Gman Doesn't Want To Brag Or Anything-But He Had A Date!!!??

[marylander1940]

@Gar1eth

 

 

[marylander1940]

Please, I just ate!!

 

Gman

 

 

 

 

 

C'mon he's a sexy bear!

Edited June 3, 2020 by marylander1940

[alrajee]

I wish you all the best Gman!

 

I am bisexual. I enjoy having sex with both men and women, but only have been in meaningful emotional relationships with women. While there may come a time in the future when I'd be in a relationship with a man, I don't see it happening at this juncture in my life.

[+ sniper]

I wish you all the best Gman!

 

I am bisexual. I enjoy having sex with both men and women, but only have been in meaningful emotional relationships with women. While there may come a time in the future when I'd be in a relationship with a man, I don't see it happening at this juncture in my life.

Honestly I think while I'm gay I'm not totally sure I want a full-time relationship as I prefer a fair amount of alone time. I would probably be fairly content to be the exclusive side piece to a bi guy married to a woman(with her knowledge). I sort of wish when I was younger I'd have had the courage to seek this out openly.

[alrajee]

Honestly I think while I'm gay I'm not totally sure I want a full-time relationship as I prefer a fair amount of alone time. I would probably be fairly content to be the exclusive side piece to a bi guy married to a woman(with her knowledge). I sort of wish when I was younger I'd have had the courage to seek this out openly.

Interesting perspective. I'm monogamous when it comes to relationships but I suppose if my future girlfriend/wife were to be okay with the whole idea then I don't see how the arrangement can't fit in the dynamic.

[+ Gar1eth]

Well I think I screwed up-not in a good way though. So we met last night. We skipped the traditional third meeting (I think that is more a movie trope for guy/girl matchups anyway) and decided to know each other biblically last night. It was ok. I mean it was nice. Unfortunately after being all endorphined out, I think I probably babbled too much afterwards-and that was all self-induced babbling. I was not on any exogenous mood enhancers.

 

To tell the truth-and I doubt any of you can tell from my usual posts:p? -I'm a pretty talky fellow before sex too.

 

But to paraphrase a popular adage-if I continue living-there's a minuscule chance I'll learn.

 

So if he doesn't call again-while really disappointing--here's to a hopefully better experience next time.

 

 

Gman

[+ WilliamM]

Well I think I screwed up-not in a good way though. So we met last night. We skipped the traditional third meeting (I think that is more a movie trope for guy/girl matchups anyway) and decided to know each other biblically last night. It was ok. I mean it was nice. Unfortunately after being all endorphined out, I think I probably babbled too much afterwards-and that was all self-induced babbling. I was not on any exogenous mood enhancers.

 

To tell the truth-and I doubt any of you can tell from my usual posts:p? -I'm a pretty talky fellow before sex too.

 

But to paraphrase a popular adage-if I continue living-there's a minuscule chance I'll learn.

 

So if he doesn't call again-while really disappointing--here's to a hopefully better experience next time.

 

 

Gman

 

There is a lot to babble about right now. Good luck, Gman.

[+ friendofsheila]

Congrats, Gman!

 

I hope you can enjoy what he has to offer, while he has it to offer, which sounds intermittent.

[RealAvalon]

Well I think I screwed up-not in a good way though. So we met last night. We skipped the traditional third meeting (I think that is more a movie trope for guy/girl matchups anyway) and decided to know each other biblically last night. It was ok. I mean it was nice. Unfortunately after being all endorphined out, I think I probably babbled too much afterwards-and that was all self-induced babbling. I was not on any exogenous mood enhancers.

 

To tell the truth-and I doubt any of you can tell from my usual posts:p? -I'm a pretty talky fellow before sex too.

 

But to paraphrase a popular adage-if I continue living-there's a minuscule chance I'll learn.

 

So if he doesn't call again-while really disappointing--here's to a hopefully better experience next time.

 

 

Gman

Any updates?

[+ Gar1eth]

Any updates?

 

Funny you should ask. I do have one.

