face to face with a tepid pool of my own

>filth and my ass felt nasty !!!!!!

 

Novice, I am happy that you enjoyed yourself, not once, but twice and glad you shared the experiences with us, within reason.

 

If you decide to write reviews for the two guys (and I think that you should), I would politely suggest that you forego a protracted discussion (or maybe even any discussion) about the enema and your reaction(s) to it.

 

We all know that shit happens (no pun intended), but in this case, there's something to be said for balancing your to need to share all with our need to know all.

 

Congratulations on taking the plunge (again, no pun intended). Will you now be changing your name to reflect that you are no longer a novice?

 

Regards,

 

hd NYC

[noviceny]

Hot Dad,

 

Will definitely write a review...of course the enema stuff was only for the benefit of the board (more like for my own need to vent). I guess I go overboard cause I have spent so many years of my life hiding who I am and now I get that "no holds barred" kind of attitude. Also, remember that while all of you know all this stuff that can happen, that I dont...so much is new and so much is embarassing and I dont want to be embarassed anymore, so I go overboard. Oh well...I guess I could be worse things

 

 

Will I change my name...probably will now that Ive publically shamed myself

:-)

[Guest zipperzone]

>Ahhhh, so true...but then again Im always being told I give to

>much information. Once I was telling an ex about a shit I

>took and I couldnt understand why she was less than thrilled

>(true story)...I definitely have a need to share...probably

>cause I have to listen to other people's "stuff" all the

>time.

 

Just curious - are you Jewish by any chance? or neurotic? or both?

[Guest skrubber]

No shame in getting fucked.

[JT Brooklyn]

Congrats.NoviceNY You def made 2 fine choices in Tops..IF Muscles turn you on, Mike Grey is the Man..Now I suggest you work on the "Enema" obsession, as it will def take away from any FUN further Bottoming will give you.. It def sounds like you will be getting into more of it..IT has to be part of the PrepWork..Like most things the more you do it "on occasion" the more NORMAL a procedure it will be..These guys are Pros, BUT not dealing with a "clean hole" BIG Turnoff! It took a long time for you to get this far...Just keep in mind most "TOTAL TOPS"(no oral) LUV to Plow Deep & Hard! Everyone you mentioned gives it very well...Enjoy your future choices..:+ :+ :+

[noviceny]

Zipper,

 

Nope, not Jewish...Catholic actually

 

Neurotic...nope, not that either

 

Now JT came to closest to my diagnosis...obsessive

 

I definitely do have some OCD characteristics, but JT was right when he said that experience can be difficult when it is so new. I think for many of you that sex with guys has been part of your lifestyle for awhile, and things that are so everyday and normal to you are uncomfortable to others...

[Rick Munroe]

>Flash foward to me at Mike's apartment.

 

That was a good idea to edit out the really yucky parts. But couldn't you have done it before I read it? (I had nightmares...)

[JT Brooklyn]

Hey Noviceny..Now that your Virgin Days are behind you..LOL You will have to decide what position best pushes your buttons..Watch the TOPS you contact.. if you decide to go at it again. Some are definitely better than others..Some like it one way "Doggie Style"(least amount of work) they usually are the most boring..AND it can definitely Hurt! A great beginners position would be "Cowboy".. You ride it, you are in control, that pole isn't going up any further than YOU want it too! Again some Tops can maintain a hardon others cannot in this position! There's no book on Personal likes and dislikes though..You might just decide ANAL not your thing..However the "main thing" is to enjoy the Sex, no matter what form it takes...:+ :+ :+

[noviceny]

JT,

 

Very very true...I got a few private emails that say almost exactly the same thing.

 

I realized that I was hiring for these experiences cause I am not "in the gay community" i.e. I dont know anyone and Im kind of nervous/scared to go out. I am very lucky that I live in NY as opposed to some town in Middle America, and will take advantage of this...soon.

