Red flags? Open to escorts and things escorts told you...

[marylander1940]

Any escort whose profile mentions being broke, needing help paying bills, looking for generous men, etc. Hard pass.

 

A Local DC escort on the Washington Blade claimed to be a Katrina survivor in 2005. Pathetic and morbid!

 

I’ve heard stories about guys going into the business broke or having financial problems but in person not in the ad.

[+ WilliamM]

Over a decade, I mostly hired male models and college students in New York City and men from Premier, an excellent agency in Philadelphia.

 

Well Known men like Kristian from Texas and Calfornia talked about their lives, also Tristan Walters, but male models from New York much less so, with one exception.

[Jimjaxon3]

So had a weird story from a possible meeting coming up.

 

I txted yesterday to confirm for a appointment two days from now.

 

Escort txted back that he had a bad weekend and wouldn’t be able to make the appointment since he had made a trip to NYC and was drugged at a bar and robbed and raped. I told him if that happened I completely understood him canceling and not feeling like meeting up.

 

He said he had no money and couldn’t rent a car. I thought I was going to get a advance on rate request, but didn’t .

 

Today I got another txt saying that if he can replace his ID he would like to still meet up.

 

At first this seemed like a red flag for the money advance, then when i didn’t get it not as much. Still feel like a red flag that maybe I should walk away.. thoughts?

[sexymonk]

Besides in most places sharing a pill that is not over the counter is illegal and might have consequences if something goes wrong.

I agree that never do pnp with guys for if something goes wrong how do you explain to the police officer thatwho was the person, how you knew him, how he got drugs and what was his business at your or his place. Let the person do pnp alone!

[+ keroscenefire]

At first this seemed like a red flag for the money advance, then when i didn’t get it not as much. Still feel like a red flag that maybe I should walk away.. thoughts?

 

I think he legit could've had a real rough time in New York and is just trying to meet up probably in part to make up for that robbery. The fact that he doesn't want an advance is somewhat promising. I would be careful about the venue though. I think a neutral place like a hotel might be better if you can afford it.

[Jimjaxon3]

I think he legit could've had a real rough time in New York and is just trying to meet up probably in part to make up for that robbery. The fact that he doesn't want an advance is somewhat promising. I would be careful about the venue though. I think a neutral place like a hotel might be better if you can afford it.

Thanks for the feed back.. I would be at a hotel. It just felt like a story but I don’t know why someone would come up with that to want to meet.

[marylander1940]

I agree that never do pnp with guys for if something goes wrong how do you explain to the police officer thatwho was the person, how you knew him, how he got drugs and what was his business at your or his place. Let the person do pnp alone!

 

This thread has become an pro PNP and anti PNP argument. Take a look and get the popcorn ready for some condescending drama:

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/alessadro-in-nyc.121201/#post-1692361

[LivingnLA]

Thanks for the feed back.. I would be at a hotel. It just felt like a story but I don’t know why someone would come up with that to want to meet.

 

Definitely be safe. Consider that this person may be in need of money after being drugged, robbed, and raped. The fact that this "story" was shared may just indicate that this person is an "open book" and not setting you up for a scam. Also consider that this person may have residual trauma from the attack, so think about where you're meeting and what you're asking of this person to avoid triggering them.

 

As a client, my first hire drugged, raped, and robbed me. I'd done my homework and only hired a highly regarded well thought of person who didn't say anything about PNP and even denied PNP when I asked. I went to his place and we had a beer. Turns out, he drugged me to "help me relax" for my first time and gave me too much. I could've died, but fortunately all I did was black out for about 7 hours. I mention all of this because I was unable to engage in certain activities with men for awhile. I had to work through some issues and learn to trust again.

[sexymonk]

This thread has become an pro PNP and anti PNP argument. Take a look and get the popcorn ready for some condescending drama:

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/alessadro-in-nyc.121201/#post-1692361

Pnp of any kind is bad. The people who do it will be pro! We all know that what pnp does to body and mind over time.

[marylander1940]

Pnp of any kind is bad. The people who do it will be pro! We all know that what pnp does to body and mind over time.

