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They can shop. I’m not stopping them from shopping. Looking at RentMen and RentMasseur is shopping. Where shopping ends, is taking a $200/$300 item up to the register, and then leaving it there, and walking away. Right In the cashier’s face. That’s what these fraudulent clients are doing essentially.

The other thing I’m finding also: majority of these are coming fro RentMasseur where I post in addition to RentMen. But some may have seen me on both. But just today, I got another one: this guy contacted me Tuesday around noon and I sent a couple of messages including my rate and availability. No response all the way until Thursday, today. Citing that he was busy. Tells me he’s available “all day” but when I ask him to specify…says he’s only free until 5. So…basically he waited almost 48 hours to inform me that he can meet today, but can only meet until 5. And wants me to host, which requires an additional level of planning on my part. A regular client has also requested to see me this afternoon, so I can’t accommodate before 5. Once again, another case of “revolve around them because you have nothing better than to sit and wait on my important ass for infinity” attitude. Like I say, once I get this new platform up and going…I’ll only be communicating with paid clients. That way, maybe if they spend something to speak to me, they’ll value it a little more. Versus me just answering texts from randos around the clock and not seeing anything from it.

And by fake, I don’t mean “not real” but rather “not serious”. I’ve just been having a hell of a week. This ties right along with my other post about holiday nonsense. But this is a bit more tailored to the real nitty gritty. Since about Monday, I’ve had about 6 to 7 clients reach out to me…and not a single one has ended up making it to book. I don’t get why some clients; especially in class-segregated/small minded markets, can’t seem to fucking get their shit together EVER, and go through with an appointment. When I let them know I’m available now, they can’t meet now. When I try to tell them I need advance notice, they agree but then always have some excuse why they can’t do it. On top of that, there’s been 2 clients the last few days, who have been texting me since 2020 OF LAST YEAR, where they have contacted me about a session, and then they STILL aren’t ready when they contact me. STILL can’t get their schedule in line with mine, and STILL want to operate on their time, instead of taking the time to figure out a mutually agreeable time. Then they want to act passive aggressive and either stop responding or block me, when I allude to them: dude, you’ve contacted me several times for the last 2 years!! Why can’t you get your shit together TODAY! How hard can it really be? I don’t know what part of their brain cells misses the simple concept that MAYBE, MAYBE, just MAYBE, if you call a provider out the blue after you haven’t contacted them in months and didn’t book them the last time, perhaps they won’t be able to accommodate YOU in exactly the way YOU need it to be. Maybe they should have kept in contact, and made a little more effort to arrange something. Instead of going ghost for 5 months and then texting out the blue as if I’ve got no other purpose in the world, but to wait on them for all infinity to make up their minds and figure out when the hell they want to book a session. That's 1 thing I can't understand. Too many out here think they’re time is more important. I shouldn’t have to yield to their schedule, if they contact ME and want to see ME, they need to yield to my availability. I didn’t call them. They called me, how do they call me and expect me to dance around them? If I tell them I’m available today, they need to do whatever it takes to come TODAY. Why can't they meet today, if they have enough time to cruise Ads, find my number and text me? If I say I need advanced notice, they should be able figure that out as well. Because again, was I expecting you? No. But if I say I can accommodate the same day you contact me, have the fucking decency to make it happen. It’s like again: if he contacted me, courtesy has it that HE should be willing to accommodate my availability. Not the other way around. Sometimes I think they intentionally fuck with us out of low self-esteem, and likely because trying to compensate for that. But that shouldn’t be my problem. Nor is their busyness or inability to keep up with their impulsive desires my issue either. I'm about ready to start figuring ways out to meet better clientele. And I know it's likely going to start with a change of location and my new separate platform that will stop a lot of the flaky fakes in their tracks...All I'll be asking is, "thankyou for your payment, how can I help you?"

