Do you Prefer Booked in Advance or Same Day Appointments?

[orville]

Or what do you consider to be more serious when approached by a client?

I've seen some profiles saying they only take 'booked in advance' appointments.

While others say that they only consider serious those requests for 'same day'.

It wasn't like this few years ago. What changed: the market or the clients?

[Guest Cayden]

Initially, I preferred same day but because I have another job, I do prefer on advance, then everyone can plan ahead. Especially if its something that requires me to get on a plane.

[harlow]

Unless it is something that requires me to get on a plane, then I prefer same day.

Why same day? I'm one of those that likes to get my appointment on the books with a provider. Especially if I'm traveling or they are a "popular" escort. The only reason I can think of that an escort would want to book the same day is because it gives the cops less time to set up a sting. Is that it or am I just way off base? lol

[Jarrod_Uncut]

Why same day? I'm one of those that likes to get my appointment on the books with a provider. Especially if I'm traveling or they are a "popular" escort. The only reason I can think of that an escort would want to book the same day is because it gives the cops less time to set up a sting. Is that it or am I just way off base? lol

 

Lol the first part sounds about right, but not so much the 2nd. What did we learn from rentboy and the college admissions scandals?

 

That said...being this thread is similar to my recent post, I don’t mind same day or advance appointments. Neither is bad or less productive in of itself. But it’s more about how one goes about it.

[Quincy_7]

Why same day? I'm one of those that likes to get my appointment on the books with a provider. Especially if I'm traveling or they are a "popular" escort. The only reason I can think of that an escort would want to book the same day is because it gives the cops less time to set up a sting. Is that it or am I just way off base? lol

 

When I'm on vacation I do same day bookings. When I'm not on vacation I will typically book in advance because my work schedule prevents me from seeing an escort that day. In that case we're typically looking at a weekend booking.

[harlow]

Lol the first part sounds about right, but not so much the 2nd. What did we learn from rentboy and the college admissions scandals?

 

That said...being this thread is similar to my recent post, I don’t mind same day or advance appointments. Neither is bad or less productive in of itself. But it’s more about how one goes about it.

I guess...but then we can start going down the rabbit hole of how advanced is too advanced. I mean if I contact someone 7hrs in advance on the same day is that too early? (I was told that once by an escort that preferred advanced same days). Or if I contact you 2hrs prior is that too late in advance? (I was told that as well by another escort). I'm a top and I'm one of those guys that likes to be as courteous as possible to a provider so they have time to prepare and get ready. Damed if you do damned if you done lmao!

[harlow]

When I'm on vacation I do same day bookings. When I'm not on vacation I will typically book in advance because my work schedule prevents me from seeing an escort that day. In that case we're typically looking at a weekend booking.

I'm kinda the same

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I guess...but then we can start going down the rabbit hole of how advanced is too advanced. I mean if I contact someone 7hrs in advance on the same day is that too early? (I was told that once by an escort that preferred advanced same days). Or if I contact you 2hrs prior is that too late in advance? (I was told that as well by another escort). I'm a top and I'm one of those guys that likes to be as courteous as possible to a provider so they have time to prepare and get ready. Damed if you do damned if you done lmao!

 

That’s the thing. Just like I said in another post, Ask and Coordinate. You’re never going to know. Remember each escort has a life of their own. It’s not going to be the same for each and every escort. Clients try to guess and gauge, and that’s when we get annoyed. No guessing or assumptions. ASK with the intent that you probably won’t get an appointment that same day. If you do great, but if it’s the only day of the year you can meet...they should have booked it like a plane ticket.

 

Like one client who I had to dump: he asked me twice, “by chance are you available”. The first time I was. The 2nd time, I was, but once again...him wanting me to host with short notice, and by a certain time. Couldn’t do it, so we discussed another day. Then he couldn’t stick to it. So I dumped him. I won’t be toyed with like that. Rushing me around last minute, and then cancelling when we try to plan ahead to get the time they want.

 

I insulted one guy awhile back. I said, “You claim to be a college graduate, so are you playing dumb, or can you just not read?” At the time, I specifically said I don’t host same day notice appointments. He texts me after the gym, when I’m high on testosterone, asking if he can come over for an incall TONIGHT. And it was already after 7 pm.

 

Some people admit they don’t bother to read ads. I told one guy yesterday, if you choose to disregard, don’t be surprised! I don’t spend time writing these ads, for decoration.

[Guest Cayden]

Why same day? I'm one of those that likes to get my appointment on the books with a provider. Especially if I'm traveling or they are a "popular" escort. The only reason I can think of that an escort would want to book the same day is because it gives the cops less time to set up a sting. Is that it or am I just way off base? lol

 

I had a change of heart on this and I too prefer an appointment made in advance.

[harlow]

I had a change of heart on this and I too prefer an appointment made in advance.

