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The Mastercard thing is due to some regulations that Visa put in place surrounding adult based websites. It could be due to something else like fees. I know that one of my credit cards switched from Visa to Mastercard. Also, it’s relatively easy to get a prepaid Mastercard at retailers. Capital one is also Mastercard based as well. That part isn’t too big of a hurdle to work around.

I emailed them, and they are saying the new version is the permanent version now. I hope this doesn’t affect business from the platform, but I’ve already been seeing it’s been getting me a little bit less lately than usual. I just feel both RM sites could have kept the original version. However, I do find the new RentMen a bit more fun to use. It also eliminates the search function where only half of someone’s head would show in the results. The map features are more direct (where you can see hotels…and I don’t put the exact hotel I’m mapped up, but a nearby one). I think overtime hopefully, we get used to the new design and see its perks. But idk if it’ll help or hurt schedule.

I think people say no drama in their profile because, a lot of potential clients do be kinda dramatic in their approach. I actually ran this ad in my ad for a few days, ZERO TOLERANCE FOR DRAMA OR FLAKES. But then I felt it might be too much. So I try to ease up a bit. The drama I refer to, are the high maintenance or wishy washy clients. Texting incessantly demanding instant attention, then going back and forth between cancelling and not. I even had a client text me something deep, when all I wanted was to figure out what day and time we’re meeting. I’m only showing it because he cancelled the day of the session. And then people wonder why I don’t want to work with anybody without a deposit or consultation fee upfront There’s more messages after that but, I haven’t even met this person and I’m getting a whole life story. Which, I can appreciate someone opening up and being transparent, but then adding 3rd parties, and being uncertain: it’s too much when we haven’t even met.

Okay, thanks? I guess… I wasn’t complaining or saying I perfectly willingly took the Usher looking guy. In fact, I wasn’t going to see him at all for $100. In that particular case, it was a very quiet Saturday, I was out of town and it was getting later in the day and I had already checked out of my hotel earlier that day. But I didn’t feel like commuting to the next city: so the donation was enough to cover the cost of my expenses. However, it wasn’t necessarily something I “profited” on. I also made sure the funds were settled upfront, before the session even stared. If and when I agree to a discount, I make sure to do so. As far as the guy who charged $110 for years; good for him. But there’s no guarantee a rate that amount will get the number of bookings needed. Also at the price, a person will have to be seeing a lot of clients in order to get to $500. Lots of clients doesn’t always equate to win: that’s more bodies, more exposure, more traffic to our home or hotel and/or more running around for outcalls. I know getting a lot of clients sounds like a reasonable goal, but for some: it’s having fewer clients for a higher rate. That may be the preferred model for a provider who can’t always be available last minute, or take multiple clients round the clock