That’s good. But for me I still wasn’t even really finding it easy to try and get clients/people to sign up. What I’m aiming for now is going to be something where people will be REQUIRED to sign up, in order to book me. This way, even if they don’t book me, and they just want to chit chat, I’ll still get paid and they can still get some type of viewing capabilities. So that way I actually have a bit more use out of it. Also the issue with JFF is they auto-bill clients, and don’t give much flexibility in how to control the payouts/platform. Maybe I don’t want to sell a whole month of membership. Maybe I just want to sell it 1 time, for a week or 2. And if they wish to come back later they can use it again.

Idk man…it sounds optimistic but I still lean towards the other end. Seems clients get off on blocking escorts. Like sir, you contacted me 1st. They should block themselves. There’s some “clients” out here who have come to me, BSing around like they normally do: and then I’ll notice the messages go from Blue to Green during a chat, especially when I go about explaining how to schedule things without showing inconsideration in the process. That’s why I am rushing to finalize this new breakthru plan I have been working on. I’m not dealing with the games and BS anymore going into 2022. I even invested my first $50 in Euro I earned from dancing, into it. I just wish I would have done it sooner.

Well…I can tell you just the other week when I was in an area of Florida that is very under-served by providers, a client did book me from there. I personally been using it on and off for many years and it has its place. Sometimes it’s necessary to tap into that “unintended market”. Even though RentMen is top of line, reality is…it’s not really even giving me all that much “more” business than even adam4adam. I’ve had this discussion before. And truth be told: RentMen has become a little more than a high end hookup site. That’s why I don’t bother unlocking private pics anymore, and took down most of my videos. I see people from Grindr, hitting me up cruising RM, knowing damn well they’re not paying anybody. Just voyeuring around. I also use A4A because majority of the other escort and massage sites don’t really work in very small markets. For example: Overland Park Kansas which is a sleepy suburb yet business hub of Kansas City has like no providers that list on either RM site. A4A on the other hand has about 50-60 members in the area. But for the most part, A4A continues to underperform more and more each year, as far as getting bookings. I pretty much just have a pre template set up and send it out. All the round the clock chit chat, I stopped doing way back last year.

I’m intrigued by this question. Why are some people fascinated about the idea of a sex worker hiring a client??? Lol. There is no alternate universe or “other life”. Things are the way they are. Now you can ask, if sex worker and said client ever decided to form a “non-clock” relationship, and yes that happens. I won’t go into the pros and cons of such arrangements, but yes it can and does happen. Once it does, it can be subject to the same pitfalls as any traditionally started relationship. But the fantasy of an escort hiring a client: kill that. Clients aren’t going to earn money by becoming SuperSexman 🦸🏻‍♂️

And to mention: prep doesn’t protect against syphilis. I’ve had a couple clients contact me over the past year (one more recently), and inform me that they tested positive and I should get tested. I’ve come back negative, but it’s still worth realizing that as a BB bottom, your chances are higher of contracting something, even if it’s just Tops you’re fucking with. Nothing wrong with BB, but might want to inquire about your partner’s(s) cumings and going’s when not together. And be sure to get anal swabs and not just pee tests.

This isn’t exactly like this post, but I have a client who I enjoyed meeting with once and he’s fucking hot 🔥. But he’s also (straight) married. He’s annoyed me a couple of times hitting me up when I’m in his city. Or we’ve tried to plan. But then he’s not able to meet for whatever reason. I’ve noticed on a couple occasions he’s blocked MY number (iMessages go from blue to green) and then seen me in town and maybe unblocked me and reached out to me. But it’ll still just be to fantasize and see about me versus booking.

I just did this today: a recall a hot client I met with over Labor Day. I reached out but he said he was low on funds. I offered a promotion if he books in the next couple weeks (and not because he’s hot, but because he’s nearby and biz has been slow all week)…but with the holidays looming, idk if it’ll happen.

