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How 'fit' do you think I need to be before considering lipo or 'simple lipo'? Is there a difference? I'm totally depressed about my body; I was never 'ripped' but had my athletic phases through almost all of my 20s, most of my 30s, and a few good years in my 40s. As I approach 50, I have ankle and shoulder injuries that won't make cardio easy as it once was. I look at myself in the mirror with utter disgust and self-loathing. I would love to 'jumpstart' my physical and mental issues with a quick fix. I know, I know.... there aren't any real quick fixes that don't have consequences, but just looking for something to get me out of sadness.

Do Olympic Trials count?

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Sent you a DM.

HUNG TOP - Loves to fuck and get sucked Knows how to use it Aggressive, slightly dom, but affectionate - Use me hard, then hold me Avg to decent to athletic body Verbal, engaging, playful 25-50 yo

Don't make broad generalizations about 'all gay people' or you are just perpetuating the same problem but in reverse. I came out at 20yo and didn't meet many bisexuals. It took time and experience and meeting people to gain a greater appreciation for the full spectrum of humanity sexuality. We older gay and bisexual men may be frustrated with the alphabet soup of the modern sexual spectrum, but it is just a continuation to change society to accept that sexuality and gender go far beyond the binary definitions foisted on humankind by cis gender, straight white men. Show some compassion and empathy. The fact that you are here shows you are a thoughtful human. Even this dialogue makes me question myself... Am I looking for a gay community or for a community of the like-minded? I gave up Catholicism for lent one year and never went back.... A joke, but it did leave a void. Maybe I should explore secular humanism instead of the LGBTQ community.

Where are you? I'm about to move to the semi-far suburbs of Philadelphia after a year plus with Mom in rural NC. I'm really going to have to try hard to connect with any gay people.

I've gained 20 pounds during COVID by the scale and mostly entirely in my belly/stomach (by my assessment/looks in the mirror). I'm meeting with a plastic surgeon next month. May start with fat freezing. I'll do some Botox again, dermabrasion... never tried fillers... I'm never going to return to my muscle boy days; too many injuries. My new plan is to try to get to lithe and lean - tons of cardio and low calorie diets. I'm coming off a year of an ankle injury recently repaired via surgery. Recovery is slow and frustrating. I'm hoping a bit of 'light work' can jump start me in a better direction. I hate what I see in the mirror after a shower. Greatly appreciate this great advice. Thanks to all who have taken the time to answer.

https://rent.men/XLLeeRoy

Reeeeeeeally? It's OK for certain transactions, motivations and relationships to be based on looks, physical appearance and age, but not others? But maybe you're right... Or maybe not....

Well we all know people only spend time with @Benjamin_Nicholas because of his glowing personality.....so there's 'that'.

Why does everything need to end in a fairytale conclusion? How about just helping a friend and fellow human being?

I get it... but people do have relationships with escorts.... including friendships. My 'regular' guy had a horrible year... I have advanced him 3 weekends and he's giving me an extra day each weekend.... why? I trust him...and he certainly has his issues/problems....but if I lose the money.... my life isn't over. I let a younger guy live with me for 6 weeks with the hope of sex and it didn't happen.... I wasn't crushed by it... I just threw him out on the street for a few hours so I could get laid.....but all the talks, dinners, chats, and movie nights on the couch were awesome until he got on his feet and moved out. If @7829V let a Wall Street dude move in with him temporarily.... sex could happen..... or he could have a breakdown and go on a coke binge..... Are we disparaging his judgement as well the young guy with 'problems? If he feels like he can handle this and feels like he may enjoy it, I say LET HIM. Younger people need help sometimes especially if they are gay and have bad family relationships.

Or if you do do it.... Start with only committing to a 'trial run'.... and then you guys should take a break..... he stays with you for X weeks and then an equal amount of weeks apart after that..... then have dinner and discuss.

Not Connected at All Why not? As I am now firmly considered 'middle aged' (48yo - the gay elderly years), I look at things like Instagram and the 'gay press' and feel no connection to being gay anymore. Gay bars and clubs, if even still in business, have lost their appeal. Dating at this age, mostly feels a competition for consolation prizes. Where do we derive our 'gay identity' from anymore? I feel adrift. Part of me feels like it is too late. I always felt ostracized by the 'mean girl body fascists' in the large cities I lived in my gay youth - DC, Philly, SF, NYC. Looking down the road to my 50s, 60s, and hopefully 70s, I have a sense of fear and dread being alone or relying on my straight relatives for companionship. I'm coming off of a COVID 16 months of living with Mom in rural NC and its been wonderful connecting as an adult with her, but my return to the city looms. For the first time in my life, I'm moving to the far suburbs to give something new a try. It will be likely be harder to find other gay men, but I will give it my best try. I've read so many news stories about the epidemic of gay loneliness especially for gay Gen X men. I apologize for the melancholia here, but just searching for like souls. This forum is one of the few places, albeit small, where I find some connection still.

How 'connected' do you feel to the "LGBTQ+ Community"? Very Connected Connected Somewhat Connected Not Connected at All "I don't consider myself to be a member of the LGBTQ+ Community" Why or why not?

Who needs CBD when you can now use THC infused lube! https://www.siranaturals.org/purient-bedroom-cannabis I'm VERY curious to get high.... in the ass..... and I can't wait to hear the snark and teasing about getting high.... in the ass!

I will be PMing you for that RM ad.

I don't know about a rom-com, but I wish there were providers that would set up a great vacation getaway spot/private home where I could bring another provider / friend with benefits / fuck buddy / boyfriend / whatever and have a wild sex weekend without worrying that the owners are going to freak out that I spilled silicone lube on the mattress (which you can get out with baby shampoo by the way!). I've used two Airbnbs and the owners definitely 'telegraphed' that I should NOT be getting pounded while visiting. I started another thread about this in The Lounge I think. Someone recommended Misterbnb. I did check that out, but I wasn't sure if I should send an email to the listing owner - "Hi, can I rent your place so I can smoke weed and get fucked by a bunch of guys?". If I was comfortable with the listing owner, I don't care if they are in the next room....getting assumptive on whether they try to join.... let's keep those lines clearly drawn for now...... Sexbnb needs to be launched.....

https://rent.men/TommyColeXXL He's very sweet.....

I find that our community values bodies over faces. Just my opinion.

Yeap... I got one of those down.... the healthy eating.... but I have been very limited with lifting and cardio because of an ankle injury/surgery and torn rotator cuff/shoulder injury.... so we do what we can @azdr0710 !! I'm not asking for miracles here....