 

So to recap-this guy has never been a great communicator. I think he said he was first interested in getting together in February. He sent like two texts in February. Then basically went silent and didn't respond back to several texts I made until May. I didn't text him constantly or anything. But I probably sent him a couple of texts in March and April because I thought he was cute. And he had expressed an interest.

 

So he finally answered back in May, and we met. Then again pretty much radio silence even right after the meeting when I texted him that I had a nice time.

 

That's what made me think he wasn't that interested. But not being sure....

 

 

The Day After I texted him basic "hope your having a good day"

 

No response.

 

2 Days After-I text another Good Day Wish.

 

Yes, I know it sounds desperate. But it really irks me when I get ghosted. It may hurt to hear/read something unpleasant. But I hate things being nebulous.

 

3 Days After -I for a change didn't text. And he texts me saying "Good Morning,

 

I reply back. But he doesn't respond.

 

4 Days After-- He again texts out of the blue -says he wants to go out once things open up. I give a suggestion or two. He says "let's talk tomorrow"

 

That would have been yesterday. But I didn't hear from him.

 

My interpretation-

 

He likes me. He really likes me at least a little. He wants to do stuff-even outside the bedroom. But apparently is horrible at the follow-thru.

 

Gman

[+ azdr0710]

Don't appear desperate, but stay in touch... occasionally

[+ Gar1eth]

Don't appear desperate, but stay in touch... occasionally

 

Good idea. I am going to text tomorrow. But I think that's allowable since he said on Saturday let's talk tomorrow.

 

Gman

[RealAvalon]

Funny you should ask. I do have one.

 

So to recap-this guy has never been a great communicator. I think he said he was first interested in getting together in February. He sent like two texts in February. Then basically went silent and didn't respond back to several texts I made until May. I didn't text him constantly or anything. But I probably sent him a couple of texts in March and April because I thought he was cute. And he had expressed an interest.

 

So he finally answered back in May, and we met. Then again pretty much radio silence even right after the meeting when I texted him that I had a nice time.

 

That's what made me think he wasn't that interested. But not being sure....

 

 

The Day After I texted him basic "hope your having a good day"

 

No response.

 

2 Days After-I text another Good Day Wish.

 

Yes, I know it sounds desperate. But it really irks me when I get ghosted. It may hurt to hear/read something unpleasant. But I hate things being nebulous.

 

3 Days After -I for a change didn't text. And he texts me saying "Good Morning,

 

I reply back. But he doesn't respond.

 

4 Days After-- He again texts out of the blue -says he wants to go out once things open up. I give a suggestion or two. He says "let's talk tomorrow"

 

That would have been yesterday. But I didn't hear from him.

 

My interpretation-

 

He likes me. He really likes me at least a little. He wants to do stuff-even outside the bedroom. But apparently is horrible at the follow-thru.

 

Gman

Who knows? Could be juggling other commitments, could be meh interest, could be bad timing, could be … ?

Try and step back from it and think about other guys. What's the saying, "best way to get over someone, is to get under someone … "

[LivingnLA]

One thing I'd like to get some viewpoints on from our community here. This guy is bisexual. He says that with woman he has to be attracted to them physically. With men he has to be attracted to more to personality. For those of you who are bisexual or have dated bisexuals, I'm wondering if this is a common preference or idiosyncratic to this guy.

 

@Gar1eth, congratulations on the date. As I've said before, life goes on, even during a pandemic. I presume both of you discussed this extensively since you know the time you spent together, especially the necking, exchanged many droplets. If either of you were infected, the probability is high that both of you are now.

 

Regarding bisexuality, I identify as bisexual and even after many years of study, it's still an endlessly interesting topic for me because of the diversity of human interests. I have heard many answers from many bisexual people over the years about "why they're bi" or "what they're attracted to" because many monosexuals seem to struggle with the inherent complexity in bisexuality. Human sexuality is very complicated, even when we're discussing a heteo or homo rmonosexual.

 

Like identity, I would take him at his word about his attractions and go from there. I tend to be more into emotional relationships with women and physical relationships with men, but really it boils down to intelligence and personality for me, regardless of their physical attributes. Gender expression tends to strongly influence my level of attraction.