That was a driving factor from the start I’ll also add: this isn’t just coming from RentMen but especially RentMasseur. I understand that technically people may be going to RentMasseur expecting “just a massage”. But I also wonder if it’s more to do with the venue. It seems the “general” (not all) RentMasseur clients expect a certain price point of the $150/$200 range or less. However, RentMasseur does not make any claims to be ONLY massages. Thats why there’s erotic, therapeutic and sensual options. Thats why there are private nude galleries. The lines are very blurred, and I wonder if that contributes to the misunderstandings of some. I was moreso using an exaggeration. When I said that, I meant: “I don’t want to spend my money eating out, everyday”. But I actually do eat out a fair amount, and if you see my body: I’m definitely not starving by any means 💪🏾 But I don’t always have the funds to allocate towards a sit down restaurant meal, especially since I’m trying to relocate, and a $75 meal: I rather spend $90 on a couple shirts: which I did couple weeks ago when I was in Minneapolis of America. Besides, where do you come off talking about needing a different career path? I didn’t say: “I don’t have any money to go out to eat”. I said afford, but I have known people who make 3x what I make, driving BMWs and living in luxury apartments who go to Taco Bell and barely have anything in the fridge. I’ve known people in the military: who do meal prep because they can’t afford to eat out but once a week. Does that warrant a career change? Sometimes it takes a bit of cognitive thinking to understand what someone is saying, versus just blurting out whatever you think is the reason for the statement made. And don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying there’s anything WRONG with $150/$200. I actually took a $100 booking earlier this month: the dude looked like Usher. He was sexy AF, but he was just an easy going client and only wanted a massage. I wasn’t mad at him for it. My thing is moreso on a general big scale. I rather someone say they have $100 and just need a massage, versus someone asking for my rates and then saying it’s too much. Well, you asked? If a client is willing to contact a provider to ask what a rate is: they should be willing to compromise and give. To shoot them down and say otherwise: ESPECIALLY when I have my own website that lists my rates, is where the annoyance comes in. And the other thing: if a client is going to say a rate is too much or they can’t afford: I feel if they really wanted to make it happen they can counteroffer. That way I can say yes or no or give a reason why I can’t do that price point: but can be willing to do a different price point similar. I know you got a lot of “reactions” to that, but I’ll explain to you and anyone else who cheered you on, why. Read very carefully: #1: I’m not unhappy with the Business. I’m unhappy if I’m NOT getting the business, in cases where I should or have before. #2: It’s nothing to do with being unhappy. It’s simply discussing a common scenario and asking how it could be changed #3: I’m happier dealing with SERIOUS clients who are willing to compromise, versus using hookup apps and being caught up in an endless string of meaningless hookups with guys who don’t care to contribute anything going on in my life. #4: Guys I’ve met through advertising on RM: are a different breed than many of the gay dudes I come across in bars, apps, or via friends. Like “someone” said during a press interview earlier this month: I love my clients and they love me 🤣 #5: I don’t always have to haggle on my rates because most of my bookings are $250+ anyway, however: again, just talking in general.

I ask because, there seems to be this unspoken dynamic out there that $150/$200 or even the dreaded: $100, is supposed to be “a good price” to pay and do whatever. Like, the client wins because that’s all he says he can afford, but the escort might not have enough to cover their expenses in the process. I’m just getting tired and fatigued of feeling like guys are calling a collections agency. “I can only afford $100/$200”. I am not a past due bill, for fucks sake. I’m a single man devoting my livelihood to giving people relaxation and companionship. It’s amusing, that a guy will take his dog to the vet, spend $700, $800, $1,000 and not think twice. Yet tell them its $400 for an hour of everything under the sun: suddenly I’m “too expensive or they can’t afford it”. The more I hear guys saying something is out of their budget, or they can’t afford it, blah blah etc etc: it just makes me wonder if I should put my rates up even higher: $500 minimum. Not out of greed, but because #1: there are guys out there who are willing to pay it, and #2: I don’t want to get into petty quarrels over $50 and $100. Or have to compromise between $300 and $200. Either way, $200 or $300 is still NOT ENOUGH for all I need to do. So why argue over it in the first place. I feel: if $300 is too much, let’s just do $500…that way if other clients feel the same and only 1 person shows up for the day, I’ll still be okay. But why take $200 and still only one person shows up? It just has to stop. I’ve even gotten to where, I decided I no longer want to do hookup apps at this time nor do freebie meets. I’ve been “burned” time and again, essentially giving “free services” to people who don’t appreciate my time or effort. Hooking up for free has made me miss clients, spend more money than I planned, or end up costing me more money indirectly: unnecessarily. So right now I’m breaking on that unless it’s just someone I meet in person or thru friends. But no more app stuff. My hookups and “boyfriends” are going to be clients, because more and more I’m seeing it’s clients who really seem to care about helping me achieve goals, whether that be monetary or something that requires monetary to get (for example, last year I wanted to go to a private event in Washington DC to see my favorite r@b singer.) Guys on apps would NEVER make that happen. Instead it took only 2 clients, to make it happen. So, when someone comes along and says a particular price is too high: I want to ask them, high for whom? Is it too high because you don’t think you have to or should, or is the price the escort is setting because he has hotels, fuel, beauty/gym, attire, hygiene, bills, car maintenance: all the things to pay that ensure being able to see clients can happen. So why, would someone even try to insinuate that someone is too expensive? It’s not a jar of spaghetti. This is a whole person, that you’re getting intimate with, and that person is either inviting you to their space, or they’re taking time out of their schedule going to your space: There should be 0 question or doubt about the price a reputable escort asks. I remember there was a thing going on called “tip the bill”, where people were tipping the waitress whatever the cost of the bill was, versus the standard percentage. Now me personally: I can’t keep up with that because I already deal with my income being compromised every single week by no shows, flakes, and ghosts and of course spam and scams. I can barely afford a sit down meal much at all lately, let alone tip a bill. But if people can raise that awareness, when do we ever get “tipped our rate?”

