NikoLeto

The Russo-Ukro-East Euro group always travels in a group of at least two. Current Anndy is one of them.

Among younger escorts who I know, it‘s no big deal. Absolutely no big deal.

https://www.usphonebook.com/opt-out
 
Seems pretty straightforward.
 
If you're interested in removing yourself from this site I would advise you to do a google search on "best people finder sites" and use it like a grocery list for all the sites you need to visit and figure out how to opt out of them using your information. They all pull from public records, but are also required to remove your information if you ask for it. Some have a small fee. As a person who practices in the field of IT security, I would say that their fee is worth it if it makes it that much harder for an actor to gain information about you.
 
Don't try and tackle the project over a single day. Give it a week or a month. Some of them are convoluted and require a lot more effort. Set a reminder for about a month later, then Google yourself, see where your name pops up and backtrack to the data source and opt out of that one. Reiterate until your information isn't sitting out on the internet for everyone and their mom to steal/use.

https://www.usphonebook.com/opt-out
 
Seems pretty straightforward.
 
If you're interested in removing yourself from this site I would advise you to do a google search on "best people finder sites" and use it like a grocery list for all the sites you need to visit and figure out how to opt out of them using your information. They all pull from public records, but are also required to remove your information if you ask for it. Some have a small fee. As a person who practices in the field of IT security, I would say that their fee is worth it if it makes it that much harder for an actor to gain information about you.
 
Don't try and tackle the project over a single day. Give it a week or a month. Some of them are convoluted and require a lot more effort. Set a reminder for about a month later, then Google yourself, see where your name pops up and backtrack to the data source and opt out of that one. Reiterate until your information isn't sitting out on the internet for everyone and their mom to steal/use.

Niko. Will you share the steps to take to remove our phones and names from these websites? Thx.

Not if you are in his neighborhood with your bf and you don't want the two to meet! lol
I hire because usually it means less complications than hook ups. I tried Craigslist/Grindr hook ups but more often than not the other guys wanted more than just a FWB situation.

Precarious is definitely the word. A short dry spell timed poorly with an emergency can derail years worth of plans and make it difficult to continue working (imagine a broken arm or leg) and impossible to recover.
 
For my contribution to the thread's original topic: I've had four clients over the ~6 years working fall for me. I've been able to carefully manage the situation so that only one of them stopped being a client, but worth noting, not by leading them on. In each case, I told them that it simply wasn't in the cards. I have responsibilities they aren't privy to and can't afford to chance messing up what I've got going on to pursue a relationship.

The 2 times I've come across potentially booking 2 escorts at the same time it was scenario a) both guys got their normal hourly rate or b) the two guys also work as a duo if requested so there's a little bit of a reduction from their normal individual hourly rate. So if its 300 an hour for each guy, together it's 500 for the hour.

Let's see.
Change of name.
Change of contact information.
Absence of two years.
A lot can happen in that time.
Sometimes it's just time for a new thread.

Once a favorite escort showed up with totally shaved pubes. I was aghast. But it didn't stop me. He had shaved at a client's request and suggested the price was hard to turn down. He then grew the pubes back and we lived happily ever after...well, for the few sessions we had left before he found Jesus.

I have a moustache(mustache) and I Iove it. However, I would say that everything is a possibility for an experience.
 
Dont skirt around the issue, be direct. “I like men clean shaven, would you be willing to arrive clean shaven?” Is an appropriate question. Just be willing to compensate the person if they are removing a significant amount of facial hair, big mustache or long beard.

That's not a hard and fast rule. I have hired self-employed masseurs who have gone well above and beyond , and warranted a tip. #dontassumeitsjustchemistry

I never expect a tip, nor fell slighted by a client who does not tip, but always apprecaite when someone does.
I also don't make any up-charges, and so my hope is that guys who like what I offer will offer something extra in return, particularly if they think I went above and beyond what they were expecting.

