KensingtonHomo

I'm just not interested in being with straight identifying men. When I was a teenager and in college, I had gay friends who were trying to "get" straight guys. Mostly that meant they were giving the guy unreciprocated head. This, they considered to be a great victory. To me, I'm not interested in giving head or worshipping someone's muscles or whatever. I want to be desired (or treated like I'm desired.) I don't want to yuck anyone's yum but I just don't get it.

From a client perspective, sometimes with an erotic massage I get too relaxed and it's hard to get into a "happy ending." I've noticed this happens more as I've gotten older, and also if I'm stressed out or haven't slept well. I always reassure the provider that it's not anything to do with them. Some guys take it better than others. On the other hand, I've had a few escort hires where guy couldn't get or stay hard. I would never shame someone over that, but it's very frustrating to pay someone and them be unable to perform. Some guys are very creative about that situation which is great. Others are not. I think the issue is communication as @Jarrod_Uncut points out. I try to be very clear with providers what I'm looking for and what I don't want. Usually, that's great. Other times, it feels like the provider is hedging (particularly when setting up the appointment) in case they don't find me attractive. I'm not personally offended by any of that - chemistry, and physical attraction are hard to gauge in advance. We've had a couple of hires where I wasn't that into the guy once we were together. It happens, and there's no reason not to discuss it except discomfort.

When we were planning to go to Montreal, we found an escort who we thought was a great fit for us. I contacted him over RM messenger and we chatted. It seemed like a great match. A couple of days before our trip, I messaged him with my phone number and asked for his. He didn't respond. Then last week (three weeks after we'd returned), he wrote me to say that he hadn't been checking his RM messages and was very sorry. My guess is for him escorting is a side hustle, which isn't uncommon. But it was annoying to have no other way to reach out to him. So, no, I wouldn't plan to meet someone without a phone number. And while I'm fairly anonymous on here, I'm not in my profession. So having my phone number would lead you pretty quickly right to me. Personally and politically I'm an outspoken ally of sex workers and believe in decriminalization, etc., so if it came up, I'm prepared to defend it, but it could be costly.

If he's on Lucas, and positioning himself as "Exclusive" my guess is he's going to be EXPENSIVE! Shame, I love Spanish men but no kissing and probably $500/hour is not going to cut it.

Why is saying he's from Russia not smart? He's not invading Ukraine, nor is Putin's war popular among the Russian people.

He texted me a couple of weeks after we met saying he'd tested positive for an STI. I thought that spoke highly of him, as he could have kept it to himself. We'd only met once and for all he knew I could have bashed him over it. It turned out I was negative for the STI but I really appreciated his honesty and care for a client.

I'm not sure where you live, but if you're looking for a true therapeutic massage with no sexual elements, there are many spas, as well as Soothe and Zeel, where you can hire a therapist to come to your place. I've used all three in the past and there's no hanky panky in any of those situations. I get your gripe with Rentmasseur. I've been annoyed by the proliferation of guys who are purely escorts on that site but there are options to avoid that situation if you're looking for just a purely therapeutic massage.

Could it be that people are feeling the effects of inflation? Food and gas prices have all gone up quite a bit in the past few months. Perhaps that's impacting regulars hiring patterns and disincentivizing people from giving it a try.

Wow. You really don't like tattoos.

I reached out to him; asked his rates and for a face pic. He asked when we were looking for and then requested our private gallery. I'm guessing he's gonna be a pass.

Two guys I've been with who are super-fun and more average in the dick department are Jonah Wheeler and Nick Halden. They're not small but probably in the 6.5-7 range. They're both great tops but also vers so I think they have a better sense of what feels good to a bottom. They are also both very nice guys.

He's long been a fantasy of mine, but I'm a little worried about my ability to handle the piece.

Way to much plastic surgery or FaceTune for me.

He's cute, shaved head, glasses. Kind has a sexy geek vibe but a ridiculous body.

I messaged with him and our schedules didn't align. I'm pretty sure he had folks recommending on here.

It took me five years to finish college because I worked part of the time, but at 26 you're not long a "college masseur."

HIs profile claims "the pandemic is over." That's a deal breaker for me, as it means he's not living in reality. LOL

Or leap into a thread where multiple negative experiences with a provider are mentioned.

Oh yeah, that I can see. It's pretty easy to tell who's phony though.

Why do you think the reviews on here are fake? I'm never nothing but honest.

The minute I read he was "exclusive" I knew his rates were going to be exorbitant. Plus if you look at his video, his features are not as flattering as in his pro pics.

I don't find him remotely appealing. But I do wish ya'll would stop with the femme-phobia. Everyone is welcome to their own tastes and fantasies but putting down guys for being feminine or queeny just perpetuates anti-queer stigma.

People can be into playing submissive at times and dom at other times. Or just having vanilla sex. And many escorts provide experiences that may not be their primary way of enjoying sex.

Sorry if I read into your tone. I just feel like escorts are providing a service, and we should respect their boundaries.

As a client, I want to say that escorts are human beings. They have different preferences and tastes. Some guys excel at providing an experience under every circumstance. Some don't. If an escort wants to use a condom, we - as gay men who have lived through a fucking plague - should understand that. It's not just HIV/AIDS. The advent of PreP has seen STIs rise among gay men. We're now also dealing with treatment-resistant gonorrhea, which escorts may be trying to avoid. Now we're 27 months into a respiratory pandemic with variants that evade our vaccines. I'm recovering from COVID-19 now. If I were an escort, I'd have been out of work for the past 8 days. So I think kissing is something people are a bit uncomfortable with. I know I'm more leery of doing it with strangers - whether escorts or hook ups. I'm a Gen Xer who came out when AIDS was just ravaging our community. So when someone wants to take a precaution to protect their health, I'm willing to go along with it. And I think bitching about it, shows a lack of respect and solidarity for sex workers.