first time sex experience

[Guest jim]

hello guys....my name is jim. i am 35 years old and straight. for the last five years i have been increasingly interested in having a gay/ bisexual experience. i am constantly fantasizing about blowing another guy but up to this point i am too nervous to initiate an encounter.any suggestions about how i can grow the balls and finally let loose.

[Rick Munroe]

sorry, I couldn't resist

 

>any suggestions about how i can grow the balls

 

http://www.xtremecock.com/juicedallrs.jpg

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

RE: sorry, I couldn't resist

 

One of Rick's repeat customers.

 

Insightfully yours,

 

FFF

[+ deej]

RE: sorry, I couldn't resist

 

Am I the only one who crossed his legs involuntarily seeing that? x(

 

To the original poster, read the reviews in your area. Pick the guy who most appeals to you and who has the best reviews. Then, TALK TO HIM.

 

Tell him he's your first. Be honest with him. He won't rush you, and he won't force you into anything you don't want (unless that's what you want ;-)).

 

These are (mostly) pretty great guys we discuss around here. They'll help you through it.

[Guest jrpSCORP]

When we mocked within our own community, does it hurt any less or do any less harm than when we are mocked by homophobics and those outside the community? There is a time and a place for wit.

[Rick Munroe]

RE: sorry, I couldn't resist

 

Hey, they can't all be winners. I'll be the first to admit when a joke doesn't work...I never should have posted FFF's pics! }>

[Rick Munroe]

>When we mocked within our own community, does it hurt any

>less or do any less harm than when we are mocked by

>homophobics and those outside the community? There is a

>time and a place for wit.

 

This is a joke, right? Finding humor in language & the way someone phrases something is now the same as "mocking" that person for his sexuality? Gee, and I thought "we gays" were known for our wicked senses of humor!

[+ deej]

>Gee, and I thought "we gays" were

>known for our wicked senses of humor!

 

No, no, no. We're known for fabulous taste in clothing and interior decorating. (And floral arrangements too.)

 

We're pretty good wedding planners. But we're prickly as hell when it comes to a sense of humor. :9

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>>Gee, and I thought "we gays" were

>>known for our wicked senses of humor!

>

>No, no, no. We're known for fabulous taste in clothing and

>interior decorating. (And floral arrangements too.)

>

>We're pretty good wedding planners. But we're prickly as

>hell when it comes to a sense of humor. :9

 

You've noticed!

 

Thunderbuns

[+ deej]

>You've noticed!

 

Got the scars to prove it, too. :-)

[DaninWA]

>No, no, no. We're known for fabulous taste in clothing and

>interior decorating. (And floral arrangements too.)

>

>We're pretty good wedding planners. But we're prickly as

>hell when it comes to a sense of humor. :9

 

 

Damn! I must be straight!

 

LOL

Dan

[+ deej]

>Damn! I must be straight!

>

>LOL

>Dan

 

LOL!!!!

 

Well, I hope not.

 

But you might be straight if buy new underwear instead of doing the laundry, or your house doesn't always smell "Glade Fresh", or (oh no!) you have dirty dishes stacked in the sink.

 

Or maybe you're gay but the gay gene just hasn't got to that part of the X chromasome yet. ;-)

 

(Hey, it's the excuse I use!)

[chrismac]

>But you might be straight if...

 

Sounds like the beginning of a Jeff Foxworthy joke storm. Why don't we start one like that:

 

You might be straight if you don't cry when Scarlet holds up that dirty little dried-out turnip and looks into the sunset vowing, "As God as my witness, as God as my witness..."

 

And so on.

 

Come on guys - you all are much more creative and witty than I. Post 'em here and maybe we can get them published ;-)

[+ deej]

>Sounds like the beginning of a Jeff Foxworthy joke storm.

 

Gotta love a guy that can talk about the opening ceremony of the Olympics and say "you just know there's gonna be good old boys out in the parking lot in pickups with shotguns when they let them birds go"

 

:+

[HooBoy]

>hello guys....my name is jim. i am 35 years old and

>straight. for the last five years i have been increasingly

>interested in having a gay/ bisexual experience. i am

>constantly fantasizing about blowing another guy but up to

>this point i am too nervous to initiate an encounter.any

>suggestions about how i can grow the balls and finally let

>loose.

 

Jim... I hope someone has the sensitivity to properly answer your question and help you with your dilemma.

 

You are not alone -- there are many people like you.

 

My suggestion would be to look over the reviews, see someone who appeals to you -- someone with a good track record -- and be very upfront with him about your situation.

 

Most of the very best guys will be sensitive to your situation and will treat you like the wonderful person I am sure you are.

 

I am sorry that so many people here summarily dismissed you, but they were most likely just having fun and did not understand what you were asking.

 

I apologize and I hope you find a wonderful guy. It can be done. Just do your homework and establish a relationship via email or over the phone.

 

There are some great guys here. Really.

 

HooBoy

[liubit]

Hi, Jim!

 

Follow HooBoy's advice. Perhaps we could also help you out if we knew where you are and what kind of man turns you on. We could then narrow the very broad spectrum of escorts and contribute to find your pick! E-mail me if you want: numerito@yahoo.com

[Rick Munroe]

Actually, Jim's post would probably have been better off in the Lounge, because it's more of a question for fellow clients. There's nothing more comforting than hearing from someone who's been in the same boat & made the plunge (how's that for a wet mixed metaphor?). Hopefully, one of our closeted/married/straight clients (we have many of those, I'm sure) could tell him what it was like their first time, and assure him that while scary, it was probably the best decision they ever made.