I just seem to have a better experience with advanced planning

[Smurof]

I only attempt to do a same day booking if something goes wrong with my pre-planned arrangement. I'm wise to not clue in Mr. Today why I'm seeking services (nobody likes to be let known they weren't a first choice). I do notice more and more providers these days doing same day booking only, and I totally get it. There's a far less chance of a misunderstanding if the session is on the same day.

 

I am the today only for hire's worst nightmare, as I like to book appointments many months in advance sometimes, based on my travels. I like to check in to confirm a couple of days prior, and leave it at that. It works out just fine for my regulars, and gives them something to look forward to.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I only attempt to do a same day booking if something goes wrong with my pre-planned arrangement. I'm wise to not clue in Mr. Today why I'm seeking services (nobody likes to be let known they weren't a first choice). I do notice more and more providers these days doing same day booking only, and I totally get it. There's a far less chance of a misunderstanding if the session is on the same day.

 

Hmmm...good points overall, but I strongly have to counter this one. I’ve had same day appointments involve some terrible misunderstandings. I’ve had to cut ties with regulars over same day sessions. Most of my missed sessions, have been based on same day bookings. Usually it’s due to the client being short on time, or inflexible, or something involving the hotel (directions, location, check in/check out times) that causes it.

 

Even back when I had my own place, some clients would contact me moments after I had left my apartment asking to come over. Almost as if they were watching me leave lol. I remember a time I was stuck in traffic only 20 miles from having just left to go out of town, when my favorite regular client asked to come over. I’m like dude, I just left the house ??‍♂️

 

It’s amazing how many missed connections could have been avoided, if appointments were simply planned a little more ahead. And I’m not even talking days and weeks ahead. I’m talking like a mere few hours. E.g., contacting at 9:30 am for an evening session, instead of contacting at 9:30 pm for an evening session. Some clients try to use the reasoning, “I can’t tell if or when I’m going to be horny, so I have to only call when I am.” So what if I was to say the same thing, and every other time you called because you were horny, I wasn’t horny?

 

One of my regulars from years ago used to say that, yet it was very predictable he would call me every 2 or 3 Sunday’s over a course of a couple years...once in awhile on a weekday. I didn’t mind at the time because I had my own place, and he lived in the same neighborhood. But there was a couple of times where he’d call the day of, and I would tell him...I’m not available on short notice today.

 

At the end of the day though, I realize in the biz...you just have to be available, convenient and ready. Sometimes within 15 minutes. And have your own place in the city. This business is built on instant gratification and convenience. It used to be a perk to have your own transportation (which I guess isn’t a big deal now with Uber and Lyft). At the same time, even when I set a day to be available, ready and in the city...I still only get 1 or maybe 2 if I’m lucky, people show up when I do. And mainly because they planned ahead. The same day-ers are usually the ones who don’t show up.

 

That’s why I tell clients, it’s no point in me being available 24/7, in order to be ready when they are ready. Most of my appointments are booked in advance. Therefore I have to go on about my life outside of those times, if you happen to contact me when I’m living my life, be prepared to coordinate something in the near future, rather than expect instant attention.

Edited May 22, 2020 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ Pensant]

A couple days in advance always works for me, with a text confirmation the day of.

[orville]

I only attempt to do a same day booking if something goes wrong with my pre-planned arrangement. I'm wise to not clue in Mr. Today why I'm seeking services (nobody likes to be let known they weren't a first choice). I do notice more and more providers these days doing same day booking only, and I totally get it. There's a far less chance of a misunderstanding if the session is on the same day.

 

I am the today only for hire's worst nightmare, as I like to book appointments many months in advance sometimes, based on my travels. I like to check in to confirm a couple of days prior, and leave it at that. It works out just fine for my regulars, and gives them something to look forward to.

As a client, so true for me as well; yet there are different perspectives for the same event: being let down for one provider to just look for another. Let's not fool ourselves thinking escorts won't suspect a call close to midnight for a "right now" meeting is happening because another one bailed out. One time one highly-rated, highly-priced escort somehow sensed it and lectured me about him not being second option for anyone, before declining my request. That was fair because I reached out before and never came back to him with a yes or no for the prospective encounter until the other one bailed out, shame on me. However, in another occasion, another escort had a completely different attitude and not only took the last-moment appointment but also provided so wonderful service that I have seen him now several times and it's having more business with me than the other two: I haven't seen anymore the one that bailed out, for being so disrespectful of my time, because I had booked him in advance; and the one who rejected me hasn't given me the chance to meet him for the first time and pay for his service.

[harlow]

A couple days in advance always works for me, with a text confirmation the day of.

Thats perfect and is best for both parties

[Jarrod_Uncut]

However, in another occasion, another escort had a completely different attitude and not only took the last-moment appointment

 

So were you hosting this, or was the provider hosting?

[orville]

So were you hosting this, or was the provider hosting?

He could do either when I reached out but I asked him for an outcall.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

He could do either when I reached out but I asked him for an outcall.