That sounds tedious. Especially considering “the next client” could be the next day or later in day. I try to find ways to keep myself entertained. On my last tour, there was only 1 point in the trip where I was “waiting” for the next client. And I was not thrilled. City to city touring is hard to do depending how long it is. I often find it’s harder to be away from home much longer than a couple of weeks. It’s almost annoying because there’s always something “back home” that needs to be done. I wish I could “easily” travel city to city for like 2-3 months at a time. Especially considering my current markets of Kansas City and Saint Louis are depressingly slow majority of the time, with the exception of a couple occasional serious booking clients. I think the longest consecutive time I’ve been away was from the day after Thanksgiving to middle of January 2018-2019. But after that, I didn’t travel anywhere else for like 5 months. I was beat and exhausted.

Yeah, I tried it out and it was useful for what it was…but it’s just not congruent with the new model I’m trying to come out with. I also don’t really have time or privacy to constantly dish out new material. Even when I’m on tour and staying in hotels everyday, last thing I want to do is waste my juice making videos and “cum shots” for 19.99 when I may have a 300 booking instead. I prefer real sex and erotic pictures moreso. I feel it would suit someone who only does selfie content, or has a regular partner to take and/or do content with. That said, I did run into a couple unexpected bumps right off the bat, so the initial idea I decided to dump. But, I’m still going to go with the new plan idea but just continue to do it similar to the way I was already doing it so far, but this time with greater incentive for the client. Idk if I’ll be able to get everyone on board, but I predict it’ll cut down the BS 99%. Someone said my reaction may be making things worse, but…all I can do IS react. How many more days and weeks and months am I going to keep dealing with the same ole timewasters and gamers? Who wants to deal with that forever? Something has to give.

https://rentmen.eu/Jarrod_Brandon Presents 🎁 always welcome 🤗

Update: I just had a break Thru. I was at the gym and it hit me what I need to do going forward and into 2022. I can’t share the details because I need to get it in motion, but I’m starting on it TONIGHT. First thing I’ve decided that needs to change: no more justfor/only fans. That is becoming played out. More power to the guys making millions on it, but I don’t have the time and energy or porn studio backdrop to turn it into an actual living. I just contacted my subscribers and told them not to rebill further. I don’t want to be a part of anything that’s going to feel like a rat race. I’m changing the game up, and it starts today.

That might have worked out even better: if the newbie didn’t show up, you could just travel out versus expecting someone to show at the same time. But it’s easy to get sidetracked and do what you “think” is the right move. But when some idiot messes you about, it throws logic all off. That said, the only industry we can be compared to, is a nightclub that charges $20 cover to get into. Yes, there’s a cover charge before you even walk into the door. Sure, tons of other places maybe don’t charge a cover, but I’m sure nightclubs don’t go around deciding based on other nightclubs (or in my case, escorts) charging a cover or not 😆

See, I woulda made him send me cancel fee. I already have a client sent me one in the mail (doesn’t have pay apps). That is so unfair to you. I probably would have still booked the regular at the same time, and waited to see if the new guy would show. But this is also why I ask for deposits. They want to get mad and don’t respond, that’s a dodged bullet. I even put in my ad verbatim: I can’t make exceptions based on other guys you contacted, not showing. They always want to pull the “I’ve been ripped off before” card, not realizing that one experience happens to us on the regular. There you go Daddy’s Reviews forum naysayers. Real life testimony of the ACTUAL stuff that happens. So don’t be surprised that I take the appropriate courses of action. It’s not even to be evil or vindictive. It’s just the course of biz. I’m not asking for $50,000 upfront. A measly $25-50, people spend BILLIONS on the lottery, and never see that money back (I should probably start using that line too). And the other thing, I wish people would stop comparing us to other industries. This is, hasn’t, and will never be similar to other industries. You can cancel on your insurance agent, he/she probably has someone else in the office waiting. I see it all the time. People walking in at the same time as my appointment.

