Looking for the NYC escorts who also work as fitness trainers

[+ Gar1eth]

Whatever gets you to the gym is a good motivation. I'm very fit, close to bodybuilder fit. My strongest motivation is a quest for personal excellence. Looking good is a strong second. Health is a distant third.

 

Woof!

 

Gman

[treatyoself]

Before I go to bed I just wanted to quickly and sincerely thank all of you for your feedback and input. I feel encouraged by all your responses and although my idea is still a bit half-baked I have a sense of optimism that I might be able to come up with an arrangement that fits my idiosyncratic needs.

 

I look forward to pursuing the various tips, leads, and recommendations offered by you all and hopefully will be able to post updates here soon about the progress I've made in finding a good fit.

 

Thank you thank you thank!

[Gymowner]

oh do i have stories! my only concern is the original poster tying true fitness with making it about getting laid. now i know the number 1 statistic for people joining a gym is to get laid but ones fitness goals has to stay within him or herself. it sounds fun and all having a training session with an ahem... cardio session afterwards but the slippery slope can and will be i'll get to the gym IF i get laid. in other words.... i dont want there to be a correlation of getting laid to personal fitness..... no fuck today then i'll skip the gym.

[Jbronson]

I'm looking for a personal trainer that can help my current dilemma of really deep-rooted lack of motivation.

 

My lack of motivation has to do with my sex life frustration.

 

I know health should be a motivator but the reality is that I primarily want to get into shape to boost my self-esteem and improve my romantic and sex life.

 

I'm curious if finding a trainer in NYC (slight preference for someone gay vs. gay-4-pay) with current or prior experience as a sex worker might be a good fit to get me motivated by being able to chat about these psychological and sex life topics to keep be engaged and learning about my mental road blocks.

 

I guess you could say I'm looking for a fitness trainer that could double as a sex therapist!

 

Thanks i advance for any leads, recs, or other ideas! Private message or replying here is great!

 

Not sure if he's technically a personal trainer, but this guy came to mind when I saw this post.

 

https://rent.men/Tomharding

[treatyoself]

oh do i have stories! my only concern is the original poster tying true fitness with making it about getting laid. now i know the number 1 statistic for people joining a gym is to get laid but ones fitness goals has to stay within him or herself. it sounds fun and all having a training session with an ahem... cardio session afterwards but the slippery slope can and will be i'll get to the gym IF i get laid. in other words.... i dont want there to be a correlation of getting laid to personal fitness..... no fuck today then i'll skip the gym.

 

Yes, I see your perspective but to be clear I actually don't require physical interaction be part of the arrangement. I just figure someone who is both a able to do personal training as well as having a sex worker background will be understanding of some of the mental roadblocks getting in my way motivation-wise and have patience as I don't expect to suddenly become a fitness buff overnight.

 

I figure this b/c I imagine, well, many trainers/escorts are quite fit and super hot, while many of their clients are more average joe types or maybe simply have self esteem or other mental roadblock issues that leads them to pursuing intimacy through that way. And I imagine many clients will even express sort of being in awe of our feeling as though the escort is way out of their league and needing to sort of muster up some confidence before actually going through with a physical/sexual interaction, or maybe even initially feel worse about insecurities they might have when one-on-one with the presence of someone whose job is partly to, well, be beautiful.

 

I know i'm oversimplifying, assuming things, and making generalizations, but my hope is that someone with this dual background/experience would help me retrain my thinking thus reform my motivation a bit and get me inspired or at least keep me interested in returning to train through conversations about these topics that weigh heavily on my mind and often deter me from following through with working out.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Yes, I see your perspective but to be clear I actually don't require physical interaction be part of the arrangement. I just figure someone who is both a able to do personal training as well as having a sex worker background will be understanding of some of the mental roadblocks getting in my way motivation-wise and have patience as I don't expect to suddenly become a fitness buff overnight.

