Who do you talk to about your hiring experiences?

[+ SundayZip]

I'm with you @Wolfer. I would like to be able to talk to friends about escorts in the same way that people talk about their latest date or some other hobby -- and I don't want to do it in a way that feels like lying (eg, pretending it was a regular date or hookup). I have talked to a couple friend about escorts, but in more hypothetical terms. Responses were what I expected; they don't necessarily think its wrong, but of course, they would never do it themselves. The implication is that a person who hires must be deficient in some way. I even told one friend that I had hired an escort once while traveling. He was intrigued but my gut told me that it would be best to not tell him more. Hiring escorts feels a bit like being gay must been felt 60 years ago. It's a secret that you dare not tell because no one really understands.

 

Like others have posted, I've made a couple of good friends at forum gatherings. Getting together with them and talking about anything and everything has been awesome!!

[rvwnsd]

Like the question says in the thread topic: who do you talk to (if you do) about your hiring experiences?...

 

Coworkers.

 

I am being facetious. I don't discuss hiring experiences with coworkers. There are a few guys here on the Forum that I've become friends with and we discuss hiring experiences.

 

Were my parents still alive I could probably discuss the guys with them. They both supported legalized sex work.

[jawjateck]

Only with a few of the fine folks around here, online, on the phone, meeting for lunch or dindin or coffee, or at our community events. I talk about this with other people who get it and do it. I have no interest in talking to people about something beyond their comprehension. I refuse to be weighed down by others' immaturity and/or judgments.

 

Of course, I haven't been hobbying in a while, and have no idea when or if I may pick it up again.

[Zapped]

I have one real-life friend who I’m quite open with. Turns out we both hire (although I’m not these days). We’ve shared stories. He’s given me recommends. It’s nice when you can hang out with someone who “gets it.”

[BabyBoomer]

One of my brothers. My sister. Two of my cousins. About 6 friends back in Argentina. About 4 friends in DC, one of them is a co-worker. I may be forgetting someone.

 

People who read your blog.

 

~Boomer~

[+ José Soplanucas]

People who read your blog.

 

~Boomer~

 

I do not think it counts. Although I did share links to specific posts with friends who know it is my blog. Yeah, a lot of people.

[MassageDrew]

I’m actually pretty open to my closest friends about my hiring experiences. They cannot share the same experience since they don’t hire - to my knowledge. I’ve also met a couple of local Chicago guys in this forum and we actively share our experiences either bu texting or hanging out for a drink or two. And, there’s the PM portion of this forum where I do discuss my experience with others.

[Wolfer]

It’s nice when you can hang out with someone who “gets it.”

Yeah, it is nice.

 

Quite a number of people in my life know that I hire escorts, I'm quite open and casual about it. But that doesn't mean I can really talk to them about my specific experiences. Most just react with fascinated curiosity and then I feel like my experiences are on display for their entertainment instead of sharing, connecting and decompressing.

 

And then there's people who say things like: "Paying for sex is pathetic. How desperate must you be?". Never to my face, mind you, I usually test the waters conversationally about the this topic and then these things will be said. Now, to be honest (and happy about it too) I think I've only ever heard one person say that, actually. The others were just... Surprised and curious.

[MartyB]

Yeah, it is nice.

 

Quite a number of people in my life know that I hire escorts, I'm quite open and casual about it. But that doesn't mean I can really talk to them about my specific experiences. Most just react with fascinated curiosity and then I feel like my experiences are on display for their entertainment instead of sharing, connecting and decompressing.

 

And then there's people who say things like: "Paying for sex is pathetic. How desperate must you be?". Never to my face, mind you, I usually test the waters conversationally about the this topic and then these things will be said. Now, to be honest (and happy about it too) I think I've only ever heard one person say that, actually. The others were just... Surprised and curious.

Do you ever get the feeling that others that we know also hire escorts? One never knows? Lol

[Wolfer]

Do you ever get the feeling that others that we know also hire escorts? One never knows? Lol

I don't know actually, although I've been able to sort of infer that the number of people hiring is higher than I initially thought by casual conversations with providers.

[Zapped]

Yeah, it is nice.

 

Quite a number of people in my life know that I hire escorts, I'm quite open and casual about it. But that doesn't mean I can really talk to them about my specific experiences. Most just react with fascinated curiosity and then I feel like my experiences are on display for their entertainment instead of sharing, connecting and decompressing.