What you describe is essentially what happened with me ever since I moved out my apartment in Nashville back in 2018. I was getting bored hanging in the apartment waiting for clients all the time, but I was centrally located near the airport. However, I had a ”sponsor buddy” who was fronting the cost of rent for awhile…and he only needed to come for a week/weekend every few weeks or so but when his job duties changed states: I wasn’t making enough to afford the $900 that it was going to go up to per month. So I packed up and moved in with relatives in Orlando to save money, and only did Outcalls or hotel incalls couple times a week and traveled on tour. That worked for awhile, until things changed by moving to Kansas City area. I was far away from the main area of the city, which didn’t pose as much of a problem EXCEPT the fact many clients in the Midwest don’t like to host. It’s opposite as the coastal big cities because they tend to prefer to host (I went to San Diego last year and only had to host 1 client, a young college guy. Everybody else was outcalls). However, I still worked around it best I could until Covid/inflation hit: now all the hotels want extra or higher deposit, the prices are higher (some people only want to pay $100 for a massage, but the room rate is $100/$150/$200+tax. Where is the profit? And who is going to guarantee I’m going to squeeze in 5 $100 clients in a day? Clients also trying to book at THE LAST MINUTE proved to be problematic when I had an hour commute to the city. Fast forward to 2024, I highly regret giving up the Nashville apartment: not that I would have stayed there but, just for the principle of how hard it is when you don’t have a full time in-call location. And it’s a domino effect that can destroy someone’s business. Being far from city + can’t host + other clients can’t host = hard to make enough money to change the situation unless the masseur/sex worker is willing to go back to 9 to 5 work, which I personally feel: is NOT possible in this business to do both. For example, I had a client today wanting to only meet at 1 or 2 PM. WHY DO SO MANY CLIENTS ONLY WANT TO MEET AT 1, 2, 3 PM? Thats the WORSE time of day to try and plan a visit for an escort to host or even travel. There’s the hotel limitations, and then there’s other things like dental/doctor appointments to attend which conveniently: clients seem to KNOW when we’re going to the doctor or dentist, and specifically book that day to meet 🤣 So I’m glad you took the time to share this, because it’s a reality. The good news is, I’m working now to change that. But in the meantime, I decided to leave Kansas City area for a little bit and stay with a different sponsor who has a home in the center of a medium sized city: which means I won’t be able to host, but I’ll be 20 minutes from every neighborhood in town, and have a handful of hotels within 5-10 minutes drive. So it’ll at least relieve the burden for a few days that I’ve been enduring.

Wanted to check in to see if anyone has had any new experiences with tryst? I went thru the process to fill out an ad and sent my ID verification and it was rejected I noticed last month. And it took awhile already to get approved. Idk if I really vibe with their model. If someone is looking to sign up to a site and meet clients, they’re not trying to wait two weeks or months to get approved. The ad itself was also lengthy to set up. I did all that effort and the ad still isn’t up. I think mega personals fairs a bit easier. I think tryst may appeal more to the high end lady base. The rates I’ve seen on there certainly coincide. Even the male escort rates I’ve seen tended to be higher than what I already know most clients are willing to pay.