 

I figure this b/c I imagine, well, many trainers/escorts are quite fit and super hot, while many of their clients are more average joe types or maybe simply have self esteem or other mental roadblock issues that leads them to pursuing intimacy through that way. And I imagine many clients will even express sort of being in awe of our feeling as though the escort is way out of their league and needing to sort of muster up some confidence before actually going through with a physical/sexual interaction, or maybe even initially feel worse about insecurities they might have when one-on-one with the presence of someone whose job is partly to, well, be beautiful.

 

I know i'm oversimplifying, assuming things, and making generalizations, but my hope is that someone with this dual background/experience would help me retrain my thinking thus reform my motivation a bit and get me inspired or at least keep me interested in returning to train through conversations about these topics that weigh heavily on my mind and often deter me from following through with working out.

 

 

Being completely serious here, it sounds as if you need a trainer AND a good therapist. A trainer-slash-escort is not going to fix you.

 

Insecurity around people you perceive as 'better looking' won't go away with gym time or having a good-looking guy working with you. This feels like an issue you need to talk about with someone who is familiar with it and can work you through these feelings in a healthy, professional way.

 

Physical motivation and body reform is awesome, but a trainer's place is to stick to form, diet and weights.

 

I'd say leave the heavier lifting to a licensed mental health professional. I wish you well sir

Edited August 15, 2019 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[treatyoself]

Being completely serious here, it sounds as if you need a trainer AND a good therapist. A trainer-slash-escort is not going to fix you.

 

Insecurity around people you perceive as 'better looking' won't go away with gym time or having a good-looking guy working with you. This feels like an issue you need to talk about with someone who is familiar with it and can work you through these feelings in a healthy, professional way.

 

Physical motivation and body reform is awesome, but a trainer's place is to stick to form, diet and weights.

 

I'd say leave the heavier lifting to a licensed mental health professional. I wish you well sir

 

I definitely do see a "proper" therapist, once a week actually, and I also attend a "support group" type meeting, also once a week, that is moderated/run by a great psychologist. And I am able to discuss/work on my sex/dating/relationship/self-esteem/body image issues during those sessions (especially in the one-on-one therapy).

 

Once upon a time, I actually used to exercise very regularly (played lots of competitive sports through my school days) but didn't have the mental roadblocks/baggage that I do have now. So the gym (matters of form, technique, gym equipment/machine, etc.) is not foreign territory for me.

 

I'm still chewing on this idea! But I've honestly tried a variety of different approaches in an effort to rekindle my former interest and motivation in working out, and genuinely think this idea (though not fully fleshed out nor defined) is worth giving a shot based on the bigger picture with regards to the different idiosyncrasies of the slump I've found myself in.

 

I definitely don't think it'll be a silver bullet and I also don't think I would need this type of "outside-the-box" approach forever (more so as a short-term solution to jumpstart my engine and hopefully eventually I can take the training wheels off and self-motivate better).

 

Appreciate all the feedback! It's been very helpful!

[Yeahman]

I'm looking for a personal trainer that can help my current dilemma of really deep-rooted lack of motivation.

 

My lack of motivation has to do with my sex life frustration.

 

I know health should be a motivator but the reality is that I primarily want to get into shape to boost my self-esteem and improve my romantic and sex life.

 

I'm curious if finding a trainer in NYC (slight preference for someone gay vs. gay-4-pay) with current or prior experience as a sex worker might be a good fit to get me motivated by being able to chat about these psychological and sex life topics to keep be engaged and learning about my mental road blocks.

 

I guess you could say I'm looking for a fitness trainer that could double as a sex therapist!

 

Thanks i advance for any leads, recs, or other ideas! Private message or replying here is great!

 

That sounds hot. I always wanted to find a hot open-minded personal trainer who doesn’t mind intimacy between us. A daunting task to find one.

[Rudynate]

I definitely do see a "proper" therapist, once a week actually, and I also attend a "support group" type meeting, also once a week, that is moderated/run by a great psychologist. And I am able to discuss/work on my sex/dating/relationship/self-esteem/body image issues during those sessions (especially in the one-on-one therapy).