 

Exactly! It damages body and mind, I would also feel guilty of enabling someone to self destruct with my money

[+ keroscenefire]

I always pass on guys who appear to only want very wealthy clients. I saw one ad that said he would only travel to four-star hotels or gated communities and another that was looking for "affluent men only."

 

I work in education in an expensive city so even though I have some disposable income, I don't have a luxurious lifestyle. I am definitely not going to be anyone's sugar daddy. I will however gladly pay to enjoy a handsome man's company. I guess some are only looking for the former.

[+ WilliamM]

I always pass on guys who appear to only want very wealthy clients. I saw one ad that said he would only travel to four-star hotels or gated communities and another that was looking for "affluent men only."

 

I work in education in an expensive city so even though I have some disposable income, I don't have a luxurious lifestyle. I am definitely not going to be anyone's sugar daddy. I will however gladly pay to enjoy a handsome man's company. I guess some are only looking for the former.

 

What an idiot! When Princess Grace of Monaco (Grace Kelly) visited her family in Philadelphia she stayed in an apartment in a high-rise building near where her father once worked.

 

Certainly not a luxury building.

Edited March 14, 2019 by WilliamM

[marylander1940]

"What are you best at?"

 

Folks who talk like that are either jerking off or not serious.

 

"This would be my first time with a man", it's 99.99% likely to be a fantasy from someone who is very shy and will never make plans.

[marylander1940]

I always pass on guys who appear to only want very wealthy clients. I saw one ad that said he would only travel to four-star hotels or gated communities and another that was looking for "affluent men only."

 

I work in education in an expensive city so even though I have some disposable income, I don't have a luxurious lifestyle. I am definitely not going to be anyone's sugar daddy. I will however gladly pay to enjoy a handsome man's company. I guess some are only looking for the former.

 

Good point but I think he only said it to avoid all the time wasters that constantly happen in the business.

[spider]

Back to the original question. Anyone who’s flipping the bird at me in the pics gets an instant pass.

[spider]

Back to the original question. Anyone who’s flipping the bird at me in the pics gets an instant pass.

[spider]

Back to the original question. Anyone who’s flipping the bird at me in the pics gets an instant pass.

[Beancounter]

I always pass on guys who appear to only want very wealthy clients. I saw one ad that said he would only travel to four-star hotels or gated communities and another that was looking for "affluent men only."

 

I work in education in an expensive city so even though I have some disposable income, I don't have a luxurious lifestyle. I am definitely not going to be anyone's sugar daddy. I will however gladly pay to enjoy a handsome man's company. I guess some are only looking for the former.

Sounds like Brodie Sinclair’s old RM ads.

[marylander1940]

Back to the original question. Anyone who’s flipping the bird at me in the pics gets an instant pass.

 

I don’t like ads that display guns, and I am a member of pink pistols...

[rvwnsd]

Any client that says “PLS RESPOND ASAP”

What if he spelled out the word "please?"

 

No, huh?

 

All kidding aside, that would be a red flag to me, too. In fact, when an escort pressures me into meeting right away the little warning bell goes off in my brain and I move on.

[+ Topseed]

Red flags for me:

1) Providers who self-describe as “hot”.

 

2) Providers who name-drop celebrities as their clients (or, more likely, “clients”) in an attempt to impress.

[marylander1940]

"Are there any limits?"

 

sounds like slavery...

[+ WilliamM]

Red flags for me:

1) Providers who self-describe as “hot”.

 

2) Providers who name-drop celebrities as their clients (or, more likely, “clients”) in an attempt to impress.

 

The provider who mentioned a celebrity to me was quite well known and did not need any validation from a client or anyone else.

[marylander1940]

“Kind of weird that you want to talk. What's wrong with texting ?”

 

This after the escort suggested a phone call instead of texting for hours... I understand people (usually) cannot talk from their job or if they’re on a plane but I am sure if there’s a will there’s a way for a 2 minutes phone call. Once upon a time people did not text and yet they were able to schedule a call.

[+ tassojunior]

Any escort whose profile mentions being broke, needing help paying bills, looking for generous men, etc. Hard pass.

 

lol, there's more than a few clients in that situation from addiction to this hobby.