 

You mentioned polyamory, are you okay with him having multiple lovers? That strikes me as a more complex potential area of conflict for many people. If he's into you and you're into each other, go for it! Have fun and make sure both of you communicate clearly and regularly so there are no misunderstandings. Relationships are complicated, adding layers greatly increases the complexity, so communicate and explore together.

 

Funny you should ask. I do have one.

 

So to recap-this guy has never been a great communicator. I think he said he was first interested in getting together in February. He sent like two texts in February. Then basically went silent and didn't respond back to several texts I made until May. I didn't text him constantly or anything. But I probably sent him a couple of texts in March and April because I thought he was cute. And he had expressed an interest.

 

So he finally answered back in May, and we met. Then again pretty much radio silence even right after the meeting when I texted him that I had a nice time.

 

That's what made me think he wasn't that interested. But not being sure....

 

 

The Day After I texted him basic "hope your having a good day"

 

No response.

 

2 Days After-I text another Good Day Wish.

 

Yes, I know it sounds desperate. But it really irks me when I get ghosted. It may hurt to hear/read something unpleasant. But I hate things being nebulous.

 

3 Days After -I for a change didn't text. And he texts me saying "Good Morning,

 

I reply back. But he doesn't respond.

 

4 Days After-- He again texts out of the blue -says he wants to go out once things open up. I give a suggestion or two. He says "let's talk tomorrow"

 

That would have been yesterday. But I didn't hear from him.

 

My interpretation-

 

He likes me. He really likes me at least a little. He wants to do stuff-even outside the bedroom. But apparently is horrible at the follow-thru.

 

Gman

 

How old is he? It sounds like he's a very relaxed communicator and you should like a high touch communicator. You'll probably want to dial it way down if you don't want to spook him off.

Edited June 8, 2020 by LivingnLA

[Daverwr]

Good idea. I am going to text tomorrow. But I think that's allowable since he said on Saturday let's talk tomorrow.

 

Gman

He simply doesn’t seem like the Great Communicator. So, I think that allows you to be one. Text or call or both. How old is he? Perhaps text is a slightly foreign communication method for him. (I hate it but I’m 57.). So, maybe call him instead. Just keep at him!

[+ Gar1eth]

@Gar1eth, congratulations on the date. As I've said before, life goes on, even during a pandemic. I presume both of you discussed this extensively since you know the time you spent together, especially the necking, exchanged many droplets. If either of you were infected, the probability is high that both of you are now.

 

Well not really. It's scary. If you are going to be close to someone, then it's a risk you have to take. I'm assuming if he knew he had been exposed, he would have told me. I'm sure the same thing goes for him. With the fact that asymptomatic people can spread the disease, every meeting is a crapshoot. There's just no way to know.

 

 

You mentioned polyamory, are you okay with him having multiple lovers? That strikes me as a more complex potential area of conflict for many people. If he's into you and you're into each other, go for it! Have fun and make sure both of you communicate clearly and regularly so there are no misunderstandings. Relationships are complicated, adding layers greatly increases the complexity, so communicate and explore together.

 

 

I've been with bisexual escorts -Andrew Justice for example-and probably some escorts who were g4pay although as much as I could I tried to avoid those guys. And I've been with guys who came out late and were previously married. And I'm sure I've been with some true bisexuals or guys still married to women. But I won't deny it weirds me out.

 

However I think the true answer on how much it will bother me is how "into him" I get. After all the majority of the people I've met on the apps to have sex with-I've known I wasn't their only partner. It's just I normally expect their other partners to be men and not women. So even if we became routine 'buds' -unless we had an agreement of exclusivity I wouldn't expect to be his one and only. If I felt I was falling deeply into like-or love, then his polyamory nature is going to bother me more.

 

How old is he? It sounds like he's a very relaxed communicator and you should like a high touch communicator. You'll probably want to dial it way down if you don't want to spook him off.