“In financial domination the submissive has no expectation of sexual contact in return for the money, and often there is no physical contact of any kind between the two parties.[4]” lol had to look that one up. Though not quite what I’m aiming for. I’m not really going at it with the sole purpose of getting something for nothing (like some of the ones who waste our time do). 2 things I wanted to address though: I’m not stopping anyone from “window shopping”. I know some probably feel it’s “cruel” to ask for money before meeting. Poor them. But here’s the reality: I have enough content and info on my page (besides rates which, is still an on-going cause and effect for a lot of the shit I have to contend with. Only RentMasseur allows rates, but it’s not really much except “incall/outcall). I already did the work AND paid in advance via pictures, membership payment, etc etc. Secondly, this is more directed at @jtwalker, don’t tell me to “talk to other escorts” as if they are going to be some kind of mentor. I’m tired of people saying that. I have no issue with, and in fact have at times discussed things with other escorts. But besides a bit of camaraderie and sharing, every escort is going to do things differently. I did a 3som with an escort last week, and he had 0 nude pics in his profile. But yet, the client hired both him and I. I can go ask another escort in another city who has every picture nude in his profile, and get a completely different perspective. On top of that, and I’ll even bring it up again: I had a forum member here tell me a couple or so years ago, “you should reach out to so and so and get some advice from him”. I took his advice, and when I did…the guy replied once, but then never bothered to respond to the question I had. Just completely blew me off. So don’t try to drag me into this trap of “hearing what other escorts have to say”. If it’s not on this forum where they can openly share it, or PM me directly like @TylerGrovesNYCdid that actually HAD some useful tips, I’m not interested. I been in the game since 2008. I’ve seen it all, and pretty much done it all. This perception that every escort should be flying high and have no problems, everything successful and laid out, otherwise they aren’t doing “well” and need to “talk to other guys more successful than them”…is a myth. I’ve said it earlier: if a guy has more or less problems than someone else, then it may not have anything to do with what that guy is doing. It could be the area, their ethnicity, the websites, different levels of tolerance, the season, the city, etc.

Yah but he’s also exaggerating things. If I was billing every minute, I’d of literally had a 1800 number by now. And he can talk all that noise, but I look around and see other guys likely dealing with the same thing. I’ve noticed half of the Saint Louis and Kansas City markets have fell off. Other markets in the area have the same guys “available now” and the same “clients” playing games and wasting time. He’s not fooling anyone. And like I told him, some of these idiots don’t get it until I pull out all the stops. It’s easy to sit around and berate someone for taking big steps to remedy a situation, but unless he wants me to post a bunch of text messages here PROVING what I see on a week to week basis, he ought to just reconsider his “opinions” about why I do things the way I do.

I see what you’re saying, but I disagree with your perception. I’m not “billing” every minute. As I stated before, the is more of a case where I’m taking time out to arrange bookings, and some out there are not following thru. What you need to do, instead of trying to criticize and dictate how I should handle things, is understand the circumstances from my point of view. Try that first. The stuff you talked about with the guy in Vegas showering with you overtime, GREAT. Who said I haven’t/wouldn’t do that? I’m not even talking about in person meets. I’m talking about BEFORE meets occur. For example: since I’ve gotten back to my local market (which I admit is not a very lucrative one), all of the inquiries (3) who’ve contacted me have either cancelled or just not shown at all. So in that case, what am I supposed to do going forward? For each client who didn’t show up, that’s been atleast an hour of free convo. What you want me to do, is carry on doing stuff without being paid. I’ve done that already. I wouldn’t be doing it, if it had worked previously before. How about you consider that logic. Why am I doing? Because the other way wasn’t working. And similar like I said about taking private pics down: my level of calls didn’t suffer at all. That was like 5-6 months ago. Don’t mistake me talking about wanting things to be better, to imply that I’m not benefiting myself. I have a right to do biz as I choose. I already did the no deposits, and having naked pictures all over my ads. Guess what? It was the same shit. It didn’t work. And the extra holiday protocol is necessary too because last year and the year before, all I was dealing was with people calling me wasting my time, and putting me in a bad mood in the holiday season. I don’t need that again.