Truvada and Descovy are very similar drugs that have about the same efficacy at preventing HIV. Truvada is known to cause kidney damage and bone loss for a very small number of susceptible people. Descovy is less likely to cause such side effects, though it also has been reported to cause weight gain and increased blood lipids in a small number of patients and is not approved to prevent HIV from vaginal sex.
 
Since you are doing your labs, you'll notice that one lab they will do is to check your kidney and liver function. Your doctor will likely be able to tell by those labs if Prep is effecting your kidneys and can stop or change the medication if that is the case. However, if you have a history of kidney disease or kidney impairment, it's probably best that you do not start Truvada to begin with. Descovy would be the better choice for you. Hopefully, you are having these conversations with your doctor so he/she could prescribe the best drug for your circumstances.
 
Another difference between Truvada and Descovy is the price. There is now a generic version of Truvada that is about 15 percent cheaper than name-brand Truvada and Descovy (which are both pretty expensive drugs). Since Gilead has lost the exclusivity on Truvada, there will likely now be more cheaper generic versions of the drug soon.
 
Most people do not pay the expensive retail cost of Prep. Many insurance companies cover it, there are some local Prep access programs that lower the price and Gilead itself offers rebates (though in my opinion, they can be tricky to get). However, you may be someone who would have to pay the full cost of the drug, which means you'd be better off with generic Truvada than name-brand Truvada or Descovy (unless of course Descovy is better for your bones/kidneys).
 
Hope that helps. And as always have these conversations with you doctor as well.

There are probably just as many perceptions of what a power bottom is by those that aren't... as there are perceptions of what a power bottom is by those that think they are.

I greatly appreciate you explaining your earlier remarks. At first I did feel personally attacked by your comments, but I whole-heartedly agree with you about therapy. It was through my therapist that I came to the decision that hiring an escort to fulfill a fantasy did not make me desperate or less than, and it will be through my therapist that I will work through the failed experience ? When I posted this, I was looking for a simple yes or no, but I’ve gained so much more knowledge about client expectations. I now believe my escort did everything right by me, possibly above and beyond. That already makes me feel much more at ease. I’m sure had I listened to him and stayed, we could have worked through it. However, just as he is human and could not finish the deed, I acted human and let my emotions take over in that moment. While it’s a shame he and I will probably never get to make up that session, I have removed my negative review, as I was getting several DMs about my review and I do not wish to cost him business. I’ll be seeing my favorite masseur this weekend and with time will start to seek out a new escort to live out my fantasy...with new expectations.

When you suggested in your earlier posts that the person who had the bad hire seek mental health counseling (basically that's what you were saying) you have to understand that it is very easy to infer you are suggesting it's his fault (entirely). Of course, that's not what you implied, or intended to imply, but it isn't an unreasonable inference.
 
Additionally, when you suggest someone seek Mental health counseling, it's very easy for them to hear you're saying that there's something wrong with them.
 
What I laid out in the earlier post, that you and folks like you are able to spin shit into gold, it's important to point out that that skill does not come easily. Most people are only able to turn a bad situation into good, or good enough, with the help of the kind of insight that almost only comes from Mental Health Counseling, and so if you had put things in terms of hoping that the original poster learn some life-long and life-altering skills from a professional it may have gone better, or at least you would have covered your ass.

I agree, even though I feel bad for the OP. I do think the escort didn't do a great job in this situation and it really is an unfortunate introduction to what can be a fun and fulfilling experience. But I still think the escort should be paid in full in the circumstances described, which I guess was his question.

As Judge Judy would say: You ate the steak...you have to pay for it!

Definitely don't let this put off escorts ImAthrill. We can be a Thrill in many ways.

I'm sorry that my comments came across that way. I do hope you find a way to make your future experiences fulfilling. As to the rest, I'm just reading what you've written. If I misread something, or said something that struck a nerve, I apologize. Be well, and best of luck.