 

Once upon a time, I actually used to exercise very regularly (played lots of competitive sports through my school days) but didn't have the mental roadblocks/baggage that I do have now. So the gym (matters of form, technique, gym equipment/machine, etc.) is not foreign territory for me.

 

I'm still chewing on this idea! But I've honestly tried a variety of different approaches in an effort to rekindle my former interest and motivation in working out, and genuinely think this idea (though not fully fleshed out nor defined) is worth giving a shot based on the bigger picture with regards to the different idiosyncrasies of the slump I've found myself in.

 

I definitely don't think it'll be a silver bullet and I also don't think I would need this type of "outside-the-box" approach forever (more so as a short-term solution to jumpstart my engine and hopefully eventually I can take the training wheels off and self-motivate better).

 

Appreciate all the feedback! It's been very helpful!

 

 

Its always been easy for me because I like going to the gym and I enjoy training. I got my first gym membership when I was about 22 and I've been going ever since. Even though I like training a very large part of my romance with gyms and health clubs is that I love being around sweaty men. That low-level erotic charge is very energizing.

[SirBillybob]

Why not "silver bullet"? The simile made me smile because I sometimes set an arbitrary tonnage representing some massive thing and add the increments of resistance reps until I can declare I pressed/moved an elephant, a Buick, what have you.

 

You can consider playing around with kinetic energy, mass, velocity, and shoot the crap out of that complacency.

[Kris_Canada]

I had one up here in Canada some years ago who blended a very rigorous routine with vigorous rewards. He put 30 lbs of muscle mass on me over the first two years, a 20% weight increase, and huge strength gains. I had been thin, not overweight.

 

I just took extra employment to partially finance it. Worth every penny.

 

That's inspiring as fuck, wow. ??

[StefonNYC]

Not sure if he's technically a personal trainer, but this guy came to mind when I saw this post.

 

https://rent.men/Tomharding

 

He does do personal training.

[Rudynate]

Totally agree. But in fact, the OP isn’t insisting on a PT who can both train and fuck him, but just wants a trainer open to discussing the sexual and psychological issues that bring the OP into the gym. That may be as difficult a pairing to find, and to maintain, as the PT/hooker combo. But I absolutely sympathize with the OP’s goals—for me, losing weight and getting fit, past a certain point, became rather less about health, and rather more about creating (or recreating) a body better suited to giving and receiving sexual pleasure. To paraphrase the late, great Anthony Bourdain, in late middle age I have come to realize that my body is not a temple, it’s an amusement park; and for me, the fitter I am, the more I enjoy the ride ...

 

 

Actually, I have that sort of relationship with my guy (trainer/coach). He is quite possibly a 10, totally straight, and very professional. We have developed a deep level of trust and we talk about anything and everything and neither of us holds back or pretends. We haven't trained since mid-March, but we stay in close touch. He has a garage gym and I decided I would be comfortable training in the garage with masks and gloves, so I'm going to start up with him again this week. I'm prepping for a professional photo shoot at the end of September.

[+ FrankR]

Actually, I have that sort of relationship with my guy (trainer/coach). He is quite possibly a 10, totally straight, and very professional. We have developed a deep level of trust and we talk about anything and everything and neither of us holds back or pretends. We haven't trained since mid-March, but we stay in close touch. He has a garage gym and I decided I would be comfortable training in the garage with masks and gloves, so I'm going to start up with him again this week. I'm prepping for a professional photo shoot at the end of September.

I insist on reviewing the photos from the shoot for quality purposes. It's no trouble, really! I am stuck at home and have the time!!! ?

[Rudynate]

I insist on reviewing the photos from the shoot for quality purposes. It's no trouble, really! I am stuck at home and have the time!!! ?

I would love it if you would

[kmship]

I'm curious to know too. needs motivation for working out, and always horny after work out