Escorts who don't respond

[pierrot]

I recently decided I had some free time coming up and it would be a good time for a little recreation with an escort. A week ahead of time I responded to a couple of Rentboy ads. Two days later neither had responded. Assuming those two were not going to happen, I sent messages to two more. One responded and said he'd be interested, so I wrote back and gave him some more details. No response. Finally I tried a 5th guy, who did respond, and I've sent him a confirmation. We'll see if he confirms with me and actually shows up.

 

Now nothing in my e-mails was weird or offputting that I know of. Just standard introductory stuff. So my question is, do you have to try four or five escorts before one responds? And why are these guys paying for ads if they don't even go to the trouble to answer the prospective clients who call?

 

It's a bit frustrating to make up a "wish list" of guys to hire, and then have most of them not even respond initially.

Anyone else have similar experience?

[MichiganMan]

You beat me to the punch! Seemingly I post this very same bitch every year with limited response. I have been hiring for about 8 years now. Early on, it was like being a kid in a candy store. If I emailed two guys in any given city I was traveling to, BOTH would respond. It was extremely rare that one would not answer. But, the last few years (3 or so), if I email 5...I repeat...5...in any given city...MAYBE...one will respond. It was routine for me to hire a guy for an overnight once a month years back....now..if I'm lucky...once, maybe twice a year is the norm. Really sad....the "greats" of this business are gone I fear!!! Matter of fact... I am trying a "new guy" here in Detroit tomorrow....had to email him twice and leave two messages before he responded....after a WEEK...but...I ain't taking no shit anymore...if he wants cash up front or isn't like his pics...out he goes....stay tuned http://www.men4rentnow.com/ds/index.asp?cmd=view&id=169970&Login=gradjockDL

[Kevin Slater]

Out of curiosity, do you use an aol email address? I find it nearly impossible to communicate with folk via aol. I don't know if it has to do with their filters or what, but it seems like these folk never get my reply. Or if they do, and then reply to me, the previous thread is deleted, so I get a message merely saying "OK How about 3:00 that day" leaving me to guess which day we were talking about or having to sort through my outbox to pick up the rest of that thread.

 

Kevin Slater

[gregkidman]

I found an interesting trend.

1) With older well-established escorts, phone is the way to go because they, I assume, are overwhelmed with the number of emails they have to wade through.

 

2) With younger escorts, text-messaging is the way to go.

 

I am hard-of-hearing and the cell phone is difficult for me to use. In the past, email is all I need for escorts. Nowadays, escorts seem to want all business to be done by phone and it is harder for me to set up a meeting with just emails. Text messaging helps only a little bit.

[pierrot]

No, I don't use aol. Perhaps I should just call. I've found in the past that the best thing to do is e-mail just to find out if the escort is available at the day/time I can do it. (I'm pretty busy with the rest of my life and don't have wide swaths of available time).

Phone calls out of the blue seem awkward to me.

But maybe, as you say, e-mail is too overwhelming for the big name guys.

[Guest ncm2169]

Just chiming in here, since I happen to live with an escort. :9

 

Escorting is not his primary occupation - he has a real day job, so he's available evenings and weekends. His ads all say when he's available, and also that he prefers email for the first contact. Notwithstanding all that, he gets clients who insist on calling him with blocked calls, and/or who leave messages asking him if he's available in the afternoon, etc. Who can blame him for ignoring those calls? But if a potential client simply emails for the first contact, he always responds.

 

Point being, clients bear some responsibility here too. }(

[+ ArVaGuy]

My experience has been the same whether it's e-mail or phone contact. Guys who state they'd rather be contacted by phone fail to answer and don't reply to messages. So I guess the call volumes are just as supposedly overwhelming as the e-mail volume. Or maybe the escorts in question are just not that well organized in their business dealings.

 

The end result for me has been that I hire fewer new guys than in the past. No use hunting down someone and begging them to take my business.

[pierrot]

But I did e-mail! It's not very difficult to reply to an e-mail.

[arthur]

I've been hiring escorts for several years and agree with the comments of ArVaGuy. Escorts who fail to respond are (1) overwhelmed by all the emails or calls they get and/or (2) are just not very well organized.

