Corrupt my masseur?

[+ glutes]

I've worked with a masseur for over 8 years, HE & MT, but never any sex.

How would you go about corrupting (bribing) him for more???

[Capitano]

How about just say:

"Hey, I usually don't do this, and of course, it's totally ok if you say no, but I'd love to do more with you."

[Antonio1981]

I've worked with a masseur for over 8 years, HE & MT, but never any sex.

How would you go about corrupting (bribing) him for more???

Do you think your masseur would be into the idea? I would go with your gut instinct.

[Dmitri]

I've worked with a masseur for over 8 years, HE & MT, but never any sex.

How would you go about corrupting (bribing) him for more???

 

Money $$$

[+ FrankR]

I've worked with a masseur for over 8 years, HE & MT, but never any sex.

How would you go about corrupting (bribing) him for more???

After all this time, you already have a good relationship, so asking him if he would be open to more than your usual session. If he says yes, compliment him on how cool a guy he is. If he says no, compliment him on how cool a guy he is!! ? And yes, the fee should be adjusted accordingly. ?

[+ FrankR]

And you are not corrupting him - you are building on an existing relationship for mutual benefit! ?

[Smurof]

If it has been that long of a time and nothing has progressed as you would hope, be happy with the skills that are provided and don't step your bounds. You would hate to ruin a good thing. Trust me, he would already be doing more with you in eight long years if he wanted to. I've had the same experience as you with someone like you described, although in half the amount of time in years. I still keep in touch, but I've moved on from him.

[Guest]

If it has been that long of a time and nothing has progressed as you would hope, be happy with the skills that are provided and don't step your bounds. You would hate to ruin a good thing.

 

That's just it, hate to ruin a good thing. But, but!

[+ FrankR]

That's just it, hate to ruin a good thing. But, but!

You know him best - can you two talk about boundaries without him taking offense? If he is easy going and approachable...

[+ Keith30309]

Ask. There’s two guys I have met as masseurs and the first sessions were HE only events. I asked if they were interested in something more mutually rewarding and both relationships quickly evolved to include some pretty kinky, full service stuff. On the other hand I’ve asked other masseurs the same thing and they politely declined, no harm done. It seems really unlikely that he’s never heard the request before.

 

I think as long as you’re very respectful and let him know that you are motivated by your enjoyment of the attention he provides so well today.

[marylander1940]

I've worked with a masseur for over 8 years, HE & MT, but never any sex.

How would you go about corrupting (bribing) him for more???

 

ask him: "What's your rate for escorting?"

[Wanderoz]

What a tough question. I've felt this way about a fantastic, cute, interesting masseur I've been seeing for a while. In my case though, he is straight and made sure I knew going into this that he offers no extras to anyone. I've been seeing him less and less. I thought I would eventually lose the sexual attraction to him, but oddly it just grows. His touch is proving too much for me. And the last few times I have been so horny and awash in hormones as I left.

[ldcr]

If you have a good relationship, it couldn't hurt to ask. I worked with a guy who started off strictly therapeutic. The massage was always good, but I wanted a more sensual aspect to it. I kept coming back for the massage, but I built a trust and made it comfortable enough to go a little further. It got sensual and then some a few times, but when he wasn't into it or I wasn't, then we said something or signaled one another that it wasn't happening today. And we were fine. I moved out of the area so I don't frequent him anymore but I enjoyed the consistency of it all.

Edited January 3, 2020 by ldcr

[+ FrankR]

ask him: "What's your rate for escorting?"

I appreciate your candor @marylander1940 but I would avoid the use of the word “escort” in this context. It may be too contentious. ?

[blightuponyou]

I managed it with one therapist. I really liked him as a person, and we had a lot of good conversations. He kept insisting he was “straight”, completel unsolicited, though he massaged me shirtless with his pants sling low on his hips.

 

Over time our talk kept turning to sex, and I definitely encouraged him to tell me things he had done with clients by revealing what I had done with other therapists. Still he kept saying “But I’m a straight guy”. I did notice the pants getting lower.

 

Finally, he just started rubbing against my arm and hand, telling me about going down on a girl the week before and how he really needed it because his wife and he did not really sleep together any more. I took that as my cue and we tested the limits of his “straightness”.

 

I think he just needed someone he was at ease with who could fulfill his needs. I guess that is my advice. Make him feel comfortable and willing to talk about sex. Accept it will probably be on his terms and at his comfort level. You never know.