In the past 3 months I’ve been shopping around for a place to relocate to. And by shopping, I mean hardcore scouring Zillow, Trulia, apartments.com, Facebook market. I’m not necessarily looking for apartment complexes with a leasing office and agent on site, but something more private and stand alone. Which most are run by realtors and property management. Its showed me a lot that: many places are getting contacted by multiple “clients” looking for a place, and I’m finding more often that a lot of “showings” are automated from start to finish without even talking to anyone. When I have tried to contact and reach people directly, I don’t hear nothing back or it takes DAYS to get a response, only to get an automated message that the place is off the market. And there’s also a similarity in realty and escorting…as far as working leads and having to weed thru a lot of riff. However, it is annoying not being able to reach anyone when it’s about finding a residence within a short period of time: versus just a passing sex desire. It’s almost like many real estate companies don’t take anyone serious until they pass background, show income proof, and actually do all the hoops that: many of OUR clients can’t dream of doing. I think I had someone cancel on me yesterday over a $50 deposit. But we had been in contact all weekend and even on a prior visit. Yet where he lives is 45 miles outside of the city, in a rural suburban town. If someone can’t do a simple request, they’re probably going to piece of work to work with. My solution for escorts and clients: Limit the access. I’m no longer posting my phone number for “non logged” clients because it’s too much spam and too much guys expecting a meet right away. I had someone call me today from a hotel, no idea my rates, didn’t read my website, no clue on anything. Add another reason why I don’t normal answer phone calls…those are THE WORST. I used to only want phone calls, now I never want phone calls.

Not in this line, but among acquaintances. A guy and his partner were hitting me up separately but they didn’t really play together. Never met the partner, but considering how open they were: they probably fucked everybody in their circle at some point.

that is horrible. I just had a bad experience myself; however he had no reviews on Mr. Number but my assistant did find (after he already stood me up) where back in 2019, he flaked on me and showed me aggressive behavior. This time I put him on Mr. Number and reported him to both RM sites. ⚠️ ANYONE IN NEW YORK OR SAINT LOUIS BEWARE OF THIS GUY. 🚨 Drug user, probably has STDs and might give it to you #1: he tells me the day before that another escort “filled him with a load twice, even sending me his profile name THE DAY BEFORE WE WERE SCHEDULED. #2: I’m in touch with him the next day, and he goes and cancels moments prior to me heading to his hotel. #3: Refuses to pay the rest he owes for session and then gets belligerent. So I put out a fraud alert: I told RM: this is why we need a private portal for us providers. And I give a shit if clients know about it or not. Ever heard of a credit report? Credit karma? We need a credit karma for clients. Let them know, that we can find out about their dirt. This is why I prefer dealing with select clients only. Some of these other guys I feel like I’m dealing with middle and high school kids, not 50 year old men 🤦🏾‍♂️ Clients are lucky if all they get is a Mr. Number review. People try to rip off a drug dealer, they’re coming for their life. They usually have to move cities.

Fortunately this guy is now blocked and out of my life for showing me what an asshole he really is: But he scheduled me one time the right away, but then became a timewaster twice in a row. And why he wants to only offer me $200, knowing that I ask more in the 350/400 range for travel arrangement bookings. It is never a guarantee, that I’ll have multiple clients per day of hotel stay. Even when multiple clients do contact me on the same day: it’s not always I’m able to meet them because often times they want the same block of time, and at short notice. I had this last Saturday: 3 clients tried to book something in the afternoon. 1 planned in advance the day before, the other 2 were stragglers trying to squeeze in last minute visits, and only offering $100. The guy who booked in advance was the only person I seen, during my 12-5 p.m. dayuse hotel booking. The rest were fucked out of luck. I schedule most of my out of town bookings in advance. So any last minute guys usually don’t get a chance. Therefore, the notion that I’ll be able to profit off an expensive hotel room is nothing short of speculation, and I always make sure I charge accordingly, based on what I have to pay for 1 day.