 

If you're the type of client who likes to be with someone new every time you hire, it's going to be somewhat more difficult for you than for a client who tends to enjoy repeat appointments with escorts he's already been with and feels comfortable with. I would put myself in the second group.

 

Using the reviews available on this website as a starting point in deciding which escort to contact, I have hardly ever been disappointed. I have found that there are usually enough attractive well-reviewed, well-organized and considerate escorts who I would enjoy being with available most of the time.

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[soccerjock624]

While I am typically very fast to respond to client emails, there are times that I merely glance at the email yet dont have the time to respond and just like anyone who has a full time job or school to deal with, dont have time to get to those emails until a later date, sometimes its too late. One idea that wasnt mentioned especially with email is that, a lot of these escorts travel on a regular basis and when I travel, there are days on end where i do not get my emails. Dont get frustrated keep trying, but I think i agree that this situation is easily reversed, very often clients never respond to emails and whether this is bc they dont have time or bc they are no longer interested, I get frustrated with them. So yeah i understand lol ...

 

 

Brett Mathers

http://www.rentboy.com/soccerjock6248

[Guest resorts777]

While I've had that experience, notably with Josh Weston (who said he preferred emails to phone calls but responded to only two of many I sent him over a year period), here's my list of escorts who have responded promptly to me: Steven Draker, Raul Manzo, Huge Bodybuilder (NYC), David Latin Muscle, Kal-El, Rican muscle, Derek Ross/Rick Monroe, Arpad Miklos, Sergio Real, Eric (NYC).

[Louis]

There are some escorts that don't have their own computers, so they may not respond within a day. I think too that some guys put in adds figuring they will become escorts, and earn a few quick dollars, and just find it beyond their abilities to accomodate clients, so they get out of the business but their adds keep running.

I used to get very prompt replies when I lived in Southern Ontario, but can say that the replies are much slower now, and in a few cases there have been no replies at all.

[Epigonos]

I have hired with some frequency over the last five years and have found that the following works well for me. I use RentBoy for eye candy and to get an idea of who is available in a city I intend to visit. I make my selection and then cross reference with this site and MER. If the guys I'm interested in have positive reviews I begin my inquiry. Thus far the results has been outstanding both in responses and in positive experiences. If, however, the guys do not have reviews I generally move on. If I don't want to spend the amount of time this process requires I do my searching here and on MER and ignore RentBoy. As far as I'm concerned many of the guys who run ads on RentBoy are flakes, not very organized and/or not very serious about escorting.

[+ deej]

AOL is a huge problem for Daddy as well.

 

They've done a really good job of making it easy for members to connect to the internet, but all of their systems are so non-standard (and heavily censored) that AOL members typically have a difficult time dealing with the rest of the worldwide internet.

[Guest]

I agree that it's very annoying. As a working stiff, I can't just give the escort my cell number and have him call me at his convenience. Even at home, it's a little awkward. I have a partner, and although we have an open relationship, I feel it's rude to have escort chatter in front of him. E-mailing is much more discreet, and can be answered at both parties' convenience--if they answer. My opinion is that escorts are in the service industry, so it's rude for them not to answer within 24 hours. If they haven't, contact someone else.

[Guest zipperzone]

>Out of curiosity, do you use an aol email address?

 

I can't believe that there are actually guys out there who are still using AOL.

[Guest zipperzone]

>One idea that wasnt mentioned especially with email is that, a lot

>of these escorts travel on a regular basis and when I travel,

>there are days on end where i do not get my emails.

 

If that is the case then I think it would be a good policy for you to have an automatic response that states "I am travelling at the moment and will be out of touch until xxx. I will personally answer your inquiry at that time"

 

At least the client then knows where he stands and can either wait or make other arrangements. It will also make you look much more professional.

[Guest zipperzone]

>There are some escorts that don't have their own computers,

>so they may not respond within a day.

 

In this day and age, even little old grandmothers have computers. Trying to be an escort and not have a computer is like being a taxi driver without a car.

[Guest zipperzone]

>E-mailing

>is much more discreet, and can be answered at both parties'

>convenience--if they answer.

 

The downside to e-mail that no one has mentioned is that it provides an easy trace should the long arm of the law decide it's a slow news day and wouldn't it be fun to score some points busting the pervs.