He simply doesn’t seem like the Great Communicator. So, I think that allows you to be one. Text or call or both. How old is he? Perhaps text is a slightly foreign communication method for him. (I hate it but I’m 57.). So, maybe call him instead. Just keep at him!

 

1. How old is he? We're roughly the same age.

 

2. Not a Great Communicator? I'd say this goes beyond that to maybe being a bit too self-centered-or something. After all he said he was interested. And later events have borne that out. But to first contact someone in February, Then he doesn't follow-up until May? He's a nice guy. And I'll admit I'm not always the best at following up on things either. But unless he becomes more reliable, there's no way anything more than a casual f-buddy relationship is possible.

 

3. I'm fairly sure text is not a foreign concept to him. For some reason it just doesn't seem to register that sending a text apologizing for not texting earlier. Then not responding to a reply to that is really irksome.

 

Gman

Edited June 10, 2020 by Gar1eth

[+ Gar1eth]

@Gar1eth, congratulations on the date. As I've said before, life goes on, even during a pandemic. I presume both of you discussed this extensively since you know the time you spent together, especially the necking, exchanged many droplets. If either of you were infected, the probability is high that both of you are now.

 

Well not really. It's scary. If you are going to be close to someone, then it's a risk you have to take. I'm assuming if he knew he had been exposed, he would have told me. I'm sure the same thing goes for him. With the fact that asymptomatic people can spread the disease, every meeting is a crapshoot. There's just no way to know.

 

 

You mentioned polyamory, are you okay with him having multiple lovers? That strikes me as a more complex potential area of conflict for many people. If he's into you and you're into each other, go for it! Have fun and make sure both of you communicate clearly and regularly so there are no misunderstandings. Relationships are complicated, adding layers greatly increases the complexity, so communicate and explore together.

 

 

I've been with bisexual escorts -Andrew Justice for example-and probably some escorts who were g4pay although as much as I could I tried to avoid those guys. And I've been with guys who came out late and were previously married. And I'm sure I've been with some true bisexuals or guys still married to women. But I won't deny it weirds me out.

 

However I think the true answer on how much it will bother me is how "into him" I get. After all the majority of the people I've met on the apps to have sex with-I've known I wasn't their only partner. It's just I normally expect their other partners to be men and not women. So even if we became routine 'buds' -unless we had an agreement of exclusivity I wouldn't expect to be his one and only. If I felt I was falling deeply into like-or love, then his polyamory nature is going to bother me more.

 

How old is he? It sounds like he's a very relaxed communicator and you should like a high touch communicator. You'll probably want to dial it way down if you don't want to spook him off.

He simply doesn’t seem like the Great Communicator. So, I think that allows you to be one. Text or call or both. How old is he? Perhaps text is a slightly foreign communication method for him. (I hate it but I’m 57.). So, maybe call him instead. Just keep at him!

 

1. How old is he? We're roughly the same age.

 

2. Not a Great Communicator? I'd say this goes beyond that to maybe being a bit too self-centered-or something. After all he said he was interested. And later events have borne that out. But to first contact someone in February, Then he doesn't follow-up until May? He's a nice guy. And I'll admit I'm not always the best at following up on things either. But unless he becomes more reliable, there's no way anything more than a casual f-buddy relationship is possible.

 

3. I'm fairly sure text is not a foreign concept to him. For some reason it just doesn't seem to register that sending a text apologizing for not texting earlier. Then not responding to a reply to that is really irksome.

 

Gman

Edited June 10, 2020 by Gar1eth

[RealAvalon]

Well not really. It's scary. If you are going to be close to someone, then it's a risk you have to take. I'm assuming if he knew he had been exposed, he would wife told me. I'm sure the same thing goes for him. With the fact that asymptomatic people can spread the disease, every meeting is a crapshoot. There's just no way to know.

 

I've been with bisexual escorts -Andrew Justice for example-and probably some escorts who were g4pay although as much as I could I tried to avoid those guys. And I've been with guys who came out late and were previously married. And I'm sure I've been with some true bisexuals or guys still married to women. But I won't deny it weirds me out.

