Things I wish I had known…

[Guest CleanCut_Guy]

What are some things you wish you had known when you first started as an escort? 
 

Tips for a newbie are appreciated!

[Kevin Slater]

 I've posted this before:

• Buy a sling.  Not every client has to use it, but some will love it, and book you because of it.
• Rubber sheets are a provider's friend.
• Install a shower douche.  Again, some clients will book you simply because you provide that.
• Learn at least a few basic massage techniques.
• You can save a ton of money by buying the gallon jug o' lube and decanting into smaller bottles.
• Offer them a damn shower afterwards.  Duh.

• Don't bother with blocked phone calls. Seriously. He's a time waster.
• Same for texts that come through from an email address.
   
• Hear a voice on the phone before heading over or giving your address. Subsequent booking can be made via text.
   
• It's not a bad idea to call the hotel and get patched through to the room before heading over, especially if something strikes you as 'off'.
• The likelihood of a future booking actually happening is inversely proportional to the number of texts, calls and emails beforehand.
   
• Keep note of the numbers that flake on you, for they'll do it again in six months. And that same guy has done it to me, and every other escort.
• Be leery of drunk. They often pass out before you get there, or after.
   
• He may be having a great time and want to extend the session. Mazel tov. But he may be thinking with his little head and not have the funds. Settle up occasionally.
   
• Every client starts as a first timer. But first timers also often lose their nerve, and you lose your time and effort.
• Don't front the money for a first time session (hotel, travel, etc.) and rarely for repeat sessions.
   
• Don't drive two hours without a deposit (e.g. Venmo or Amazon e-gift card).
• Key words that indicate this is going nowhere: Engineer, Nigeria, "your city".
   
• Don't discount your first session because he's going to see you weekly. Future sessions may be negotiable, initial bookings are always full fare.
• Make some friends in the biz. They've seen it all before and can offer guidance.
   
• Trust your gut. A few bucks isn't worth your health, safety, or freedom.

Most guys you'll meet will be wonderful and pleasant. Some will be odd ducks, and even that can be fun or at least entertaining. A few are bad eggs, but those guys are extremely prolific in wasting your time.

Kevin Slater

[Kevin Slater]

You might also want to put a link to your ad in your signature here (see my posts as an example).    Click on your name in the upper right > Profile > Account settings > Signature.

Kevin Slater

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Slater hit the high points.  Pay attention to everything he posted.

I'll only offer one piece of advice that's served me well:  

You can't be everything to everyone and you don't want to be.  Learn who you are as an escort and what you offer best.

Also, the power of saying 'no' to people is an incredible thing.  Don't be afraid to use it.

Edited August 21, 2022 by BenjaminNicholas

[+ Jamie21]

58 minutes ago, Kevin Slater said:

Key words that indicate this is going nowhere: Engineer, Nigeria, "your city".

Yes! And add “student discount”, “definitely interested” and senders of dick pics. 

[Kevin Slater]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

Yes! And add “student discount”, “definitely interested” and senders of dick pics. 

Oh yeah, the dick pics.  He's the same guy who has to go on about his 22 inch thighs, 15 inch bi's, 54 inch chest...  Can we just skip to the part where you ask for a discount so I can hang up on you?

Kevin Slater

[TallMuscl37]

4 hours ago, Kevin Slater said:

 I've posted this before:

• Install a shower douche.  Again, some clients will book you simply because you provide that.

Kevin Slater

+1,000 💥 to all of the above. I must be pretty good because I have been doing most of what you mentioned. 
 

Only thing to add to the above 🔝 I would say do that before arrival OR at least wait a few minutes in between time.

Shower douche insert a lot of water that can make for more mess than if a person hadn’t.

 

[Guest CleanCut_Guy]

6 hours ago, Kevin Slater said:

 I've posted this before:

• Buy a sling.  Not every client has to use it, but some will love it, and book you because of it.
• Rubber sheets are a provider's friend.
• Install a shower douche.  Again, some clients will book you simply because you provide that.
• Learn at least a few basic massage techniques.
• You can save a ton of money by buying the gallon jug o' lube and decanting into smaller bottles.
• Offer them a damn shower afterwards.  Duh.