The sad part is; I find that this time of year even regulars/repeats have potential to flake. This is also a time I find myself burning bridges the most. I don’t really give 2nd chances much. If a new client or regular flakes/doesn’t show and doesn’t send a cancellation fee, it’s over. Unless there’s a really good reason behind it, and most don’t. That’s not me being a dick. And I understand things come up, and I would want others to have the same level of forgiveness for me as well. But over the years, I very rarely find a person who cancels dates/appointments on the day of, to suddenly become a reliable person. Just had 1 today who flaked out, who’s been asking to meet again each time he comes to town, but I’ve usually been away. He reached out to me again last week. Now that he’s here, he says he can’t make it work. Well, sorry that is the case but I was given an expectation that I would be doing a session today. I still need to be paid, it’s not fair that I don’t.

That’s a case by case question. If you ask a guy who’s in a lucrative market, doesn’t have to deal with a whole lot of BS, and/or isn’t really reliant on whether clients show or not: you may can concur the above. I probably do have more problems as an escort/masseur, advertising in a market where segregation, poverty/frugalness, and “Bible thumping” is still happening. Is that any shock to anyone? However, in my experience working side by side other guys I’d say no. I’ve actually seen worse. Some guys don’t really care though. Clients are a numbers game to them. They likely have other jobs and doing this just as a side hustle. Once they get their money, they just move on to the next. They aren’t invested in making client/escort relations better as a whole, they just want to make their bottom line. But this isn’t about other escorts, this about doing what I need to do, to make it thru. It’s like jobs out there that are commission based: you still have to pay employees regular minimum wage. I actually won a case against a company years ago because of that. I worked for them for a week and a half, and didn’t get any “sales”. They tried to not pay me anything, until I got the labor board involved. Same way it’s going to be with clients going forward.

Lol, that’s a good one to do (if there’s many in existence? Though I have a collection of old porn that has some cheesy 1-800 numbers at the start of the video 😆 Some of these guys come off very cunning with it. They give me just enough info to make me feel like they are going to pan out, then come with the, “okay, I have to check on this, that and the 3rd with my brother, sister, cousin, husband, neighbor, etc etc” They act like they’re making tentative plans with a friend. I don’t know them like that, to be casually having conversations that lead to nowhere. You do that with friends who you have some credit with already. They don’t know me. Who the do they think I am? I was telling someone yesterday, I will not rebook him in the future if he can’t keep the session. He goes from asking me if I can visit him at hotel in a city that’s an hour away (which he hadn’t even booked and apparently was just an idea), to saying his cousin wants him to stay with him instead, so he can’t make it. The hell that has to do with me? If you making plans with me, make them with me…not everybody else. I even came to realization the other week, that I’m not even going to prioritize “clients” (bullshitters) in my travel plans anymore when it’s related to friends or family. I’ve missed out on things because of lowlife, inconsiderate clients messing me about, and it ends up messing up my plans in the process. I’m not allowing that anymore.

I’m definitely considering, but I did just get home from a 2 week tour last week. But my local markets in the Midwest have been trash. I’m going to have to work in a spontaneous trip between the next 2 and a half weeks before Christmas. My piggy bank and my patience are running very low. This time last year, it was almost identical. However, part of the issue right now with traveling is the expenses are really high. I don’t do much or any flying, but gas prices have really been stifling. It’s worse in the major cities than it is in the rural areas, so it can be avoided to a degree. But also too, hotels have also been running higher than last year. So despite traveling being a great idea, I can’t really start a trip until I make enough at home. That’s the part where it can get really stuck and frustrating: I want to travel/tour but I have to make sure I have enough to do so comfortably, and be sure people are SERIOUS before I arrive. Hence the reason for deposits. Going to a city like NYC and SF isn’t cheap. I’ll need to arrive with atleast $400 of “free” spending money for hotel/dining/incidentals before my first client, and that’s after the initial travel expense/1st day of hotel to get there. Which is why I reiterate: I don’t have time any more….to be engaging with guys without payment. It’s time to start making $25/inquiry even when I’m not meeting in person. All the chatting for free BS, is a waste of fresh air.