[seaboy4hire]

>While I am typically very fast to respond to client emails,

>there are times that I merely glance at the email yet dont

>have the time to respond and just like anyone who has a full

>time job or school to deal with, dont have time to get to

>those emails until a later date, sometimes its too late. One

>idea that wasnt mentioned especially with email is that, a lot

>of these escorts travel on a regular basis and when I travel,

>there are days on end where i do not get my emails. Dont get

>frustrated keep trying, but I think i agree that this

>situation is easily reversed, very often clients never respond

>to emails and whether this is bc they dont have time or bc

>they are no longer interested, I get frustrated with them. So

>yeah i understand lol ...

>

>

>Brett Mathers

>http://www.rentboy.com/soccerjock6248

 

Sorry Brett but I find your reasoning for not answering emails but can glance at them poor and your answer for traveling and not being able to answer emails in a timely manner. Laptops if you shop around can be had inexpensively and with todays cell phones one can easily check and reply to emails. This isn't 1980 last I checked. I tote my laptop with me when I am out of town and I have a fairly smart phone and I can check emails and reply in a timely manner. I suggest as a working guy either get familiar with the technology that is available or well....

 

Hugs,

Greg

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[seaboy4hire]

Speaking for myself email is always best. Because I have a day job I can't take calls while working and I sometimes work till late and if someone is on the east coast it could be a couple days till times match up to return the call. With emails I can promptly reply either when I get home or depending on how long of a break I have at work I can rely then but I will always reply within 24 hours or sooner via email.

 

Hugs,

Greg

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[+ ArVaGuy]

>I have hired with some frequency over the last five years and

>have found that the following works well for me. I use

>RentBoy for eye candy and to get an idea of who is available

>in a city I intend to visit. I make my selection and then

>cross reference with this site and MER. If the guys I'm

>interested in have positive reviews I begin my inquiry. Thus

>far the results has been outstanding both in responses and in

>positive experiences. If, however, the guys do not have

>reviews I generally move on. If I don't want to spend the

>amount of time this process requires I do my searching here

>and on MER and ignore RentBoy. As far as I'm concerned many

>of the guys who run ads on RentBoy are flakes, not very

>organized and/or not very serious about escorting.

 

 

I follow much the same process and it's been rather successful. However, most the the flakes for me have come from Men4Rent rather than Rentboy. M4R tends to have way more dead listings than Rentboy which is frustrating. x( If they cleanded that site up no doubt they'd have 50% fewer listings. }(

 

My tendency is to stick with the guys I've hired in the past because of the relationship that's builds up over time. While I still add new guys to my stable (LOL) from time to time there are way fewer than in the past. Also, my tendency is to avoid the younger guys in their early 20's since from my experience they tend to be the ones who flake on me the most or due to inexperience don't have their business organized in an efficient manner. (Go ahead, call me ageist. }( )

[pierrot]

Eric (NYC) is one of the first ones I e-mailed -- twice in fact -- and got not response. I know he has a great reputation here, one of the reasons I wanted to contact him, but in spite of the fact that he is running a Rentboy ad, he did not respond.

[+ Charlie]

This thread plunged me back many years, before there was email: escorts advertised in places like the Advocate's pink pages, and one had to contact them by phone. Many times I would pore over the ads, narrow down to my first choice, and phone him....and get an answering machine message that he would call back as soon as possible. There were no cellphones, so I would have to wait by my phone. If I didn't get a callback within an hour, I would make another call, and probably repeat the same process. I would agonize over how long to wait before trying another ad. Sometimes I would get a call a day or two later, after I had set up a date with someone else. Sometimes I would waste a whole evening just making calls and sitting by the phone. I could get so frustrated and annoyed with the process that I would actually lose interest in having sex at all!

 

Now, I am more relaxed and usually hire much longer in advance, so I always try email first, and usually to more than one escort. I can wait a reasonable length of time until I see how many responses I will get, and then I follow up with the most promising, if any.

 

The cellphone is also a great improvement, but it can be awkward taking a call in a public place from an escort who wants you to explain what you want to do with him.

[soccerjock624]

I will reply to both of the responses to my post in the same response. One, I usually do post an away message when im traveling, I was just saying some escorts might not do this and that could account for the lack of an immediate response. To seaboy, I think i will just say that it is important to remember that escorting is not MY LIFE.