 

Its been a nightmare (not the kind I gave Rick, but much worse) coming out and it is far from over. But the initial fear and anxiety I had about being with guys is over. I still am very reserved about some things, but I was like that with women too.

 

I truly do have respect for the individual, and just because Im paying doesnt mean I should go wild...nor is that part of my personality. But I got to get a bit more wild (which would probably be seen as mild to moderate for most people) and am still holding back.

 

Dont think Im ready for dating yet, but I dont want to get to in to hiring as I should experience the genuine, long term (at least more than an hour) feelings that should come with sex, lov making, whatever you want to call it.

 

PS Rick, sorry I scared you...I really do get carried away sometimes...

[guptasa1]

Heya! Glad to hear you tried something new, even if it might not have been everything you expected.

 

Just a few comments.

 

As far as bottoming, you're right - it's NOT for everyone. I might encourage you to explore it more if you enjoyed it at all, but if you don't like it, you don't like it. It's perfectly okay to not like bottoming and prefer other things. =o)

 

It does sound like your first time may have been too aggressive, and I would guess that, if you choose to experiment more, it'll get easier over time.

 

As far as enema use, I don't know what to tell you. I will say my first times with them were much more awkward than now. But you appeared to experience extreme discomfort from them, which I haven't. (They do get a little uncomfortable after a few minutes, but nothing awful...for me at least).

 

Without getting too detailed, as far as the...erm...mess...well, that's sort of the point...to get all that out of there. (If you were to wash out again immediately after with water, you'd notice things should be much, much cleaner). Now, if you're normally pretty clean, MAYBE you're a person who doesn't need enemas. Some people do fine without one. So maybe explore that. (They also make some different kinds. I think there's a type with mineral oil). For me, after trying with, without, and some different things, I always do it, for peace of mind if nothing else.

 

Anyways, if you decide to explore this further, good luck, and if not, just remember it's okay - sex is about exploring what you and your partner LIKE with each other. =o)

[Vincent_Michael]

Skrubber, no there is no shame in getting fucked! I love to get fucked from time to time once in a while and man does it feel good.

 

Ohhh Yeah!!!

[Vincent_Michael]

Novice you're OCD? Well hell join the club I think everyone is by todays standerd.

[+ deej]

>I love to get fucked

 

So noted. }(

[noviceny]

Vincent,

 

Even kids that I work with call themselves OCD. Its just become a very popular self-diagnosis. However, if you want to have a bit of fun and see what real OCD diagnosis is, do a search on the disorder and you'll see how much of a criterior there is for the diagnosis.

 

That being said, yup we all have a touch of OCD...somtimes it can be a good thing

[noviceny]

Also, I didnt mean that I shamed myself by having sex. In my original post (which you can see I edited), I was VERY descriptive about the enema experience and it was a bit disturbing (to say the least) to others (re-read the first couple of posts with that in mind).

 

I felt bad (or shame...not sure which) so I took out about 2 paragraphs of "bathroom talk"

[Rick Munroe]

>PS Rick, sorry I scared you...I really do get carried away

>sometimes...

 

That's OK, novice. I just hope my nightmares don't return tonight...I can't really remember details, but the worst one had Faye Dunaway (as Joan Crawford) screaming "NO...MORE...FLEET'S...ENEMAS!!!!"

 

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[+ friendofsheila]

Hey, I found my first porn video dull. I remember saying to the clerk that I didn't think I'd be renting one again. Yeah, well, it sure didn't turn out that way...

 

So, to address your issue, I have to say it took a number of times and a number of partners before bottoming became a physically pleasurable experience for me. It might be the same for you. I did know that I wanted to feel a man's body in contact with me that way, though, so maybe it will be good to be clear in your own mind if that's definitely what you want, too.

[noviceny]

Thanks f of S,

 

You have a point there. Not really sure if thats the way I want to be incontact with a man's body, but its just important to know what you dont like as well as knowing what you do like. This has all been a lot of fun though.