Discussing fees with other clients

[Jay DC]

I recently relocated to Palm Springs where I have met some great local escorts, and actually have become friends with a few. But in PS, everyone know your business. I was in a local store and saw two former hires who were not there together. I was delighted to see both and since they were on their own, I said hello. A few days later, another man I didn’t know approached me at a reception telling me we had a mutual friend—one of the escorts who he saw me hug at the store! He immediately wanted to know how much I compensated my escort friend. Even though he told me his payment, I didn’t offer up the info because I think the ultimate fee determination is a private conversation between me and my provider. That’s how the provider makes a living, not my business to compare with strangers. And yet, I might have been more forthcoming with a range if the man was considering hiring the gentleman for the first time. That’s potentially building my provider’s client base, but the “compare and contrast“ seemed tacky. I may be overthinking this and I’m usually open and uninhibited. I can be naked and do the deed in front of strangers, but the talk of money between strangers seemed too private. I don’t mind making recommendations of superior providers with their permission! And I ask if they are okay with me sharing a recommendation when I meet them. (I’m surprised how many prefer I don’t). And I am lucky to have had a positive experience with nearly every provider I’ve ever met (and we‘re in the hundreds now) but this price comparison hit me wrong. I feel like I owe some discretion since I ask for the same. Could l make a longer post out of a simple question? I just jumping back in to the forums-I’ll do better and shorter in the future.

 

What say you providers? Yes to discussing your fees with other clients? Is it different if it’s a prospective client? Should I just get over myself and believe that all publicity is good and be forthright? Or how would you like the information presented?

[+ nycman]

I just realized....

 

I’ve posted rates here that were quoted to me by men I didn’t hire....

 

but demurred on answering the same question about men I have hired.

 

Interesting.

[BaronArtz]

I have absolutely no problem discussing fees - both on the forum or in private.

[MscleLovr]

man I didn’t know approached me at a reception telling me we had a mutual friend—one of the escorts who he saw me hug at the store! He immediately wanted to know how much

 

I’m open but this approach, however, strikes me as tacky. I’ve no problem giving info where I can be helpful, but I feel it’s best done privately.

[hypothetically]

I recently relocated to Palm Springs where I have met some great local escorts, and actually have become friends with a few. But in PS, everyone know your business. I was in a local store and saw two former hires who were not there together. I was delighted to see both and since they were on their own, I said hello. A few days later, another man I didn’t know approached me at a reception telling me we had a mutual friend—one of the escorts who he saw me hug at the store! He immediately wanted to know how much I compensated my escort friend. Even though he told me his payment, I didn’t offer up the info because I think the ultimate fee determination is a private conversation between me and my provider. That’s how the provider makes a living, not my business to compare with strangers. And yet, I might have been more forthcoming with a range if the man was considering hiring the gentleman for the first time. That’s potentially building my provider’s client base, but the “compare and contrast“ seemed tacky. I may be overthinking this and I’m usually open and uninhibited. I can be naked and do the deed in front of strangers, but the talk of money between strangers seemed too private. I don’t mind making recommendations of superior providers with their permission! And I ask if they are okay with me sharing a recommendation when I meet them. (I’m surprised how many prefer I don’t). And I am lucky to have had a positive experience with nearly every provider I’ve ever met (and we‘re in the hundreds now) but this price comparison hit me wrong. I feel like I owe some discretion since I ask for the same. Could l make a longer post out of a simple question? I just jumping back in to the forums-I’ll do better and shorter in the future.

 

What say you providers? Yes to discussing your fees with other clients? Is it different if it’s a prospective client? Should I just get over myself and believe that all publicity is good and be forthright? Or how would you like the information presented?

 

This post speaks volumes about your character and I love to hear questions like this.

 

I don’t foresee this being an issue with any providers unless, of course, they aren’t quoting clients consistently. I, personally, do not mind. Nevertheless, yes, what the man did was tacky and invasive.

[marylander1940]

I recently relocated to Palm Springs where I have met some great local escorts, and actually have become friends with a few. But in PS, everyone know your business. I was in a local store and saw two former hires who were not there together. I was delighted to see both and since they were on their own, I said hello. A few days later, another man I didn’t know approached me at a reception telling me we had a mutual friend—one of the escorts who he saw me hug at the store! He immediately wanted to know how much I compensated my escort friend. Even though he told me his payment, I didn’t offer up the info because I think the ultimate fee determination is a private conversation between me and my provider. That’s how the provider makes a living, not my business to compare with strangers. And yet, I might have been more forthcoming with a range if the man was considering hiring the gentleman for the first time. That’s potentially building my provider’s client base, but the “compare and contrast“ seemed tacky. I may be overthinking this and I’m usually open and uninhibited. I can be naked and do the deed in front of strangers, but the talk of money between strangers seemed too private. I don’t mind making recommendations of superior providers with their permission! And I ask if they are okay with me sharing a recommendation when I meet them. (I’m surprised how many prefer I don’t). And I am lucky to have had a positive experience with nearly every provider I’ve ever met (and we‘re in the hundreds now) but this price comparison hit me wrong. I feel like I owe some discretion since I ask for the same. Could l make a longer post out of a simple question? I just jumping back in to the forums-I’ll do better and shorter in the future.

 

What say you providers? Yes to discussing your fees with other clients? Is it different if it’s a prospective client? Should I just get over myself and believe that all publicity is good and be forthright? Or how would you like the information presented?

 

Yes, that was tacky... Maybe he was hitting on you @Jay DC

[harlow]

I just realized....

 

I’ve posted rates here that were quoted to me by men I didn’t hire....

 

but demurred on answering the same question about men I have hired.

 

Interesting.

I'm kinda the same. I don't really disclose the rates of the providers I've been with but if I didn't meet them or they flake on me I tell everything. Especially the ones I fell like I've made a real connection with I will keep the rates between us. Especially if they give me deals on multiple hours or make exceptions for me.

[hypothetically]

..but if I didn't meet them or they flake on me I tell everything.

 

Imagine if escorts did that to clients per their personal information.

Escorts are resourceful.

"Do unto others...."

[+ oldNbusted]

Imagine if escorts did that to clients per their personal information.

 

We don't have to imagine, this is the premise of multiple threads from Mocha, usually not well received in these parts. ?

[hypothetically]

We don't have to imagine, this is the premise of multiple threads from Mocha, usually not well received in these parts. ?

 

I’ve been here long enough to know.

And please don’t speak Mocha and those god-awful threads back into existence lol

[+ oldNbusted]

And please don’t speak Mocha and those god-awful threads back into existence lol

 

No worries, the worst of them were banished to the cornfield.

[hypothetically]

No worries, the worst of them were banished to the cornfield.

 

[+ WilliamM]

Imagine if escorts did that to clients per their personal information.

Escorts are resourceful.

"Do unto others...."

 

Of course that happened in the days of escort agencies - not that long ago.

[harlow]

Imagine if escorts did that to clients per their personal information.

Escorts are resourceful.

"Do unto others...."

To clarify I meant I tell everything about the price details...obviously if I didn't meet the provider I wouldn't know much, or anything about them. Besides its not my style anyway...I believe in karma

[Jay DC]

These are awesome responses. Thanks for taking time to share your insights. As I think about it now, I think the reception guy was just an asshole. If I had told a million other people about fees, I still would not have told him. Or maybe I’m the asshole. No, had to be him.