I think it all makes sense. So many in the “community” or “culture” worship those types, and turn a blind eye to the dirt they may be doing behind the scenes. Worshipping the White alpha, yet marginalizing minorities by Dick size and skin tone. I had a friend who was infatuated by the White alpha daddy, and just recently learned he had AIDS. Not HIV, but the real AIDS. As in: yeah it’s still around. That said, like someone else said: I don’t think ripped, roided daddy should equate to “Pedo” by default. I think it’s moreso the glamorizing of extreme porn and wanting more and more. Yeah…not cool. Was that guy also a RentMen member? I hope they don’t start shit with them over this 😐

Craigslist was big in San Antonio, Denver, and a lot of “upcoming” cities for “massages” back when the erotic services ran. It was nothing risky about it, it was okay for what it was at the time. However, things have changed. Like someone mentioned, what you would have found on Craigslist, has now likely turned to content creating. Seems fewer people are becoming escorts, everyone just assumes onlyfans when they hear “sex worker”. There’s currently a site out there called Megapersonals which is somewhat similar to Backpage. However, I’ve been on it a little while and yet to meet 1 serious client. So many flakes, and the girls have said it’s dropped off due to scams…However they recently cleaner it up quite a bit and started requiring more verification. It might work in a bigger city, but in my region it sucks all throughout. I occasionally use a separate number on it, and refer people to my website with my real number. But majority don’t read the ad and follow the directions.

I have a friend of a friend who is traveling to Cameroon on the west of Africa, and his family is from there originally. Now, I don’t know all the details as I’ve not been there before and not sure if they’re going to the city or country. He lives in Iowa (you’d be surprised, there’s a bit of African transplants out there) but he’s been having conversations with us and saying he’s had to remove all hair dye before going, as the chance of getting arrested (not for being an escort, but gay) is too big of a chance to take being a visitor. He did tell me there’s either a club scene or network for it, where gays can meet up. But, I couldn’t tell you. Here’s an article you might find handy. Being a LGBTI person in African countries EPTHINKTANK.EU More than 4 African countries out of 5 of have laws criminalizing homosexuality, or even punishing... And 6 Countries in Africa That Have Legalized Same-Sex Relationships in the Past 10 Years WWW.GLOBALCITIZEN.ORG Nearly half of countries worldwide where homosexuality is outlawed are in Africa. Here are some that have...

Now that just gave me a good giggle 🙊 😹 I wonder how biz in Atlanta turned out in the area this week. I’d imagine the locals fleeing for obvious reasons. But if it’s anything like D.C., political stuff can make or break a venture.

What is it that you’re looking for?

Sounds like you did everything right so far. I will say: I don’t think there’s any set “rules” or signs to go by. Sometimes I can reply to clients right away or within the hour, other times a whole day or 2 may go by. Sometimes, I just don’t notice a message at all, and will go back later and realize it. I also have 2 separate numbers. Others may do the same, so often times it’s not always a case of someone being ignored, they may just not be active on that particular line. 24 hours being long is only relative, though it may seem. I have clients not get back to me for days, weeks, even YEARS for some to get back to me. I think you should go about it as normal, state your timing preference. If person doesn’t get back right away: don’t assume anything more than what it might be. Like @keroscenefire said, just be ready to respond appropriately when they do reply but: also be open to plan B if you need to. However, and not saying this is you: don’t be the bossy, impatient client who gets an attitude and starts immediately making other plans when an escort doesn’t reply back within 20 minutes. Clients like that, tend to be high maintenance and can’t be relied on. But like I said, so far you’re on the right track. Booked in advance, sent a couple messages. I think after 24 hours after the 2nd message, you’re safe to Plan B it to someone else.

