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@Jarrod_Uncut Just a suggestion for another angle/path.... I fully appreciate that endless chat, guys probably looking for sex chat, and all the other reasons you list for a change in tactics. They are entirely valid and justified. At the same time, pics and profiles just aren't enough for me to 'get the chemistry' I need to ensure a good time can be had by all. So my suggestion is - GET PAID TO TEXT/CHAT. I ask like 4 or 5 questions of a provider, usually getting right to the point of what I want and like in a provider. If I am feeling a vibe, I then offer $100-$200 to chat more with the expectation that we will chat for a few hours, on and off, when the provider has time, etc., in some cases asking for the provider to apply 50% back of the 'chat fees' to a session if we have one. I think almost every guy has taken me up on the offer with the exception of the 'cash in person' guys. I like talking about sex, especially with someone I may be having sex with. Three guys have become awesome 'regulars' because they were willing to take a little something upfront to chat with me about sex and other stuff. I'm willing to invest to ensure my (and hopefully the providers' mutual) pleasure. You getting something for your time hopefully lowers your resentment and helps you weed out the serious potential clients from the time wasters. Just a thought.

😆😂🤣😂😆 Not the story I expected when I saw the headline... My Gay Bias comes through. https://www.reuters.com/lifestyle/ahead-winter-hibernation-alaska-celebrates-fat-bear-week-2021-09-28/

Every now and then, you find a sexual partner that reminds you why you love to gay and why you love to be a bottom. This guy fits the bill. He will DEFINITELY be a regular. He's kind, intelligent, dominant, caring....such a sweet dark god of a top. Happy to discuss via DMs.

I'm getting more and more skeptical.... Cock pic shows hairy guy, other pics show tan and smooth. The hands on the cock pic also look 'older' to me....

Is that face pic new? I think @Hung_Cody needs to take one for the team.... but I haven't seen him in awhile.... https://rent.men/BoyfriendTop @Hung_Cody are you there?

Damn... there's some preachy/judgey people on this forum! Everything in moderation, but occasionally human beings do slip. I can count on two fingers the times I have been 'sloppy drunk' and probably an embarrassment to the people I was with and obnoxious to those around me. Over indulgence happens to some people some of the time; it doesn't mean everyone is an addict. In any relationship, friendship or commercial, if a person shows a pattern of negative substance behavior over time, they may be an 'addict'. Whether you choose to tolerate it, try to help the person, or just walk away, is entirely up to you. I have found a great deal of irony in some of the contributor comments on the forum. We're here, on a site, talking (mostly anonymously) about an illicit activity that society has deemed 'inappropriate' - the commercial sex trade - and people are getting sanctimonious about substance use? Really? Addiction is no joke, but not all behavior is 'addictive behavior'. Sometimes you just fuck it up, hopefully learn from it, and move on.

Wow... someone please confirm that cock meat PLEASE.

A question for Providers - in the off chance you think things are so bad a client may require medical attention, what do you do? In my own paranoia, I get worried that something could happen to me and the guy just.... leaves me. I know the question will come....'What are you doing that could put yourself and that provider in such a position?' I don't think anything, but I did have a couple incidents with marijuana usage as a data point. I like to smoke weed with sex and if the vibe is right, like to hang with a provider who is a 'smart' weed user as well. I smoked a vape cart once and it must have been REALLY strong and I ended up a paranoid mess. To his credit, the non-pot smoker provider was a total angel. He used pot in the past, had friends who use pot and knew just what to do. He basically held me, distracted me, gave me water, took a shower with me, put on some relaxing music, gave me massage...within a couple of hours, I was fine and embarrassed. I gave the provider a huge tip and he checked on me the next week. He was amazing! His attitude was - You told me up front you wanted to use weed, so I agree to take on some responsibility if things go poorly - Probably not the norm, but I was lucky. He could have just left me there. Conversely, I was with a provider, we both used weed, and same thing happen, but the provider got super paranoid. I ended up holding him, talking to him, ensuring him that I wouldn't let anything happen, I would take him to the emergency room if he was that worried, etc. And again... within a couple of hours, we were both almost 100% sober and fine. I'm sure providers and clients both need to deal with occasional issues, not just substance excess issues, like emotionally unstable people. Is there an overarching message here? When in doubt, if absolutely necessary, you're better off calling the ambulance, going to the emergency room, calling the police, etc.?

Definitely recommend. Definitely interesting.

