What to do if your falling in love with your regular masseur or escort ?

[Hey_Jay]

 

Instructed on correct use of assistive device, slow positional changes, clear walk paths and wear nonskid footwear or someone who has crossed the line and got heartbroken this is a powerful video to watch. Been there done that! There’s always a lesson one that will make you stronger and be wiser as you meet future encounters. I echoed what others was saying here...you have to be sure of the feeling is mutual! And I guess for this case, the move has to come from the escort (kinda like, I like you and let’s work on this together and see how it goes) but who will shoulder his lost income lol. Find time to watch it!

[Otto]

I developed a friendship with a masseur over a period of 8 years, Christmas gifts / birthday wishes, texts weekly about everything but massage. He started texting me random Bible quotes (psalms) and right wing political nonsense, I have stopped texting in return, and will not rehire him for body work.

[sbguy]

Sounds like the plot of Boy Culture... An older gentleman seduces the younger escort...

 

How is that movie?

[jeezifonly]

There’s a movie about a client that made a plan so the escort would fall I love with him, and it worked. I don’t remember the name of the movie.

 

PRETTY WOMAN

[+ FrankR]

How is that movie?

I quite liked it - handsome men, a few plot twists. I saw it in Philadelphia at the GLBT Film Festival way back in 2007 I think. It was better than I expected so I would recommend it.

[sbguy]

I quite liked it - handsome men, a few plot twists. I saw it in Philadelphia at the GLBT Film Festival way back in 2007 I think. It was better than I expected so I would recommend it.

Thanks! I’ll check it out.

[orville]

I developed a friendship with a masseur over a period of 8 years, Christmas gifts / birthday wishes, texts weekly about everything but massage. He started texting me random Bible quotes (psalms) and right wing political nonsense, I have stopped texting in return, and will not rehire him for body work.

That was a very dramatic 180 degress turn.

[jonnychgo]

Story develops in Eastern Europe? Young guy is Romanian, part of a sex trafficking gang, and they met for the first time outside of a Train Terminal Station?

 

I think it is called "Eastern Boys"

[Jarrod_Uncut]

A good escort knows how to sell the fantasy. But usually, it remains just a fantasy.

 

To me fantasy is the reality though...it just doesn't always mean "let's be together"

[Trick]

Is not Pretty Woman.

 

Is actually a gay themed movie. I think is a foreign movie. And is about this guy that escorts... and meets several clients... but then he meets this particular older guy and he makes the escort to fall in love with him. You can see how the relationship starts to change and what the older guy does so the escort falls in love with him... In once scene the escort stops taking the envelope that the client leaves for him with the money...

 

I would like to watch the movie again... but can't remember the name

 

I remember watching the movie on Netflix before. Forgot the title too, details are fuzzy now.

[Jvaldez1976]

I loved reading all these comments but it’s so darn hard to stop seeing him.. lol I think I’ll just Keep it to my self as I dont want to scare him off and we stop seeing each other

[orville]

I loved reading all these comments but it’s so darn hard to stop seeing him.. lol I think I’ll just Keep it to my self as I dont want to scare him off and we stop seeing each other

I feel the same

[orville]

Yes!!!! Thanks @orville @FrankR for the ID on the movie. That's the one.

You can watch it on youtube... here is the link. I'll watch it this weekend again.

 

Watching it now. En Français, j'adore! ?

[orville]

It seems Alex deleted his profile.

Too bad, he had an excellent rate: c/. 1 ☹

[+ MysticMenace]

Wow, what a great thread - thanks! This definitely is giving me a pragmatic perspective as to how I objectively manage my brewing and unclassified feelings for a certain provider. As someone who has not been in any romantic relationship with a man, I might have been too optimistic that I could find someone through these avenues as others (Grindr, Scruff, Tinder) have not been all that helpful. Perhaps I am looking into the wrong places for other things that I need (love, passion, friendship) in life, but I guess at some point, I would want to have those relationships so I can start building my emotional resilience for the impending heartaches that come with them.

 

I guess hot, naughty, NSA sex will do for now.