You’re comparing apples to oranges. It’s funny how people love to compare us to other businesses when it’s convenient. But when it comes down to comparing things like allowing the provider (escort) to schedule a time, not taking same day appointments, and doing stuff like requiring a credit card and ID to reserve a booking, suddenly it’s: “omg can’t believe you want all that information, etc etc”. I’m not really concerned what this section is called. But I won’t tolerate disparaging remarks or disrespect from anybody. Agree/Disagree: just don’t paint me out to be someone who doesn’t accurately portray me. Especially when people try to inaccurately figure me out, like yourself who had the audacity to say, “I should have educated myself on how to change a tire, and I wouldn’t have missed my appointment that night”. Which is the most ridiculous bullshit I’ve ever heard IN MY LIFE. Anybody who knows me enough knows, there is hardly a part on a car that I can’t name or change myself. But escorting and car hobbies don’t go hand in hand. Can’t be changing spark plugs, and then get a client wanting to meet in 30 minutes. All those porn movies at mechanic shops, are pure fantasy at best: People have to let go the idea of the perfect escort. Who never has anything come up, who should always be able to be there waiting hand and foot for the next client. Fuck my life, the client is all that matters. If you can’t be there, you’re a loser and failure who isn’t cut out for the business. Since when 🤔 Maybe things have operated that way at times, but: things are different now. It’s already a fact that many “sex workers” out there don’t even do client interactions. A lot of stuff out there, is pay per view only. I think guys who are doing in person sex work, aren’t getting the full credit we deserve. It’s a lot about how many fans and subscribers, but what about how many clients you can comfortably see in a day, in a week: and still be able to perform AND finish for them all? Without anybody getting short changed. That’s why I do, what I have to do.

I receive the clarification 100%. Thanks for being willing to admit that. That said, when you threw the word “ego” in there, that’s the part where you came sideways and made like I’m conceited. Which I’m not. But let’s not pretend though, many gays and 20s-40s people in general nowadays, thrive on narcissistic and validating traits like how many likes/followers to their Instagram they have, and perpetually posting selfies for click bait. All that is seen as normal, and desirable: but yet someone seeking to preserve their time and energy by only dealing with serious clients: is often touted on this board as being “self absorbed” and egotistical 🤔 All I wanted to do here, is talk about cities. I understand some people may prefer big cities. I myself was always a big city guy for the longest. I disliked small towns. However. Many cities in the country have changed over time and seems like EVERY city is booming, which means higher rents and more providers. So cities that used to be hot, are not. However, places like Miami for example, have seen population declines because it’s just gotten TOO expensive to live there, and in my experience they don’t really pay shit to keep up with the costs: Miami Is Decreasing in Population for First Time Since 1970s - Business Insider WWW.BUSINESSINSIDER.COM Home prices in the Miami area are up by 53% in the past three years. Now, the population is declining for the... And LA: More than 1.4 million residents could leave L.A. County by 2060, study says KTLA.COM Los Angeles County can lose about 1.4 million residents from 2023 until 2060, newly released data from California’s... That said, excuse me if I popped off on you as hard as I did. I don’t normally like to do that to another working guy. We should be supportive and kind to each other, especially in front of clients. I think there’s enough of that behavior coming from their end as it is… However, I’ve also been going thru a difficult period myself: just in terms of the business in my area. I still have plenty other clients who are happy to see me in other cities. But sometimes that’s just how the biz goes. After being in a city for a couple/few years: it ends up being the same clients to work with, for a period of time. I know in bigger cities, there’s more traffic to prevent that: but I used to live in a metro area of 6 million, and there was still weeks that nobody booked. Population numbers doesn’t even matter to me anymore. That’s why in situations like this, I normally would leave and only come back to visit: after a significant amount of time has passed.