OMG.... I just Googled it... Good Housekeeping... go figure. Thank you Google. Still would appreciate thoughts....

OK Gentlemen.... In my eagerness to consummate the end of my COVID sexual sabbatical, I forgot to pull back my brand new, flax/linen, hand sewn comforter before we...ahem...got busy. Needless to say I have 'marked' my new comforter with cum and spilled a little silicone lube on it. The label says 'DRY CLEAN ONLY' - I'd rather not. I used to remove silicone lube using baby shampoo. Any resident 'Whore-elises' who can offer a suggestion on how to clean? I'm thinking putting the comforter in the bathtub, use the shower sprayer attachment and spray the spot from behind with COLD water. Then a little baby shampoo on the silicone lube spots. Thoughts?

Where are they now....

Totally don't have to answer this, but I've been dying to know... What's his dick like?

Its weird. I like seeing a provider with a few videos on RM; its like a demonstration of skills. Recently I've had a 'crush' on a few guys and stumbled on to their OF pages some with some hardcore kink that isn't my kind of kink. I know its a bit naive of me, but I guess I like a bit of mystery or the guys who lead 'double lives' - one kind of professional by day and a different by night. Yes, I know... its like sleeping with a 'classic' porn star in many ways - but I've never been with a porn star. For any guy in a video, watching them take two fists up the ass just kills it for me in my desire to have them top me. Also watching guys openly participate in PnP sex is a huge turn off. I don't mean to be judgey here, just my personal preferences and curious how others feel about OF/JFF content in the context of a provider.

Coming to Philly on Sept 22nd

After 18 months of a COVID sex sabbatical, I had Tommy over for an overnight. I probably should have chosen a smaller bike to get back on after falling off for a while, but DAMN.... Let that man take control and he will FUCK you into ecstasy. Feel free to message me for more details. How/where should I review him?

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https://rent.men/BlessedBoy https://onlyfans.com/blssdboynyc Just posting these together for those that need the onlyfan.com site. He is very talented and that cock is.... <chef's kiss> Wish he would post more vids of him topping.

I volunteer Sir!

I'm seeing TommyColeXXL this weekend. I think he can definitely scratch an itch.

Uh..... well.... damn this is going to sound like a know it all size queen...but what can I say, I like a big dick. Pictures may need context.... People use different angles to make it look bigger. There is also the size - height/weight/build - of the person in question. Case in point.... https://rent.men/MidwestHungJock - People doubted he was 10"+, but the guy is 6'6". Just saying... As for obsessed with penis size, yea... for me it's a definite fetish.... sorry for being stereotypical. I also have had several experiences where I have cum without touching myself while getting fucked.... and almost all of those were with a bigger dick. Could be mental or could be bigger dicks have more real estate to hit that prostate - but I know what I like. People get very judgey about this.... fascinating.... when those same people discriminate on age, build, race, masc/fem and hundreds of other factors.

I'm more intrigued by the store in Great Barrington - https://letsrebelle.com/. Also currently staying in northern CT and MA is a short drive. I don't think NY has recreational yet. @lonely_john - Thank you! That is some of the most comprehensive advice I have gotten! I agree the bud is best, but I live in an apartment with a super uptight management company and I am worried about the smoke smell. They apparently have terminated leases over weed. Probably go for vapes and gummies. Rebelle looks like they have quality vapes. Maybe tinctures are the way to go? Thank you again for the advice!

Heading to Great Barrington tomorrow for a weed run. Trying to get more educated and enjoy it more.... I do love weed with sex. Any advice on Sativa vs Indica vs Hybrids? Bud vs Vapes vs Concentrates? Edibles are cool but so risky because harder to gauge THC %s. Definitely going to try the THC infused lube.... that sounds... amazing!

Over the last year, I feel like there has been an explosion of top guys on hook-up apps (e.g., Grindr) exclusively looking for TS/CD/Fembois. Maybe I didn't notice it before? Maybe because I am spending more time in very rural areas vs gay ghettos? Or I am missing something? As an older, mature gay bottom, it feels like I have less and less choices and more and more tops that aren't interested in my demographic. Part of the doom of being a bottom in a world of bottoms - another reason for tops not to be interested. And nothing against TS/CD/Fembois.... everybody should have the opportunity to get what makes them happy and satisfied.

Meh.... I'll be impressed when he posts a video of him using only his ass cheeks to grip the pole.... now that would be talented! (I jest....He's very talented!)