 

However I think the true answer on how much it will bother me is how "into him" I get. After all the majority of the people I've met on the apps to have sex with-I've known I wasn't their only partner. It's just I normally expect their other partners to be men and not women. So even if we became routine 'buds' -unless we had an agreement of exclusivity I wouldn't expect to be his one and only. If I felt I was falling deeply into like-or love, then his polyamory nature is going to bother me more.

 

QUOTE="LivingnLA, post: 1927132, member: 13313"]

How old is he? It sounds like he's a very relaxed communicator and you should like a high touch communicator. You'll probably want to dial it way down if you don't want to spook him off.

 

1. How old is he? We're roughly the same age.

 

2. Not a Great Communicator? I'd say this goes beyond that to maybe being a bit too self-centered-or something. After all he said he was interested. And later events have borne that out. But to first contact someone in February, Then he doesn't follow-up until May? He's a nice guy. And I'll admit I'm not always the best at following up on things either. But unless he becomes more reliable, there's no way anything more than a casual f-buddy relationship is possible.

 

3. I'm fairly sure text is not a foreign concept to him. For some reason it just doesn't seem to register that sending a text apologizing for not texting earlier. Then not responding to a reply to that is really irksome.

 

 

Dating is only for the brave.

[RealAvalon]

Well not really. It's scary. If you are going to be close to someone, then it's a risk you have to take. I'm assuming if he knew he had been exposed, he would wife told me. I'm sure the same thing goes for him. With the fact that asymptomatic people can spread the disease, every meeting is a crapshoot. There's just no way to know.

 

I've been with bisexual escorts -Andrew Justice for example-and probably some escorts who were g4pay although as much as I could I tried to avoid those guys. And I've been with guys who came out late and were previously married. And I'm sure I've been with some true bisexuals or guys still married to women. But I won't deny it weirds me out.

 

However I think the true answer on how much it will bother me is how "into him" I get. After all the majority of the people I've met on the apps to have sex with-I've known I wasn't their only partner. It's just I normally expect their other partners to be men and not women. So even if we became routine 'buds' -unless we had an agreement of exclusivity I wouldn't expect to be his one and only. If I felt I was falling deeply into like-or love, then his polyamory nature is going to bother me more.

 

QUOTE="LivingnLA, post: 1927132, member: 13313"]

How old is he? It sounds like he's a very relaxed communicator and you should like a high touch communicator. You'll probably want to dial it way down if you don't want to spook him off.

 

1. How old is he? We're roughly the same age.

 

2. Not a Great Communicator? I'd say this goes beyond that to maybe being a bit too self-centered-or something. After all he said he was interested. And later events have borne that out. But to first contact someone in February, Then he doesn't follow-up until May? He's a nice guy. And I'll admit I'm not always the best at following up on things either. But unless he becomes more reliable, there's no way anything more than a casual f-buddy relationship is possible.

 

3. I'm fairly sure text is not a foreign concept to him. For some reason it just doesn't seem to register that sending a text apologizing for not texting earlier. Then not responding to a reply to that is really irksome.

 

 

Dating is only for the brave.

[+ WilliamM]

@Gar1eth

 

Have you talked to a friend in person about this, or even on the phone?

[+ WilliamM]

@Gar1eth

 

Have you talked to a friend in person about this, or even on the phone?

[+ Gar1eth]

Well not really. It's scary. If you are going to be close to someone, then it's a risk you have to take. I'm assuming if he knew he had been exposed, he would have told me. I'm sure the same thing goes for him. With the fact that asymptomatic people can spread the disease, every meeting is a crapshoot. There's just no way to know.

 

 

 

 

 

I've been with bisexual escorts -Andrew Justice for example-and probably some escorts who were g4pay although as much as I could I tried to avoid those guys. And I've been with guys who came out late and were previously married. And I'm sure I've been with some true bisexuals or guys still married to women. But I won't deny it weirds me out.