[marylander1940]

I appreciate your candor @marylander1940 but I would avoid the use of the word “escort” in this context. It may be too contentious. ?

 

full service?

 

Love making?

 

Gay sex?

 

We're already talking about HE (oral, hand or both).

[+ Balthazar]

You won't know how the masseur will respond to your requesting sex until you discuss it with him. You might want to decide whether or not bringing up sex is worth potentially damaging your 8-year relationship (and on the flip side - if not addressing this desire and keeping things as they are is worth potential missed opportunities) . I've known masseurs who insist that they are not escorts and refuse to cross some line. They might allow MT and perform an HE, for example, but would be offended if a client suggested further sexual activity.

 

I agree with the idea of indirectly bringing up sex, as was mentioned earlier (e.g., asking if he ever hooks up with clients, asking about his opinion on masseurs who provide full service). If he were to take offense, you wouldn't have to claim it as a personal request. I also recognize that I worry too much about offending people at times, which has colored my post, and that simply asking him directly might suffice. I recently asked a masseur if he could remove my drape. With a concerned look, he asked "Why?". I was so embarrassed by this mild conflict, that I'll likely never return to him (even though the massage was solid). Your masseur has been giving you HJs for the past 8 years, however, so it's not like you're going from 0 to 100.

[Guest]

I've known masseurs who insist that they are not escorts and refuse to cross some line. They might allow MT and perform an HE, for example, but would be offended if a client suggested further sexual activity.

 

Ding! That is the dilemma.

[Guest davebk]

Why not raise it during a massage by asking, "hey you have phenomenal skill at this, but you're also incredibly sexy. Have you ever thought about going full service with clients?" If he says strict no, you laugh it off and say "I guess that's our loss." If he says maybe or indicates an interest at all, you go with, "well I hope if you decide to you'll let me know, I'd love to be one of the lucky ones."

[TracerMain]

I have a therapist in the LA outskirts who I’ve been seeing a lot recently. One of my go-to guys since November. It took a number of weekly visits before I got more than a MT and HE.

 

For two months, I would see him weekly. I didn’t care for more than the HE I was already getting from him. I kept coming back to him because his style was how I exactly wanted my massage experience with a masseur. Where majority of the time is spent on massage, and a happy end is literally just the ending part. But weekly, it was always sessions of professional massage, some brushing, touching, and teasing here and there, and him finishing me with HE and MT. That was the routine and I didn’t mind. Your (OP) story reminds me so much of how I was with him.

 

I would also try to work his tool but he just never finishes. I wasn’t sure if it was just because he wasn’t attracted to me, or because he doesn’t swing that way, so much that he wasn’t interested to actually get a happy end himself. But because I get great service from him anyway, I decided to keep him as my go-to.

 

Like you, and mine is significantly shorter than your relationship with your masseur, I started to like and trust the guy. My conversations with him felt real. I became more comfortable. So came that one night, during the massage I casually opened a conversation asking how he gets a massage for himself if he ever gets tired and I also asked if he receives a happy end. He said he only gets massages from fellow therapist friends, and he said the gender doesn’t matter. He also said if friend therapists aren’t available, sometimes he would book a random therapist (on Thumbtack, i believe is what he said?). So I asked him, if it were a female and wanted to do more with you, would you do it? He said if she initiated, why not? So I was like, “Wow. That’s hot. She’s a lucky girl then.” We laughed and the massage continued.

 

I don’t know if it had something to do with that talk, but it was that same night when the massage ended much better than our usual happy end that I couldn’t believe I finally got to “taste” him after about 10 visits. Haha!

 

I guess my point is, you just have to be comfortable with the person and drop hints when you talk to him. Try to get him to talk about how he gets naughty himself if the opportunity presents itself and follow through the conversation. If he says “I’m not comfortable sharing,” then that in itself is an answer. But if he starts to share, pick up from that and see where it could lead you to more dropping of hints and flirty but friendly lines. Ask well-worded questions, never dictate what you want because it seems like you’ve built a good relationship with him already. Don’t be too pushy because oh my gosh I would hate to destroy a good relationship with my favorite masseurs myself.

 

Good luck OP! Keep us updated.

[Terpmaniac]

I disagree. Its been 8 years. If your masseur wanted to throw in some extra "goodies" he would have done it by now. I wouldn't bring up the subject it may even make things awkward for you from this point forward. I have never, ever asked for anything but a good, capable massage(both of us nude of course), for me the massage is the thing. If anything beyond the massage happens its his call, not mine. Terp