I have to mention: I was being slightly facetious in the wording, and it’s not stated in that way verbatim. That was just a simplified version. The way I am saying it is: “Due to the usual increase in Timewaster’s and game players during the holidays, and the fact that I am not in a place where I can allow people to continually BORROW FROM MY LIMITED EMOTIONAL PIGGY BANK, I am asking that all clients start with a small initial payment ($25) during their first contact. I’m not asking for $50,000. I also included: I am not making exceptions for other guys you booked not showing up. What does that have to do with me? I have 40 good reviews on RentMen and 11 on RentMasseur. I can’t carry the burden of what another escort who has nothing to do with me, did to you. I even told a client I previously met this. He contacted me and asked to send him a couple pics. I stopped him right there and explained: “if you want me to do that, it’s going to be $25.” And I explained to him that I cannot keep lending out time/pics/attention for free, when I’m not being given any guarantee of an appointment. I’ve not had a booking since last Monday (not counting my trusted “sponsor” who lives in town). That’s a whole week plus a weekend without any serious bookings, meanwhile I’ve got bills and expenses coming in. What makes anyone think I’m just going to sit and smile thru this, and not take it upon myself to do ANYTHING to improve the circumstances? You can ask me those questions, but what I want to know is: well what about the ones who are paying nothing yet clogging up my phone lines? That’s not just lost money: that’s lost time, energy, and unnecessary disappointment. I refuse. I refuse. I refuse. What some also don’t understand: certain markets you HAVE to carry out such drastic tactics because the clients are so difficult. There’s some cities where I don’t ever have to worry about asking for a deposit. They’ll either send it without question, or show up without me requiring one. Other places, I have to constantly keep my guard up and be on their asses about keeping appointments and sending one. It’s the same shit I tell people when I’m in hotels. If I only booked a room for 1 night, but they want to show up after checkout time…I need a deposit. If they want to dick around and not send one, guess what? I’m checking out and either going home or going to my next destination. I did the same thing in Atlanta last week, and glad I did. Guy kept saying, “idk how my day is going to turn out”. I told him: well then YOU get a hotel, because I’m not about to drop another $130 for somebody who can’t make up their mind. And it’s situations like that: that I need to be paid for. Even Bobby Blake said it in his biography, he was making porn studios pay him even when the other model didn’t show. It’s all about RESPECT.

I’m not stopping window shoppers, baby. Let’s be clear on that. What’s being displayed on the ads is plenty enough to “window shop” with. That’s not the problem. The issue is, if I sit around all week responding to messages, and then at the end of it…wondering where’s the earning from it? You say I don’t stand a chance, but I’ve been doing it all along. I took my private pics down, people doubted that and guess what? Still was getting bookings. I put “a couple” back up only because I felt like it. But I’m still charging for my private gallery. If it people aren’t lined up to buy, atleast I know I’m not giving it away for free to people who have 0 intent on meeting and paying for a visit. My private gallery is not for complimentary usage, it’s a an extended window into what I already have out. And yes, I absolutely do feel that way. I have a right to. Instead of getting unnecessarily defensive, take a moment to look at it from my point of view. Maybe as a non-escort, you can’t envision it. This isn’t about me being intolerant or a bitch by any means. This is simply saying: you need to show ahead of time that you are INVESTED in my time. If you just playing around, and expecting me to give immediate attention and start sending pics out with no real guarantee of getting a booking…keep it moving. I just had TWICE this weekend, my time interrupted to reply to a client who clearly had no intention of showing up. And did I get paid for it? No, but I’m going to cut that shit right now.