Indeed 👍🏾

Let’s be clear: this is used to be called “ask an escort”. Why it was changed, I don’t know, however I would hope it did not mean, clients ask other clients about hiring escorts. That’s what I would hope it isn’t about, maybe I’m wrong. That said, again: micro-topics. Nothing you’re saying is related to big city/small city. If anything it’s YOU who is making it all about himself: what you do and don’t like, which as a reminder: has nothing to do with big and small markets. But just to be clear, a confident provider who is not afraid to state boundaries: is not “drama”. I like to get all that stuff out the way before the session starts. That’s how it’s done, to not come off as drama. Eliminates surprises, and clients are actually happy to know ahead all the details of price. Ever since I came out with my website, I earn more per booking than prior. Most times, no one books me for less than $300. Although, I’m fine with $250 and will occasionally do $200. Anything less, I’ve already laid out that: it’s not something I offer except for returning or regular clients “at my discretion”. What y’all hear about on here: is not struggles, but me talking about a specific area and segment of clientele. That’s why it takes a discerning man, to understand CONTEXT. Someone who’s just coming to the forum with prejudices about someone is not going to understand that. If and when I talk about business being slow, it’s referring to particular area(s) at a given time, or times/experiences in the past: not an everyday occurrence or speaking for the entire country.

I can see that. And by no means do I imply that one may encounter direct situations to their safety, but those things are often all around. For example, a hotel may have beefed up security, due to the city it’s in. One year I was in Phoenix, and had some stuff stolen in my car at a hotel. Sure it can happen anywhere, but when I go to Des Moines, Iowa: people aren’t as worried about someone breaking into their car, like they do in Phoenix. That created a whole day of “nonsense” that I didn’t need. I spent some time in Seattle, and it was hard to find a decently priced hotel in the summer…without it being “sketchy”. So I had to spend more than I normally would, simply because I’ve learned in the past: some clients may be put off by an escort staying at a sketchy motel in a big city. Whereas in smaller towns, like say: Eureka Springs in Arkansas, a budget motel can actually be nice and quaint, free of bugs and drugs (another gay friendly area that most gays outside of the Midwest don’t know about). Again, it’s all relative. I know places like Washington DC can feel “safe” to someone living there, but as somebody not from the area: I know for a fact I have to watch my back at every corner: whether that’s from a parking ticket, or somebody geeked out on PCP. All of that means extra work on top of the work of being readily available for clients.