 

And then there's people who say things like: "Paying for sex is pathetic. How desperate must you be?". Never to my face, mind you, I usually test the waters conversationally about the this topic and then these things will be said. Now, to be honest (and happy about it too) I think I've only ever heard one person say that, actually. The others were just... Surprised and curious.

 

This “paying is pathetic” point of view is sad, isn’t it? There are so many other experiences, from fine dining to massages, where we pay to get what we really want, done expertly, with care and commitment. Why not with erotic connection?

[+ bashful]

Do you ever get the feeling that others that we know also hire escorts? One never knows? Lol

 

Before I retired, I had a suspicion a guy I used to work with hired. However, he played the corporate game, so never fully trusted him.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Do you ever get the feeling that others that we know also hire escorts? One never knows? Lol

I have a vague feeling my boss might be getting “massages” at lunch time in NYC mid town, like I do. He is straight, so it must be from girls.

 

I really have nothing for this theory, other than: he also tales long breaks for lunch (like me), and always out of the building. And, that it is what I would do. That is all!

No much for a theory, but my twisted mind cannot think of what else would be good enough to so often stay away for so long at lunch time?

Maybe I should follow him from afar to see where he is going?

[+ tassojunior]

This “paying is pathetic” point of view is sad, isn’t it? There are so many other experiences, from fine dining to massages, where we pay to get what we really want, done expertly, with care and commitment. Why not with erotic connection?

 

The "shame" comes from the tradition of men enticing other men with money. That's often the context of these discussions. In reality the real "shame", if there is one, is being a prostitute in straight life; why the reverse in gay life? My #1 is a nude stripper who does lapdances and private dances, does cam shows with his gf for straight men and for gays he's alone, is a power bottom, and always has a wallet full of Ben Franklins. But these are all "tips" from "friends" from times that he's "in the mood"(and the surest way to get him in the mood is a handful of Ben Franklins). He, for one, gets outraged by a suggestion he's a prostitute using gay men. He is "bi-sexual" with generous gay friends. At least we've come that far where it's no longer proper to talk of using gay men for money.

[+ bashful]

I have a vague feeling my boss might be getting “massages” at lunch time in NYC mid town, like I do. He is straight, so it must be from girls.

 

I really have nothing for this theory, other than: he also tales long breaks for lunch (like me), and always out of the building. And, that it is what I would do. That is all!

No much for a theory, but my twisted mind cannot think of what else would be good enough to so often stay away for so long at lunch time?

Maybe I should follow him from afar to see where he is going?

 

So long as you never venture closer than afar.

[Zapped]

The "shame" comes from the tradition of men enticing other men with money. That's often the context of these discussions. In reality the real "shame", if there is one, is being a prostitute in straight life; why the reverse in gay life? My #1 is a nude stripper who does lapdances and private dances, does cam shows with his gf for straight men and for gays he's alone, is a power bottom, and always has a wallet full of Ben Franklins. But these are all "tips" from "friends" from times that he's "in the mood"(and the surest way to get him in the mood is a handful of Ben Franklins). He, for one, gets outraged by a suggestion he's a prostitute using gay men. He is "bi-sexual" with generous gay friends. At least we've come that far where it's no longer proper to talk of using gay men for money.

 

I had a somewhat “flexible” friend who would “help me out” by letting me watch him jerk off and blow him, and I’d “help him out” with some cash. But we certainly never, ever, ever exchanged sex for money!

 

What, NEVER?

 

Well ... hardly ever.

[LJNYC83]

I have a vague feeling my boss might be getting “massages” at lunch time in NYC mid town, like I do. He is straight, so it must be from girls.

 

I really have nothing for this theory, other than: he also tales long breaks for lunch (like me), and always out of the building. And, that it is what I would do. That is all!

No much for a theory, but my twisted mind cannot think of what else would be good enough to so often stay away for so long at lunch time?

Maybe I should follow him from afar to see where he is going?

 

If you ever want someone to tail him, let me know! Wouldn’t be the strangest thing I’ve dver done on my lunch break in midtown.

[FrancisCA]

Me and a friend that I got him into escort. We've become closer as friends cause we can reminisce on all the fun guys we get to meet escorting and talk about problems we are having too.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

Either with guys I hire or with other forum members.

[KinkyNEguy]

Mostly with one of my best friends in DC; he would love to hire like I do but doesn't have the budget. So he loves the stories. Occasionally for his birthday I will sponsor an experience for him. Occasionally, if something really different or unique happens I will share with my husband for his enjoyment or shock. I used to have a friend at work who was intrigued but she has left the company.