[Tristatedude]

In the past I've had the opposite where the masseur would ask me out or want to take it further. The massage would get shorter each time I would go for an appointment because it would drift more to the physical than the massage. I would then have to find a different masseur.

[Monarchy79]

I know I’m going to get grief for saying this, but the idea of “falling in love”, is just as imaginary as believing in the tooth fairy.

 

The masseur/escort is making you feel good, and you’re connecting those physical effects with a metaphysical IDEA, that you’re solely creating in your head.

 

Disconnect the “high”, you’re getting from the pleasure of the experience, and accept the moments for what they are: Pure physical

pleasure; nothing more, and nothing less.

 

To help you bring yourself back to reality on this, make it a habit to remind yourself that your provider is making his other customers feel just as good, as he’s making you feel.

 

He’s simply doing a fantastic job!!!

Edited October 31, 2020 by Monarchy79

[justanotherguy]

To help you bring yourself back to reality on this, make it a habit to remind yourself that your provider is making his other customers feel just as good, as he’s making your feel.

 

He’s simply doing a fantastic job!!!

Fantastic take on this. These are some very wise words! Thank you

[Monarchy79]

Fantastic take on this. These are some very wise words! Thank you

 

No problem my friend.

 

The truth is that Escorts and Masseurs typically are easy to “fall in love” with. They literally embody the imaginative ideas we fantasize about when it comes to men, love and sex. They also fill in the gaps where regular guys may disappoint us.

 

They touch all of the bases where, dating/mating, and dealing with regular men (In bars/social situations and dating apps) fail...

Better bodies

Better grooming and hygiene

Better sex

They know where, how and when to touch you.

 

All of these things could make a man’s head spin. The key is staying grounded in logic and reality.

[+ 7829V]

I know I’m going to get grief for saying this, but the idea of “falling in love”, is just as imaginary as believing in the tooth fairy.

 

Being in love is not imaginary at all, is not only in your "head". It is a bunch of chemical reactions. It is very real. The initial happy feelings of being in love is stimulated by 3 chemicals in the brain: noradrenaline that stimulates adrenaline production causing that racing heart and sweaty palms; dopamine, the feel-good chemical; and phenylethylamine that is released when we're near our crush, giving us butterflies in our tummies.

[Monarchy79]

Being in love is not imaginary at all, is not only in your "head". It is a bunch of chemical reactions. It is very real. The initial happy feelings of being in love is stimulated by 3 chemicals in the brain: noradrenaline that stimulates adrenaline production causing that racing heart and sweaty palms; dopamine, the feel-good chemical; and phenylethylamine that is released when we're near our crush, giving us butterflies in our tummies.

Those specified physical reactions you’ve defined are in-deed real, but they are NOT “falling in love”.

 

“Falling in Love”, is the EMOTIONAL description given to summarize the physical reactions you noted.

 

NOTE: My all caps are not intended to equate yelling, but just to place emphasis on specific words in my posting.

Edited October 31, 2020 by Monarchy79

[Monarchy79]

Being in love is not imaginary at all, is not only in your "head". It is a bunch of chemical reactions. It is very real. The initial happy feelings of being in love is stimulated by 3 chemicals in the brain: noradrenaline that stimulates adrenaline production causing that racing heart and sweaty palms; dopamine, the feel-good chemical; and phenylethylamine that is released when we're near our crush, giving us butterflies in our tummies.

Not to be graphic, but..

Those same reactors you described, can also occur while busting a nutt inside of the mouth of an anonymous receptor, through the other end of a glory hole. Does that indicate that the recipient “fell in love”, as he was pulling his pants up from around his ankles?

???

[Lchnsf]

If they are doing their job and good at what they do you will fall in love, you are paying for the fantasy. I dated an escort for a while though the sex was great after he left I couldn’t help but think of the line from the movie “The Man With Two Brains” - That was so professional!!!

[Otto]

I think it is called "Eastern Boys"

Everyone in the hiring phase should see this flick.

[orville]

Everyone in the hiring phase should see this flick.

I liked the movie because it showed a not-always-told reality.

Many guys, single or in relationships, gay or straight, look for male escorts.