I beg to differ: I’ve been away for the past week, focusing on a tour I had going that included some smaller town areas. I actually had only 4 bookings that although I won’t say what the amount was: it was sufficient to pay all my bills for the month, and go on a couple shopping visits. I have traveled throughout the country for many years. The whole point of this topic is, many people often assume that if an escort goes to New York, Chicago, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, etc etc…all the places that sex workers often frequent, that it’s the ONLY way to support yourself or earn decent cash. I’m simply saying, it’s not true. I’m not talking about towns with populations of 5,000 lol. I’m talking places where Fortune 500 companies have put up offices, or has a thriving economy. For example: For a long time: very few sex workers knew about Denver. I was there Pre-2014 before the migration from California and other states really ramped up. But that’s still not the only city in the west. There’s other cities, but first thing people think of is: Las Vegas. But there’s already 500 other guys out there trying to get the same bag. When I plan cities now, I want to go to places where I can get a reasonable hotel, and the drive for me and clients isn’t much more than 20-30 minutes, and then it’s the last exit lol. But I’m not about to go to Chicago or Los Angeles, spend $200 a night on a hotel and compete with 500 other guys. That’s not something I’m interested in anymore unless, I have other reasons to be there. I’ve also been open to gay entertainment to move away from the downtowns, and into the more affordable suburbs. For example in St. Louis: the gay bar scene all centers around 1 or 2 inner city neighborhoods. But outside of that, there’s nowhere “gay” to be social. However, a large population of the young “hip” gays live outside of the city in the suburbs. Having gay nightlife centered only in the city, means either living in the city or, taking risks driving intoxicated to get to/from. Even the nearest bigger city I stay by: I’ve stopped going out much anymore, because all the gay social stuff centers in an area just outside of downtown. But for me to get there, I have to drive an hour, and then go thru a sketchy area of the city, and take rickety roads that are full of potholes and construction. Fuck that. Especially when the likelihood of finding business is not high, in the big city social scenes. Most are looking for free sex, the ones who pay generally aren’t seen or are real low key about it. I only do so when I’m in the vicinity, and met a client online. I absolutely won’t be having a chat about this. Don’t give me that fake shit like you’re trying to help out, and then have the audacity to criticize me for me “conceited”. Matter of fact, let me go down the list because you’re one of “those” escorts who think they can boss up on me, and I’m going to back down and let you run me. Sit down: #1: My business model has nothing to do with ego. #2: Where’s your top of the line, self created website that’s better than mine? #3: You’re new here, and you think you have me figured out? Have a seat 🪑 #4: You are in Canada. You can’t convince me that you’re more aware of how it works in the United States, than me #5: My website has been up for over 2 years. Most of my REAL clients have no problem booking me after seeing it. #6: You don’t know my journey. You have no idea what I been thru. I have gone thru everything from being technically robbed/ripped off by clients, to booking whole 2-3 day trips on MY DIME, OUT OF MY FUCKING POCKET: only to arrive and not a single person shows up despite having lots of requests (had experienced this in Houston, Indianapolis, Atlanta, Las Vegas, Florida, etc) #7: But guess what? Over times I’ve been able to make a come back and some of those same cities that failed me, I’ve been able to redeem myself: WITH PROPER PLANNING AND DEPOSITS #8: Don’t you, @Trick, @APPLE1 or any other gossiping, holier than thou MoFos ever come for me or my biz model again. If you think you can be the better person, and make a better website: Go do that. If not, that’s your prerogative. I can care less whether you do or don’t. What you’re not going to do, is gaslight and intimidate me into backing down and being “acceptable” to all clients. #9: And as I’ve said before; my website is relatively new thing I’ve been doing due to the POST PANDEMIC/POST SESTA-FOSTA State of the business. Prior to the pandemic in 2019 and prior to SESTA/FOSTA in 2016 (Google it, since you’re smart) I had my hurdles, but the behavior I was encountering since then has compelled me to do things a different way now. Half of these clients out here, like @Trick and @APPLE1 are not people I want anywhere near my dick or ass to begin with, with that type of mentality. That’s why I choose to screen and ask for deposits. A person who feels an escort should have no boundaries, and is only “good” when they do everything the client thinks they should: is not the type of energy I want in a client. Many of my clients are happy to abide by my rules, and I don’t have to fucking explain tirelessly about why I have to do so because, it’s already in my websites. It’s “my body, my choice”. I don’t have to be acceptable to all to be worthy. Some clients out here are disrespectful towards escorts, and don’t even respect themselves because they can’t even figure out their lives enough to book one, and probably have drama and baggage of their own. Maybe it’s their looks, maybe their family, or they can’t bag who they want for free, so they call escorts: but it’s all BAGGAGE. Everybody has baggage. And I know they have baggage, because they don’t even have the courage or balls to show their face. But they want to sit and talk shit about another escort, and what that person “should and could” have done. Miss me with that 100% But what you’re not going to do: Is try to criticize me…behind me back, especially when I’m not online and out here doing what I need to support and sustain myself. You got a lot of nerve. I refuse to tolerate the disrespect on this forum. Y’all are being put on notice. If you don’t like what I have to say, LEAVE. Don’t respond. There’s plenty of other stuff to read. If you don’t like me, but still reply to my posts: it says more about YOU, than it says about me. Next please, if anyone wishes to contribute something more useful about cities. I’m fine to keep the discussion going, unnecessary distractions don’t need to detract from the message.

If you don’t have anything uplifting or encouraging to add, don’t say it all. You’re not obligated to contribute.