 

Makes sense...most times I’m more willing to accept a last minute outcall (your place) than a last minute incall (my place).

 

Like I said, last minute incalls usually flake. A guy who can host seems to be more serious than a guy trying to see if another man can host. It also just comes off different. I won’t be mad at a guy asking me to come over the day of. But like I said in another thread, them asking to come to me as an only option gives off a pushy vibe. Like this example I posted:

 

My masseur move 3 yr ago and haven't found a replacement, I think we been together once. Are you able to host today?

 

Followed by:

 

I just seen that you are not in kc, guess u will not be able to get together

 

He shoulda got a room if it’s that big of a deal lol. That’s the type of last minute stuff I don’t like. Why is he asking me if I can host today, if he seen I wasn’t in KC? And I actually was in KC, but I had somewhere to be out of state that evening, so I wasn’t going to be hosting. Problem is, hotel outcalls are obviously at an all time low right now. Even before now, hotel outcalls were lower than 10 years ago.

[orville]

Makes sense...most times I’m more willing to accept a last minute outcall (your place) than a last minute incall (my place).

 

Like I said, last minute incalls usually flake. A guy who can host seems to be more serious than a guy trying to see if another man can host. It also just comes off different. I won’t be mad at a guy asking me to come over the day of. But like I said in another thread, them asking to come to me as an only option gives off a pushy vibe. Like this example I posted:

 

My masseur move 3 yr ago and haven't found a replacement, I think we been together once. Are you able to host today?

 

Followed by:

 

I just seen that you are not in kc, guess u will not be able to get together

 

He shoulda got a room if it’s that big of a deal lol. That’s the type of last minute stuff I don’t like. Why is he asking me if I can host today, if he seen I wasn’t in KC? And I actually was in KC, but I had somewhere to be out of state that evening, so I wasn’t going to be hosting. Problem is, hotel outcalls are obviously at an all time low right now. Even before now, hotel outcalls were lower than 10 years ago.

I see what you mean. From my experience in sales, I would just stop responding and ignore him but wouldn't be aggressive, argumentative or block him. Never interact with a client when you are hot headed. Never burn your bridges. Some people will request service again and then, with a cold head, you can let them know the rules of your game if they really want the service. You never known when something could turn into a long-term business.

Edited May 23, 2020 by orville

[+ DERRIK]

i always book in advance

 

for well reviewed - popular men - I book months in advance

[Jarrod_Uncut]

I see what you mean. From my experience in sales, I would just stop responding and ignore him but wouldn't be aggressive, argumentative or block him. Never interact with a client when you are hot headed. Never burn your bridges. Some people will request service again and then, with a cold head, you can let them know the rules of your game if they really want the service. You never known when something could turn into a long-term business.

 

I agree, in a normal sense. But I’ve also played the “give him 1 more, 2 more, 5 more chances”. In my experience, dealing with these guys...the first time they show signs of flaky, shiesty or inconsiderate behavior, is always a prelude to how they’ll be on future arrangements. Some of them never change, and their bridges have to be demolished.

 

I just had someone today who did that. This guy has been a known timewaster in my book, and I previously blocked him when I used to use google voice, but I switched to iMessages. I ignored him back in January, then he comes around again today. Local guy, this time he sounded a bit more cooperative about how I do things. I also took a pic of my ad, and sent it to him highlighting that if he’s asking to meet today, he has to note how I would like to go about same day bookings.

 

Everything seemed to be a go, even after sending me his address. Sure enough, he cancelled just a few minutes later. That’s why in many cases it’s important to block people. The difference with the business versus some others, is people out here can either be overly fanatical, or spiteful.

 

I can be spiteful too, but I don’t have time for that. But I will be reporting him to RentMen, and hopefully they’ll take care of him.

[+ IronMaus]

My policy is no same day appointments - I've done this almost from the beginning after receiving advice from an escort in his 50s. However, if we have already met and we are in the same city, that's a different story...

[+ Reisr30]

I always schedule a meeting in advance and usually weeks in advance as my regular schedule is normally difficult with personal and work appointments keeping occupied.

[+ Coolwave35]

I’m a client and would appreciate a little perspective here. I Hire often and prefer same day appointments. That tends to limit me to rentmen profiles that say “available now.” Often the guys who have that turned on will refuse same day appointments. I always thought having available now meant you were ok with same day scheduling. Is that a wrong assumption?

[orville]

I’m a client and would appreciate a little perspective here. I Hire often and prefer same day appointments. That tends to limit me to rentmen profiles that say “available now.” Often the guys who have that turned on will refuse same day appointments. I always thought having available now meant you were ok with same day scheduling. Is that a wrong assumption?

Great input to my quest for the truth. I think I'm still not clear about all the turnarounds expressed here. However, if I count the responses to this thread it seems like there is some trend inclined to the "booked in advance appointments" side of things.