Hookups to massages?

[wDarling]

Hi, there are a few guys I’ve hooked up with at the gym or other places only to later find out that they are masseurs and have profiles on MasseurFinder and RentMasseur (and good reviews in the forums here). I am thinking of seeing them but am worried it might ruin what we had if we’re ever in a situation where we can hook up again. I am wondering from the masseur side if it’s uncommon for you to have new clients who you’ve previously hooked up with before?

 

Was it weird for an already sexual relationship to turn professional? Would you rather have kept them as a potential future hookup rather than having them become a client? I guess I’m assuming that once I pay someone for a massage, it’ll be weird for them to give the goods away again in another setting?

[Pittlookalike]

You must be hot to get for free what others like me must pay for! I think you should not pay as that would likely deprive you of future free hookups. Enjoy.

[marylander1940]

Hi, there are a few guys I’ve hooked up with at the gym or other places only to later find out that they are masseurs and have profiles on MasseurFinder and RentMasseur (and good reviews in the forums here). I am thinking of seeing them but am worried it might ruin what we had if we’re ever in a situation where we can hook up again. I am wondering from the masseur side if it’s uncommon for you to have new clients who you’ve previously hooked up with before?

 

Was it weird for an already sexual relationship to turn professional? Would you rather have kept them as a potential future hookup rather than having them become a client? I guess I’m assuming that once I pay someone for a massage, it’ll be weird for them to give the goods away again in another setting?

 

 

 

I don't know about weird... but why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

 

If you really need a massage hire others and fuck those guys you've met at they gym for free while they charge other guys.

 

Guys are likely to hookup with other guys they're attracted to, even though hot clients happen they're unusual.

 

You must be hot to get for free what others like me must pay for! I think you should not pay as that would likely deprive you of future free hookups. Enjoy.

 

Agreed.

 

Besides people meeting at the gym? I guess they found each other on Grindr while at the gym.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

About 9 years ago, I had a hookup. A few years later, I found out he performed professional services including massage. I've been seeing him regularly for several years now for massage and other services. Don't overthink it, just enjoy.

[jeezifonly]

It’s very clear where the boundary line is, if you’ve already intimate with an amateur that turns pro. He’s just not into you, except with a deposit. He’s moved from FB to vendor.

 

I think It’s fuzzier when your first or first few encounter(s) are professional and the natural rapport or chemistry invites social crossover - time off the clock. Messy, according to a few tales shared in these pages.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I think It’s fuzzier when your first or first few encounter(s) are professional and the natural rapport or chemistry invites social crossover - time off the clock. Messy, according to a few tales shared in these pages.

 

It’s only messy if the situation isn’t handled properly. I used to be quite weirded out by making friends or becoming too close with clients. Lately, I’ll say I’m spending more time doing that, than trolling hookup apps or bars (and of course, the bar scene in many cities is dismal at the moment due to C19 restrictions). Most clients I find who are open to stuff beyond the clock, tend to be more respectful in situations than someone off the apps. Some clients may still be on the apps anyway, but I often find they wouldn’t be the ones I’d go for...however after meeting in real life, it’s different.

 

I’m usually straight up, I’m not trying to jump into a partnered situation, be their regular fuck buddy, or be their 24/7 escort. I can temporarily be a mild combination of the 3, long as they keep it in perspective. But if they want company, or wish to help in whatever venture I may have going on at the time, I’m down.

 

However I will say, my only reservations with keeping clients as “friends” off clock, some seem to view it as a convenient way to get on demand sex. Not necessarily for free, or a bad thing. But sometimes after so many hookups, the sex part can seem redundant. Which lately has had me wondering because I been seeing a guy (started as a client), and even though we have great bed chemistry, sometimes afterwards, I get those feelings of, “I don’t think we should have sex anymore”.

 

Maybe its just conditioning from being a sex worker, but sometimes I like to feel there’s a purpose to having sex. Having sex just to have sex, or jacking off just to jack off, seems pointless to me. There either needs to be some long term attraction built up, making some videos, or services rendered.

Edited December 4, 2020 by Jarrod_Uncut