A professional would be a good idea, and not of the escort variety. You may not have told him you were projecting your issues onto him, but you did tell him you wanted some of the money back, and wrote a negative review. Now, if you're saying had he only said that, if you would stay, he'd try to "get you off" even if he couldn't get an erection again, that's also on you for rushing out. I'm not judging you. I'm trying to encourage you to address for yourself, preferably with the aid of a professional, whatever issues are at the root of YOUR expectations and insecurities.
 
And you did post here. I presumed you were looking for honest feedback, not a string of affirming posts. That's what you wanted to get from the escort, and when you didn't you feel bad about the whole experience.

Wow, Former Lurker, I have to now go back and read some of your posts. It is interesting how some clients, not most, some will continue to make reference in follow up emails and texts as well as in person to how unattractive I must find them even though we have been together multiple sexy fun-filled times. When I see it I do my best to fix it, maybe you are right former Lurker, maybe I can't, or not always anyway.

I posted this from recent experience and wanted to get feedback. This was my first escort experience. I don’t have any trouble finding sex through buddies or Grindr, but I started getting massages that would turn into more and this started to thrill me. Eventually I thought, why not hire an escort that is really going to dominate me and is more attractive then any guy I could normally obtain? So I did my research, found someone I was incredibly attracted to, had great reviews, and a reasonable rate. I reached out to RM users that had rated him, they all said he was insatiable. I booked him almost a month in advance. It was going to be a great night. I drove from Orange County to LA. I arrive on time, he’s more handsome in person, in great shape. The session begins exactly how I imagine it would, and while we’re at the best part, he loses it from one position to the next. I tried to assist in any way I could but it wasn’t gonna happen. I immediately felt it was because of me. In my embarrassment I quickly started to dress. He said I didn’t have to leave but all I could hear was a pounding in my ears. I reached for the money in my pocket and place it somewhere, I can’t even remember, and let myself out. As I walked away all I could think was that I just paid to feel worse about myself. I understand this happens, and it’s happened to me as a top and a bttm, but I wasn’t paying or being paid then. I texted him my disappointment and he said he had a stomach bug earlier and it was still lingering. I asked for some of the money back, as it hadn’t even been 30 min and he returned half. From what I’ve been reading, he did the respectable thing but it didn’t feel that way at the time. The whole point of paying an escort was to leave there satisfied by this hot guy and not feeling humiliated and out $$$. While he could have been telling the truth, it ruined the whole escort experience for me. I think I’ll stick to Grindr and my favorite masseur.

To me, it depends on whether you can safely pay less for not receiving the services promised. I've had this happen to me several times, although it was the bottom who couldn't perform for me, the top. The first time took me by surprise and I had hired this guy for 3 hours. I had planned to have a relaxing encounter but things turned quickly as he said he "didn't feel up to bottoming". I was disappointed, of course. We spent the 3 hours (maybe just the last 2 hours) trying other things but the mood was spoiled. Since it was the first time for that to happen with me, I paid in full, albeit reluctantly.
Had another guy let me start fucking him but he wasn't properly cleaned out, so we stopped. He disappeared to the bathroom, then came back and said he didn't feel up to bottoming anymore. I got dressed, paid him about $50 (I think he was charging about $200?) and left with him screaming at me. But I was at his place and didn't feel threatened.
Another guy started saying he wanted me to cum about 5 seconds after I started fucking him. I barely got it in and he was like "oh baby, are you going to cum soon? Cum now! Cum!" He was serious and he wasn't complaining about being in pain or anything. He just wanted me to hurry. So, I did - out the door. This was in Berlin, I think? Somewhere in Europe because I remember that I only gave him 50 Euros. I wasn't even there 15 minutes.
Of course, it does help if this happened outside your home/hotel. It's easier to leave than to try to force someone to leave your place. If they are at my place or my hotel when traveling, I probably would just pay the agreed upon rate to get them to leave.