 

Jim, re-post your question in the Lounge but ask yourself first: what exactly is it that you're afraid of? Being caught? Or is it the actual sex act that scares you? Being more specific will also help get you the answer you need. And if/when you decide to hire an escort, definitely do your homework by reading the reviews for your city, and find someone with a proven track record, especially with closeted or first-time clients.

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

>what exactly is it that you're afraid of?

 

That the escort with a good reputation is in actuality an evil queen.

 

Possibly yours,

 

FFF

[+ Axiom2001]

These are exactly my sentiments. As I scrolled this thread yesterday and presently-- I thought-- where is a legit answer to Jim's sincere question.

 

I found the photos to be quite insensitive and in bad taste; save castigating language and dialogue for something else. You're entitled; I definitely am entitled... That's it!

 

Jim, hire an escort and act on your desires and wishes. Use reviews here as your guide. I know you do not want to try to cruise and hook up that way! Bests to you!

[OneFinger]

>I found the photos to be quite insensitive and in bad taste;

>save castigating language and dialogue for something else.

 

I couldn't agree more. Shame on you, Rick!!

 

Jim, I totally agree with other serious posters. I honestly feel that the "best" way to have a first experience would be to hire a professional. I've had great experiences with escorts from this site and feel you deserve the best for your first time.

 

I also believe honesty is the best policy and produces the best results. So, be sure to admit that this will be your "deflowering" and I'm sure they'll take it slow and easy.

 

I spent many frustrating hours in bars and cruise areas picking up guys. These experiences were never as satisfying as my time with an escort. I've never regretted hiring and encourage you to explore this option.

[Rick Munroe]

>>I found the photos to be quite insensitive and in bad taste;

>>save castigating language and dialogue for something else.

>

>I couldn't agree more. Shame on you, Rick!!

 

Wow, now I know how Roseanne felt after screaming the national anthem.

 

I think it's obvious that my post of those gross pics, while perhaps in bad taste, was not insensitive or intended to disparage the original poster. If he did take it personally or was offended, then I do apologize. You see, I love language & sometimes I see combinations of words that make me think twice and I laugh. We can't really explain what makes some things funny to some people and offensive to other people. I would certainly never want to belittle someone who is coming out (especially when a good deal of my clients are in the closet), and I often find myself in the position of gently encouraging guys to do just that (to come out, not to belittle others!); not to mention the fact that I find it extremely hot to be with a first-timer and all of that nervous sexual energy.

 

As for "castigating language", Webster's defines "castigate" as: to subject to severe punishment, reproof, or criticism. I don't see anywhere in anyone's posts above that even came close to that. What happened was what happens to many threads: they go off on a tangent. I really had no control over that. And before some of you chose to "castigate" me for my bad joke, I had already admitted that it bombed, and I had already attempted to give Jim some useful advice. I'm sorry if you choose to see sinister motives behind my humor. I should probably learn the lesson most escorts have found: it's better to just shut up around here.

[HooBoy]

Hey guys,

Please do not dog Rick.

 

He is brave to swim among the sharks here and he is a good guy...I know him.

 

My post was not aimed at him, it was a reaction to the cumulative posts, which made me feel like I was in a snippy elite gay bar and all the queens made me and Jim feel worthless.

 

The reason many men of any age decide to engage an escort is probably because they do not want to go through the sneering scrutiny that comes with cruising the bars.

 

That's all.

 

Rick is funny -- and he is not evil nor is he a queen.

 

So let us not go there. Let's help Jim. And if we can find humor in the process, fine...but keep Jim first in this thread.

 

Thanks...

 

HooBoy

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>I think it's obvious that my post of those gross pics, while

>perhaps in bad taste, was not insensitive or intended to

>disparage the original poster.

 

Rick - I don't think they were in bad taste. A bit of black humor perhaps, but what's wrong with that. You even said "sorry - couldn't resist" or words to that effect.

 

>If he did take it personally or was offended, then I do apologize.

 

I doubt that he did - he certainly didn't say so.

 

You see, I love

>language & sometimes I see combinations of words that make

>me think twice and I laugh. We can't really explain what

>makes some things funny to some people and offensive to

>other people.

 

Some guys just don't find anything to be funny. And it's so easy to get on the huffy puffy bandwagon and go tich, tich, tich. Look at it this way. We gave over 1200 members. A handfull (less than 10) decided it was a good opportunity to take offense. But perhaps the other 1190 or so, thought it was so funny they pissed themselves!

 

Thunderbuns

[Guest dave_nyc]

Rick, I suspect that the majority of us who read/post on male4male would find it a drearier place without your posts. I would. Maybe it's just me, but I feel that you "humanize" this place.

 

Dave

[chrismac]

I most wholeheartedly agree with the posts supporting Rick. I doubt any offense was taken.

 

To Hoo's point, I encourage Jim to look for the thread on this forum toward the bottom of this page (currently): "Will I be too sore to walk to the car?" Authored originally by ShoeDog. There is a lot of good advice and commentary from both escorts and clients that Jim may find useful in his search.

 

We've all had a first time. Mine was also at age 35. And very much in my memory. If I had known about this site then, I'm sure it would have gone differently (and a lot better!).

 

Best of luck!