I don't disagree, but somebody looking for "findom and humiliation" is probably looking for abuse. So a gentleman wouldn't be considered. I've yet to see a findom that does so "gentlemanly". Many escorts do "roleplay". It's just a thing of finding one he clicks with. And yes, I'd agree there are more skilled women players. I even saw it in San Francisco decades ago where they mixed and mingles among the Gay BDSM, Leather "community". Even played with many gay/bi men which was an eyeopener for me when I arrived a younger less experienced man.