Hear ye, hear ye...

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

Dear xxx, and to the rest of the providers, who require payment up front, I say two things… One, have the guts to put that information in your profile. I guarantee that it will generate an honest discussion regarding your talents and the client’s expectations. Second, to those (xxx,) who wait until the client is disrobed to request payment, I say (metaphorically speaking,) “eat shit and die.” And finally, to those who get a bee in their bonnet for me having voiced this opinion, spare me some tragic story about how you’ve been burned.

Edited February 22, 2020 by Guy Fawkes

[+ azdr0710]

to all who read this, if meeting with a new dude who isn't utterly trusty and vetted by us, I specifically recommend that, in pre-meet communication, you say that you will pay at the end, that you don't want to talk money during the meet, and then ask if this is ok with him.......I've read too many horror stories here over the years.......

Edited February 22, 2020 by azdr0710

[Gymowner]

I have in the past provided payment in the room. Never beforehand. If I remember correctly xxx asked for this and we had such a good time HE requested a second round.

 

I've said this many times on here.... this is an expensive sport with no guarantees. If you cant afford to throw the $250 or $300 out the window so to speak... then dont hire. No difference than going to a casino.

 

If one is afraid that putting the money down upfront will warrant a rushed session by a hustler its probably a 50/50 chance. But the same can happen paying afterwards. Communicate beforehand about the upfront payment and if required then ask to meet at the hotel bar beforehand. You should be able to get a feeling for the guy then. Unless it's a regular it can be a crap shoot.

Edited February 22, 2020 by Guy Fawkes

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

Other than a gym membership, I can't think of another purchase where a 50/50 value proposition is tolerable. Sure, using affordability as justification is arrogant, but not despicable. Despicable would be if the gym owner used manipulative tactics to win his new members. The latter, of course, is independent of affordability. Affordability doesn't justify the means. I've had to point this out before.

[Gymowner]

i can only tell you what xxx said after our session as to why he asked me upfront for the money. he said "you are a young hot guy that doesnt need to hire. guys like you usually try to get a fuck outta me for free." many escorts dont feel comfortable when a good looking young guy hires them for this exact reason. especially the straight ones that dont give a rats ass about having sex with any guy let alone a hot young one. now older, i hear this over and over from them. i think the vibe they get from the initial meeting has a lot to do with it. nowadays, i cant remember the last time i gave an escort his money and he counted it in front of me. they all smile and in a nervous sort of way say thank you. i think its the comfort level i put them at that allows this.

 

dont get me wrong there are hustlers out there and then there are bonafide escorts. at first glance, it is sometimes impossible to differentiate the two.

[+ DrownedBoy]

Escrow accounts?

[Milo Farnsworth]

No job in the world pays BEFORE the job is done. NEVER EVER pay upfront!

[Gymowner]

did you ever need a medical procedure, give the nurse your insurance information then just prior to the procedure at the hospital them tell you that you owe xxx since it will cover your deductible and co-insurance? i have. if no pay... no procedure.

[+ RJD]

I've said this many times on here.... this is an expensive sport with no guarantees. If you cant afford to throw the $250 or $300 out the window so to speak... then dont hire. No difference than going to a casino.

 

Sorry, I totally disagree with your take on this. I’m paying for a service, not playing Texas Hold ‘Em. I go into the casino expecting to lose.

 

did you ever need a medical procedure, give the nurse your insurance information then just prior to the procedure at the hospital them tell you that you owe xxx since it will cover your deductible and co-insurance? i have. if no pay... no procedure.

 

And I completely disagree with this as well. If I call a plumber, electrician, bring my car to a mechanic, I pay upon completion of their services, not before. As far as your hospital analogy, I provide my insurance information and if there’s a co-pay I have them bill me.

[Gymowner]

doesnt work that way with many health providers anymore. no pay no services. i have only done this in the room a handful of times with many years of hiring under my belt. i also assessed the situation while there to feel if i would be taken advantage of or not. i'm not a fan at all of this procedure.

 

as to all... do what you see fit.

[gdphilly]

I have to agree with cowboy. I have only ever had that come up a couple times. When it did, I told him I was as concerned in the same fashion he was, since it was our first meeting. So I suggested that I was glad to show him that I had what was promised in order to alleviate any concern about being scammed and he then completely dropped the request for anything upfront after that. The only other time, I was dumb and gave in to the request. After about 15 mins then it turned into a shake-down for a higher fee at which point I just got myself together quickly and left. Of course this one bad provider wound up with other poor comments and quickly disappeared from the scene as far as I know. So in my opinion, absolutely speak up and trust your gut if things feel off.

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

For me, the kicker was asking for the fee once I was disrobed. Having an athletic build, I certainly didn't think the issue was my appearance.

[lonely_john]

Sorry to hear some have been deceived. I think I’ve been naive but lucky. I never sent money upfront (in advance), but over time I observed that all escorts asked me for the money upon arrival which I obliged to, maybe trusting too much. One time I asked why this, and one of the guys told me it’s standard so from that moment every time I meet with an escort I leave the money on a visible surface and point it so I avoid the awkward situation of being asked for it or feeling like I have to hand it over. It’s up to them to take it in that moment or later. Most take it and count it there in front of me. I take no offense, probably out of hunger. Luckily for me, I’ve never been robbed. Just one time 1 guy gave me 45 mins instead of the agreed hour, but the service was « completed » so I didn’t feel aggravated. I would have appreciated a little cuddling but it wasn’t mandatory in my mind because I booked an aggressive top. I definitely avoid new guys with no reviews, I focus more on well reviewed profiles rather than their sexy pics, which let’s be honest, sometimes are outdated. I examine every single review with attention, looking for fakes, there always are! But if I find too many, no thank you. I regret to hear that some have had bad experiences. I certainly put some extra time on screening the guys, but I also think I’ve been lucky.

Edited February 25, 2020 by lonely_john

[Islesguy]

I think it is less that I have been lucky and more that I have chosen only the most highly respected and reviewed escorts to hire. None have asked for the money upfront nor counted it before I/he left. Unless I decide to stick with that method, I know my luck will likely run out so I am more content to hire less and stick with the best of them.