 

However I think the true answer on how much it will bother me is how "into him" I get. After all the majority of the people I've met on the apps to have sex with-I've known I wasn't their only partner. It's just I normally expect their other partners to be men and not women. So even if we became routine 'buds' -unless we had an agreement of exclusivity I wouldn't expect to be his one and only. If I felt I was falling deeply into like-or love, then his polyamory nature is going to bother me more.

 

 

 

 

1. How old is he? We're roughly the same age.

 

2. Not a Great Communicator? I'd say this goes beyond that to maybe being a bit too self-centered-or something. After all he said he was interested. And later events have borne that out. But to first contact someone in February, Then he doesn't follow-up until May? He's a nice guy. And I'll admit I'm not always the best at following up on things either. But unless he becomes more reliable, there's no way anything more than a casual f-buddy relationship is possible.

 

3. I'm fairly sure text is not a foreign concept to him. For some reason it just doesn't seem to register that sending a text apologizing for not texting earlier. Then not responding to a reply to that is really irksome.

 

Gman

Dating is only for the brave.

 

Boy, did you just say (or rather write) a mouthful, @RealAvalon-esp when gig consider I'm at high risk due to age, medical conditions, and being immune suppressed from prednisone.

 

@Gar1eth

 

Have you talked to a friend in person about this, or even on the phone?

 

I'm sure I'm being overly dense here, @WilliamM, but talk about what specifically with friend?

 

Gman

[+ Gar1eth]

Well not really. It's scary. If you are going to be close to someone, then it's a risk you have to take. I'm assuming if he knew he had been exposed, he would have told me. I'm sure the same thing goes for him. With the fact that asymptomatic people can spread the disease, every meeting is a crapshoot. There's just no way to know.

 

 

 

 

 

I've been with bisexual escorts -Andrew Justice for example-and probably some escorts who were g4pay although as much as I could I tried to avoid those guys. And I've been with guys who came out late and were previously married. And I'm sure I've been with some true bisexuals or guys still married to women. But I won't deny it weirds me out.

 

However I think the true answer on how much it will bother me is how "into him" I get. After all the majority of the people I've met on the apps to have sex with-I've known I wasn't their only partner. It's just I normally expect their other partners to be men and not women. So even if we became routine 'buds' -unless we had an agreement of exclusivity I wouldn't expect to be his one and only. If I felt I was falling deeply into like-or love, then his polyamory nature is going to bother me more.

 

 

 

 

1. How old is he? We're roughly the same age.

 

2. Not a Great Communicator? I'd say this goes beyond that to maybe being a bit too self-centered-or something. After all he said he was interested. And later events have borne that out. But to first contact someone in February, Then he doesn't follow-up until May? He's a nice guy. And I'll admit I'm not always the best at following up on things either. But unless he becomes more reliable, there's no way anything more than a casual f-buddy relationship is possible.

 

3. I'm fairly sure text is not a foreign concept to him. For some reason it just doesn't seem to register that sending a text apologizing for not texting earlier. Then not responding to a reply to that is really irksome.

 

Gman

Dating is only for the brave.

 

Boy, did you just say (or rather write) a mouthful, @RealAvalon-esp when gig consider I'm at high risk due to age, medical conditions, and being immune suppressed from prednisone.

 

@Gar1eth

 

Have you talked to a friend in person about this, or even on the phone?

 

I'm sure I'm being overly dense here, @WilliamM, but talk about what specifically with friend?

 

Gman

[+ WilliamM]

Boy, did you just say (or rather write) a mouthful, @RealAvalon-esp when gig consider I'm at high risk due to age, medical conditions, and being immune suppressed from prednisone.

 

 

 

I'm sure I'm being overly dense here, @WilliamM, but talk about what specifically with friend?

 

Gman

Your romantic relationship discussed in this thread

[+ WilliamM]

Boy, did you just say (or rather write) a mouthful, @RealAvalon-esp when gig consider I'm at high risk due to age, medical conditions, and being immune suppressed from prednisone.

 

 

 

I'm sure I'm being overly dense here, @WilliamM, but talk about what specifically with friend?

 

Gman

Your romantic relationship discussed in this thread