• Don't bother with blocked phone calls. Seriously. He's a time waster.
• Same for texts that come through from an email address.
   
• Hear a voice on the phone before heading over or giving your address. Subsequent booking can be made via text.
   
• It's not a bad idea to call the hotel and get patched through to the room before heading over, especially if something strikes you as 'off'.
• The likelihood of a future booking actually happening is inversely proportional to the number of texts, calls and emails beforehand.
   
• Keep note of the numbers that flake on you, for they'll do it again in six months. And that same guy has done it to me, and every other escort.
• Be leery of drunk. They often pass out before you get there, or after.
   
• He may be having a great time and want to extend the session. Mazel tov. But he may be thinking with his little head and not have the funds. Settle up occasionally.
   
• Every client starts as a first timer. But first timers also often lose their nerve, and you lose your time and effort.
• Don't front the money for a first time session (hotel, travel, etc.) and rarely for repeat sessions.
   
• Don't drive two hours without a deposit (e.g. Venmo or Amazon e-gift card).
• Key words that indicate this is going nowhere: Engineer, Nigeria, "your city".
   
• Don't discount your first session because he's going to see you weekly. Future sessions may be negotiable, initial bookings are always full fare.
• Make some friends in the biz. They've seen it all before and can offer guidance.
   
• Trust your gut. A few bucks isn't worth your health, safety, or freedom.

Most guys you'll meet will be wonderful and pleasant. Some will be odd ducks, and even that can be fun or at least entertaining. A few are bad eggs, but those guys are extremely prolific in wasting your time.

Kevin Slater

This is great. I'm in NYC for a week so I'm hoping to get started here. Thanks for the tips.

I'll add a link to my signature.

[TallMuscl37]

6 hours ago, Kevin Slater said:

 

• Don't front the money for a first time session (hotel, travel, etc.) and rarely for repeat sessions.
   
• Don't drive two hours without a deposit (e.g. Venmo or Amazon e-gift card).

I also wanted to mention this, because this is important yet has a lot of variables.

Some guys out here travel often, and I remember a time where I used to be confident enough to do it without any deposits. However, the way things are nowadays and having had enough “no shows” (which can be prolific in some cities moreso than others) I don’t like working without them.

However, often times a client will say, “oh well don’t come all the way out here just for me” when asked for a deposit. Or they’ll say, “just let me know when you’re in the area”. As if, I’m supposed to just show up to another city for no reason at all.

Some of these guys are so clueless. I wish there was a better understanding: I DO NOT GO TO YOUR CITY EXCEPT FOR APPOINTMENTS. And if I do go for other reasons, I like to still center around bookings.

Like when I went to San Francisco earlier this year: I was meeting friends there, but the MAIN purpose was to tour and make some earnings. So I still collected deposits before and during the time I was there. 
 

It can sometimes be hard like the post I mentioned: outsourcing rent ads. In my case, I stay part time in a basically non-existent market where there’s usually no paying clients except within an hour or THREE hours drive. I still ask for deposits but I know that has probably cut like 50% of  prospective clients. However, when I didn’t ask deposits, I was fronting money and getting stood up. However, who is comfortable with the fact that they are likely missing out on clients because they don’t want to book without a deposit? It’s a double edged sword.   

 

 

How do you address that? I know in your case: it sounds like you’re in a comfortable position to be in a big enough city and not have to do much outside travel. So, it bares mentioning that not all rules can apply to every circumstance. 

Edited August 21, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut

[TallMuscl37]

1 hour ago, arnemgreeves said:

and even is a mental toll to fuck three or four or more clients a day, even if they're all friendly and respectful. 

 

Actually , it’s even MORE of a mental toll NOT fucking three or four or more clients a day 😆 

I’m nearing a week since my last in person client. I wish I had 3-4 friendly, respectful clients right now. That I can handle. But having ads up and no real bookings for days: I can’t.